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I A Wife That Left Me After 20 Years of Marriage

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    My Wife Left

    my wife had an affair about 10 years ago and we worked it out lately she has Ben acting odd i caught her in a lie next thing she tells me she doesn't want to be with me
    hardtotake hardtotake 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Wishing U The Best

    i know 1st hand exactly how you feel - there are days that i am certian it is possible to die from a broken heart - everyone keeps telling me the pain will ease with time - i hope for your sake and mine that is true best of luck
    startingoverat41 startingoverat41 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2009

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    Wishing U The Best

    i know 1st hand exactly how you feel - there are days that i am certian it is possible to die from a broken heart - everyone keeps telling me the pain will ease with time - i hope for your sake and mine that is true best of luck
    startingoverat41 startingoverat41 41-45, F Nov 22, 2009

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    Devasted And Lost

    Let me start by saying i never thought i would ever visit a site like this   I dont even know where to begin. The pain, anguish, heartbreak, and so many other emotions im feeling are so overwhelming i am trying anything to help for some relief.  I am 42 years...
    grfins grfins 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    Not Quite 20 of Marriage But Been Together21

    we started dating young and we've been together ever since ! been married 14 years and now my only friend confidant lover mother of my children id unsatisfied. She has had a lot of problems in her life and needs to work through them. I don't know what to do but my friendship...
    cd1farley cd1farley 36-40 3 Responses Jun 10, 2009

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    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Even thru all the trials in life I believe in marriage only b/c of who I serve & believe in which is Jesus! When you're having problems in your marriage is not the time to turn...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    ll2live ll2live 41-45 8 Responses Apr 7

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    ArgentineJailbird ArgentineJailbird 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    AlbaLena AlbaLena 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses Apr 14

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    I would never wait until marriage. Yes I know you love the person for them etc but you've got to have a but of fun and practice with other people first. Also that person might not...
    Morninglory69 Morninglory69 26-30, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 25 Responses a week ago

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    Trapped493 Trapped493 56-60, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 31

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    BlueEyes3182 BlueEyes3182 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 10

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 16

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    I thought that after 19 1/2 years of a really great marriage, I thought it was all going to be good. Then wham I found out why he never wanted sex, he was with every female partner...
    tricerich tricerich 41-45, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 23 Responses 2 days ago

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    I grew up always wanting a wedding, but the older I got the less it seemed to be something that is needed. Yes, I did get married but that was to please others (husbands side...
    MrsGrisham MrsGrisham 22-25, F 7 hrs ago

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    I can't believe it. Over two years and a half years gone....And, let me tell you I have had more sex in these past two years then the twelve years of that relationship combined...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F Mar 26

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    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 2

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