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I Always Blame Myself For Everything That Goes Wrong

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    Everything is my fault.

    I drive people away because I automatically assume they're pissed off at me or that they hate me. I get terrified of anger towards me and actually by assuming people's anger drive them to be angry I guess. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm a very self-defeating person...
    ChantelSurvived ChantelSurvived 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2014

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    I know it wasn't my fault.

    .. WHY do I still blame myself... I feel like I messed up some how in this whole situation
    Catho Catho 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    It's kind of a muscle memory

    for me. It started when I was little when my mother would berate me for every little thing I did wrong. Then she blames me for doing things I actually never did. I never got to tell my side of the story cause she always thought she was right. Now, I think every thing that I do...
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 18-21, F Oct 15, 2014

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    I know it's a bad thing to do,

    and I've heard it from so many people that I can't fix everything. I know I can't, but when something goes wrong I always think about what I could've done to help that person. Just recently I've been out into that mind set over something someone I loved did. It's just sometimes...
    BlondeGirlBunny BlondeGirlBunny 18-21, F Sep 14, 2014

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    Had a bad day at work today.

    Something happened that was out if my control. But I still blame myself and feel I caused it. I don't want to return to work. ( I'm a midwife)
    bj345 bj345 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2014

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    If my mom is feeling down,

    little brother is mad, or anything else negative that happens to the people I care about the most, I feel like I'm to blame. I don't know...grew up believing that it's better to listen to everyone so that they don't get hurt. So, when someone close to me feels a certain way or...
    jellolia jellolia 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 29

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    Its crazy im always stressing.

    I stress everyday because I put the blame on myself alot
    dawwnn dawwnn 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    sugarplum44 sugarplum44 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 12

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    I blame myself for all the pains

    and struggles I've been through in my life because at the end of the day I control what I allow, what I do, and how I handle things.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 29

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    Learning Not To...

    I don't want to anymore.  Somehow, I seem to always find myself in situations where someone is upset about something, and I take blame for something that isn't mine to take.   I found myself in a situation like this two days ago...afraid that I had let down a friend...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    Your Death

    I should of tried Talked to you more Opened up Not shut the door I always thought I'll make amends When I'm older we'll be friends Grandma I'm sorry Grandad too I wish I had bothered more I love you I blame myself I let you take a back seat Life had me beat I wonder would you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 9, 2013

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    Haha I blame myself for being fat.

    .. I have in and ordered a pizza and ate most of it, washed down with soft drink... Hello weight gain
    Catho Catho 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    ZER0RPHEUS ZER0RPHEUS 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 25

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    I have a bad habit of apologizing

    for everything. I know it irritates my friends sometimes, but I just can't seem to stop.
    SteloCasisto SteloCasisto 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    I've had the opportunity presented to me to be

    friends with a wonderful man. I ruined it. I didn't know to handle such a treasure that I gave him up. Such a foolish girl I am. I hope our paths cross again later down the road. Maybe then I'll know how to fully appreciate a diamond in the rough. And he truly is.
    AquariusLife AquariusLife 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 15, 2014

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    whenever people are unhappy,

    complaining, or angry I have a tendacy to always blame myself for not providing the right kind of happiness...I always think "it must be something I did"...it goes to the point where I stress myself out
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Why..??

    i guess it started when i was young...when i was around 5 i was like already the oldest kid among all my cousins... everyone blamed me every time something went wrong....i went to the same nursery as my cousin sis....when she first went there she didn't have much friends and was...
    zaRaCarlyle zaRaCarlyle 13-15, F Sep 1, 2012

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    Not always. I do spend a lot of time thinking

    about big events over and over - thinking about what I could have done differently. Today, I am trying to think about the situation that just happened in a good ways. I think about the events of yesterday and I imagine that they are leading in a way that is good for the people...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M Dec 6, 2014

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    It just started after my moms divorce I knew I

    didn't make it happen but I was only 6 so I was mad and upset I actually had to go to counseling for it because I was threatening to kill myself and everything but anyway he was always gone partying and he had party's at our house and it would keep me up till 3:00am and he would...
    livelovehopefree livelovehopefree 13-15, F Oct 21, 2014

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    Sometimes you have to say "I'm not sorry,

    this isn't my fault." And walk away.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 11

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    I dont need someone else in my life

    who only knows of constantly blaming me....already have enoug
    tiya78 tiya78 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    man2you man2you 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2014

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    I used to feel this way to

    and if I'm not paying close enough attention I fall back to that old pattern. I discovered that the reason I took the blame for everybody is because I was scapegoated by my family so I was programmed to just take on everyone's problems and responsibilities which also came with...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Jun 8

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    I blame myself for things my family has to

    spend money on for me. Like if I need makeup or clothes or a phone card and I have to ask someone to help me, I blame myself for being too weak or not being able to support myself and that I'm costing them money, even if I know I need the help.
    ThroughMyLips ThroughMyLips 18-21, F Jun 8

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    I blame myself for my parents' divorce

    and the fact that they still have to talk to each other 12 years later to discuss my travel arrangements, because the divorce papers say that they have to. I know I didn't write the papers but I blame myself for not being able to talk back then. I blame myself for making a...
    PinksTheNewBlack PinksTheNewBlack 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    My Fault... Always...

    i should start by saying i was a surprise baby, i am the youngest of 4 kids and i wasn't suppose to be born. my mom didn't know she was pregnant till almost 3 months into it. she tells me how she cried for weeks when she found out she was pregnant because she didn't want another...
    darkness101 darkness101 16-17, F 3 Responses May 20, 2012

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    My ex broke up with me,

    and I felt awful, he said that it was because he needed space because of his depression, but before he said that, he said "Before we were dating, I really liked you...and thought we should be closer..." and every time I think about it I'd cringe at the 'before' part, because I...
    callXmeXrose callXmeXrose 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I'm afraid the pain I've gone through in life

    has made me to damaged to love
    DeLos1985 DeLos1985 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    I Blame Myself As A Mother

    As a mother, especially - I blame myself for everything that is wrong with my kids.  Their lack of friends, their grades, their hygeine habits, their messy rooms.  Everything I see in them that needs improvement is because I am a lousy mother and did not teach them...
    armijo armijo 41-45 1 Response Jul 16, 2010

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    If he's in a mood and responds negatively it

    hurts real bad, I'm sure I've done wrong and need to change or he won't care & love me or maybe he just doesn't :(
    Aagatha Aagatha 36-40, F Apr 7

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    OK so there is this guy

    and I haven't talked to him in two years and well at that time he was married but now he is separated or so I thought but turns out he is engaged again but the thing is when me and him hung out last the spark was there and the feelings was there but I was a minor but I'm of age...
    ABeautifulMess1994 ABeautifulMess1994 18-21, F Jan 18

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    Im Tired Of Being Strong

    I woke and i read upon came a feeling of dread My eyes rolled back My heart misbeated Ive lost track Ive been mistreated I scream in terror As i look at my error I feel worthless I feel pain I feel breathless I feel vain I feel lost and all alone Ive always been on my own My...
    sagesbones sagesbones 18-21, M May 10, 2013

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    It's not your fault..

    .clearly...it's not your fault...you stood up against the world and took an oath not to give up when the going gets rough...you knew it all along...so it's your responsibility now to deal with your ****...what kind of a person would you be if you gave up now...so get up you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 30

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    I don't know why... every thing

    that goes wrong I always think it's my fault... for every problem I see or hear I think its because of me...Most of the time it's not me at all but I got no idea where I get the thought of I'm to blame from... 
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee 22-25, F Apr 26, 2014

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    Gradually, I've let go of some of this pattern;

    ironically, it took someone pointing out how conceited it sounds to think I have that much power or control. But there is one thing I can't let go of: I still feel responsible for my grandmother's death. It's complicated (convoluted, even), but she passed from a stroke, on her...
    jdhammer84 jdhammer84 31-35, M Jul 19

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    its like nomatter what i tell my 18yr old sis

    she will never get it until something terrible happens to her. maybe then she"ll remember my mother and my words/advices.But then if something were to happen to her idk what i do.....
    cynR1993 cynR1993 22-25, F Jan 12

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    LayWithFate LayWithFate 18-21, F Jun 24

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    How come society makes us feel bad

    for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are wicked and no BS censorship either.
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M Nov 28, 2014

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    ik its wrong but its like i automatically am

    upset if someone else gets upset or i fee .as if im to blame if someone hurts me. i mean bad things wohldent happenen to me if i didnt deserve it. part of me believes that. it makes life very hard.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 12

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    I blame myself. I blame myself

    for everything. For why I am in this situation. For life has always given me, such pain. I deserve it. Because it's all my fault. It's my fault, someone I loved died. If it wasn't for me she wouldn't have disappeared. If wasn't for me she still be with her family...
    Jack0fAllTrades Jack0fAllTrades 22-25, M Aug 8

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    I blame myself when things don't go right

    even if its not my fault because the only one who can fix the problem is myself. also sometimes its good to vent but who wants to listen to you complain so I talk to myself I also usually do my best work when the chips are down and I'm mad at myself. even when the bus is late I...
    me0883 me0883 22-25, M Apr 6

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    Things Are Always My Fault

    It is always my fault, and it is always a crisis, end of the world kind of thing. I could not save my mother from cancer, and she died, no matter what I did to help relieve her pain. Mom died. Plain and simple. If I had been a better child; if I had helped out more around the...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92 51-55, F 4 Responses May 4, 2011

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    Who's to blame other than me?

    It would be hypocritical of me to blame other people because of my own problems. I'm kinda dumb, even if I've had so many problems in this life, I still believe in people. They kill, they cheat, they lie,,, I have depression and where did it come from? I've always been like this...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F Dec 8, 2013

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