I Live In a Sexless Marriage Stories of Experiences

Our therapist says that marriage counseling doesn't address the past. That it should be about going forward from the present. She suggested that we go out to dinner, as 'homework.'. We did. We had a 45 minute meal in a brightly lit...

Well, I'm feeling a bit more hopeful today. I decided to quit obsessing over how to change my sexless wife and change my life instead. I made a list of everything that was making me unhappy in my life at the moment, and highlighted...

I feel that I am starting to disengage from this relationship. He did a few things that really annoyed me recently. Well Saturday night he got in bed with me and I really thought he was going to initiate. I was so excited!!! He...

this morning i received an alert from my credit monitoring service. there was an inquiry on my credit file with one of the big 3 credit reporting agencies. oddly enough? the inquiry isn't with the most commonly referenced agency, at...

Perhaps mandatory reading for all who've been refused intimacy (notice I did not just say sex).

Or for all who feel like someone has been messing around with their emotions.

I'm learning quite a bit as I read it. Thought I'd share...

As I prepare for the final days of our marriage, I am feeling quite the stress again as the new reality approaches.  This new reality scares me.  I will miss my home, familiar surroundings, my wife, and my kids when they are with her...

I have had little to no sex for over three years. I have twin one year olds but my body is back to normal and still no sex. He stays up drinking and watching tv on weekends when I go to bed and wait. Then I thought this is stupid and...

As mentioned in my last update, my STBX is handling (so far) everything very well. His mom...... not so much. Yesterday was a new low and has me a bit freaked out. A woman I'm friends with through a moms group received an anonymous...

I fashioned the following reply to a story that was here about 15 min ago... And disappeared? I don't recall who wrote it, otherwise i would have messaged it. But felt compelled to share it here. The writer was looking for ppl to share...

He comes home early lately, which is lucky. but nothing changes

He saw i was really blank today unlike usually im all over him tryna make it work trying to get it out of him

I told him i was sad, told him how i felt, he just walked...

Wow, so big update for me! I took a deep breath last night after the kids went to bed and decided we were going to talk - I was going to be calm and not fight but I needed something to happen and change. So I started with 'I know this...

I realize that some have been uncomfortable with my use of the phrase 'The Wife' to describe my wife in my stories. Hopefully, this will ease some feelings.
Just awhile ago, I asked the wife if she was comfortable with my new title as...

How can people become 'whole' when we are only given 'part' of what we need to work with?

We are born into an existing relationship between two people who each have needs and are looking to each other to 'complete themselves'. And...

Today I got two attempts to be manipulated thrown at me - both of them I evaded. The first wasn't merited by any means of the imagination. One of the things I'm doing in possible certain preparation to leave is redoing parts of the...

Today there was a kind of farewell party at work for one of the worker. She was working in different department. So that, we werent close. At the end of the party, everyone gave a hug to her. Giving a hug or receiving a hug.......what a...

How many times ı ve called ur name in my dreams, every night, every day
How many times ı ve sat alone
Everyday you left me on my own inside the tears for
i need to say
touch me.. in the silence of the night
tell me.. with the passion...

Well, I had wanted to be filing today. STBX quickly got us a counseling appt, though, and I agreed to go before filing. My hope was that the session would help him understand that, yes, it's over, it's done, let's all move on.

The...

So after 8 weeks and 4 days I finally had SEX! It was different this time for me. She was exactly the same as the last few years. Of course I had to initiate it.
First she said, "so I cant watch my show?"(The one that is on the DVR...

Stbx is in serious denial
about our sexless marriage. I don 't care the whys anymore I just want a divorce and he thinks it's all one big joke. Pretty sad that I have discussed the whys so many times and he is in such denial but blames...

Here's my story.

For years, I was the one who didn't want sex more than once a week. My wife never complained, but I could tell she wanted better. I went to the doctor several times about the problem and only got referred to a...