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I Always Blame Myself For Everything That Goes Wrong

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    No Pain No... What Was It Again?

    Okay, so I admit; I'm a self-harmer. But my self harm is for good reason. Isn't it? I'll let you decide. Ever since I was concieved its been like I was just another mistake. My biological father left me, I made my mother very sick, and hell! Even God thought I wasn't going to...
    SheWolf16 SheWolf16 18-21, F Jun 22, 2013

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    If Only We Knew Then

    Remember us how we used to be in those days of lying intimacy. The deeds we made, Our future foretold, Who knew we'd pass it by, For not I did know the trouble we'd cause, As a death foretold in the fire we lit. Our bomb, We ignited. But dear, It was just us. There was no...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 23, 2013

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    Your Death

    I should of tried Talked to you more Opened up Not shut the door I always thought I'll make amends When I'm older we'll be friends Grandma I'm sorry Grandad too I wish I had bothered more I love you I blame myself I let you take a back seat Life had me beat I wonder would you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 9, 2013

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    I tend to put myself in a place of

    responsibility, so it is really easy for me to feel like I’m to blame for everything that goes wrong. If I’m in charge, it’s my fault because I’m in charge. If I’m not, it’s my fault because I didn’t do anything about it. It’s always my fault.
    piquant piquant 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    It'S All My Fault.

    So about 4 months ago I had to move cities. Thus, I had to breakup with my boyfriend. We tried to keep an ongoing relationship for a couple of weeks but we failed. Then he started going out with one of my BestFriends. I tried to be ok with it but I wasn't. At all. Recently, I saw...
    OhsnapsitzLluvi OhsnapsitzLluvi 18-21 Jun 3, 2013

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    Thinking it's my fault

    when something goes awry even if it is not or I just don't know. I am trying to build up my self-esteem in order to get out of this habit.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Jan 4

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    From The Day Of The House Fire In 1977

    I blamed myself for anything that went wrong... if someone fell over across the street I would blame myself I used to blame myself for all kinds of things... but I do not and can not blame myself anymore for what happened when I was a child ... especially by how all those...
    IceEntice IceEntice 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2012

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    Who's to blame other than me?

    It would be hypocritical of me to blame other people because of my own problems. I'm kinda dumb, even if I've had so many problems in this life, I still believe in people. They kill, they cheat, they lie,,, I have depression and where did it come from? I've always been like this...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F Dec 8, 2013

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    Why..??

    i guess it started when i was young...when i was around 5 i was like already the oldest kid among all my cousins... everyone blamed me every time something went wrong....i went to the same nursery as my cousin sis....when she first went there she didn't have much friends and was...
    zaRaCarlyle zaRaCarlyle 13-15, F Sep 1, 2012

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    Sounds Familiar

    i seem to blame myself excessively for anything that goes wrong, even if it wasn't my job.  for instance, this week someone dropped the ball at work and i was indirectly effected.  i keep going over it in my head, and i think that i did everything rational to detect...
    wontshare wontshare 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    My Sister Cut

    she cut herself, She blamed it on me. She said I was the reason for everything She pointed down at the first drop of blood, you did this. You Marah. I sat there and cryed. I'm sorry I went downstairs and looked up at dad.. He laughed and said *whatever is the matter, get over...
    SuicideNotice SuicideNotice 13-15, F Mar 16, 2013

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    Im Tired Of Being Strong

    I woke and i read upon came a feeling of dread My eyes rolled back My heart misbeated Ive lost track Ive been mistreated I scream in terror As i look at my error I feel worthless I feel pain I feel breathless I feel vain I feel lost and all alone Ive always been on my own My...
    sagesbones sagesbones 18-21, M May 10, 2013

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    Its My Fault......always

    i blame myself when my friends make fun of me because i shouldnt have opend the door for them to come in to my life. i blame myself for for being shy because if i wasnt shy, people might actually truley like me. i blame myself for letting my gaurd down and letting my exboyfriend...
    123me321 123me321 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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    Learning Not To...

    I don't want to anymore.  Somehow, I seem to always find myself in situations where someone is upset about something, and I take blame for something that isn't mine to take.   I found myself in a situation like this two days ago...afraid that I had let down a friend...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    I Feel Responsible Somehow.

    Why can I not fix everything that goes wrong? Why can I not go back to the Garden of Eden and stop Satan (Lucifer) before he tempted man and made us all fall from Grace?
    Snookybear Snookybear 36-40, M Jun 30, 2010

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    It May Not Be My Fault, But...

    But sometimes I feel like it is. sometimes emotions take over and when they do its all my fault. I feel its my fault my husband, my best friend wont hold me. Surely I've done something to make him not want to be near me? If I do convince him to it seems like he's bored, I'm not...
    zarfle zarfle 36-40, F Jul 23, 2012

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    Yes I Do

        i blame myself for everything that goes wrong . this is mainly at work . since it is my front end during my shift and my boss has left .i  feel that maybe i didn't push the survey . maybe i didn't  convey that they need to  stand at the end of the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 8, 2009

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    My Life Sucks...

    So here's my story... I'm just a 17 years old From Poland and everything in my life sucks! I have no friends...Nobody understands me + I hate liars and fake compliments...My boyfriend from England is one of them! we have known each other for such a long time and we used to talk...
    MysteriousWhispering MysteriousWhispering 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 4, 2013

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    Always Me

    I've always been to blame for everything as far back as I can remember. When my mum was pregnant with me my grandmother had a stroke and that was when it all started. Everything that's ever gone wrong , I've been the only common factor. All my friends have ended up wanting...
    Givenupallhope Givenupallhope 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2012

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    I'm afraid the pain I've gone through in life

    has made me to damaged to love
    DeLos1985 DeLos1985 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 10

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    I Blame Myself As A Mother

    As a mother, especially - I blame myself for everything that is wrong with my kids.  Their lack of friends, their grades, their hygeine habits, their messy rooms.  Everything I see in them that needs improvement is because I am a lousy mother and did not teach them...
    armijo armijo 41-45 1 Response Jul 16, 2010

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    If things don't work out I can some how some

    way find a reason to related it back to my doing. I feel like i cant talk to people without ticking someone off and starting a fight. I start putting myself down and thinking less of myself because of this. I'm trying to work on fixing this kind of stuff but it's taking a long...
    TallyO TallyO 13-15, F May 21

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    Goes Wrong

    I think we all did or have experienced this...A few times it happened and I blamed myself for things.  I'm more realistic when it comes to this type of situation.  If it isn't my fault, I won't blame me and if it is, then I am to blame...I cannot hide it if I'm on the wrong.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Aug 24, 2011

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    I just have a habit for blaming myself

    because some times I think that as soon as I get my hopes up or excited about something that it's going to go wrong. Then i beat myself up about it for ruining it :(
    YoungRidah YoungRidah 18-21, M Mar 1

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    Things Are Always My Fault

    It is always my fault, and it is always a crisis, end of the world kind of thing. I could not save my mother from cancer, and she died, no matter what I did to help relieve her pain. Mom died. Plain and simple. If I had been a better child; if I had helped out more around the...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92 51-55, F 4 Responses May 4, 2011

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    Of Course....

    Well who else am I gonna blame, most of the **** that's gone wrong for me has been mainly my fault and all because I am/was too weak to do anything to prevent it, so there's no one to blame for what goes wrong in my life but myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    I Blame Myself For Your Deperesion.

    Everyday, I wake up knowing that you are deperesed. You made me promise I'd stop blaming myself. But I do, because I can't protect you from everything that hurts you. I'm so sorry that I'm so powerless that I can't do anything.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 25, 2012

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    I Blame Myself For All That My Child Has To Go Through.

    I feel hurt, guilt, frustraition, all the time. I blame myself for all the challenges my daughter goes through.  She is adopted, had her since birth. She is a drug baby. A lot of her challenges stem from that.  I raised her, so I take blame for her behavior. I take blame for...
    morebetterdays morebetterdays 26-30 Dec 23, 2010

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    I Am Always Blaming Myself.

    Ever since I can remember I always take the blame whenever I have gotten into a fight with a friend. I don't know why I always blamed myself for it, maybe because it was just easier to take the blame instead of having to talk it with them. Years of constantly blaming myself for...
    kesiegel2009 kesiegel2009 18-21, F Feb 2, 2011

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    This Is Me...

    Like if something at work goes wrong I will blame myself even when it was clear that it wasn't really my fault. A co worker once told me that I need to stop expecting perfection out of myself as it's impossible and I think she is very right. I also blame myself for not being good...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2011

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    It is my fault, largely.

    This idea has been hammered home for a very long time. It is part of my conditioning, my programme. They sure believe it. In many ways, so do I.
    macabrEnigma macabrEnigma 18-21, T 1 Response Jul 9

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    Why Me?

    Every time anything bad happens to anyone I know, I feel like its my fault. I feel almost egotistical because of it. I cut myself because of it. I hate how much the outside word affects the inside me. I just wish I could make it through one day without feeling ostracized or...
    karlito2794 karlito2794 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 11, 2013

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    I Blame Myself Because Its Actually My Fault.

    Okay, so not EVERYTHING that goes wrong is my fault, but most things are.Take now for instance, I pushed him away. I ruined something perfectly perfect just because I'm too damaged to take care of anything. If i'm going to die alone I wish God would hurry up and just end it...but...
    CrazyHappySad CrazyHappySad 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2012

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    I Am Alone And Have No Friends

    HELLO EVERYONE. I AM FROM NEPAL,ASIAN COUNTRY. MY LIFE HAS BEEN HORRIBLE TO ME SINCE I WAS 10 YEARS OLD.IN MY SCHOOL DAYS MANY GIRLS CREATED PROBLEMS MADE FAKE RUMOURS ABOUT ME MADE MY LIFE HELL.I HAD NO FRIENDS I EVEN TRIED TO COMMIT TO SUICIDE WHEN I WAS IN SCHOOL. AS I AM...
    Fairyheart Fairyheart 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    I Blame Me.

    I've always blamed myself for everything. Especially my brother and friends raping me for 6 years straight. And, my ex boyfriend killing himself, I already knew that was my fault because I worried him so much with my issues. These things eat at me constantly because they're my...
    Kmb143 Kmb143 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    Special Cut

    I have a special friend and we cut, but we made a promise that we would never cuted again. But i just hate myself because she cuted again and i did the same. I didnt support her, and i just want to die. I'm allways making bad things to her, like falling in love with her, and now...
    josephmourinho josephmourinho 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 29, 2013

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    I don't know why... every thing

    that goes wrong I always think it's my fault... for every problem I see or hear I think its because of me...Most of the time it's not me at all but I got no idea where I get the thought of I'm to blame from... 
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    Because

    I always blame myself for everything that goes wrong and its only because i am smart enough to make everything go wrong My life my all decisions have always been wrong and they will always be wrong and if anything is wrong it has to be my fault because it is Guess i will always...
    aloserlikeme aloserlikeme 18-21, M 2 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Why would I blame anyone

    or anything else? To me that seems like a waste and a cop out. I am in the mindset that whatever you put into something, you are most likely going to reap from it. Blame is a negative word too. Sometimes we need to credit ourselves for the things that go "right" too. Maybe not...
    BobFrost BobFrost 36-40, M 2 Responses May 21

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    Fake People

    so it happened last year when I uploaded a picture of myself in facebook and I really liked my picture.there was this girl who added me then blocked me and a month after that,Someone massaged me :you're fake girl,you're damned fake and i asked her why so she started telling me...
    hayley797 hayley797 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2012

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    It's Just How I Am

    I just know that the things that go wrong are my fault...I've always been this way, and it's starting to wear at me... Even if I know something CAN'T be my fault, I still take the blame. I hate finding fault in other people, hate believing that they can...
    sabergirl08 sabergirl08 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2009

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    All The Time

    I blame myself for things that go wrong a lot.  I think I do it because I could have possibly done something to change the future.  Sometimes I can't change it, but I still feel like it's my fault.  I am not entirely sure why.  I just find some minuscule way...
    BBUDS BBUDS 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    Once Upon A Time

    I used to blame myself for EVERYTHING that went wrong, and sometimes now when I am in a funk I still do, but when I was younger I thought everything was my fault. My friend who is a year older than me tried to kill herself and got mixed up in the wrong crowd when she began high...
    lynnirose lynnirose 18-21, F Mar 16, 2013

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    My Fault... Always...

    i should start by saying i was a surprise baby, i am the youngest of 4 kids and i wasn't suppose to be born. my mom didn't know she was pregnant till almost 3 months into it. she tells me how she cried for weeks when she found out she was pregnant because she didn't want another...
    darkness101 darkness101 16-17, F 3 Responses May 20, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    when they're not even anything to do with me!!! WTF
    mypath43 mypath43 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    When I was 14 I was raped, there was two lads in the room and when I went to the police it was my word against there's, the police said I was lying and they wouldn't believe me and...
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    "I am always improving myself." I hope so. The least I try. I study, exercise, observe as much as possible and most important, search for answers to my wonders. I try to do new...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 27

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    I'm pissed at my self no one else.I am a big failure in life.I cant even accomplish half of the goals i set for my self,and i only had 3. I have missed my finale dead line .I look...
    prankqueen prankqueen 13-15, F Jul 11

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    I've never been good enough and I hate myself for it. When other kids were having a dandy time with their fathers. Mine was out cheating on my mom and doing drugs. I hate people...
    NPkid97 NPkid97 16-17, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Someone broke the Hoover, 'it was moonziggy!' Someone broke the iron, 'it was moonziggy!' Once, my bike was resting against the shed door, my sister got angry and slammed the door...
    moonziggy moonziggy 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I never feel good enough in my own skin. On a rare occasion I will wake up and feel amazing and I will love myself but usually I wake up and just get furious at my reflection and...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    I started last year a few weeks before school started because I got really depressed and couldn't take it anymore so I wanted to die I had been suicidal before in the seventh grade...
    Kelnea Kelnea 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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