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A lesson I learned a few years ago.

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pennynoodles - 41-45 years old - female

Posted by pennynoodles
on September 12th, 2012 at 3:17 PM


About three years ago, we went out to look at a car to buy for my son. With me in my handbag I had £1200. It took us about an hour to get to where we would meet a man to check out the car and make the decision there or then to buy it. When we got to the address, in what to us seemed a bit of a dodgy area, there was the car with the man in it waiting for us. We had only his mobile number as a contact, no real address etc. As he walked towards us, I'm afraid I judged. He was very unkempt and unclean looking and on greeting us, it was obvious that he knew very little English. We went out for a test drive but the car's exhaust was big enough to sleep in and due to the worry of our son being a young male driver, we knew he would be targeted by the police so we didn't buy the car.
Thanking him profusely for his time, we shook hands and he drove off. About twenty minutes in to our journey, we got a phone call from him. I had not realised that i had left my handbag in his car, complete with the money inside! We arranged to meet at a different address this time and sure enough he went to his car and got out the handbag. It was in exactly the same position i had left it in, I honestly don't think he'd even looked in it. I had been feeling so sick and very embarrassed but he laughed it off and when we offered something for his honesty, he told us to make a donation to a charity, which we did.

What he did that day, he probably doesn't even remember, but I remember, I gave myself the biggest bollocking of my life for being so judgemental. Up until that point I'd always thought of myself to not be judgemental and i had proved myself wrong.  
A big lesson was learnt that day. 

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  1. billstickers - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by billstickers on September 21st, 2012 at 1:15 AM

    mmmmmmmmm interesting dont suppose you want to buy a car do you lol

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  2. pennynoodles - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by pennynoodles Sep 21st, 2012 at 1:20AM

    You don't think I would make the same mistake twice do you?

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  3. billstickers - 26-30 years old - male

    Reply by billstickers Sep 21st, 2012 at 1:22AM

    if a man has no hope has he nothing left at all

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  4. uncfred - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by uncfred on October 12th, 2012 at 3:25 PM

    Hey Penny, we are all guilty of prejudgement, but sometimes we are right. I prefer to trust all until they do me wrong, then it is "lockout" for life.

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  5. pennynoodles - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by pennynoodles Oct 14th, 2012 at 2:04PM

    I tend not to trust people very easily, I've been done over too often.

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  6. MisterGrey - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by MisterGrey on November 19th, 2012 at 11:51 AM

    I had a very similar experience in the opposite way. A friend of mine had a lovely girlfriend whom I got on with really well. She was a staff nurse at a local hospital and very well educated, very intelligent and always smartly dressed etc. but over the years I slowly realised she had a terrible habit for thieving and often things that would have cost very little anyway. At first it was hard to believe as she earnt really good money but no way would she have given that handbag back to you.

    Lovely story btw :)

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  7. Posted by An EP User on February 13th, 2013 at 1:36 PM

    I think we have all done that a time or two, then there are the others, everything is right and in place, then the true person comes out and it is a shock.

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  8. pennynoodles - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by pennynoodles Feb 13th, 2013 at 2:58PM

    Yesterday, i was with a friend walking towards the tube station in London when I saw a woman drop something. Instinctively, I looked back to see what she had dropped. There was a steady flow of foot traffic but I saw it was a fifty pound note. I bent down and picked it up and looked back, now not sure which women it was that had dropped it. Fortunately, my friend had seen who it was so I ran (well, walked quickly) after her and just managed to catch her before she went through the barrier to get on the train. I asked her if she had dropped anything. She put her hand in her pocket and said, oh my god, my fifty pounds. You should've seen the look on her face when I handed it over to her....it was priceless. She gave me a big hug then went on her way. It was only this morning that I thought back to the incident where I had my money returned.

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  9. coloco - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by coloco Feb 13th, 2013 at 3:12PM

    There was a little kid in front of me in line once going through checkout, he had a card and a flower, and he was short, not knowing about tax. While he was searching his pockets I handed the cashier what he was short and said ma'm I think you miscounted. The kid looked up and the relief on his face brought tears to my eyes. She rang it up, and he held his hand for the change and I nodded, it was only 3 cents. But, now it is my turn and I couldn't stop the tears, we never said a word, but i think maybe I made her cry too she was sniffling when I ran my card and left. to this day I don't know what the card was.

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  10. Sepulcher - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Sepulcher on November 21st, 2013 at 5:06 AM

    I like you have formed judgments based on the way people look. I think news media and TV programs has a lot to with it. Where as our grandparents were less effected by installed pre conceived ideas on dress code, appearances, etc. and as such were more inclined to accept people before making judgment.

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  11. ICanBeMe - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by ICanBeMe on November 9th, 2014 at 4:47 PM

    A really heart warming story, thank you

    By nature I am not a judger at all, but it is all too easy to do.

    So I don't think you deserved that bollocking.

    And you gave the relief you felt onto the tube passenger!

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