Mr Right is a Financial Nightmare

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Mlsi - 31-35 years old

Posted by Mlsi
on July 24th, 2012 at 3:59 AM

Ahhhh so I met this great guy two years ago.

We talked almost every day on the phone for many hours. We got along and laughed at the same jokes.
We listen to the same music. He is divorced and he has been married for nine years. I am a widow...
We are around the same age and know the same era (generational things). We are previous military.
Both veterans. Wow! And he is so attractive and tall and strong oh my lucky me!!!

Well we go on our first road trip. All the way from Virginia to California. We met in Virginia at my house.
We hit it off well! We waited weeks to sleep together. And we became so serious and in love,,,

Then he hits me up with "Lets move in together in Cali! We can start a new life there!"
Since is stationed there I thought...well he offered to take care of me while I look for a job.
Then I notice he has a 250 dollar phone bill. He says " can I borrow 250 and I will pay you back tomorrow. I promise!"
I say "No!" He brought enough for the road trip right?

As we hit some southern states he asks "Can you pay for tonights hotel? I am paying 80 dollars for the gas.
So far I am stopping for gas almost four times already".  I wonder well this is a road trip right?
We are supposed to split it equally? Then he says " can you buy us food".
I am like WTF>>>

I say "Jeezus How much do you have with you? You are relocating and you are asking me to move in.
Who is going to pay the rent this month?" He says "I will ofcourse"

Later we get to Cali and he talks to his ex wife. He is like..."yes we are here and we are going to move in".
I am like "Hey I never said I was moving in this month!"

He takes out a Military Loan (Lending Loan for 2000).  I am watching this in astonishment but
I am in Cali so I opt to call my friends to see if I can stay with them for two weeks.
He is like...."why are you afraid of commitment? I am offering us a new life! Maybe even
we can get married and you can be my wife. Why are you running away from us!"

I am thinking ..."bills. bills. bills". I see a financial nightmare approaching on the horizon.
I tell him " Look I really care about you. Your financial life is total mess! I can't be your savior"

He says "What? I never asked you for money! You offered!"
I am like "Thats BS!"

Then he says "I will give you my paycheck every time I get paid! You can handle my money for me!
See how much I trust you?"

Gee....if this is so great why do I feel like running for the hills?

Plus I found out he pays child support. He is always whaaing over that. Then he spends
money on himself generously like....80 dollars on his hotel room after I leave.

So I am like at the point of calling him to say " find someone else. But stop this financial crap."

I think he started flirting with a banker woman. I am praying that he finds another woman
soon so he can stop pressuring me to " live a great life and move in with him".

Has anyone been through this before? I feel sad because we get along so well but my friend said I was playing with fire.
No one wants to see their finances dwindle to nothing....and his is already gone!

To top this off he is in the military!!! So I am are responsable soldier who lives heroically to fight wars.
But you can't save your money without acting like that?? Is he a con artist? I was wondering what the Heck is He?
Like what kind of person wants a relationship and uses others for payments and then denies it? He already has two ex girlfriends
that ran off after only six months. lol.

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  1. mikemcneil - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by mikemcneil on July 24th, 2012 at 4:32 AM

    Get out of there now...don't even look around to see what happens. This guy needs to sort his life out before he messes someone else's life up!

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    Reply by An EP User May 4th, 2015 at 4:28AM

  3. OmegaWizard - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by OmegaWizard on July 24th, 2012 at 4:41 AM

    Listen up ladies. If a man complains about his child support, that should be all you need to hear to know that you need to immediately get away from him. If a man doesn't consider it an honor and a privilege to take care of his own children, then he sure as hell isn't going to love you correctly either.

    And men, if your girlfriend complains about your child support, tell her to get stepping toward the door. The last thing you need is to be with a woman who has one ounce of resentment about your children, and your children don't need to be saddled with dealing with her attitude either.

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  4. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User May 4th, 2015 at 4:28AM

  5. darkprince474 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by darkprince474 on July 24th, 2012 at 6:04 AM

    run, now, far and fast. Nothing in that relationship for you but misery and financial ruin.


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  6. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User May 4th, 2015 at 4:28AM

  7. Mlsi - 31-35 years old

    Posted by Mlsi on October 9th, 2012 at 5:04 PM

    Thank you for your wonderful straight up answers! I have dropped him like a hot cake. lol.

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  8. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User May 4th, 2015 at 4:28AM

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