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hadyourchance - 31-35 years old - female

Posted by hadyourchance
on December 15th, 2012 at 1:09 PM


And I think I'm finally ready to put him in the past with all the other uncaring jerks I've been with. From now on....only involve myself with men who are capable of caring.

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  1. idleheart - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by idleheart on December 15th, 2012 at 1:12 PM

    Good to hear and best of luck;)

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  2. tammynicolesmith - 56-60 years old

    Posted by tammynicolesmith on December 15th, 2012 at 3:11 PM

    you go girl!!!!!! now your talking

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  3. workingman - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by workingman on December 16th, 2012 at 2:48 AM

    hmm... Its a pattern.. You sound like my GF, who after many 3-monthers didn't want them anymore and finally settled with me for a longer term... She said in her 20s she wouldn't have dated me cos she only ended up liking jerks..



    It usually happens when women turn around 30-31...



    Me on the other hand never had to become a jerk to get laid.... I've been in a long term relationship and also one night stands...



    Don't know why women fuel the jerk-factor in women and then hate them... If you always go for nice guys who are decent, jerks wouldnt exist..

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  4. hadyourchance - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by hadyourchance Dec 16th, 2012 at 3:01AM

    I've only been in 4 relationships since I was 17.....each one lasted several years. I've never "dated" or bounced from relationship to relationship. I'm not that type.

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  5. LittleMissStrange - 18-21 years old

    Reply by LittleMissStrange Dec 16th, 2012 at 6:37AM

    The "girls go for jerks" thing is largely a myth. Women, (particularly the younger ones) find CONFIDENCE very attractive, confident men are more likely to approach you, draw in your attention, then say things to women that they know they want to hear, in a confident, natural, non-awkward way, they are more likely to be big headed, arrogant, and most of all, GOOD AT LYING and ACTING like a nice guy at first, then turning out to be a jerk when you find out he's ******* half the town during the relationship. No girl who is relatively sane has EVER gone, "Well, that guy cheats and is a bastard to everyone, OMG how ******* sexy is that!?" She's not that type, I'm not that type, because only a very VERY small percentage of women are that type. The "nice guys like me cant get laid cause women friendzone me coz they are stupid and like jerks" thing is just the collective whining of a bunch of bitter immature guys who couldn't get the girl they like, and would rather accuse that woman of being mentally unstable/stupid rather than face up to the fact that it's because she just didn't find him very attractive/interesting/funny/intelligent or WHATEVER. That way, in the guys mind, she will NEVER be happy without him. Guys like this, who wine about being friendzoned feel that women are obliged to return 'acting like a nice person' with sex, they feel entitled to it, but they're not, they resent our free will and try to guilt trip us and convince us were awful people for exercising it. Oh, and jerks will ALWAYS exist, it's retarded to blame the entire existence of jerks on a group of women. For example, did you know that as many as 1 in 5 American women have been raped by men, who, similarly, also feel a sense of entitlement to women's bodies and a distaste for their free will to reject sex, they therefore no longer care for consent. This is why I hate guys who claim to be friendzoned, their rapey attitude disturbs me. Soz I rambled on and it turned into an essay.

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  6. Posted by An EP User on December 16th, 2012 at 9:54 AM

    Im happy for u. I think Im ready to move on also. I dont want to but I know its whats best. I have been texting and emailing and calling him everyday and he had nothing but hurtful things to say. I havent contacted him in three days and thats the longest Ive went so hopefully he has heard the last of me

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  7. hadyourchance - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by hadyourchance Dec 16th, 2012 at 12:58PM

    Good for you.

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  8. plaimas - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by plaimas Dec 22nd, 2012 at 8:22PM

    *smile May Santa bring you lots of wonderful surprises too! (personally - I try to protect myself.. If I know the response would be sad.. I will try to stop doing something in order to prevent it) Keep on trying.. you can do it..I know *hugs

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  9. Kenshin0 - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by Kenshin0 on December 16th, 2012 at 12:37 PM

    I understand, i just relinquished myself of the last relationship i was in. Took me two months and kicking her current boyfriends *** to realize pleasures of the flesh isn't worth so soo much strife.

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  10. Kat47 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Kat47 on December 21st, 2012 at 10:47 AM

    It's always tough to let go but I send you good vibes that your able to with ease :)

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  11. plaimas - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by plaimas on December 22nd, 2012 at 8:20 PM

    Huray! Now you are ready for the xmas. Merry xmas and I hope that Santa will bring you lots of wonderful surprises!



    ps. I have been through the same thing like you too.. and I learned each of the chapter. You will finally find the right man who will always be there for you. He might not be Mr. Perfect but he will be your Home.



    ps. I super agree to LittleMissStrange :

    The "girls go for jerks" thing is largely a myth. Women, (particularly the younger ones) find CONFIDENCE very attractive, confident men are more likely to approach you, draw in your attention, then say things to women that they know they want to hear, in a confident, natural, non-awkward way,



    Good guys and nice guys are quite shy ..they are afraid of being refused .. but eyes do speak.



    Happy New Year! Good luck

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  12. hadyourchance - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by hadyourchance Dec 22nd, 2012 at 8:27PM

    He was a nice quiet shy guy.....

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  13. plaimas - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by plaimas Dec 22nd, 2012 at 8:47PM

    Oh well.. if that is the case.. there gotta be a better one! It is true that some people are lucky.. they experienced only one love in their life time.. but most of us are not.(I think?) and that included me. However, I learned that you could never change a man. And it is quite hard to change yourself as well .. but girls tend to adjust themselves to the men they care. However what I have on my mind now is 'If you could not please me the way I want or deserve .. then I would not jump into a relationship with you either....because this would hurt me later on' and this works with me. Anyway anyway.. it is a time to sing a jingle bell song.. You are pretty and sweet.. I am so super duper sure.. the right one will soon be delivered to you ^^

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  14. Army0917 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by Army0917 on December 29th, 2012 at 5:38 AM

    Sorry that you had to go through so many jerks :/ I hope the next one is the right guy for you :)

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