I hate mean people, but I have to confess that I can be pretty mean to mean people. In fact, though all advice points to the contrary, the only way I've found to really get rid of mean people is to be mean back! Sure, turning the other cheek can work, but unless you are a high level of spiritual development, you are still left with feeling like a doormat.
A blogger called me at home today, and he is a very mean, negative person. I had been turning the other cheek with him for months, but finally just felt like enough is enough. Because I am a professor, people who are insecure about their intellect often confront me about stupid topics. I guess they are trying to prove they are as smart as I am. It's funny that truly intelligent people, my intellectual equals, never seem to have a problem with me. They have nothing to prove, in other words, so there's no argument. It's ironic that I often find myself arguing with people who are not intelligent enough to formulate an argument.
Anyway, I just got tired of humoring this fellow. I decided to argue with him and use all of his insecurities about his intelligence against him. I challenged him constantly to define the words he was using, knowing full well that it is hard, even for me, to articulate the formal definition of words. In short, I played the role of the intellectual snob, pretty much coming out and telling him directly that his lack of credentials meant he was not worthy of an explanation from me because he would not be able to understand it anyway. I shot his ego to threads, especially harsh because I kept demanding him to tell me why he calls me so frequently, thoughI know full well that he has a secret crush on me. I told him I only date men with PhD's because the rest are not smart enough for me. This is absolutely untrue, but it did work. He will not call again and I am so relieved. I am usually not mean to people, but I have to say, it felt fantastic! I was so energized the rest of the day. It really got me pumped. I think I just unleashed all my negative energy on him and as a result, I felt wonderful. I don't want to suggest people go around ripping others a new one, but sometimes the only way to stop someone from making you feel bad IS to make them feel worse.