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venacava - 16-17 years old - female

Posted by venacava
on April 2nd, 2011 at 1:13 PM

I am a virgin. Female. 17. I never thought I'd even consider sex before marriage, and then that relaxed to not thinking I'd have sex with someone I'd know for at least a year, but now now I am so sexually frustrated...

I constantly feel the urge to watch po-rn, like it will make me feel better in every way. I mast-urbated 3 times yesterday, and another 3 time at differnet time whilst in bed. I think this is excessive. It can't be healthy. Am I addicted? I must be. I do the whole leg shaking thing all the time if I'm horny in the slightest. And I slip in and out of fantasies during the day.

I think part of has got to do with male-deprivation at boarding school. I miss boys. But now I fear when I meet up with them there will be only one thing on my mind. Sex. I've never had a proper boy friend. It's always just been close friends. But I want something more now, but I'm not sure how or who. I know I should just be patient, but it's killing me. 

It's also puberty, I know it. Hormones and stuff. It used to just be loniness, and craving a deaper love, but now it's become something ugly.


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  1. venacava - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by venacava on April 2nd, 2011 at 2:01 PM

    I think I'm over doing it with the 'pleasuring myself'. Is 6 times in 24 hours a lot for a girl? I think I should go cold-turkey altogether, but I'm not sure how that will help.

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  2. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 28th, 2015 at 9:36AM

  3. Posted by An EP User on April 2nd, 2011 at 7:37 PM

    I don't think it's a lot for a girl. I've known girls that often ********** to ****** that many times, and more, in just one session!

    If it's giving you pleasure, and not stopping you from doing anything else in your llfe, I say, just carry on!

    Not sure if you're doing it but, you will probably have better quality ******* if you do a bit of edging (repeatedly bringing yourself to just before the point of ******, without going over the point of no return) before hand. That way you may not have to do it so often. Or to get yourself off in a different way, use a good vibrator.

    If you do stop totally, there really will be only one thing on your mind when you meet a guy!

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  4. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 28th, 2015 at 9:36AM

  5. dogman137 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by dogman137 on April 3rd, 2011 at 9:41 AM

    As a dirty old man, it rarher warms my heart to know there are young ladies out there in such need. Forgive me.

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  6. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 28th, 2015 at 9:36AM

  7. Posted by An EP User on April 3rd, 2011 at 2:51 PM

    I've spent most of my life a sex addict, I think largely because of separating sexual desires from the need for intimacy, while not having intimate relationships (sexual or otherwise). I suspect that if you continue to react to your sexual desires as mere physically sexual, that you will come back to this place in your life in years to come as I did. You have no reason to take the word of a stranger like myself to resolve your concerns, but I ask you to consider the possibility that your sexual desires and pleasures may not be your greatest need, but, perhaps the result or symptom of a greater need. Find friends, of any sort, that you can be open and honest with, to the extent you know this person wants good for you and wants to be with you, and favors you. This is what you would expect with a sexual lover (mate/husband), and a father/parent, but that does not require sexual relationship.... but, your sexual desires will surface and yet you will have opportunity to control them by putting them into perspective. Don't worry about if/when or how often you ********** and think about sex, as that just compounds your own sensativity and worries.

    You are a young LADY, and you need confidence in knowing what you want and need in a sexually intimate relationship, perferably a lifetime mate... and what you do NOT want and need, after you have thought through and understand your real needs as best you can.

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  8. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 28th, 2015 at 9:36AM

  9. scarmart - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by scarmart on April 3rd, 2011 at 10:22 PM

    Don't worry stay calm. You are perfectly normal. Just find someone you like who treats you well. You don't want any stupid regrets later. Remember your hand is your friend... so is fantasy. You can say they go hand and hand. lol Anyways good luck and please stay safe.

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  10. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 28th, 2015 at 9:36AM

  11. Shygirl917 - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by Shygirl917 on February 16th, 2014 at 12:01 PM

    I understand how you feel. I'm a 19 year old virgin and before I never hand urges but now it's constant. I watch **** everyday and even when I'm not I'm thinking about it, especially when I'm laying down. I can't keep my hands out my panties lol it's weird like I know physically I'm ready for sex but mentally I'm not ready. I don't want to just lose my virginity to anybody I want it to be with someone that really cares about me but a boyfriend dosent look like it's happening anytime soon. I don't really have any advice for you cause I'm struggling with this too. But just know you're not alone.

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  12. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 28th, 2015 at 9:36AM

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