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    Not Quite 20 of Marriage But Been Together21 - we started dating young and we've been together ever since ! been married 14 years and now my only friend confidant lover mother of...
    cd1farley cd1farley 36-40 3 Responses Jun 10, 2009

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    Devasted And Lost - Let me start by saying i never thought i would ever visit a site like this   I dont even know where to begin. The pain, anguish, heartbreak, and so...
    grfins grfins 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    Wishing U The Best - i know 1st hand exactly how you feel - there are days that i am certian it is possible to die from a broken heart - everyone keeps telling me the pain will...
    startingoverat41 startingoverat41 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2009

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    Wishing U The Best - i know 1st hand exactly how you feel - there are days that i am certian it is possible to die from a broken heart - everyone keeps telling me the pain will...
    startingoverat41 startingoverat41 41-45, F Nov 22, 2009

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    My Wife Left - my wife had an affair about 10 years ago and we worked it out lately she has Ben acting odd i caught her in a lie next thing she tells me she doesn't want to be with...
    hardtotake hardtotake 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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