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I A Wife That Left Me After 20 Years of Marriage

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    Not Quite 20 of Marriage But Been Together21

    we started dating young and we've been together ever since ! been married 14 years and now my only friend confidant lover mother of my children id unsatisfied. She has had a lot of problems in her life and needs to work through them. I don't know what to do but my friendship...
    cd1farley cd1farley 36-40 3 Responses Jun 10, 2009

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    My Wife Left

    my wife had an affair about 10 years ago and we worked it out lately she has Ben acting odd i caught her in a lie next thing she tells me she doesn't want to be with me
    hardtotake hardtotake 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Wishing U The Best

    i know 1st hand exactly how you feel - there are days that i am certian it is possible to die from a broken heart - everyone keeps telling me the pain will ease with time - i hope for your sake and mine that is true best of luck
    startingoverat41 startingoverat41 41-45, F Nov 22, 2009

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    Wishing U The Best

    i know 1st hand exactly how you feel - there are days that i am certian it is possible to die from a broken heart - everyone keeps telling me the pain will ease with time - i hope for your sake and mine that is true best of luck
    startingoverat41 startingoverat41 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2009

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    Devasted And Lost

    Let me start by saying i never thought i would ever visit a site like this   I dont even know where to begin. The pain, anguish, heartbreak, and so many other emotions im feeling are so overwhelming i am trying anything to help for some relief.  I am 42 years...
    grfins grfins 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Ok. I posted in another category when I was pretty upset. Now I'm doing much better, but there is still something bothering me. My husband and I opened our marriage because...
    renae85 renae85 26-30 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Has counselling helped people? When is a good time to try counselling? A I think my H's issues stem from illness I wondered if I should give him time to recover first, but also...
    Flotsam101 Flotsam101 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Has anyone in their 40's or younger adjusted to the idea of never having sex / kissing passionately ever again and saved their SM? If so, how did you do it?
    Flotsam101 Flotsam101 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I go on holiday with my husband, son and lots of friends in a week. Normally I'd be really excited by now, but I'm not. I used to love holidays as an opportunity to eat & drink...
    Flotsam101 Flotsam101 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I asked my husband for a massage tonight as my shoulders were aching. He helpfully obliged and gave me a lovely (but completely non-intimate) massage. A few months ago I would...
    Flotsam101 Flotsam101 41-45, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm bummed tonight. I sat down with my grandma, swore her secrecy, and asked her advice about what I should do. She told me to lose weight, wear makeup and do my hair.
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I spent a great day with one of my closest friends today. While I am disappointed with the short term results, I think I have to choose my love over my passion. At least until I...
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    She said that she didn't receive what she needed from me so she sought it elsewhere. When we talked about what it was that she actually needed we realized she never actually...
    Bathx Bathx 26-30, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Double back stab, never been hurt so much like this I know that I'm not married yet (and now I doubt I will for some time) but I'm currently engaged to a guy. I am 28 and he's 27...
    Necrogirl27 Necrogirl27 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 11 Responses Jul 14

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    I am 65 and my wife is 62. We have been together for over twenty years and married for six. I love my wife very much and tell her so frequently. We are compatible and agreeable in...
    worksforme2 worksforme2 61-65, M 16 Responses 3 days ago

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    If you have read any of my stories, you probably know a lot about my life. My marriage has been a complete disaster, my husband finally confessed he had an emotional affair for...
    90loveandhate 90loveandhate 22-25, F Jul 3

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    Update from the Battlefield - Since notifying my H three days ago that I've hired a lawyer and we're getting divorced, he has launched a full scale verbal attack on my character...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 35 Responses Jul 8

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    What can I do to bring intimacy back into my marriage? I love my wife and I believe she loves me. We have been through some tough times in our marriage (including her having an...
    joeknox joeknox 46-50, M 13 Responses Jul 14

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    I feel at a loss as to what to do with my marriage. I'm 43 and have been married for 22 years. We are not connected in any way whatsoever other than sharing our child who happens...
    txnurse txnurse 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 17

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    Pelvic Floor Disorder. Something to think about. My marriage ultimately ended due to this disorder. The lack of intimacy and sex killed our marriage. For over 12 years I...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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    This is where we are in our relationship: My wife of 34 years whom I love but have not had sex with for the last 7 years at least (I've lost track - really!) sent me this email a...
    alexthecat alexthecat 61-65, M 17 Responses Jul 10

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    I bring my husband a huge bonus every year, I am doing my best to get a great job and help him, I try to look good for him, I never bribe him, he actually looks at me after years...
    wearethechampions5050 wearethechampions5050 46-50, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Day seven of our romantic vacation and still no passion. Well I'm thinking about giving up on this relationship. We ( my wife of 9 years and myself) have had three nights to our...
    HenryMiller04 HenryMiller04 46-50, M 23 Responses Jul 10

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    I am so glad I left my BS marriage! 😃 It feels great to say that I am no longer in a sexless marriage!
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 19 Responses Jul 24

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    When love knocked my door and I wasn't ready yet ' For long time ago I promise to my self not gonna fall Inlove with somebody .. Because I know that it will just destroyed me for...
    marianlee marianlee 22-25, F Jul 7

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    i m totally in love with my wife...even after 2 year of married life nothing has changed.....
    younglover19 younglover19 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 22

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    She is the only one I could ever trust and has never let me down. She is my wife, my best friend, my lover, we have two awesome beautiful, healthy, smart as can be kids. I couldn't...
    JackNJ JackNJ 36-40, M 1 hr ago

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    Hello I'm new to this site. I posted once prior, but I had no clue where I was in the situation. I'm a terrible writer and this is going to be long enough, so I'll jump right into...
    gator613 gator613 26-30, M Jul 9

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    We were married in 1954 and began ‘swinging’ ten years later. It started when we ran into a couple we knew slightly in college who told us over drinks that they were...
    oraclenow oraclenow 70+, M Jul 3

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    My wife and I have not had sex in almost two and a half years. The years leading up to that saw dwindling physical contact. It suddenly dropped to a couple of times in a year...
    StratfordMan StratfordMan 51-55, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    i just realized that I have been in an unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 13 Responses Jul 20

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    Today's counseling was interesting. My wife jumped in and said she wanted to respond to a question from last week. The counselor had asked her if she felt unloveable because she...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 16 Responses Jul 6

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    Lessons From Finance Class... I'm taking Business Finance this month (because nothing is more fun than sixteen-week courses packed into a four-week-long summer class), and my...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 13 Responses Jul 10

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 3 days ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 23 Responses 3 days ago

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    My wife and I are hardly talking because of her relationship with a boyfriend she used to have 20 years ago. This boyfriend was her very first in all regards and I know is very...
    tuxiflet tuxiflet 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 12

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheWeepingWoman TheWeepingWoman 36-40, F 23 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am a divorce attorney who has represented women and men in countless cases. based on my observations, there are certain truths about marriage and divorce. 1. Marriage is a...
    divorceatty divorceatty 36-40, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    From Psychology Today "Contrary to conventional wisdom, married couples—and their cohabiting counterparts—have more sex than the nonmarried, a fact confirmed in a 2010 survey...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    Love and Emotion after SM... Been out of my SM about 2.5 years now. Some of you, like me, are so in love with your spouse that you can't leave no matter what. Yet I still left. To...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 11 Responses Jul 8

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    My husband has become extremely self absorbed over time. He's always been a little selfish and it seems to ebb and flow, but the last few months it's become exponential. Everything...
    lovebeingmama lovebeingmama 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Sex has always been difficult for me. It started with my first girlfriend. She came and I didn't. And thus it didn't feed my "reward system" the way it did hers. It continued on...
    cracklewalk cracklewalk 46-50, M 7 Responses Jul 20

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    Come on ladies, you are no bundle of fun either. We men like to explore, have fun, travel, and be with our buddies much more than being with you. Why is that? Most every man I...
    mbb50 mbb50 61-65, M 2 Responses Jul 23

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