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Posted by Anonymous
on August 11th, 2008 at 3:09 AM

My boyfriend wants me to be more dominant in the bedroom and control him, but I usually get off on being very submissive and dominated myself. He's done everything I've ever asked of him so I really don't want to let him down but I have no idea how to do what he wants. Any tips?

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  1. Trikka - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by Trikka on August 11th, 2008 at 3:17 AM

    Ask him.Communication is very important for good sex...especially when dealing with dominance and submission.Just have a open and honest talk before hand..and ask for feedback when you do it.

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  2. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  3. rescue3 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by rescue3 on August 11th, 2008 at 3:23 AM

    Basicly you may need to become an actor in a way. Act like you know everything he needs.
    You must take control of the moment and lead him and be the guide of what will happen. MOST not all guys have a fantacy. Find out what it is and act it out as that fantacy. Teacher, nurse, tying up to bed whatever he says he likes. But be semi-forcefull in making him get into whatever positions you want him in. You can then have spurts of easyness if you like. But take absolute charge! THE REALITY THOUGH. There are so many peeps out there with so many desires it's hard to give you any specifics. Don't be affraid to tell him what to do to you and how he's going to do it during this time too. Be absolutely naughty if he says he likes it rough. If he likes it easy than maybe he's seeking for you to almost worship his body? You're going to need to get just a few more details to find out which way to go. Most of all, relax and have fun!
    LOLOL THis is a topic to hard to give good advice on without both parties involved talking it out. Good luck!

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  4. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  5. Aleatory - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by Aleatory on August 11th, 2008 at 3:24 AM

    I think you should just ask him what he likes. Also sense you both like to be dominated you should just switch on and off. Comprimise is always a good thing plus it will give you both a chance to learn more things in bed. You may like dominating him. Always try new things keep it exciting and most of all just have fun.

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  6. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  7. otad12 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by otad12 on August 11th, 2008 at 4:17 AM

    Maybe you 2 can take turns.

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  8. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  9. hunnypot82 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by hunnypot82 on August 12th, 2008 at 12:38 AM

    Just tell him you want to please him in that area, but aren't sure what to do. Ask for ideas. Plus, the internet is 90% **** or sex-related, do a little quick research. But the best thing to do is just to ask. Really.

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  10. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  11. sbrack - 36-40 years old

    Reply by sbrack May 30th, 2013 at 9:13PM

    What if you ask him and he says I dont really know what it is I want I just know I want something, why can't you read my mind? Seriously not a joke.

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  12. Master1946 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by Master1946 on December 2nd, 2008 at 9:19 AM

    You can not become an "actor" in this. You have or you don't. There are many BDSM clubs in your area, just google them. It is only people getting togather for dinner and education on BDSM This might do you too some good. Myself I am the Master of this house and no way will anyone top me and I could not ever "act" out this being submissive

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  13. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  14. far2wicked - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by far2wicked on October 29th, 2009 at 8:55 AM

    My gf and I email each other stories of what we would like to do and have done to each other. Then we carry them out. There has been a few things that she has not been keen to do - tease me long enough, she gets so Horny that she has to get my **** inside her. She does not test me as I wish. But what the hell, everythibg else is fantastic. Enjoy

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  15. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  16. gabe60 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by gabe60 on November 23rd, 2009 at 8:51 PM

    You might want to get Lady Green's book, The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners ( My wife found this a very gentle and comforting starting point. Lady Green is also co-author of the New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book under her real name, Janet Hardy. Those are excellent also.

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  17. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  18. tangio - 18-21 years old

    Posted by tangio on July 11th, 2011 at 3:16 AM

    my name is Bahar i want humiliate my boyfriend and dominated him can you suggest me ?

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  19. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

  20. sbrack - 36-40 years old

    Posted by sbrack on May 30th, 2013 at 9:12 PM

    So my boyfriend has thrown alot at me sexually and I am not one to say no, his fantasies are very out there but I know how important it is to be the one that can fulfill them even if out of my comfort zone I will try, as long as it does not involve another person, which he has reluctantly accepted, my point is his fantasies started out very small and not too strange but the more we do the more he wants and the more out there they get and I wonder if giving too much into these desires can create a problem? His new fantasy is humiliation, not just dominating but wanting me to tell him he has a small penis and calling him names and even calling him by another name and making up storys about my past and being with guys with bigger penises, I am posting here because there was alot of great advise and it seems that what started out as dominating has turned into so much more... What has your experiences been with this? I am fine with dominating to a point but I am a very quiet person that never says a mean thing to a person so I can't seem to find the words and be able to say them. Looking for some helpful advise.

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  21. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 19th, 2015 at 12:12AM

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