I Live In a Sexless Marriage Stories of Experiences

This is a letter I could never sent to my husband of 15 years.

Unlove letters

Dear Husband,

I should not have married you. I was disappointed in your appearance the moment you step off the plane, but I ignored it because I thought...

Wow, so big update for me! I took a deep breath last night after the kids went to bed and decided we were going to talk - I was going to be calm and not fight but I needed something to happen and change. So I started with 'I know this...

I realize that some have been uncomfortable with my use of the phrase 'The Wife' to describe my wife in my stories. Hopefully, this will ease some feelings.
Just awhile ago, I asked the wife if she was comfortable with my new title as...

How can people become 'whole' when we are only given 'part' of what we need to work with?

We are born into an existing relationship between two people who each have needs and are looking to each other to 'complete themselves'. And...

Today I got two attempts to be manipulated thrown at me - both of them I evaded. The first wasn't merited by any means of the imagination. One of the things I'm doing in possible certain preparation to leave is redoing parts of the...

Today there was a kind of farewell party at work for one of the worker. She was working in different department. So that, we werent close. At the end of the party, everyone gave a hug to her. Giving a hug or receiving a hug.......what a...

How many times ı ve called ur name in my dreams, every night, every day
How many times ı ve sat alone
Everyday you left me on my own inside the tears for
i need to say
touch me.. in the silence of the night
tell me.. with the passion...

Well, I had wanted to be filing today. STBX quickly got us a counseling appt, though, and I agreed to go before filing. My hope was that the session would help him understand that, yes, it's over, it's done, let's all move on.

The...

So after 8 weeks and 4 days I finally had SEX! It was different this time for me. She was exactly the same as the last few years. Of course I had to initiate it.
First she said, "so I cant watch my show?"(The one that is on the DVR...

Stbx is in serious denial
about our sexless marriage. I don 't care the whys anymore I just want a divorce and he thinks it's all one big joke. Pretty sad that I have discussed the whys so many times and he is in such denial but blames...

Here's my story.

For years, I was the one who didn't want sex more than once a week. My wife never complained, but I could tell she wanted better. I went to the doctor several times about the problem and only got referred to a...

I'm done living in a sexless marriage. I've decided I'm going to do something about it. Life is too short. I'm going to find someone who is just like me and in need of sexual comfort. I want to feel a woman in my arms and feel her touch...

So, I lay in bed last night feeling the huge chasm between us. The fact we never touch - we lie as far away from each other as you can get. Wanted to cry - wanted to hit him for not wanting me.

Then started to wonder - how many of...

I want to ask around this
I assume some (maybe most) are leaving a marriage with no sex.
Some are outsourcing but this is not something to fill the hole.
A motel-room, a ringing phone, lies after lies and some sporadic sex as reward...

This week was fairly decent, but I discovered something horrible: The wife was sexually abused as a child and has a lot of problems getting over it. She admitted to hating sex and sexuality and having it expected of her...

So yeah...

I hope that some of this may help someone else living with a p/a narcissist. And I lived with mine for nearly thirty years. We know 'what' they do and 'how they do it. We don't know 'why'.

To cope, we need to build up our personal...

I wish i can go back to April 2012 and change everything. I love my husband, but I don't like the idea of being married. I was happier before. I was free.

I never thought i'd be one of those women who lives in a sexless marriage. I don...

I always feel conflicted about reading and/or posting at ILIASM. I feel guilty for staying married when our relationship is dysfunctional. But I can never stay away from ILIASM for very long. It's really lonely being with someone whose...

Have been married 25 years to a wonderful man with a very low sex drive... and zero interest in intimacy. The sex has always been great... just ever often enough.... about 2x a month the last several years. It was always me initiating...

I find EP is a place to enjoy chatting with people, on many different levels. However, I find at times,common sense is lacking, when it comes to EP. Please feel free to share any of your tips, you have.
Please note, this is just my...