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sumnerkagan - 41-45 years old - male

Posted by sumnerkagan
on May 3rd, 2012 at 10:05 AM

I used to think I was a selfish hard *** with no time for other people's problems unless they somehow related to me.

That was taking it a bit far maybe, and not entirely true, but since I started paying more attention to EP and world events, I've gone in the opposite direction.

I'm consumed with concern for strangers. I find myself worrying about people who may not even exist, since it's pretty simple to fake online profiles. I spend hours writing and researching responses to questions and stories, I examine profiles to gain insights into ways I might help. I feel a sense of obligation to complete strangers going through difficulties on the other side of the planet.

I sign petitions, I rant about issues on political websites, I donate to causes, I'm thinking of sponsoring kids in third world countries.

When I compare myself past and present, it's like Darth Vader joined the Care Bears. Wtf?


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  1. Posted by An EP User on May 3rd, 2012 at 10:06 AM

    =) EP tends to do that to us at times. Welcome to the Care Bears Club Darth =P

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  2. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  3. Posted by An EP User on May 3rd, 2012 at 10:07 AM

    Awesome way to put it! I've always been a care bear though (:

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  4. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  5. Anaheart - 36-40 years old

    Posted by Anaheart on May 3rd, 2012 at 10:27 AM

    LOL, darth vader joined the care bears, whew classic. I think the meaning of life snuck up on you and you are still getting used to your role in it.

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  6. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  7. Posted by An EP User on December 20th, 2012 at 7:41 PM

    Now that 7 months have passed, I wonder how your perspective about this confession will have changed. I wonder if you are still immersed in the lives of online contacts. I wonder if you're still moved to provide comfort, knowledge, and trust to strangers. I wonder. This also happened to me when I was here after about a year. I won't share my tale of woe here, except to say I hope you avoided my mistakes.

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  8. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  9. sumnerkagan - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by sumnerkagan Dec 20th, 2012 at 7:48PM

    I'm at peace with it, and come and go from here as life allows. All of my close online contacts know that I may drop off the map for weeks at a time when the demands of work or life become too much, or when I'm feeling burnt out by it all. I've never really been hurt by anyone here, because I don't expect much except an opportunity to give and occasional silly venting. I tend not to expose my own issues except as references to explain any insights I think I have. St. Francis' prayer is meaningful to me "O master grant that I may never seek/so much to be consoled as to console/to be understoood as to understand/to be loved, as to love with all my soul" -- lol but I do get pompous and arrogant about it at times. only human...


  10. Davenz101 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by Davenz101 on November 27th, 2013 at 11:46 PM

    lol, nothing wrong with any of that, third world countries... the best thing they could do is contraceptives for third world countries... It seems harsh, but they just exist, waiting for the next meagre meal...

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  11. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  12. Posted by An EP User on December 3rd, 2013 at 8:10 PM

    Becoming more empathic is not a curse, or a sign that you are softening, rather, it is a sign that you are gaining insight into a fellow human being's sufferings and want to help to alleviate it. So, in short, it is a great gift. Most people don't notice it, it's true. Others may take empathy for granted, even regarding it as a form of weakness. However, if you take the time to examine your own life and realize how an act of empathy changed your own life for the better, you then realize how far reaching your own empathy can go! I would know. You have been a tremendous help to me.

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  13. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  14. phatnhapi - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by phatnhapi on January 8th, 2014 at 7:04 PM

    Love your transition from Darth to Care Bear! lololololol .... I have been gripped by concern for others from human to animal on those lonnnnng commercials for help this one or give to that one and the pitiful stares back at you from those limpid pools of lovely eyes that make you want to scoop them up and hug them. So i too know how you feel about the whole caring thing.... Gotta love a compassionate heart :)

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  15. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  16. joydream - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by joydream on June 23rd, 2014 at 11:55 PM

    This was a great post- so admirable and too bad more couldn't adopt your feeling and view on CARING about others, not just so self absorbed. It takes an inner realization I think, to see how others are LIKE us, how we are so much the Same, deal with tribulations, and it was wonderful to read your empathy and concern for strangers. Thank you for sharing, S.

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  17. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

  18. abrokenlittlegirl - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by abrokenlittlegirl on September 20th, 2014 at 1:43 AM

    Like. Not sure if many could honestly say this.

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  19. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Apr 18th, 2015 at 12:03AM

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