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Posted by summerkc
on August 27th, 2012 at 12:50 PM

soo, i don't really want to admit this, but idk what to do. i need help..
so i know my boyfriends password for everything, and i guess i kind of check up on him every now and again. and yesterday i found out that he had signed up for a dating website.. like, seriously? he's 19, he doesn't need that.. but idk what to do. we're in a long distance relationship, he's in the military. idk if i should confront him now, or wait to see what he does with this website.. if i do confront him, i'd have to say something about his email, which i shouldn't have been in anyway, idk if i should just break up with him? i just need ideas from others. im so confused right now. I love this boy to death, but idk if i can keep on with this always in the back of my mind. he says he wants to be with, that he loves and misses me, then the next day he doesnt know if he can deal with the distance anymore. im not sure what he wants, maybe it's not me considering he joind that website. someone please help me?

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Posted by brandi0r000 on August 27th, 2012 at 12:57 PM

If the trust is gone then the relationship is gone.

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Posted by IntuitiveOne on August 27th, 2012 at 1:02 PM

I hate to tell you this. Guys in the Army or military are hard to deal with, always getting deployed, then their training periods......if you are just boyfriend/girlfriend then maybe you should have a separation period during the time he is away that way you can continue to date and so can he. If the two of you get back together when he gets back, more the merrier. But let him know that you want to continue to date. Maybe this will snap his little a ss to pay attention. Because why should you put up with a cheater? You are a beautiful girl with a lot of potential, let him know what a loss he will have on his hands.

If he agrees with this, then this means that he wasn't serious about you anyway. If he says no, I want to stay together, then let him know you want it to go to the next stage. Where the two of you become a serious couple and stop seeing others. Make sure you tell him dating sites are not an option. If he agrees to this then I would let it stand there. Stop looking for things to catch him on and trust him. Don't break his privacy, because I'm sure you wouldn't like it if he did it to you.

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Posted by MichaelVictoria on August 27th, 2012 at 1:03 PM

you need to ditch that zero and get yourself a hero. whoa, sorry, Ricki Lake flashback

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Posted by Lasvegasnluvnit on August 27th, 2012 at 4:47 PM

Are you two exclusive? Have you had that discussion yet? If not, do so now. Have there been problems in the relationship? You don't say how long you've been together, so it's hard to say what you should do. Clearly, you shouldn't be spying on him...not a sign of a trusting relationship. Has he cheated on you before?

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Reply by summerkc Aug 27th, 2012 at 7:01PM

we've been together for over a year. and we've talked about marriage in the past, but not recently. he broke up with me once before for some other girl, but i think he was talking to her before we broke up. And it's not like i was deliberately spying, he's signed in on my tablet and his emails pop up. i wasn't looking through his email, notifications just kept popping up from that site and i was curious. i don't creep on a regular basis.

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Reply by Lasvegasnluvnit Aug 27th, 2012 at 7:10PM

You are fairly new to this site and it seems like your entire focus is this guy and your relationship (at least here on EP). Regardless of what you decide to do with this, I hope you are getting out with your girlfriends and continuing your own activities and not just waiting for him. You deserve to have an entire full life even if you continue dating this guy. Don't wait around for him, whatever you do. Men are never all there is to life...it's a lot more awesome than that! I realize that you may not have intentionally snooped, but stop looking at his emails if and when they pop up and just get rid of all of his passwords. (You don't need them for anything legit, do you?) Then you won't be tempted. Have a full and active life and see if you still want him! Let the ball be in your court for once. It's not a great sign that he broke up with you once for another girl, honestly. Focus on yourself and be independent. You're wonderful with or without a guy!

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Posted by muskateer99 on December 23rd, 2012 at 8:49 PM

get,in.your.car.drive.down.town.have.several.nights.out.pick.a.guy..u.like.start.a.new.full.rship.forget.the.marine.--history.dishonest.using.u.a.player.123.girls.at.once.all.crap.hes.a.bum.not.sincere.or.genuine.get.yr.arse.into.gear.now.act.dont.talk.no.more.distance.rships.at.all.bad.news.local.men.only.james.

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Posted by OmegaWizard on December 23rd, 2012 at 9:45 PM

I recently joined a dating site just to complete an offer to get a couple of hundred free magic beans for a game that I play on my phone. If anyone on the site was interested in the purposely-awful profile that I created and tried to hook up with me, the notices went to a throw-away email account that I made for the site to send notices send to.

I don't remember my username or password for the site, or the email address and password that I made for the site to contact me at. All I care about is that I got my magic beans, and I feel no guilt for littering cyber-space with a fake dating profile and a throw-away email box.

Moral of the story: It's not okay to cheat on your girlfriend on a dating site, but it's okay to cheat a little to get free magic beans. :-)

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