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Posted by Anonymous
on February 1st, 2009 at 10:03 AM

I have been having an affair with my married boss for over a year now. I know that he is in love with me. However, as much as I care about him, I think that it's still more or less lust on my part. I like the whole secret thing in the office. It's thrilling. We have sex in his office before the others arrive in the mornings. It's pretty hot. Sneaking kisses throughout the day when no one is looking. He has no intentions of leaving his family and I'm fine with that. I wouldn't want him to. He treats me really well and makes me feel special. Not once in the 3 years that I've been working with him has he done one single thing to upset me. He is a very easy going guy.

I've also been seeing another married man for 6+ years who is of a different race than I. I care for him a good deal as well, but I don't think that I am in love with him. He says that he loves me, but I feel it's just the racial taboo with him. I've also slept with another co-worker twice, who isn't married. He knows nothing about me and the boss. No one does.

I don't want a "real" relationship with any of these men. I'm not interested in having a relationship with anyone. I enjoy being by myself. I've been married twice. I'm currently separated from my second husband although we do still see each other on occasion. I don't believe in "soul mates" or "true love". I thought that is what I had found with my second husband. It was to start with. But life and circumstance killed it, among other things. Although my husband is a very attractive man, I'm not sexually turned on my him. Never was. I thought that I could trade the hot sexual passion for having someone that I knew would love me no matter what and be happy. It lasted for 5 years before I started having the interracial affair. Our separation has nothing to do with my affairs. I've never even fantasized a relationship with either man.

It makes me so mad when people tell me that I NEED a man at home to take care of me. I've never had a man take care of me and I damn sure don't NEED one. I just feel that some people were born to be alone and that should be ok with the rest of the world. What is so wrong with taking care of yourself? This way you don't have the worry of what happens when/if he leaves you. To hell with him. Let him go. Didn't need him to begin with.

Both of my parents are gone. I have no siblings. My children from my first husband are just about grown. I work and have my own house. I pay my own bills. I don't ask for money or help from the men in my life. To me their only purpose is to take care of me sexually when I need them to.

I give to the needy and love animals. I don't go out and party, never have. I don't drink or do drugs. I have no intentions of ever trying to break up any marriages. They have their wives and families and they come first. Why is having fun on the side considered such a bad thing when everyone involved knows the rules and are ok with it?

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  1. zorbas - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by zorbas on February 1st, 2009 at 12:27 PM

    You are my ideal of the other woman and I salute you for your logically and sane approach to life , love and sex.
    I have had many affairs over the years and all fell apart because they all wanted a conclusion that I would not or could not give. You are an absolute delight to hear.

    However, the years pass quickly and you may well have to face the last years it alone as I am doing alone in a sexless marriage.

    I am sure you can handle that as I have. There are some like us that are pretty much in control of our lives and not beholding to anybody for support.

    Hang in there gal! I love your style.....

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  2. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User May 24th, 2015 at 7:22PM

  3. mlf1070 - 66-70 years old - male

    Posted by mlf1070 on February 2nd, 2009 at 1:02 PM

    Five Important Tips For Women. 1. It's important that a man helps out around the house, and has a good job. 2. It's important that a man makes you laugh. 3. It's important to find a man you can count on and will never lie to you. 4. It's important that a man loves you passionately, satisfies you completely, and spoils you with expensive gifts. 5. It's VERY important that these four men don't know each other.

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  4. Anonymous

    Reply by An EP User May 24th, 2015 at 7:22PM

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