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my wife makes me feel like a fool and an ingrate

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CAnnesdad - 41-45 years old - male

Posted by CAnnesdad
on November 8th, 2012 at 1:27 AM

I don't know if she even knows she's doing it. But, perfect example was a few minutes ago. She is sick with a bad head cold. She can't breathe thru her nose and it's easier for her to sleep sitting up. When I came to bed, she told me she would vome in later and probably watch tv in bed. At the time I figured I'd be out cold. I was tired. I actually slept awhile. When I got up, I checked on her and she told me she would probably stay in the livkng room and sleep on the couch, if she slept at all and asked me to take our son to school in the morning for the same reasons. No problem. I came back to bbed and decided to get on here. An hour or so later she walks in the bedroom, sees me on ep and says, "Oh" and walks out closing the door. Well, that set me to wondering. I finished my thought on here so as not to lose it and was getting up to check on her when she came back in and got all of her pillows. Then she came back and got her other things off of her night stand. I asked her what she was doing and she told me that she didn't want to bother me so she would just sleep in the living room. I, of course told her no, take the bedroom or better yet just come to bed, watch tv and I'll play on ep awhile longer. Her voice was dripping with that sacrificial tone and that sorrowful jones attitude. I tried to tell her it was okay. Hell, I'd stay up all night with her and it ended with me saying, "Damn, woman I'm just trying tk help" and her response of, "Thanks fkr trying, but you know the tv frustrates you so I'll just take the living room tonight." The tone had changed tk that one she uses with the kids to make them feel bad about nkt rinsing their dishes or not taking their laundry to the wash room. So I let her go and said 'hell with it ' if she's going tk act that way, I'll let her. No remorse.
Now, some reading this might say it was because she didn't feel good or jt was the medicine or maybe lack of sleep talking. Well, I've gone with those same theories until they've now become excuses I'm making for her in my head. I'm pretty tired of it. I'm trying to ecplain things to her. It helps for about a week and then back to the same stuff. I'm not perfect by any stretch kf the imagination, but I make a consciousness effort not to use guilt trips because they were used on me so much growing up. It my mother's way of getting things done.

This a rant. I'm not looking for advice. This ks one of the thkngs I come to confession for :-)

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  1. Posted by An EP User on October 5th, 2013 at 10:55 AM

    I hear you brother. No advice but i understand.

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    Reply by An EP User May 22nd, 2015 at 9:14AM

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