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I About To Be Married, Again Refuse To Have Average Marriage

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    I hear a lot of complaining from married couples and its scary. Relationship was perfect before marriage, but 0 to divorce 6 months after! Okay I'm exaggerating. Not all get divorced! Lol. But I have yet to see a SINCERELY HAPPY married couple. I want mine to be that shining...
    hopetoreality101 hopetoreality101 31-35 Mar 23, 2012

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