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I Always Blame Myself For Everything That Goes Wrong

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    Of course I'm going to blame myself,

    its pretty much down to me that stuff goes wrong most times anyway, not going to blame anyone else for my unending screw ups and causing just about everything to go **** up instead of going right, so if anything does go wrong or messes up in anyway and I'm nearby blame me I know...
    Waywardsilence Waywardsilence 41-45, M Sep 14, 2014

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    Everything is my fault.

    I drive people away because I automatically assume they're pissed off at me or that they hate me. I get terrified of anger towards me and actually by assuming people's anger drive them to be angry I guess. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm a very self-defeating person...
    ChantelSurvived ChantelSurvived 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2014

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    ik its wrong but its like i automatically am

    upset if someone else gets upset or i fee .as if im to blame if someone hurts me. i mean bad things wohldent happenen to me if i didnt deserve it. part of me believes that. it makes life very hard.
    tjindigo tjindigo 18-21, F Jan 12

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    Learning Not To...

    I don't want to anymore.  Somehow, I seem to always find myself in situations where someone is upset about something, and I take blame for something that isn't mine to take.   I found myself in a situation like this two days ago...afraid that I had let down a friend...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    man2you man2you 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2014

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    Im Tired Of Being Strong

    I woke and i read upon came a feeling of dread My eyes rolled back My heart misbeated Ive lost track Ive been mistreated I scream in terror As i look at my error I feel worthless I feel pain I feel breathless I feel vain I feel lost and all alone Ive always been on my own My...
    sagesbones sagesbones 18-21, M May 10, 2013

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    I Feel Responsible Somehow.

    Why can I not fix everything that goes wrong? Why can I not go back to the Garden of Eden and stop Satan (Lucifer) before he tempted man and made us all fall from Grace?
    Snookybear Snookybear 36-40, M Jun 30, 2010

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    its like nomatter what i tell my 18yr old sis

    she will never get it until something terrible happens to her. maybe then she"ll remember my mother and my words/advices.But then if something were to happen to her idk what i do.....
    cynR1993 cynR1993 18-21, F Jan 12

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    Why would I blame anyone

    or anything else? To me that seems like a waste and a cop out. I am in the mindset that whatever you put into something, you are most likely going to reap from it. Blame is a negative word too. Sometimes we need to credit ourselves for the things that go "right" too. Maybe not...
    BobFrost BobFrost 36-40, M 1 Response May 21, 2014

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    I Blame Myself As A Mother

    As a mother, especially - I blame myself for everything that is wrong with my kids.  Their lack of friends, their grades, their hygeine habits, their messy rooms.  Everything I see in them that needs improvement is because I am a lousy mother and did not teach them...
    armijo armijo 41-45 1 Response Jul 16, 2010

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    Of Course....

    Well who else am I gonna blame, most of the **** that's gone wrong for me has been mainly my fault and all because I am/was too weak to do anything to prevent it, so there's no one to blame for what goes wrong in my life but myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    Haha I blame myself for being fat.

    .. I have in and ordered a pizza and ate most of it, washed down with soft drink... Hello weight gain
    catho catho 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    Things Are Always My Fault

    It is always my fault, and it is always a crisis, end of the world kind of thing. I could not save my mother from cancer, and she died, no matter what I did to help relieve her pain. Mom died. Plain and simple. If I had been a better child; if I had helped out more around the...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92 51-55, F 4 Responses May 4, 2011

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    OK so there is this guy

    and I haven't talked to him in two years and well at that time he was married but now he is separated or so I thought but turns out he is engaged again but the thing is when me and him hung out last the spark was there and the feelings was there but I was a minor but I'm of age...
    ABeautifulMess1994 ABeautifulMess1994 18-21, F Jan 18

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    I dont need someone else in my life

    who only knows of constantly blaming me....already have enoug
    tiya78 tiya78 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Who's to blame other than me?

    It would be hypocritical of me to blame other people because of my own problems. I'm kinda dumb, even if I've had so many problems in this life, I still believe in people. They kill, they cheat, they lie,,, I have depression and where did it come from? I've always been like this...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F Dec 8, 2013

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    I've had the opportunity presented to me to be

    friends with a wonderful man. I ruined it. I didn't know to handle such a treasure that I gave him up. Such a foolish girl I am. I hope our paths cross again later down the road. Maybe then I'll know how to fully appreciate a diamond in the rough. And he truly is.
    AquariusLife AquariusLife 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 15, 2014

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    My Fault... Always...

    i should start by saying i was a surprise baby, i am the youngest of 4 kids and i wasn't suppose to be born. my mom didn't know she was pregnant till almost 3 months into it. she tells me how she cried for weeks when she found out she was pregnant because she didn't want another...
    darkness101 darkness101 16-17, F 3 Responses May 20, 2012

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    Its crazy im always stressing.

    I stress everyday because I put the blame on myself alot
    dawwnn dawwnn 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I Blame Me.

    I've always blamed myself for everything. Especially my brother and friends raping me for 6 years straight. And, my ex boyfriend killing himself, I already knew that was my fault because I worried him so much with my issues. These things eat at me constantly because they're my...
    Kmb143 Kmb143 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 29, 2013

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    I know it's a bad thing to do,

    and I've heard it from so many people that I can't fix everything. I know I can't, but when something goes wrong I always think about what I could've done to help that person. Just recently I've been out into that mind set over something someone I loved did. It's just sometimes...
    BlondeGirlBunny BlondeGirlBunny 16-17, F Sep 14, 2014

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    It is my fault, largely.

    This idea has been hammered home for a very long time. It is part of my conditioning, my programme. They sure believe it. In many ways, so do I.
    Lucienn Lucienn 22-25, T 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    I have a bad habit of apologizing

    for everything. I know it irritates my friends sometimes, but I just can't seem to stop.
    SteloCasisto SteloCasisto 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    I'm afraid the pain I've gone through in life

    has made me to damaged to love
    DeLos1985 DeLos1985 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    sugarplum44 sugarplum44 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 12

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    If things don't work out I can some how some

    way find a reason to related it back to my doing. I feel like i cant talk to people without ticking someone off and starting a fight. I start putting myself down and thinking less of myself because of this. I'm trying to work on fixing this kind of stuff but it's taking a long...
    TallyO TallyO 16-17, F May 21, 2014

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    Had a bad day at work today.

    Something happened that was out if my control. But I still blame myself and feel I caused it. I don't want to return to work. ( I'm a midwife)
    bj345 bj345 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2014

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    Why..??

    i guess it started when i was young...when i was around 5 i was like already the oldest kid among all my cousins... everyone blamed me every time something went wrong....i went to the same nursery as my cousin sis....when she first went there she didn't have much friends and was...
    zaRaCarlyle zaRaCarlyle 13-15, F Sep 1, 2012

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    How come society makes us feel bad

    for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are wicked and no BS censorship either.
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M Nov 28, 2014

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    Thinking it's my fault

    when something goes awry even if it is not or I just don't know. I am trying to build up my self-esteem in order to get out of this habit.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Jan 4, 2014

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    It's kind of a muscle memory

    for me. It started when I was little when my mother would berate me for every little thing I did wrong. Then she blames me for doing things I actually never did. I never got to tell my side of the story cause she always thought she was right. Now, I think every thing that I do...
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 18-21, F Oct 15, 2014

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    Not always. I do spend a lot of time thinking

    about big events over and over - thinking about what I could have done differently. Today, I am trying to think about the situation that just happened in a good ways. I think about the events of yesterday and I imagine that they are leading in a way that is good for the people...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M Dec 6, 2014

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    Your Death

    I should of tried Talked to you more Opened up Not shut the door I always thought I'll make amends When I'm older we'll be friends Grandma I'm sorry Grandad too I wish I had bothered more I love you I blame myself I let you take a back seat Life had me beat I wonder would you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 9, 2013

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    From The Day Of The House Fire In 1977

    I blamed myself for anything that went wrong... if someone fell over across the street I would blame myself I used to blame myself for all kinds of things... but I do not and can not blame myself anymore for what happened when I was a child ... especially by how all those...
    IceEntice IceEntice 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2012

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    I tend to put myself in a place of

    responsibility, so it is really easy for me to feel like I’m to blame for everything that goes wrong. If I’m in charge, it’s my fault because I’m in charge. If I’m not, it’s my fault because I didn’t do anything about it. It’s always my fault.
    piquant piquant 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2014

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    It just started after my moms divorce I knew I

    didn't make it happen but I was only 6 so I was mad and upset I actually had to go to counseling for it because I was threatening to kill myself and everything but anyway he was always gone partying and he had party's at our house and it would keep me up till 3:00am and he would...
    livelovehopefree livelovehopefree 13-15, F Oct 21, 2014

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    I don't know why... every thing

    that goes wrong I always think it's my fault... for every problem I see or hear I think its because of me...Most of the time it's not me at all but I got no idea where I get the thought of I'm to blame from... 
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 22-25, F Apr 26, 2014

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    I Am Always Blaming Myself.

    Ever since I can remember I always take the blame whenever I have gotten into a fight with a friend. I don't know why I always blamed myself for it, maybe because it was just easier to take the blame instead of having to talk it with them. Years of constantly blaming myself for...
    kesiegel2009 kesiegel2009 18-21, F Feb 2, 2011

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    I do everything wrong

    and am the burden in everyone's lives.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2014

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