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   Posted by Silkybad on March 27th, 2009 at 12:39 PM

   I am 59 yo male. Abused phy/emotionaly by my long ago deceased (not my bio.) father. They both said I was his but I do not look like him. DNA was not available then. It is now but not worth the answer. My mother sexual abused me and knew nothing about nutruing.
   So I became my job as an adult male.
   Recommend reading, sharing self talk, forgiving parents that lack parenting. Then most of all nuture yourself. You will move on if you do some work on yourself Let them go. Its your life now.

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   Posted by TheOnlyConstantIsChange on March 27th, 2009 at 12:47 PM

   I can't forgive her. She won't even admit she did anything wrong. That in itself is so wrong it's ridiculous.

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   Posted by FiFiDelmar on March 27th, 2009 at 12:50 PM

   maybe she's in denial. you can't rely on her for your path in life. sounds like you really need to seek a professional to help you find your way. it'll be hard work, but it'll be so worth it. good luck and know that you're not alone.

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   Posted by TheOnlyConstantIsChange on March 27th, 2009 at 12:56 PM

   Thanks Fifi... but unfortunately at 60$ an hour I can't rely on professional help too much... ;)

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   Posted by LADYSOUCYXO on March 27th, 2009 at 12:59 PM

   my mom let her bf sexually abuse me for 6 months. She says I betrayed her by seducing him. I was 14...and a virgin. She blames me. I know how your feeling. My dad hasnt been involved in my life and now hes trying to control it... My life hasnt been easy but im making it through happily. Realize that this world is harsh.. things like that happen all the time. Its unfortunately the norm. People make mistakes.. they cannot take them back. People lie, people blame others. Never fully trust anyone. Let go of those who don't care about you. Don't waste your time on them as much as you care... Let go. Become happy. Its your life, live it for you. Go out and do fun things.. feel alivee.

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   Posted by 1Babe on March 27th, 2009 at 12:59 PM

   The most important thing is to learn how to like yourself. Sometimes, it can be the hardest.

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   Posted by toluvis2live on March 27th, 2009 at 1:01 PM

   I think that the fact that you are out "here" sharing what was done to you.- you are already on your way to "unscrewing yourself" and I dont think that I even know anyone that would forgive someone especially if they dont even admit that they were wrong...

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   Posted by FiFiDelmar on March 27th, 2009 at 1:01 PM

   i know i say this all the time, but it's true, so i will repeat myself (one mo timeee)... there are free counseling services all around you. free or close to it, that is. if there is a university nearby, that's always a good place to start. women's shelters usually have therapists that donate their time, your local hospital e.r. will have resources, as well. don't let money stand between you and happiness.
   
   you deserve to be happy, you deserve healthy relationships and to be loved.

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   Posted by TheOnlyConstantIsChange on March 27th, 2009 at 3:01 PM

   boo: What you say there is really interesting. Do you think it's possible to get better without really letting the negative feelings towards the other person go?...

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