I A Victim of Emotional Neglect

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 421 People

    My Story

    By the time I was in high school I hated my parents, but not having a clue as to why I felt this way, I turned the hate on myself.  I felt that I must be the worst child in the whole world to hate my own parents.  Didn't I live in a nice house?  Didn't I wear nice clothes and...
    ccrn ccrn
    3 Responses Sep 27, 2011

    B S

    completely ignored for 17 years, so little was said to me that, I can remember the few things that were said to me. why have a child if thats how u will treat them?
    portabledishwasher portabledishwasher
    1 Response Oct 12, 2012


    I'm tired of thinking about it, tired of dwelling on what's already happened. But I've become starved for a little attention. I'd run through the street shouting if I thought it would do me any good. I once heard someone say that in some European cultures it wasn't acceptable to...
    4Daereen 4Daereen
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jun 15, 2011

    I Have A Husband Who Plays Online Gaming Every Night, We Just Started A Family An We Have 2 Babies 12 Months And 2 Days Apart. He Has Been Playing Since 2008 But Got Heavy In 2010, So Much That He Met A Female Friend. He had a Emotional Affair...

    I have a husband who plays online gaming every night, we just started a family an we have 2 babies 12 months and 2 days apart. he has been playing since 2008 but got heavy in 2010, so much that he met a female friend. he never told me about her. He had an emotional affair... I...
    eilsky eilsky
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

    I Am Not A Victim, I Am A Survivor.

    I feel when growing up that I was my own parent. I raised myself up. My physical and materialistic needs where never neglected. But my emotional were. This is why I started falling in love with the idea of love and not with the people. I have also learned to conceal my yern for...
    RedLipMovement RedLipMovement
    18-21, F
    Sep 22, 2010

    I have always been neglected.

    Lonely no friends no boyfriend. Verbally abused by family. Never lived a normal life.
    Jesusislove777 Jesusislove777
    16-17, F
    Mar 5

    Why Dose Love Hurt

    Hello          My name is Nancy. I am 52 yrs of age, my life is so much like many of you. I have been abused in all ways. My mom was a lady of the evening, with many men in her life. My dad raised myself and my 5 half sisters like we were...
    lsamnnanadoo lsamnnanadoo
    Nov 2, 2010

    Why, Is It Me?

    It's odd how in our own perspective we can see people as being neglectful. Uncaring, unsypathetic, and completely disengaged from us emotionally, but fully able and capable of being tied to someone else. Supporting others, making excuses for them, encouraging them, helping them...
    rtpbbcub rtpbbcub
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 20, 2011

    I've procrastinated about posting this long

    enough, so here it goes. All the way back to when I was about 5 yrs old is when this started. And it continued my whole life. What you mainly see in the groups I'm in is because of the emotional neglect. Any time I feel rejected now it brings up the pain of the neglect. None of...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 17

    Was I Emotionally Neglected?

    I have started working for a children's charity, caring for young adults in the care system. Through this work I have come across the term "emotional neglect" which has rang some bells in me about my own childhood. I am not sure how I feel about this, and this is hard to write...
    banannapie banannapie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2013

    I Was Never Held

    I never cried as a baby so therefore I was never held. A few months ago, I started to unknowingly grab ahold of the upper middle front of my shirt without realizing it. At work one day, an older gentle man questioned me about it and I didnt know why I did it or where I even...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 29, 2012

    My Story

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    chastidy12 chastidy12
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2009

    I Thought I Had It "good"...

    For a long time, I was in denial about my parents' neglect.  So many of my friends came from broken homes or were abused as children, I thought I had nothing to complain about by comparison.  My dad provided the basics, right?  We weren't cold or hungry or in the...
    jansarin jansarin
    31-35, T
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2010

    The Real Me

    Hey guys, i was dared by Jay107 to right 50 things about me so here i go!  i wish i looked better i am goth i wish that people didn't walk all over me i am to nice i wish i was popular i am very shy sometimes i wish that i had a better family i...
    taboo221 taboo221
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Dec 2, 2011

    I Didn't Realize.

    I am 37 years old and struggling with everything in my life.  When I was young (4-8) I have very fond memories of my dad and me doing all sorts of things together.  He did everything for me, took me everywhere and made me feel like the center of the universe.  He NEVER hit me...
    leamusick leamusick
    1 Response Jan 27, 2012

    I'm a survivor of emotional ,

    psychological and financial abuse. My ex wife of ten years had been having an affair for the last three months. I found out, I got kicked out my home and had to move in with my aged mum. My ex only worked for 16 months of the marriage, I paid for everything and never had money...
    tim1969 tim1969
    46-50, M
    3 Responses May 20, 2014

    Empty House

    Thinking of my mother crying upon the death of her father Those were the only tears I ever saw from her The only time I felt her, at least that I wanted to A child can only hold so much There might have been something left of me then, still protected A lost child, like a...
    OkayBut OkayBut
    51-55, M
    23 Responses Apr 16, 2010

    Who Are You?

    jay107 jay107
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2011

    I have been put in thus insane position

    throughout my path in this life, I have concluded it is part of my test on this earth. But it has given me strength to overcome and be more of myself.
    deleted deleted
    Jun 17, 2015

    It Seemd Like No One Cared

    I grew up in an intact family, on the surface everything may have seemed ok, we always had enough food, clothes,entertainment etc.But my parents never listened to me.Whenever I was upset my mother would state"Oh somebody looks crooked at you and you fall apart" and either leave...
    sneakyfox sneakyfox
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Oct 1, 2010

    My So Called "mother"

    Well where should I begin, I'm 22 years old & I do have a lot of common sense, I just can't seem to ever grasp how a mother something I have become myself, can just block her children out of her life for MEN! Where did we go wrong as children? I looked up to my mother as a child...
    pushedaside13 pushedaside13
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 26, 2012

    Ill Start

    I have always wondered why I was the way I was and it wasn't until I had my daughter almost 4 years ago that I understood that I was emotionally neglected as a child. I know that I was an unplanned pregnancy b/c I was always told "I was a mistake". I was also told by...
    Nikro Nikro
    9 Responses Aug 25, 2009

    Know This Way Too Well...

    At a young age, i grew up in a very distant family, my whole family was neglected and abused in someway by each other and moreso by the head of the household. I was born through an unplanned pregnancy, and although my mom never admitted it or said it to me; i could see that she...
    misternobrain misternobrain
    26-30, M
    Jul 14, 2012

    Alone With the Bottle In My Handz

    ... just like daddy... i just hope i wouldnt let it turn me into a dead beat parent... these b1tches are just full of excuses... so they ignore cuz they dont wanna havta deal with me... thast the truth... truth hurts.. so imma just CHUG it all down.. and the weed smoke is callin...
    MeAgainstDaWorld MeAgainstDaWorld
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 13, 2012

    I Used To Get Left Alone As A Child...now I Go Crazy When I Get Left Alone

    Hi...I don't know if anyone is on these message boards any more, but this is worth a shot. I went through emotional neglect as a child - my parents didn't want me, they made fun of me, they did drugs and drank around me, as a small child they used to leave me on my own or in...
    girlhurts girlhurts
    10 Responses Apr 28, 2012

    Sex, Money, Love And My Emotions

    My father was not really in my life. He and my mother divorced when I was nine. My mother has been married four times. My father was physically and emotionally abusive to me when my parents were together. I had a child at 17 and was married to a crack cocaine addict who abandoned...
    myloveadeena35 myloveadeena35
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 19, 2013

    Does It Ever Away?

      At the age of 24 I realized I don’t love myself. I do not feel good enough or worthy and I’ve worked my entire life to cover up my insecurities and “fit in”. It not until now that I realize I have been pretending to be normal on the outside and I do not let anyone on...
    ella2009 ella2009
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2011

    Seeing The Light

    I grew up in an emotionally neglectful environment (not physically or sexually abusive). I have dealt with depression since early-mid 20's. Drug dependence has progressed from early "experimentation"  to end-stage addiction at my current age of 55. I have detoxed 5 times over...
    lumpyhead lumpyhead
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2012

    Happy Father's Day

    I know that many people wouldn't consider my past a terrible one, however I can't even get through a day without brooding about it. I see nothing but faults in myself and an inability to cope that are products of my childhood. I don't know how to overcome it. I am in counselling...
    DenialReflections DenialReflections
    1 Response Jun 18, 2012

    Emotional Neglect Affects My Parenting

    I am a victim of emotional neglect. I grew up with selfish parents who were addicted to drugs, and family members who believed that their sobriety would come from dropping us off to be with them while they were out on the corners all hours of the night. I recognize that addiction...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

    I Am Falling Apart... And Just Moments Ago Realized I Am Emotionally Neglected..

                         I am 16 years old and I have 5 sisters. We all used to be extremely well behaved, then my sister (1.5 years older than me) started acting out in 2007 when she was in 8th grade and i was in 6th grade. She started small, she would lie about...
    azgirl426 azgirl426
    3 Responses Jan 28, 2012

    I've procrastinated about posting this long

    enough, so here it goes. All the way back to when I was about 5 yrs old is when this started. And it continued my whole life. What you mainly see in the groups I'm in is because of the emotional neglect. Any time I feel rejected now it brings up the pain of the neglect. None of...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 17

    Glass House

    I grew up in a glass house with glass people. And everything I touched was hot and burned me. I had to lower my expectations and I withdrew from them, becoming an avoidant attachment. I felt very alone. My parents were not “real” emotionally. They were consumed by anxiety...
    thelostprincess thelostprincess
    2 Responses Sep 25, 2011


    Hi I knew there was something wrong with me..!! AT this age, XX  years of age and three children, eldest is 17 June. Senior... Damaged as parents didn't recognise my accomplishments. I had two brothers but they did not relate to me only teased me and an eldest sister, who was a...
    blue8 blue8
    Feb 15, 2011

    If I Talk, But My Parents Ignore Me, Did I Speak At All?

    My mother left my father when I was three and took me with her. My father never made an effort to talk to me. I always called him by his first name and he hated it. He demanded respect he doesn't deserve. He has another wife and kid. His second child he treated like a royal while...
    itsallyg itsallyg
    2 Responses May 23, 2013


    What am i to you? Someone to push around!?! kirsty: Thanks for being there. I tell you EVERYTHING. You are the only one who listens and will never tell Mom: I dont want anymore yelling...sorry i guess dad: You ar ejust trying to get through a door, the size of a mouse. The...
    jay107 jay107
    13-15, F
    Dec 18, 2011

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