I Always Blame Myself For Everything That Goes Wrong

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    I Blame Myself As A Mother

    As a mother, especially - I blame myself for everything that is wrong with my kids.  Their lack of friends, their grades, their hygeine habits, their messy rooms.  Everything I see in them that needs improvement is because I am a lousy mother and did not teach them...
    armijo armijo
    Jul 16, 2010

    Gradually, I've let go of some of this pattern;

    ironically, it took someone pointing out how conceited it sounds to think I have that much power or control. But there is one thing I can't let go of: I still feel responsible for my grandmother's death. It's complicated (convoluted, even), but she passed from a stroke, on her...
    jdhammer84 jdhammer84
    31-35, M
    Jul 19, 2015

    I blame myself. I blame myself

    for everything. For why I am in this situation. For life has always given me, such pain. I deserve it. Because it's all my fault. It's my fault, someone I loved died. If it wasn't for me she wouldn't have disappeared. If wasn't for me she still be with her family...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 8, 2015

    It just started after my moms divorce I knew I

    didn't make it happen but I was only 6 so I was mad and upset I actually had to go to counseling for it because I was threatening to kill myself and everything but anyway he was always gone partying and he had party's at our house and it would keep me up till 3:00am and he would...
    livelovehopefree livelovehopefree
    16-17, F
    Oct 21, 2014

    ik its wrong but its like i automatically am

    upset if someone else gets upset or i fee .as if im to blame if someone hurts me. i mean bad things wohldent happenen to me if i didnt deserve it. part of me believes that. it makes life very hard.
    deleted deleted
    Jan 12, 2015


    I always blame myself for everything that goes wrong and its only because i am smart enough to make everything go wrong My life my all decisions have always been wrong and they will always be wrong and if anything is wrong it has to be my fault because it is Guess i will always...
    apersonlikeme apersonlikeme
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 16, 2012

    I know it wasn't my fault.

    .. WHY do I still blame myself... I feel like I messed up some how in this whole situation
    Catho Catho
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2015

    Haha I blame myself for being fat.

    .. I have in and ordered a pizza and ate most of it, washed down with soft drink... Hello weight gain
    Catho Catho
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 5, 2014

    My ex broke up with me,

    and I felt awful, he said that it was because he needed space because of his depression, but before he said that, he said "Before we were dating, I really liked you...and thought we should be closer..." and every time I think about it I'd cringe at the 'before' part, because I...
    callXmeXrose callXmeXrose
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2015

    I always blame myself always

    for things that happened to me. I know it was my fault because I didn't stop them or was to scared too. I just don't know what to do with my life. I really need someone to talk to.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 3, 2015


    i guess it started when i was young...when i was around 5 i was like already the oldest kid among all my cousins... everyone blamed me every time something went wrong....i went to the same nursery as my cousin sis....when she first went there she didn't have much friends and was...
    zaRaCarlyle zaRaCarlyle
    13-15, F
    Sep 1, 2012

    I blame myself for my parents' divorce

    and the fact that they still have to talk to each other 12 years later to discuss my travel arrangements, because the divorce papers say that they have to. I know I didn't write the papers but I blame myself for not being able to talk back then. I blame myself for making a...
    PinksTheNewBlack PinksTheNewBlack
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2015

    Everything is my fault.

    I drive people away because I automatically assume they're pissed off at me or that they hate me. I get terrified of anger towards me and actually by assuming people's anger drive them to be angry I guess. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm a very self-defeating person...
    ChantelSurvived ChantelSurvived
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2014

    Right now, I'm sensing a little distance

    and its completely my fault. I just hope I can regain what I lost.
    RandomExistence RandomExistence
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2015

    I dont need someone else in my life

    who only knows of constantly blaming me....already have enoug
    tiya78 tiya78
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2015

    Sometimes you have to say "I'm not sorry,

    this isn't my fault." And walk away.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 11, 2015

    Things Are Always My Fault

    It is always my fault, and it is always a crisis, end of the world kind of thing. I could not save my mother from cancer, and she died, no matter what I did to help relieve her pain. Mom died. Plain and simple. If I had been a better child; if I had helped out more around the...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92
    51-55, F
    4 Responses May 4, 2011

    Your Death

    I should of tried Talked to you more Opened up Not shut the door I always thought I'll make amends When I'm older we'll be friends Grandma I'm sorry Grandad too I wish I had bothered more I love you I blame myself I let you take a back seat Life had me beat I wonder would you...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 9, 2013

    Who's to blame other than me?

    It would be hypocritical of me to blame other people because of my own problems. I'm kinda dumb, even if I've had so many problems in this life, I still believe in people. They kill, they cheat, they lie,,, I have depression and where did it come from? I've always been like this...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned
    22-25, F
    Dec 8, 2013
    man2you man2you
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 6, 2014

    My Fault... Always...

    i should start by saying i was a surprise baby, i am the youngest of 4 kids and i wasn't suppose to be born. my mom didn't know she was pregnant till almost 3 months into it. she tells me how she cried for weeks when she found out she was pregnant because she didn't want another...
    darkness101 darkness101
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 20, 2012

    It's not your fault..

    .clearly...it's not your fault...you stood up against the world and took an oath not to give up when the going gets rough...you knew it all along...so it's your responsibility now to deal with your ****...what kind of a person would you be if you gave up now...so get up you...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 30, 2015

    OK so there is this guy

    and I haven't talked to him in two years and well at that time he was married but now he is separated or so I thought but turns out he is engaged again but the thing is when me and him hung out last the spark was there and the feelings was there but I was a minor but I'm of age...
    ABeautifulMess1994 ABeautifulMess1994
    22-25, F
    Jan 18, 2015

    whenever people are unhappy,

    complaining, or angry I have a tendacy to always blame myself for not providing the right kind of happiness...I always think "it must be something I did"...it goes to the point where I stress myself out
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2015
    41-45, M
    Mar 22, 2016

    I blame myself for all the pains

    and struggles I've been through in my life because at the end of the day I control what I allow, what I do, and how I handle things.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 29, 2015

    I used to feel this way to

    and if I'm not paying close enough attention I fall back to that old pattern. I discovered that the reason I took the blame for everybody is because I was scapegoated by my family so I was programmed to just take on everyone's problems and responsibilities which also came with...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso
    31-35, M
    Jun 8, 2015

    its like nomatter what i tell my 18yr old sis

    she will never get it until something terrible happens to her. maybe then she"ll remember my mother and my words/advices.But then if something were to happen to her idk what i do.....
    cynR1993 cynR1993
    22-25, F
    Jan 12, 2015
    AfterFall AfterFall
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 25, 2015

    I don't know why... every thing

    that goes wrong I always think it's my fault... for every problem I see or hear I think its because of me...Most of the time it's not me at all but I got no idea where I get the thought of I'm to blame from... 
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee
    22-25, F
    Apr 26, 2014

    I blame myself when things don't go right

    even if its not my fault because the only one who can fix the problem is myself. also sometimes its good to vent but who wants to listen to you complain so I talk to myself I also usually do my best work when the chips are down and I'm mad at myself. even when the bus is late I...
    me0883 me0883
    22-25, M
    Apr 6, 2015

    Alone. Scarred. Frightened.

    Pain. Loneliness. Feelings all bundled up tightly inside my heart. Feelings that hide behind the smile on my face. Feelings that never seem to leave no matter how bright the day is. It's all messed again. I let someone ruin not only me but someone close. I let a stranger tear...
    SmallSpeck963 SmallSpeck963
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    Im Tired Of Being Strong

    I woke and i read upon came a feeling of dread My eyes rolled back My heart misbeated Ive lost track Ive been mistreated I scream in terror As i look at my error I feel worthless I feel pain I feel breathless I feel vain I feel lost and all alone Ive always been on my own My...
    sagesbones sagesbones
    22-25, M
    May 10, 2013

    Always don't know why ,

    even if most of the time it has nothing to do with me but this always happen and i get really really depressed :/
    JinxedME JinxedME
    Sep 16, 2015
    sugarplum44 sugarplum44
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2015

    If he's in a mood and responds negatively it

    hurts real bad, I'm sure I've done wrong and need to change or he won't care & love me or maybe he just doesn't :(
    Aagatha Aagatha
    41-45, F
    Apr 7, 2015

    If my mom is feeling down,

    little brother is mad, or anything else negative that happens to the people I care about the most, I feel like I'm to blame. I don't know...grew up believing that it's better to listen to everyone so that they don't get hurt. So, when someone close to me feels a certain way or...
    jellolia jellolia
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2015

    Learning Not To...

    I don't want to anymore.  Somehow, I seem to always find myself in situations where someone is upset about something, and I take blame for something that isn't mine to take.   I found myself in a situation like this two days ago...afraid that I had let down a friend...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 13, 2010

    Its crazy im always stressing.

    I stress everyday because I put the blame on myself alot
    dawwnn dawwnn
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 19, 2015
    LayWithFate LayWithFate
    22-25, F
    Jun 24, 2015

    Everytime I get close to a friend,

    it always goes wrong for reason, my first best friend went out with my boyfriends cousin and then they both started causing trouble between me and my boyfriend's family, so we fell out and that's when I lost my best friend. Then I became friends with these other people and we...
    westlife213 westlife213
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2015

    I'm afraid the pain I've gone through in life

    has made me to damaged to love
    DeLos1985 DeLos1985
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jul 10, 2014

    It's been happening for a long time.

    Every time something goes wrong that I'm involved in, I automatically take responsibility for it. Even if it's not my fault. I don't know why I do this to myself, or what started this pattern, but I want it to stop. It does me no good, and it's hurting those closest to me. It...
    FallenAngel519 FallenAngel519
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 3, 2016
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