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    I went through a year

    and a half long abusive relationship. It wasn't physical which I understand is way worst than whatever I went through, but it also doesn't make it any easier. He was extremely manipulative and controlling. Ironic thing is the first time we became friends it went so haywire that...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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    I Want To Be Happy Again.

    I started going out with him my freshmen year in high school im a senior right now. he acted so nice, sweet, the perfect guy for me. as we grew into our relationship everything seemed like any girl would want be with the guy that was your first at EVERYTHING!!! everything started...
    slanderos81 slanderos81 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Confused - Am I In An Abusive Relationship?

    I have been with my boyfriend for the past 4 years. I'm 21 years old and he's 23. A situation happened over the weekend that really got me thinking. An argument was started between me and him that quickly escliated. He started threatening me saying he was going to put my head...
    Laurend3311 Laurend3311 18-21 3 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    My Childhood Sweetheart

    My husband and I have been together since I was 15. I've known him my whole life. I guess the first time he "abused" me was when we were dating. I've always put the moment in the back of my mind. While dating I thought I couldn't live without him, like I needed him. Well, he told...
    bford bford 22-25 4 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    Finally

    finally someone noticed. we were fighting in the middle of the hall and he was crushing my hand and an old friend of mine hold him to get off me or shell get a teacher. im so relieved that someone finally noticed because without her being there i couldve been seriously hurt. so...
    onesecbro onesecbro 22-25 3 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    Winter Blues...........help

    WHILE AM GRATEFUL FOR A place to stay the trade off shouldn't be me being abused because it helps them feel better and deal with their stress. The trade off shouldn't be me submitting to domination humiliation and abuse.. I just don't know how much longer I can sacrifice mental...
    3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Young Domestic Violence

    I just wanted to share my story to other women out there, especially young women.  I was 22 years old when I went thought the most horrific moment of my life. My then boyfriend whom I lived with started to take steroids. I started to notice his rage just weeks before it actually...
    NewBeginning2012 NewBeginning2012 22-25 2 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    16

    im 16, my boyfriend is 15 and he likes to squeeze wherever till it feels like somethings going to break. i dont know what to do anymore, because i cant leave him. i cant- hes my bestfriend, but when i look into his eyes when he hurts me he turns into someone completely different...
    onesecbro onesecbro 22-25 5 Responses Mar 24, 2012

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    Confused

    I just got out of a physically and emotionally abusive relationship I have been hit everyday for the past six months some days worse than others and had my spirit completely broken I dont understand why i still miss the man who did this to me and why part of me still wants to...
    reesa90 reesa90 22-25 4 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    The Abuse I Went Through, And How I Got Out. (Long)

    I am a 20 y/o young woman, and I am happy :) i mean, really happy now. one year ago i could not have said that. i wanted to write this post to share a few things about my previous relationship with you that may be a little bit shocking if not weird.. ive never written about him...
    Lindizzies Lindizzies 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    Help

    im in an abusive relationship.i didnt know at first.because i was in denial.but then the hitting started.he didnt leave bruises on my skin but in my mind.i don;t even know how to react when he is in a rage.he doen't want me talking to nobody online about "our business"but in...
    darling3 darling3 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 16, 2011

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    I Need Some Sort Of Advice, From Someone Who Has Experienced This... Please?

    Hello, I was involved in a very emotionally abusive relationship for a while, and now I've been talking to another man, who is absolutely wonderful in every way that word can be described. I like I might be starting to fall in love with him, but what I'm doing is odd. I'm...
    NekroPhiliac NekroPhiliac 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    I Need Some Sort Of Advice, From Someone Who Has Experienced This... Please?

    Hello, I was involved in a very emotionally abusive relationship for a while, and now I've been talking to another man, who is absolutely wonderful in every way that word can be described. I like I might be starting to fall in love with him, but what I'm doing is odd. I'm...
    NekroPhiliac NekroPhiliac 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    My Experience..

    Reading the other experiences on here breaks my heart, because I'm going through the same thing. I am 23 years old. I met my current partner when I was 18 and have been with him ever since. To the whole world he's funny, outgoing, and the life of the party. With me he's...
    CagedBird87 CagedBird87 22-25 6 Responses Jun 10, 2011

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    The Five Year Wash

    I grew up in foster care and was lucky to have some good experiences and came out ok despite the neggative ones. However after my first two years of college I was having difficulty with my former foster family with whom I identified as my permenant family. I had known them...
    lunarae lunarae 22-25, F 4 Responses May 16, 2010

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    Am I Doing The Right Thing?

    I've been married for 15 years and here's my story. I moved in with my husband in 1994. We lived together for 3 years and married in 1997. Three months prior to moving in I had been brutally attacked by someone who broke into my apartment and tried to rape me. I escaped and...
    Jenaespress Jenaespress 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    How Do I Still Love Him

    I've read a lot of other posts n my situation was nothing compared I don't even know if my story would be considered abusive relationship. I ce been dating this guy for five years in the beginning of our relationship he was Mr perfect so funny life of party everybody loved him my...
    starbrightnm starbrightnm 22-25 5 Responses Feb 4, 2013

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    I'm In An Abusive Relationship

    I remember when I was first pregnant, I worried a lot about how they say every parent messes up their child in some way, what would my way be? Now, 13 years later I have realized in what way I am messing my children up. I am in an abusive and dysfunctional relationship. It...
    Baylene421 Baylene421 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    Don't Want To Leave Him....

    I know this sounds bad but my boyfriend is my match in every way. We are so close we can finish each others sentences and have all the same interests. I think it's because of this closeness that we can be so completely honest and open with each other, and with that unleashes some...
    kbrideau38 kbrideau38 22-25 1 Response Mar 25, 2012

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    I Ended It Before It Was Too Late.

    I was involved with someone for over 2 years. It was a normal relationship in the beginning..of course they treat u with love and respect for a lil bit until u start seeing lil red flags but by then you already love that person so what did i do, i stayed with him and thought he...
    lyia777 lyia777 31-35 4 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    He Keeps Saying Im Sorry

    after hearing all the stories i read online, i felt compelled to tell my story. its so confusing. im so angry. i married my husband 4 years ago, the abuse started right away, then i got pregnant and it got much worse, he dragged me across the floor,raped me,slapped me,smothered...
    flaca26 flaca26 26-30 2 Responses Feb 28, 2012

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    Same Old Story, I Guess

    I was with my son's father for four years. We were only together for 4 months before I became pregnant with our son, who will be 4 in November. He physically abused me BEFORE i had our son, should have got out then. But I didn't. The abuse continued on and off until when our son...
    jsmith1220 jsmith1220 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    Unsure Of What To Do.

    hey everyone, I'm sixteen. I've been ina relationship with my boyfriend since november 28th, 2011. I am madly in love with him and I have no idea what I'd do without him. I fall more and more in love with him everyday and I don't understand why.. He's abusive, extremely. He hasn...
    torturedlover torturedlover 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I'm 18, my father hit me,

    called me a **** I never even had sex until I was 18 but I was a worthless 15 year old *****, my bf hits me when I get upset that he's hiding things from me, he leaves for hours without an explanation, always on his phone or computer, when I ask he gets mad, I get depressed a...
    Nicolerenay Nicolerenay 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2013

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    Formerly Me

    A few days ago I tried to leave. It was two days of pure hell. I thought that I wanted to face the situation, I didn't want to just run away. At first he didn't believe me, but then he got I wasn't. It was almost 12 hours of beratement how i was abusive, controlling,checked out...
    litlsprout litlsprout 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    Bent An Broken

    Just like MANY women around the world. I was in an abusive relationships. I lost my virginity to pay off my moms coke fix when i was 11. Plus I grew up with it thinking it was nothing out of the ordinary. So years went buy and it got drilled into my head that wat happened to me...
    TattooBlitz TattooBlitz 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 16, 2008

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    Am I A Sucker?

    So my GF is trapped in the tail end of an abusive relationship. The abuser is the father of her kids and simply intimidates her into staying there and controlling every aspect of her life. Last week she threw him out and bless her heart she lasted 44 hours under his...
    robertst robertst 41-45 4 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    Sold Away

    My mother is a shop aholic which lead my family into terrible debt. On my 15th birthday a man cameand visited, he talked to my parents behind the kitchen doors. A day after the party my parents sat me down and told me that the man offered to pay off their debts for my hand in...
    AngelInHeaven23 AngelInHeaven23 18-21 7 Responses Aug 16, 2008

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    20 Year Nightmare

    I was very young I don't remember how old exactly but I think I was younger then eleven  when I was brought to this guys house and told I was going to marry him one day. I was left there alone with him for the night and he introduced me to sex telling me that one day we...
    Alexmarcus Alexmarcus 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    Janey Doe

    I jusy left tonight, and read the signs of an abusive relationship. He called me tonight from work to tell mr that I was fat and he didnt want to have sex with me because it was very unattractive. I packed up my stuff and left,
    mcchic27 mcchic27 26-30 5 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    I Just Don't Know, But Still I Stay.

    I am 26 years old and I live in the city that never sleeps. I have an amazing job, the best family and friends I could ask for, and a really nice apartment. And then I have my boyfriend, which is where all of my sorrows stem from. He is the reason why after a black eye, a chipped...
    SparkleorFade SparkleorFade 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Resentful And Betrayed

    I was with my now ex husband for 17 years. Married 10. He was verbally and physically abusive. He was also unfaithful. He would drink and if he bothered to come home it would end bad. The first time he ever abused me was 3 years after we started dating. He came home drunk one...
    Julia77 Julia77 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    A letter to you Dear Luke You have taken a

    part of my life. A moment in time i can never get back. Images burn in my mind like a bad mover replaying over and over. Haunting me as if i'm stuck in time. i cant seem to carry on. For every step i manage to take forward the memory of you, your breath, your smell, every touch...
    Lottiedee Lottiedee 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 12

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    Heavenly Flower47

    I've been in emotionally and physically abusive relationships practically all of my life and I'm 47. I just ended the latest one because he has blacked my eyes and generally beat the brakes off me. On top of that he lies and cheats compulsively. I allowed him and his homeless...
    Heavenlyflower47 Heavenlyflower47 46-50 3 Responses May 20, 2012

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    There Is Help

    I finally plucked the courage To get help I called the help line it was so nice to talk to someone and tell me I'm not going crazy, he worrys me at the moment he's not physical abusive to me but he's verbally and emotional abusive Iv been with him for six years and only really...
    Misscutey2006 Misscutey2006 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2011

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    Finally Not To Late

    Hello my names melanie when I was just fifteen years old I met the love of my life or so I thought so we dated off and on for a while during my freshman year in highschool than he got sent away to juvie and was gone for 2 years than we got back together when he started writeing...
    melanie21 melanie21 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2012

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    Life Is Too Short For This

    Here I am, 26 years old and I am still in this bad situating.  When I was 23 I met this guy and I fell for him. I was going through some somethings at the time wits some houses that I owned.  I never asked him for any help but he said I was his girl so he wanted to help...
    septembermorn septembermorn 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2009

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    Tired Of This All

    I've been with my bf for 3 and half years now. When we first stated dating it was wonderful, he was so sweet and gental. But he can be so mean. we moved in together after 6 months of dating, He hit me withen the one year mark of use dating and he hit me in the mouth and broke one...
    Racien Racien 18-21 3 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    Rescue Mission For A Lost Angel. Please Help

    ok so this is a little different but here we go.  my story is not whats important. yea i went through a abusive relationship and thank god i made it out. i ended up moving to hawaii to make sure i couldnt go back to him again. before i left i shared as much as i could to...
    rescuemissionforalostangel rescuemissionforalostangel 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2010

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    I'M Free

    I left my man! I feel amazing! I feel free.. It's been a long time coming and I'm so happy I can't even tell you. I have not shed a tear!! Yay me for having the courage to walk away!
    LiveyourLife87 LiveyourLife87 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 1, 2013

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    Till Death Do Us Part

    My story is like most, I met a really cool guy and moved in with him, and that's where it starts. He was very nice he bought me nice things and told me all the things I wanted to hear, and then little things started to happen. Like saying very offensive things during small...
    Koolkopps Koolkopps 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Because i was in one myself for several years. He abused me as my bf, and i believed him when he said he would change and control his temper. I believed him so completely that i...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 21 hrs ago

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    Actually, this wasn't just an abusive relationship, he even raped me. I'm scared to say that but he wasn't charged because of multiple things. 1. They said he didn't rape me...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    Keep in mind that I was always one of those girls that never understood why women stay in abusive relationships. I was a broken child. Acted out, drugs, sex basically whatever I...
    mmememe mmememe 22-25, F Aug 26

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    Just found out my abusive ex is dating someone else . I tried to warn her but she could hardly believe me because of how charming and shy he is right now . I tried explaining it's...
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I just got out of a terrible and torturous relationship recently and I decided to jump straight into another relationship (so stupid, I know). This new guy seemed to have so much...
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    We met on Fb. My cousin co-signed him because they were old pals and he seemed well educated, handsome and charming. We hooked up so fast. Seems I was in a rush to have a...
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Aug 31

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    I can't shake it, I can't fix it. My mother's taunting, manipulative and overly critical abuse throughout the years has caused a hindrance in healthy female friendships and...
    billabonggirl27 billabonggirl27 22-25, F Sep 1

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    He had always made me happy, I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive...
    CrumblingBrownie CrumblingBrownie 18-21, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    I was in an abusive relationship. Was as in I have escaped and am now in a safe environment. It has been four years now, since I have learned what safe feels like. Just how lovely...
    SkySeasoning SkySeasoning 26-30, F Aug 23

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    I am now 23 years old. I thought it was a good idea to seek out my biological mother the moment I had turned 18. I eventually found her, started talking to her. At first she seemed...
    TRVPiiN TRVPiiN 22-25, M Sep 8

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