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I A Victim of Emotional Neglect

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    If I Talk, But My Parents Ignore Me, Did I Speak At All?

    My mother left my father when I was three and took me with her. My father never made an effort to talk to me. I always called him by his first name and he hated it. He demanded respect he doesn't deserve. He has another wife and kid. His second child he treated like a royal while...
    itsallyg itsallyg 16-17 2 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Was I Emotionally Neglected?

    I have started working for a children's charity, caring for young adults in the care system. Through this work I have come across the term "emotional neglect" which has rang some bells in me about my own childhood. I am not sure how I feel about this, and this is hard to write...
    banannapie banannapie 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 1, 2013

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    I Am Not A Victim, I Am A Survivor.

    I feel when growing up that I was my own parent. I raised myself up. My physical and materialistic needs where never neglected. But my emotional were. This is why I started falling in love with the idea of love and not with the people. I have also learned to conceal my yern for...
    RedLipMovement RedLipMovement 18-21, F Sep 22, 2010

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    Who Are You?

    I DARE YOU TO POST A STORY ON WHO YOU REALLY ARE. 50 CHARACTER TRAITS, I AMS AND I WISH. I WILL TOO,AND IF YOU DONT, YOUR A COUARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! who are you?
    jay107 jay107 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2011

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    Tired

    I'm tired of thinking about it, tired of dwelling on what's already happened. But I've become starved for a little attention. I'd run through the street shouting if I thought it would do me any good. I once heard someone say that in some European cultures it wasn't acceptable to...
    4Daereen 4Daereen 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 15, 2011

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    I Thought I Had It "good"...

    For a long time, I was in denial about my parents' neglect.  So many of my friends came from broken homes or were abused as children, I thought I had nothing to complain about by comparison.  My dad provided the basics, right?  We weren't cold or hungry or in the...
    jansarin jansarin 31-35, T 2 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    Glass House

    I grew up in a glass house with glass people. And everything I touched was hot and burned me. I had to lower my expectations and I withdrew from them, becoming an avoidant attachment. I felt very alone. My parents were not “real” emotionally. They were consumed by anxiety...
    thelostprincess thelostprincess 26-30 3 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    Sex, Money, Love And My Emotions

    My father was not really in my life. He and my mother divorced when I was nine. My mother has been married four times. My father was physically and emotionally abusive to me when my parents were together. I had a child at 17 and was married to a crack cocaine addict who abandoned...
    myloveadeena35 myloveadeena35 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2013

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    Happy Father's Day

    I know that many people wouldn't consider my past a terrible one, however I can't even get through a day without brooding about it. I see nothing but faults in myself and an inability to cope that are products of my childhood. I don't know how to overcome it. I am in counselling...
    DenialReflections DenialReflections 22-25 1 Response Jun 18, 2012

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    My So Called "mother"

    Well where should I begin, I'm 22 years old & I do have a lot of common sense, I just can't seem to ever grasp how a mother something I have become myself, can just block her children out of her life for MEN! Where did we go wrong as children? I looked up to my mother as a child...
    pushedaside13 pushedaside13 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Emotional Neglect Affects My Parenting

    I am a victim of emotional neglect. I grew up with selfish parents who were addicted to drugs, and family members who believed that their sobriety would come from dropping us off to be with them while they were out on the corners all hours of the night. I recognize that addiction...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    What?

    What am i to you? Someone to push around!?! kirsty: Thanks for being there. I tell you EVERYTHING. You are the only one who listens and will never tell Mom: I dont want anymore yelling...sorry i guess dad: You ar ejust trying to get through a door, the size of a mouse. The...
    jay107 jay107 13-15, F Dec 18, 2011

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    Alone With the Bottle In My Handz

    ... just like daddy... i just hope i wouldnt let it turn me into a dead beat parent... these b1tches are just full of excuses... so they ignore cuz they dont wanna havta deal with me... thast the truth... truth hurts.. so imma just CHUG it all down.. and the weed smoke is callin...
    MeAgainstDaWorld MeAgainstDaWorld 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 13, 2012

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    I Have A Husband Who Plays Online Gaming Every Night, We Just Started A Family An We Have 2 Babies 12 Months And 2 Days Apart. He Has Been Playing Since 2008 But Got Heavy In 2010, So Much That He Met A Female Friend. He had a Emotional Affair...

    I have a husband who plays online gaming every night, we just started a family an we have 2 babies 12 months and 2 days apart. he has been playing since 2008 but got heavy in 2010, so much that he met a female friend. he never told me about her. He had an emotional affair... I...
    eilsky eilsky 31-35 2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    I Am Falling Apart... And Just Moments Ago Realized I Am Emotionally Neglected..

                         I am 16 years old and I have 5 sisters. We all used to be extremely well behaved, then my sister (1.5 years older than me) started acting out in 2007 when she was in 8th grade and i was in 6th grade. She started small, she would lie about...
    azgirl426 azgirl426 16-17 3 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    Empty House

    Thinking of my mother crying upon the death of her father Those were the only tears I ever saw from her The only time I felt her, at least that I wanted to A child can only hold so much There might have been something left of me then, still protected A lost child, like a...
    OkayBut OkayBut 46-50, M 23 Responses Apr 16, 2010

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    I Was Never Held

    I never cried as a baby so therefore I was never held. A few months ago, I started to unknowingly grab ahold of the upper middle front of my shirt without realizing it. At work one day, an older gentle man questioned me about it and I didnt know why I did it or where I even...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 29, 2012

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    My Story

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    chastidy12 chastidy12 22-25 4 Responses Dec 11, 2009

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    I Didn't Realize.

    I am 37 years old and struggling with everything in my life.  When I was young (4-8) I have very fond memories of my dad and me doing all sorts of things together.  He did everything for me, took me everywhere and made me feel like the center of the universe.  He NEVER hit me...
    leamusick leamusick 36-40 1 Response Jan 27, 2012

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    Blue8

    Hi I knew there was something wrong with me..!! AT this age, XX  years of age and three children, eldest is 17 June. Senior... Damaged as parents didn't recognise my accomplishments. I had two brothers but they did not relate to me only teased me and an eldest sister, who was a...
    blue8 blue8 41-45 Feb 15, 2011

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    Seeing The Light

    I grew up in an emotionally neglectful environment (not physically or sexually abusive). I have dealt with depression since early-mid 20's. Drug dependence has progressed from early "experimentation"  to end-stage addiction at my current age of 55. I have detoxed 5 times over...
    lumpyhead lumpyhead 51-55 2 Responses Jan 6, 2012

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    Does It Ever Away?

      At the age of 24 I realized I don’t love myself. I do not feel good enough or worthy and I’ve worked my entire life to cover up my insecurities and “fit in”. It not until now that I realize I have been pretending to be normal on the outside and I do not let anyone on...
    ella2009 ella2009 22-25 2 Responses Jun 10, 2011

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    Know This Way Too Well...

    At a young age, i grew up in a very distant family, my whole family was neglected and abused in someway by each other and moreso by the head of the household. I was born through an unplanned pregnancy, and although my mom never admitted it or said it to me; i could see that she...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M Jul 14, 2012

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    Why Dose Love Hurt

    Hello          My name is Nancy. I am 52 yrs of age, my life is so much like many of you. I have been abused in all ways. My mom was a lady of the evening, with many men in her life. My dad raised myself and my 5 half sisters like we were...
    lsamnnanadoo lsamnnanadoo 51-55 Nov 2, 2010

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    I Used To Get Left Alone As A Child...now I Go Crazy When I Get Left Alone

    Hi...I don't know if anyone is on these message boards any more, but this is worth a shot. I went through emotional neglect as a child - my parents didn't want me, they made fun of me, they did drugs and drank around me, as a small child they used to leave me on my own or in...
    girlhurts girlhurts 31-35 10 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    B S

    completely ignored for 17 years, so little was said to me that, I can remember the few things that were said to me. why have a child if thats how u will treat them?
    portabledishwasher portabledishwasher 31-35 1 Response Oct 12, 2012

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    It Seemd Like No One Cared

    I grew up in an intact family, on the surface everything may have seemed ok, we always had enough food, clothes,entertainment etc.But my parents never listened to me.Whenever I was upset my mother would state"Oh somebody looks crooked at you and you fall apart" and either leave...
    sneakyfox sneakyfox 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 1, 2010

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    I'm a survivor of emotional ,

    psychological and financial abuse. My ex wife of ten years had been having an affair for the last three months. I found out, I got kicked out my home and had to move in with my aged mum. My ex only worked for 16 months of the marriage, I paid for everything and never had money...
    tim1969 tim1969 41-45, M 4 Responses May 20

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    Why, Is It Me?

    It's odd how in our own perspective we can see people as being neglectful. Uncaring, unsypathetic, and completely disengaged from us emotionally, but fully able and capable of being tied to someone else. Supporting others, making excuses for them, encouraging them, helping them...
    rtpbbcub rtpbbcub 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 20, 2011

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    The Real Me

    Hey guys, i was dared by Jay107 to right 50 things about me so here i go!  i wish i looked better i am goth i wish that people didn't walk all over me i am to nice i wish i was popular i am very shy sometimes i wish that i had a better family i...
    taboo221 taboo221 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2011

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    It seems people only get concerned with people

    who are raped or abused, but emotional abuse is pretty horrible too.. My parents don't seem to believe in an emotional relationship. They always fight. It seems like my mom doesn't trust or want to be with my dad anymore, and it seems like my dad is only happy when my mom is...
    dessertqueen dessertqueen 16-17, F 2 Responses May 20

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    Ill Start

    I have always wondered why I was the way I was and it wasn't until I had my daughter almost 4 years ago that I understood that I was emotionally neglected as a child. I know that I was an unplanned pregnancy b/c I was always told "I was a mistake". I was also told by...
    Nikro Nikro 36-40 9 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    My Story

    By the time I was in high school I hated my parents, but not having a clue as to why I felt this way, I turned the hate on myself.  I felt that I must be the worst child in the whole world to hate my own parents.  Didn't I live in a nice house?  Didn't I wear nice clothes and...
    ccrn ccrn 61-65 3 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I am constantly trying to figure out why I am so emotional. I know it's healthy to some degree but it's like I get super intense and feel like nobody else understands me but nobody...
    Cherrybean84 Cherrybean84 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    Nobody is powerless. “Be not the slave of your own past - plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power...
    PurpleGlassPalace PurpleGlassPalace 26-30 1 Response Sep 5

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    Hello, my name is Diane and I am a junior at Rutgers. After the recent news concerning Mike Brown/Ferguson and police brutality, and reading about the protests occurring in NJ, I...
    deekayyy deekayyy 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I think about Janay Rice. I pray I'll have the strength to leave any abuser ... whether emotional, physical or sexual. I've done it before and know I am stronger because of what I...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Is someone please available to talk? I really could use someone to talk to. I had a recent breakup with an abuser. I feel shattered. I feel weak. I feel so alone. He beat me...
    amtired amtired 22-25 8 Responses Aug 18

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    I thinks it's worst than physical. Although I have not experienced the physical. Sounds heal. Harsh words stick with you for a lifetime. My question is why do I find who are...
    Prettygirl8726 Prettygirl8726 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    How can a person say that she loves you and yet emotionally abuses you? Threaten to sue me for god knows what. Threaten to reveal to my family and friends about the secrets I...
    HeyHiHelloOla HeyHiHelloOla 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    It sounds silly, because I'm a guy. I just broke free from an emotional abusive relationship, but I don't know if I've really broken free. I find myself sad at night, I wake up...
    rustyhouston rustyhouston 31-35, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am 20 years old and I am the oldest sibling and ever since my brother has been born (17 years) I feel that my feelings and my needs have been neglected. Up until recently this...
    Gingerlocks813 Gingerlocks813 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I didn't even know that my life wasn't normal. To me, it had become so normal. I was with my husband for 9 years. Things started out great, he was nice, seemed like he cared about...
    romancandle16 romancandle16 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I'm working really hard to explore myself and change my reality. I'm stuck but I've been looking back to see where I got stuck and why. I'm preventing history from repeating itself...
    jaylow13 jaylow13 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    30 Things I’ve Learned About Love from My Emotionally Abusive, Narcissistic, Alcoholic Husband 1. If you trust someone, they will repay you with suspicion and jealously. 2. If...
    KMarie789 KMarie789 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I'm feeling very hopeless and overwhelmed. I've been married for almost 17 years to an emotionally abusive narcissistic alcoholic. It wasn't until about four years ago that I...
    kmn789 kmn789 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    So, how to start? I got married 2 years ago last weekend to a nice boy, a good Christian boy, or so I thought, so he led me to believe. Turns out he was lying. About all of it...
    geolbt geolbt 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    One my my earliest memories and most vivid is from when I was 4. It was a year or 2 after my parents divorced and my mother was in a downward spiral. Her boyfriend moved in with us...
    ausofbounds ausofbounds 41-45, M 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I was engaged to who I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I didn't realize how much abuse I was receiving until I had him arrested. He finally hit me and I had...
    stacyda30 stacyda30 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    There seems to be a black cloud that follows me everywhere I go. I tried to leave my abusive boyfriend yesterday. I already had a bag packed and hidden away. We got into a...
    BrandNewChic BrandNewChic 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I. Am. I also want to state right here that not just Woman are victims of Rape. There are men, chidlren of both genders, and yes women. Please don't sterotype this as a thing that...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24