I Almost Never Put Myself First

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    Not Putting Myself First

    I seem to like putting others first. I really enjoy helping others I do find that it can get out of hand sometimes a large amount of people will just take and take if you let them. It was a big thing for me the day (about 12 years ago) when I learnt to say no to a close...
    Wolflinn Wolflinn
    41-45, M
    1 Response Dec 24, 2007

    It Becomes a Habit

    I have done it since child hood, circumstances dictated that I do, no ones fault just one of those things. But the thing that bugs me is that I have gotten so used to only bothering about the other person's feelings that somewhere along the line I lost touch with myself. Now I...
    WyldHoney WyldHoney
    31-35, F
    12 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    Almost? Try all the time.

    I always put others before myself because their happiness is what matters the most to me.
    distanceandspace distanceandspace
    18-21, F
    Jan 28, 2014

    Its A Habit Now

    Growing up as the eldest I was always watching out for my brother and sister and because our parents never put us first I always made sure they came first for me. Yeah sure I missed out on seeing my friends, going on dates and normal things growing up but I don't regret it, much...
    Tigerlilly25 Tigerlilly25
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 28, 2011

    I've always put you first.

    Since the beginning. Can't seem to stop apparently. Look where it's gotten me? I gave up everything just to spend time with you, and you won't cancel one ******* hour to spend time with me. You tell me you're trying but it never gets better. I get my hopes up, waiting. Waiting...
    endofalldays endofalldays
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 15, 2014

    Not a Saint Though

    i am not all that saintly but yeah..i almost never put myself first...i have a problem with being self-concerned. i get the feeling that i am either being arrogant or selfish if i do things for myself first. which is not a very nice feeling...but all my life, it is like i am...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle
    16-17, F
    Jun 28, 2008

    Pretty Typical

    I think this is pretty typical of women, and especially moms.  As a mom, it's our job.  As a woman, that tends to be our natural state of being.
    pilotjess pilotjess
    36-40, F
    May 24, 2008

    Isn't It About Freakin' Time I Did?

    As if the title didn't say it all....... how do I do this? What do I do next? And how do I make it feel like the right thing to do?  After a lifetime of almost never putting myself first and then only after long putting myself pretty low on the list (like finally saving...
    NebulaNoxx NebulaNoxx
    51-55, F
    3 Responses May 17, 2008

    MY Loves

    I always go out of the way for my family and friends. @ time I have sacrificed my own happiness. I promise to do more for myself. I want to look in the mirror and see someone that is happy...I have decided its time for me to be first in someone's life.
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 22, 2008

    That's A Big Reason...

    ...why I'm not as well off all around as I could be. It's just that when I see that someone else who comes after me will possibly feel I took unfair advantage of them, I virtually always look to put THEM first. And even after many of those very same people have taken unfair...
    eleanorssong eleanorssong
    56-60, F
    Dec 14, 2011

    Its a good and bad habit.

    I do things for the sake of the "greater good" which usually puts me in a lot of messed up situations. Im trying not to fail myself or the others that depend on me. Its hard though when i feel the world is on my shoulders.
    xxladyjadedxx xxladyjadedxx
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 27, 2014

    First Slice

    There are other people on this planet that I value more than me. Such as friends and family. I can't really see me putting myself before others, its something I suppose that comes almost naturally to me. The one day this may possibly not apply as much is my birthday, I may take...
    Luangi Luangi
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 24, 2007

    Yeah, I most never put myself first.

    I just don't see why I should. I've never felt as though my life was worth more than another's, and I would sooner take a bullet for someone else than defend myself. I believe that my calling is to help others, though my boyfriend says that I have to work on it not being at...
    DarkCelestriaRose DarkCelestriaRose
    18-21, F
    May 9, 2014

    I Am A Cheat

    Ever since I could comprehend what love was, I made a mockery out of the institution and believed it was all fairy-tale bullshit. I knew it wasn't made for me. What with my screwed up relationship with my mom, between the backstabbing by my so-called 'best friends' and the sexual...
    sasschik19 sasschik19
    18-21, F
    Apr 25, 2013

    I don't know why that is

    but one of the reasons I think i never put myself first is because i'm submissive so I just do what I'm told to do because i'm not good at making decisions and not confident to just go out there and do it!Another reason might be due to the fact that i got low self esteem and so...
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee
    22-25, F
    Apr 26, 2014

    Selfless

     as mothers and or wives .. ninety percent of the time we view our goal as to take care of everyone else besides ourselves .... which in reality   dont we have to be taken care of in order to take care of others .... and im tired of being selfless  i want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2007

    It's Not Healthy...

    How every time when I'm miserable, but I have friends who are miserable, I put them ahead of me first. It's nice of me....however, my stomachs having problems now which makes me think I've put too much stress on it by taking care of everyone elses burdens. There for it's not...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2007

    whenever I get a gift card

    for a gift, the first thought that comes to my mind is what I could get for other people
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 8, 2014

    I Refuse To Put Myself First

    When we have extra money or I see something awesome. I get it for my family. I don't ever get anything for myself. My husband loves to shop for me only and I love that! It's like he reads my mind and knows what I need. But like I said I won't buy it for myself. I just buy my...
    GreenEyedBeauty GreenEyedBeauty
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 11, 2009

    Almost?? I NEVER put myself first.

    you need me to drive you half way across the country? Sure!! I can't drive but ill be happy to carry you. the ex wants to talk? sure! Im suicidal and have the rope ready and i already had a panic attack, but sure! Whatever you want. you want me to do something i promised myself...
    wishingforrecovery wishingforrecovery
    18-21, F
    Dec 8, 2014

    Words

    My friends have always said I should think of myself sometimes. They say the reason I am so giving is my nature. It is in my DNA so how could I change?
    aoutdouze aoutdouze
    22-25, F
    Oct 26, 2013

    ME First Me First.. Not!

    I tend to put the needs of others in front of my own.  For example if I need new tires for my car but my sister also needs new tires I will buy her new tires and then buy myself less expensive tires.  If my guy wants to eat Thai food and I want Mexican then I will be...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    17 Responses May 22, 2008

    I have a very self-sacrificial view on things

    at times. I've become accustomed to things not working out the way I hope for, so whenever someone does something for them that puts a crimp in my plans, I tend to just go with the flow and think "I've been through worse".
    mhenson144 mhenson144
    22-25, M
    Sep 20, 2014

    Never Will

    I always put my husband and children first. If there isn't enough food, I don't eat until i'm sure the kids have had enough. I don't go out because I don't want my children to have to deal with a babysitter. I haven't had new clothes or shoes in years. If I have extra money, I...
    silvertears silvertears
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 1, 2007

    I try not to. I don't like being selfish of

    others time or of their thoughts.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot
    18-21, F
    Nov 2, 2014

    Over time I've noticed,

    especially in times where I'm around friends, Sometimes I will be happy to help and some times I'm hesitant, but all the same I put others first. I'm confident and believe in myself to do what's right in my mind, if someone needs help in any way, I'll give it to them IF I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 29, 2014

    Always There For Others

    I have always put others first in my life. If I found someone in need, I would go out of my way to help them. I remember one Christmas when I was homeless and a family saw me on the street and said "we do not have much but you are welcome" My mother sent me $50 for...
    yoreg yoreg
    51-55, F
    Oct 19, 2007

    Always Last

    It don't matter if I want or need anything I don't buy it. I always put everyone else's needs and wants first. I feel guilty if I buy something for myself. Even though I work for my check my kids and husband will always be first.
    WhisperingEchoes WhisperingEchoes
    36-40, F
    Sep 13, 2013

    I'm actually really kind hearted

    and if I put myself first I just feel awful, so usually I put everybody else's needs and stuff before my own, I've even told not to do it all the time but I hate that awful feeling when I don't.
    Tamika123 Tamika123
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 9, 2014

    Never Think Of My Happiness

    I really actually NEVER put myself first. I ALWAYS make sure every one is happy and I will do anything to get them there. I always will drop what I'm doin for that person, I always will almost not ever say No to people or never say sorry I'm busy. I'm always putting people first
    Kittylovesrainbows Kittylovesrainbows
    13-15, F
    Feb 11, 2013

    I will admit that I am a "patsy".

    A "patsy", a "sap" and a "sucker". I have in the past been known to say "if I have it and you need it, I'll give it to you because that's just the kind of person I am". It's just in me to help, give and listen and it's been my Achilles Heel because people sometimes think that's...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    Aug 30, 2014

    I put those before me

    unless I knew they don't deserve it. I judge people... But I start everyone as a great person.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits
    22-25, M
    Aug 27, 2014

    I Always Do...

     I never put myself first... I just don't think I need to be first in anything... If I'm walking to go to a check-out line I would let them go before me... I just think it's so rude to not let someone go before me... I would feel so bad... I never put myself first but I feel...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 4, 2008

    I really never do! unless im in a dire

    situation. If i really care about someone then they come first and I'd probably and even most likely nearly die for that person. Trust me im crazy like that!
    Raptax231 Raptax231
    22-25, M
    Sep 9, 2014
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