I Always Compare Myself to Other People

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    I Compare Myself With My Boyfriend

     I started comparing myself with others most intensely in college.  I wondered why this girl was getting so much attention, why that guy was so popular, why this girl was so confident, and emulated a few of their mannerisms. Then this wonderful boy came along.  He...
    Sirentian Sirentian
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 31, 2009

    I almost always compare myself to other people.

    I always wonder if I am as good as someone else, as smart, as pretty, as sexy as someone else. Throughout my life, I have been put down for this, or that, and have always wished that I was someone else, someone better.
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel
    26-30, F
    Mar 13, 2014

    Measuring Up?

    It's interesting that I've been doing mostly negative comparisons rather than positive ones, even if the positive ones are there.  For this reason, comparing fuels a lot of my self-improvement projects. (this is both a good and a not so good thing) I zoom in on the aspects...
    SilverLinedShadows SilverLinedShadows
    22-25
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2009

    I Always Always Always Think I'M Fat, Ugly And Worthless.

      I'm sixteen years old. Junior in high school. Dancer, singer, actor and photographer. I have this little issue, I know all these beautiful girls, my BEST friend i've known for 7 years is maybe the most absolutly beautiful most perfect girl on this planet both inside and...
    ItsToriaMaroonHere ItsToriaMaroonHere
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 3, 2013

    (A picture of me currently)I tend to compare

    myself to others because I always feel inferior.For example,there's this one girl who is younger than me.And everyone seems to love her because she has this nonchalant,carefree,bubbly personality.She's tan,has typical Asian hair,silky(short) dark brown ish with highlights.She...
    bgc162 bgc162
    18-21, F
    Dec 30, 2015

    I Do It Too Much..

    i compare myself to everyone in a negative way. actually it gets me pretty depressed in conversation. my mind kind of goes blank, can't decide who to be. i feel like i have no foundation. like today i met up with my friends ross and ryan and i felt so out of everything.. cause...
    whereamigoing whereamigoing
    18-21, M
    4 Responses May 14, 2008

    I Don't Know How To Stop?

    I’ve obsessively compared all aspects of myself to other people all my life. I suppose it was a part of the way that I was raised, having been raised a perfectionist and made to believe that I am unworthy unless I am perfect. Stopping this is so hard for me. I don’t know how...
    AspergersandMe AspergersandMe
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Feb 17, 2012

    My Oh-look-she-is-younger-and-does-it-perfect-sister

     My mom, always copares us. She says she doesnt, but she does.  I hate it, because she always talks to me about how kind and intelligent my sister is. She is Miss Popular, and has had really handsome boyfriends, since kindergarden. She is all my mother wanted as a...
    IhateyouMom IhateyouMom
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Sep 12, 2009

    Any one else have this issue?

    It's the worst with my boyfriend exes... Any one who can help me fix this problem??
    haleyhazy haleyhazy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 27, 2014

    I am always comparing myself to others in terms

    of beauty, trying to get myself to unattainable standards while looking at my peers. I try to be skinnier than them, prettier than them, dress cuter than them... I don't like this way of thinking because it often causes me to whine to any S/O about how there's so many other...
    leatherkisses leatherkisses
    16-17, F
    Oct 30, 2015

    It's My True Downfall.....

    I compare myself constantly to others and worry all the time if I see differences between me and someone of a similar age. I am almost 27 and constantly feel as though something is amiss. Like I should be married and with kids by now but not feeling entirely ready for that and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jul 14, 2012

    It Is Wrong And I Know It. Just Do Not Ever Do It, People!!!

    There's just one thing I always compare myself to others about - looks and beauty. Yep, that's it. I am 15, female, and I've always dreamt of being the most gorgeous girl ever. Yet in 2008 I was hurt very badly by a boy I still am madly in love with, and he totally changed my...
    xSapphire xSapphire
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2010

    I Always Compare Myself With Others

    am a doctor.just finished ug.now onto my pg.since i was 12yrs old i have been comparing myself to others on almost everything.and i feel burning pain deep within me.i always wanted to come out of this feeling but just couldn help myself..such thoughts unknowingly creeps into my...
    feelontop feelontop
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2011

    I am constantly doing it.

    I am extremely self conscious though, that plays a big part in it, I always think other girls are prettier, nicer skin, a better figure. I am working on trying to stop but I think it's human nature to compare ourselves to others, even if we don't have self esteem issues.
    GamerDustBunny GamerDustBunny
    26-30, F
    Apr 26, 2014

    I see myself as weak

    and everyone is better than me. If I can do it anyone can, although I do know that it is realistic.
    persononinternet persononinternet
    18-21, M
    Jan 11, 2014

    Not Good Enough

    It recently began. The always trying to find something about someone else that I didnt have & I wanted.I can find anyone on the face of the earth and come up with at least one thing they have I dont, but I wish I had..I feel so worthless. Nothing is good enough.I compare myself...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit
    18-21, F
    Aug 1, 2012

    And I Mean Always

    In everything i do i compare myself to others. Whether it is in appearance, intelligence, financially, or in my career or even just everyday life. I am convinced in the vast majority of these areas i feel as if i am extremely inferior to most people. The only area i am equal to...
    ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick
    46-50, M
    14 Responses Jan 25, 2009

    its almost as if my brain is wired to do that.

    i cant help it. i started comparing myself to other people when i was in middle school. i didnt really realize my appearance until the 6th grade when someone shouted to me across the playground that i was ugly in front of everyone. i went home and cried that day and its been...
    Aeril Aeril
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2015

    Unhappy With Myself

    i'm always comparing myself to other people always saying "why cant i look like him" blablabla mostly famous people i know people say "oh you shouldn't compare yourself to others" but it just seems so natural for me, i am so unhappy with myself :/ i hope this feeling goes away
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    The Best In Others and the Worst In Myself

    I have always had at least somewhat of a difficult time with this problem of comparing myself to other people.  Whether it was in high school where I compared myself to the cool, jock types who always knew the right thing to say, to where I am now in college where I have...
    collegeguy collegeguy
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2008
    powerStorm powerStorm
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2015

    And Especially To My Sister.

    My usual day:I wake up, dress, go downstairs. I have breakfast with my sister, because we're the only ones who have to leave earlier. I compare mines to hers:My breakfast contains whole grain bread with smoked chicken breast/muesli with yoghurt/ oatmeal, some fruit, usually milk...
    Hoshii Hoshii
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 29, 2011

    It's a Bad Habit

    but sometimes I can't help feeling jealous and wish I was like the person I'm comparing myself to. So, I understand how you feel.
    MySweetLord MySweetLord
    36-40, F
    Oct 4, 2009

    My few friends that I made at college have all

    moved away and have successful and happy lives...then there's me still living at home, unemployed, unmotivated to pursue a career simply because I do not know what to do with my life. I always compare myself to other people my age. Seems like it was so easy for everyone else to...
    citrustree citrustree
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2014

    It makes me feel.very much like a loser.

    Especially to see their fb posts amd pictures of how they are enjoy life.and bc of my circumstances i cant do much
    usernameagain9 usernameagain9
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 25, 2015

    I always end being the inferior too.

    I should stop doing this. I mean, life sucks and it sucks to be me and there is no need to compare. My life won't improve if I do that. I will only hurt myself by desiring what I can't achieve or get. Knowing that doesn't not help me stop though.
    SoulCoffee SoulCoffee
    26-30, M
    Aug 14, 2015

    My Boyfriend Looks Better Than Me...

    Literally. he has it ALL. a cute face, nice toned 6 pack, broad ... thick muscles & hes VERY flexible. Me? I have a huge nose, stretch marks on mu hips & Butt from God knows what & a Teeny bit of a pot belly. We haven't really been in public together, & he talks about hanging...
    lovelustandpixiedust lovelustandpixiedust
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jun 5, 2012

    I constantly compare myself to others about

    everything and anything. It is an exhausting battle and I am constantly trying to not compare. I am just tired of it all really.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 23

    even though I can't be another person

    and change myself but I do
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 25

    I never think I'm good enough I always compare

    myself to other people thinking I can be better
    babymac babymac
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 23, 2014

    I literally compare myself to this one person

    everyday. It's destroying my self confidence.
    foreveryoursj foreveryoursj
    18-21, F
    Dec 24, 2013

    When You Always Compare Yourself To Others...you Always Feel Like Everyones Better Than You.

    I always compare myself to other people. I just started doing it this year. It's mostly about looks. When I'm at school, and I see a pretty girl who people seem to like, I constantly think about how she is better than me and how she isn't.For example, I'll see a girl and think to...
    madx1996 madx1996
    13-15
    1 Response Dec 19, 2011

    You to Me Is As Pirate to ______

    This is just something I'm constantly doing in my head. What are they better at than me? How would I have done something differently? Are they smarter than me? Stronger than me? Faster than me? I don't really know if I'd go as far as to call it a competition inside my brain...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jun 17, 2008

    I am extremely insecure

    because I always compare myself to others. I never feel good enough.
    ashleeley ashleeley
    18-21, F
    Feb 5, 2014

    On The Road

    It's this inevitable and annoying part of me. I can't perform the simplest tasks sometimes, without being drowned in the sea of other people's opinions. And other people's standards.I signed up into this driving school last summer. I did all the necessary tests and all that...
    funereal1134 funereal1134
    18-21, M
    Jan 28, 2012

    Nevar That.

    why would i? there is only one me, i dont wanna be like any other, for i know that im waaay more different then most people. to keep this short - i like me, **** you're ways. =D -JB
    Doxtah Doxtah
    26-30, M
    4 Responses May 4, 2011

    You should never compare yourself to another

    human being. Or if you do do so with a grain of salt because it's not gonna go well. You should never compare yourself to someone you believe to be better than you whether it be through their looks, how many friends they have or how smart they are. Don't do it! If you compare...
    Raptax231 Raptax231
    22-25, M
    Aug 20, 2015

    It's Just Me!

    I have had self confidence issues since I was little. I have always comapred myself with others. I find that I still do this to this day. I know I shouldn't thought it's had to stop something that you've been doing your whole life. I am now getting better at not comparing myself...
    eastsidechick eastsidechick
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 29, 2007

    It Makes Me Feel Hopeless

    I don't do it always, but once in a while is enough to get me hopeless and sad. It usually happens when I am missing very much something in my life. Then I look around for examples of people who have it and I start to compare. I see how different these people are from me and I...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 4, 2009

    I constantly compare myself to others

    and try to behave like them. My friend Melissa is an amazing woman but in my head she is perfect. Our friendship started as me wanting to know her, then wanting to be friends, and now I want to be her. Its so frustrating because I used to think I was good at things but now it...
    TryingToLoveLifeNow TryingToLoveLifeNow
    18-21, F
    Jan 13

    I Compare Myself To Celebrities

    I am the type of person who idolizes and obsesses over celebrities, and it makes me who I am, but I am always looking at them thinking how I will never be as beautiful as them, or how I will never be with someone that beautiful. I don't care what others think of my appearance as...
    retrogagafreak retrogagafreak
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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