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idlewatcher - 31-35 years old - male

Posted by idlewatcher
on October 26th, 2010 at 11:48 AM

On December 8th, 2009 my best friend went to swim with the stars due to a terribly long battle with liver cancer.  She was 26 years old.

Tiffany was someone who could always manage to lighten up a room with her aura - something we could all use in our daily lives.  The few months before her untimely passing, she was getting weaker and weaker but somehow managed to keep her spirits up.  Between "Red Devil" chemo therapy and an assortment of drugs, she was a very frail and extremely weak young woman.  I really miss my friend.

Just one story before you leave this page - about 9 months before she started going downhill in her health, I found her an apartment that she absolutely loved, but never felt "at home" in.  After moving her things to the new apartment, I noticed that the air in the apartment just didn't sit right with me (nor with her).  I checked the air vents - nothing.  I checked the drip pan and jesus were we surprised - a completely molded drip pan and A/C housing!!  I loaded most of her day-to-day items in my SUV and drove her to my house.  I went back with my brother that night to get the rest of her things and she stayed with me in the interim.  I told her that I would take care of the penalties etc for moving out.  I went to the management office the next morning and told them what was up.  They didn't want to hear it so I told them that we'll just have to go to court over the situation.  So I went back to the unit and took tons of photos.  How can a person who has cancer be expected to live in such garbage and not only that - how can the management company expect someone who is sick to have to deal with that BS???

Fast forward to December 2008, her parents found a cute little patio home that needed some serious work.  I must have lost 20lbs sweating like a hog in her attic running cable and electrical lines lol Anyway, she was so happy with her new home - something that she could decorate the way SHE wanted.  To see her transformation from where she was to where she ended up was truly amazing.  She was smiling, COOKING (she was a fantastic cook even though her pork loins succccccccccccccked!) just all around an enjoyable person to be around.  After taking her to numerous doctors visits, the end was neigh, but we got her house fixed up the way she wanted it.  A small price to pay for the enjoyment of a young woman. 

I was in New Orleans at a conference on December 5th, 2009 when her mother telephoned me at 11pm to tell me that the doctors wanted to call the family in.  Although she wasn't blood - I was family.  I raced back to Houston to be with her and to give her strength - only to find out, she had more internal strength than everyone in the whole hospital! :)  I got to have my own personal time with her - one of a very few select times tears steamed down my eye, but it sure was liberating. 

Tiffany passed away on December 8, 2009 and will surely be missed for eternity and mostly, as my dear friend.



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  1. ViviChelise - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by ViviChelise on October 26th, 2010 at 11:52 AM


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  2. idlewatcher - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by idlewatcher on October 26th, 2010 at 12:01 PM

    lol Thanks!

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  3. MrsMurder - 26-30 years old

    Posted by MrsMurder on October 26th, 2010 at 12:02 PM

    every story I read from you just confirms exactly what I have thought of you from the begging,you are a good man.

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  4. Posted by An EP User on October 26th, 2010 at 12:02 PM


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  5. idlewatcher - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by idlewatcher on October 26th, 2010 at 12:14 PM

    You guys rock the house - so very kind! She was a one of a kind type of woman in her own unique way. And no, this had zero to do with romance - she was just a great friend to me and an even better person in life :)

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  6. Posted by An EP User on October 26th, 2010 at 12:24 PM


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  7. LadyBronte - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by LadyBronte on October 26th, 2010 at 12:41 PM

    What a beautiful story, Idlewatcher. You are a good man with a kind heart. I'm truly sorry for your loss.

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  8. idlewatcher - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by idlewatcher on October 26th, 2010 at 2:29 PM

    Thanks Panther, much appreciated.

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  9. idlewatcher - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by idlewatcher on October 26th, 2010 at 2:31 PM

    Well if it's not a blast from the past Ms. Merily Mae :)

    Thanks as always for the kind words - you guys would have been best buds that's for sure!

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  10. lesbiankryptonite - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by lesbiankryptonite on October 27th, 2010 at 12:25 PM

    I had to look twice to make sure you were a man Idle that was the sweetest story I have ever read written by a man. She was lucky to have you as a friend, just as lucky as you were to have her.

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