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I Always Compare Myself to Other People

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    I am constantly doing it.

    I am extremely self conscious though, that plays a big part in it, I always think other girls are prettier, nicer skin, a better figure. I am working on trying to stop but I think it's human nature to compare ourselves to others, even if we don't have self esteem issues.
    GamerDustBunny GamerDustBunny 26-30, F Apr 26, 2014

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    My Oh-look-she-is-younger-and-does-it-perfect-sister

     My mom, always copares us. She says she doesnt, but she does.  I hate it, because she always talks to me about how kind and intelligent my sister is. She is Miss Popular, and has had really handsome boyfriends, since kindergarden. She is all my mother wanted as a...
    IhateyouMom IhateyouMom 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2009

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    I see myself as weak

    and everyone is better than me. If I can do it anyone can, although I do know that it is realistic.
    persononinternet persononinternet 18-21, M Jan 11, 2014

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    I always end being the inferior too.

    I should stop doing this. I mean, life sucks and it sucks to be me and there is no need to compare. My life won't improve if I do that. I will only hurt myself by desiring what I can't achieve or get. Knowing that doesn't not help me stop though.
    SoulCoffee SoulCoffee 26-30, M Aug 14, 2015

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    powerStorm powerStorm 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2015

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    The Best In Others and the Worst In Myself

    I have always had at least somewhat of a difficult time with this problem of comparing myself to other people.  Whether it was in high school where I compared myself to the cool, jock types who always knew the right thing to say, to where I am now in college where I have...
    collegeguy collegeguy 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 16, 2008

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    I am extremely insecure

    because I always compare myself to others. I never feel good enough.
    ashleeley ashleeley 18-21, F Feb 5, 2014

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    Measuring Up?

    It's interesting that I've been doing mostly negative comparisons rather than positive ones, even if the positive ones are there.  For this reason, comparing fuels a lot of my self-improvement projects. (this is both a good and a not so good thing) I zoom in on the aspects...
    SilverLinedShadows SilverLinedShadows 22-25 2 Responses Jun 17, 2009

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    It makes me feel.very much like a loser.

    Especially to see their fb posts amd pictures of how they are enjoy life.and bc of my circumstances i cant do much
    usernameagain9 usernameagain9 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2015

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    And Especially To My Sister.

    My usual day:I wake up, dress, go downstairs. I have breakfast with my sister, because we're the only ones who have to leave earlier. I compare mines to hers:My breakfast contains whole grain bread with smoked chicken breast/muesli with yoghurt/ oatmeal, some fruit, usually milk...
    Hoshii Hoshii 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2011

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    You to Me Is As Pirate to ______

    This is just something I'm constantly doing in my head. What are they better at than me? How would I have done something differently? Are they smarter than me? Stronger than me? Faster than me? I don't really know if I'd go as far as to call it a competition inside my brain...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 17, 2008

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    I am always comparing myself to others in terms

    of beauty, trying to get myself to unattainable standards while looking at my peers. I try to be skinnier than them, prettier than them, dress cuter than them... I don't like this way of thinking because it often causes me to whine to any S/O about how there's so many other...
    leatherkisses leatherkisses 13-15, F Oct 30, 2015

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    And I Mean Always

    In everything i do i compare myself to others. Whether it is in appearance, intelligence, financially, or in my career or even just everyday life. I am convinced in the vast majority of these areas i feel as if i am extremely inferior to most people. The only area i am equal to...
    ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick 46-50, M 14 Responses Jan 25, 2009

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    You should never compare yourself to another

    human being. Or if you do do so with a grain of salt because it's not gonna go well. You should never compare yourself to someone you believe to be better than you whether it be through their looks, how many friends they have or how smart they are. Don't do it! If you compare...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 22-25, M Aug 20, 2015

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    Nevar That.

    why would i? there is only one me, i dont wanna be like any other, for i know that im waaay more different then most people. to keep this short - i like me, **** you're ways. =D -JB
    Doxtah Doxtah 26-30, M 4 Responses May 4, 2011

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    even though I can't be another person

    and change myself but I do
    aby2015 aby2015 13-15, F Jan 25

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    It's My True Downfall.....

    I compare myself constantly to others and worry all the time if I see differences between me and someone of a similar age. I am almost 27 and constantly feel as though something is amiss. Like I should be married and with kids by now but not feeling entirely ready for that and...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 14, 2012

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    It's a Bad Habit

    but sometimes I can't help feeling jealous and wish I was like the person I'm comparing myself to. So, I understand how you feel.
    MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F Oct 4, 2009

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    My few friends that I made at college have all

    moved away and have successful and happy lives...then there's me still living at home, unemployed, unmotivated to pursue a career simply because I do not know what to do with my life. I always compare myself to other people my age. Seems like it was so easy for everyone else to...
    citrustree citrustree 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    It Is Wrong And I Know It. Just Do Not Ever Do It, People!!!

    There's just one thing I always compare myself to others about - looks and beauty. Yep, that's it. I am 15, female, and I've always dreamt of being the most gorgeous girl ever. Yet in 2008 I was hurt very badly by a boy I still am madly in love with, and he totally changed my...
    xSapphire xSapphire 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    I almost always compare myself to other people.

    I always wonder if I am as good as someone else, as smart, as pretty, as sexy as someone else. Throughout my life, I have been put down for this, or that, and have always wished that I was someone else, someone better.
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F Mar 13, 2014

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    I Always Always Always Think I'M Fat, Ugly And Worthless.

      I'm sixteen years old. Junior in high school. Dancer, singer, actor and photographer. I have this little issue, I know all these beautiful girls, my BEST friend i've known for 7 years is maybe the most absolutly beautiful most perfect girl on this planet both inside and...
    ItsToriaMaroonHere ItsToriaMaroonHere 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2013

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    When You Always Compare Yourself To Others...you Always Feel Like Everyones Better Than You.

    I always compare myself to other people. I just started doing it this year. It's mostly about looks. When I'm at school, and I see a pretty girl who people seem to like, I constantly think about how she is better than me and how she isn't.For example, I'll see a girl and think to...
    madx1996 madx1996 13-15 1 Response Dec 19, 2011

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    I never think I'm good enough I always compare

    myself to other people thinking I can be better
    babymac babymac 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2014

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    My Boyfriend Looks Better Than Me...

    Literally. he has it ALL. a cute face, nice toned 6 pack, broad ... thick muscles & hes VERY flexible. Me? I have a huge nose, stretch marks on mu hips & Butt from God knows what & a Teeny bit of a pot belly. We haven't really been in public together, & he talks about hanging...
    lovelustandpixiedust lovelustandpixiedust 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    Any one else have this issue?

    It's the worst with my boyfriend exes... Any one who can help me fix this problem??
    haleyhazy haleyhazy 18-21, F 2 Responses May 27, 2014

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    (A picture of me currently)I tend to compare

    myself to others because I always feel inferior.For example,there's this one girl who is younger than me.And everyone seems to love her because she has this nonchalant,carefree,bubbly personality.She's tan,has typical Asian hair,silky(short) dark brown ish with highlights.She...
    bgc162 bgc162 18-21, F Dec 30, 2015

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    Annoying habit I want to change.

    .I hate saying it but I'm so obsessed with what people think of me sometimes,with comparing myself to others whether im better or there better than me type of thing.I know I need to work on this it's not good for me and it's very dis-empowering.
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2014

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    I Do It Too Much..

    i compare myself to everyone in a negative way. actually it gets me pretty depressed in conversation. my mind kind of goes blank, can't decide who to be. i feel like i have no foundation. like today i met up with my friends ross and ryan and i felt so out of everything.. cause...
    whereamigoing whereamigoing 18-21, M 4 Responses May 14, 2008

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    I Compare Myself With My Boyfriend

     I started comparing myself with others most intensely in college.  I wondered why this girl was getting so much attention, why that guy was so popular, why this girl was so confident, and emulated a few of their mannerisms. Then this wonderful boy came along.  He...
    Sirentian Sirentian 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2009

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    I constantly compare myself to others

    and try to behave like them. My friend Melissa is an amazing woman but in my head she is perfect. Our friendship started as me wanting to know her, then wanting to be friends, and now I want to be her. Its so frustrating because I used to think I was good at things but now it...
    TryingToLoveLifeNow TryingToLoveLifeNow 18-21, F Jan 13

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    I Compare Myself To Celebrities

    I am the type of person who idolizes and obsesses over celebrities, and it makes me who I am, but I am always looking at them thinking how I will never be as beautiful as them, or how I will never be with someone that beautiful. I don't care what others think of my appearance as...
    retrogagafreak retrogagafreak 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    I literally compare myself to this one person

    everyday. It's destroying my self confidence.
    foreveryoursj foreveryoursj 18-21, F Dec 24, 2013

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    Unhappy With Myself

    i'm always comparing myself to other people always saying "why cant i look like him" blablabla mostly famous people i know people say "oh you shouldn't compare yourself to others" but it just seems so natural for me, i am so unhappy with myself :/ i hope this feeling goes away
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    It Makes Me Feel Hopeless

    I don't do it always, but once in a while is enough to get me hopeless and sad. It usually happens when I am missing very much something in my life. Then I look around for examples of people who have it and I start to compare. I see how different these people are from me and I...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    I Don't Know How To Stop?

    I’ve obsessively compared all aspects of myself to other people all my life. I suppose it was a part of the way that I was raised, having been raised a perfectionist and made to believe that I am unworthy unless I am perfect. Stopping this is so hard for me. I don’t know how...
    AspergersandMe AspergersandMe 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 17, 2012

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    I Always Compare Myself With Others

    am a doctor.just finished ug.now onto my pg.since i was 12yrs old i have been comparing myself to others on almost everything.and i feel burning pain deep within me.i always wanted to come out of this feeling but just couldn help myself..such thoughts unknowingly creeps into my...
    feelontop feelontop 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2011

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    On The Road

    It's this inevitable and annoying part of me. I can't perform the simplest tasks sometimes, without being drowned in the sea of other people's opinions. And other people's standards.I signed up into this driving school last summer. I did all the necessary tests and all that...
    funereal1134 funereal1134 18-21, M Jan 28, 2012

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    its almost as if my brain is wired to do that.

    i cant help it. i started comparing myself to other people when i was in middle school. i didnt really realize my appearance until the 6th grade when someone shouted to me across the playground that i was ugly in front of everyone. i went home and cried that day and its been...
    Aeril Aeril 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2015

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    Not Good Enough

    It recently began. The always trying to find something about someone else that I didnt have & I wanted.I can find anyone on the face of the earth and come up with at least one thing they have I dont, but I wish I had..I feel so worthless. Nothing is good enough.I compare myself...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F Aug 1, 2012

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