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1snickers1 - 18-21 years old - male

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Posted by 1snickers1
on May 23rd, 2012 at 1:31 AM


So I am new to this, but I feel that I will get used to it. So for the sake of my identity I will just remain as Snickers.

 

Anywho how to start this off? I have to admit I am creating this blog for very selfish reasons... But I need a way to get these feelings out and possibly get some support.

 

I have a problem. I need more attention. I know I know, "thats your problem?" yes. yes it is.

I have been going out with this wonderful girl for almost 2 years now and I am madly in love with her. I have been lucky to meet someone as bright and as beautiful as her and to be able to share my love with. That being said I have a problem. We're about to graduate high school and we have both been really stressed and lately we have been in a "rut". Wait why am I lying to some strangers on the internet? We have been in a rut for a very very long time. It has been hard on my girlfriend. She has told me this several times and every time I say ill work on it and plan some events. I really do try. But no matter what I do we always go back to this rut.(Or at least whenever we are stressed thanks to high school) And I know this will pass, but sometimes I just wish. I just wish that I wasn't human. That I didn't need constant affection. I wish that I could just not need assurance or love or anything emotional because then I wouldn't get hurt and neither would the ones I care about. But going back to my problem I have a very hard time when my girlfriend is stressed and I comfort her and I am her rock, I am her safety net;but wheres my safety net? Who will be there for me while I am comforting my girlfriend? Who will be there to give me constant assurance? The answer is blunt: no one. Men are supposed to be "Macho" and not need assurance because we are all confidence. ummm hello? I don't think so. I believe there are some men out there like me that need a friend or anything to offer support. I know this to be true in my life so I hope to here from others and how I can maybe help them.

 

I acknowledge this with a selfish note: I hope that through helping others with struggles, I too will be able to gain support from this blog.

 

--Snickers

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  1. fortysixandtwo - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by fortysixandtwo on May 23rd, 2012 at 1:52 AM

    Needing attention in a relationship isn't being selfish. Men don't always have to be macho, very true. It's great that you are supporting your girlfriend in her times of need. However, if you're feeling like your needs aren't being met then you need to talk to her about it. Don't ***** foot around problems, your feelings of lack of affection may very well be a big factor in your relationship rut. Communication is the key to a happy, functional relationship. Don't feel embarrassed or anything.

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  2. 1snickers1 - 18-21 years old - male

    Reply by 1snickers1 May 23rd, 2012 at 1:58AM

    And I agree that communication is the key, That's how I found out we have been in a rut. Im taking her out to a baseball game this sunday. But on the other side of things how do I tell her what I need without making her hurt?

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  3. fortysixandtwo - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by fortysixandtwo May 23rd, 2012 at 2:07AM

    Just let her know how much you care for her, that you know how stressed you two are and want to make things better. Ask her what she thinks needs improvements on, let her get what she needs to off her chest. Then tell her what you need to say in a honest, yet gentle way. Try to come up with things you guys both think will solve the rut.

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  4. vicky2181 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by vicky2181 on May 23rd, 2012 at 2:05 AM

    Complete yourself first before you can fulfill others  

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