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Skellington89 - 22-25 years old - female

Posted by Skellington89
on June 13th, 2012 at 10:46 PM


when it comes to my husband and his family. Today is my sister's in law birthday. My husband is there celebrating with every one and where am i??? Home. Home alone with my little angel. It seems like i don't matter much to my husband. Some times i just want to quit.

It's not the first time this happens. It happen before on mother's day (May the 10th). I was in pain and instead of him staying with me he told me imma go eat with my mom. Made it seem like i didn't want to go. May the 13 also mother's day. I went to get my haircut thinking he would take me out to eat. I was thinking of buying me new clothes but while i was getting my hair cut my husband calls me and asks me if i wanted to go to the beach because his sister had invited us to the beach. I told him "why do you ask me if i say no you're going to get mad so what ever."
 
I don't know if i'm making a big deal out of nothing but at this moment i feel like ****.

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  1. MirrorFace - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by MirrorFace on June 13th, 2012 at 10:51 PM

    Aww :(

    Definitely talk to your husband about the matter, try not too get angry, but instead try to get to the root of the problem.



    You definitely are being mistreated though, so don't let anyone say you're at fault.



    Goodluck :)

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  2. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Dec 21st, 2014 at 7:04PM

  3. Skellington89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Skellington89 Jun 14th, 2012 at 1:38AM

    Thank you

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  4. notsoblackandwhite - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by notsoblackandwhite on June 13th, 2012 at 10:55 PM

    He is being totally unsensitive. That's messed up, try telling him how you feel.



    Make sure you go out and do something nice for yourself, you deserve it. Have him watch your babe and go out and have some time for YOU. , go out with your girlfriends. Or go get yourself a nice outfit. !!!

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  5. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Dec 21st, 2014 at 7:04PM

  6. Skellington89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Skellington89 Jun 14th, 2012 at 1:38AM

    I've told him so many times but it seems it goes in one ear and out the other plus it always leads to an argument. Thanks for the advice. Even though i've only let him babysit when i go to work because i don't really trust him being able to handle it as he always goes to his mom's with our baby while i'm at work so she can watch over our baby even though he's there.

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  7. notsoblackandwhite - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by notsoblackandwhite Jun 14th, 2012 at 9:28AM

    sounds like hes a real jerk, and sounds like there are some serious marital problems there... would he ever consider marriage counseling? would you ever consider a divorce?... or...dare i say it, an affair?? marriage aside, deffinately find yourself a good baby sitter then, try care.com or something and get out and enjoy yourself.

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  8. ventnow - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by ventnow on June 13th, 2012 at 11:07 PM

    you are not making a big deal. may 10th? sounds like you are hispanic, did you marry a hispanic? I'm hispanic and I stuck to the white guys because hispanics are jerks (don't know if you married a hispanic but if you did now you know why he is like that). he needs to give you your place in the marriage. is he the only boy in the family? if he is, in hispanic cultures they grow up having everything done for them, and they are always babied my the moms. Men sometimes have a mommy side to them-always wanna be with mommy. Watch out because it will always be what you and him fight about-him putting his family before you.

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  9. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User Dec 21st, 2014 at 7:04PM

  10. Skellington89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Skellington89 Jun 14th, 2012 at 1:30AM

    Yes i am Hispanic and did marry a hispanic as well. I know what you mean but when we were dating it didn't seem that way he was never so close to his family always felt bothered by their presence but all of a sudden he turn into a momies boy and it's really getting annoying.

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  11. notsoblackandwhite - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by notsoblackandwhite Jun 14th, 2012 at 9:35AM

    oh snap. i just read that part... that is actually really true, and thats usually how it goes, its never that bad when you date but yeah once you marry it is a totally different thing, thinking now, he probably would not even consider doing counseling huh? yeah when guys are raise like that and they have their family around and they encourage that type of behavior...it's really hard to change, like almost impossible. And generally, those guys tend to be cheaters too or veer on the abusive side. you should start saving you up some money and making plansd if you dont think that will change, because honestly it probably wont and your child shouldnt grow up thinking a wtheir mommys not as important as their daddy and you shouldnt have to seat back seat your whole life. again though, if for whateveer reason you cant , or dont really want to leave your marriage... find a nice guy on the side... :) but probably let him know that youre married, and know its usually a temporary fix but hey sometimes it can work if your stuck being married to an *******

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