I married a great guy...who wasn't great in bed. I thought that it would get better over time. It gotten worse. He's a little chubby, not perfect looking, but that's not a requirement, he's just totally unaware of my body. He's the guy that's always laying on your hair or squishing your arm or doesn't notice that you are saying "ow" until you pull his hair. None of the mechanics are working. I've pretty much given up and we just don't have sex because it's such a horrible experience for both of us. Sometimes, I wonder if he isn't maybe more interested in men. I have no proof of that except that he doesn't seem bothered by how incredibly bad our sex life is. We've talked and gone to doctors. He even has viagra, which helps the process end, but doesn't make it any more pleasant of a journey. Just a shorter journey. There are other things I'd like to try, but he's not really into trying anything beyond those two basic positions and frankly, he has so much trouble with those that it's hard for me to sincerely suggest that anything more complicated won't end up with me in quite a bit of pain. I hadn't had a host of lovers before him, but all of them were better than he is. I'm not going to have an affair, but I fantasize about it on a fairly regular basis. I'm sure he does too, I mean, who wouldn't? We've talked so much though and nothing has gotten better. He doesn't seem to want to be good in bed, even though that means he basically doesn't get laid. How can I negotiate with someone who simply isn't interested in changing a bad situation?