my narcissistic mother

As hard as it is for you to forgive see beyond it, all your mum does is out of insecurity. Read a book called Just Like His Father and a book called angels in my hair and satirways to heaven. They will help you learn to pray for your mum which will help change her and you all into a happier family. Their painful traits stem from deep insecurities, bad conditioning and a severe lack of love and impulse control. Everyone genuinely is a threat in your mums mind because she has 0 self esteem so she attacks adnd pick out others to avoid her own self hatred. As hard as it may feel she needs your love and forgiveness in prayer - the Almighty is touched by our compassion and understanding and He honors such prayers, continue to pray and she will begin to change but deep eyes of understanding for her condition are needed. God bless I know its not easy. You can protect yourself and have empathy without being hurt in the process. Learning healthy boundaries and relationships is crucial so she does not abuse that. You can love her from safety so she can heal. God bless x