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I Always Compare Myself to Other People

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    And I Mean Always

    In everything i do i compare myself to others. Whether it is in appearance, intelligence, financially, or in my career or even just everyday life. I am convinced in the vast majority of these areas i feel as if i am extremely inferior to most people. The only area i am equal to...
    ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick 46-50, M 14 Responses Jan 25, 2009

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    I literally compare myself to this one person

    everyday. It's destroying my self confidence.
    foreveryoursj foreveryoursj 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    I Don't Know Why

    I always compare myself to others. I never feel like I am good enough. I always have a preconceived notion that everyone else is looking at me, judging me, and laughing at me. I tend to believe that everyone I meet is so much better than me, and has a better life, and are...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 31, 2009

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    My Own Worst Enemy

    I am my own worst enemy when it comes to this.  I surely don't get prideful when comparing myself to others.  I often turn the other way.  I find ways to hate myself more and wish I could change.
    troubled28 troubled28 26-30, F Sep 18, 2007

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    I almost always compare myself to other people.

    I always wonder if I am as good as someone else, as smart, as pretty, as sexy as someone else. Throughout my life, I have been put down for this, or that, and have always wished that I was someone else, someone better.
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    The "Other Woman"

    My boyfriend and I had a horrible rough patch two years ago. He left me for someone else for a couple months. Before he left, he would always compare me to this person. I still think about her everyday. I feel trapped.
    paperalias paperalias 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2007

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    It's Just Me!

    I have had self confidence issues since I was little. I have always comapred myself with others. I find that I still do this to this day. I know I shouldn't thought it's had to stop something that you've been doing your whole life. I am now getting better at not comparing myself...
    eastsidechick eastsidechick 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2007

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    It Makes Me Feel Hopeless

    I don't do it always, but once in a while is enough to get me hopeless and sad. It usually happens when I am missing very much something in my life. Then I look around for examples of people who have it and I start to compare. I see how different these people are from me and I...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    Measuring Up?

    It's interesting that I've been doing mostly negative comparisons rather than positive ones, even if the positive ones are there.  For this reason, comparing fuels a lot of my self-improvement projects. (this is both a good and a not so good thing) I zoom in on the aspects...
    SilverLinedShadows SilverLinedShadows 22-25 2 Responses Jun 17, 2009

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    I Always Compare Myself With Others

    am a doctor.just finished ug.now onto my pg.since i was 12yrs old i have been comparing myself to others on almost everything.and i feel burning pain deep within me.i always wanted to come out of this feeling but just couldn help myself..such thoughts unknowingly creeps into my...
    feelontop feelontop 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2011

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    One of My Faults

    One of my faults and it's something that I wish I wouldn't do.  Especially when they are ricker, prettier etc.
    mysticmum mysticmum 36-40, F Aug 19, 2007

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    :/

    About once a month I will get on myspace and look at Chris's girlfriend's page. That is how I found out they were back together and that is how I found out they are living together. I guess I think that one day I will find something on there that will make me not care about him...
    FeistyRoadrunner FeistyRoadrunner 19-21, F 6 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    It's natural. I look at

    that girls hair and wonder why mine doesn't look like it. I compare my thighs to the girl next to me. I do it all the time!
    lillylolz lillylolz 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    Not Good Enough

    It recently began. The always trying to find something about someone else that I didnt have & I wanted.I can find anyone on the face of the earth and come up with at least one thing they have I dont, but I wish I had..I feel so worthless. Nothing is good enough.I compare myself...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F Aug 1, 2012

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    On The Road

    It's this inevitable and annoying part of me. I can't perform the simplest tasks sometimes, without being drowned in the sea of other people's opinions. And other people's standards.I signed up into this driving school last summer. I did all the necessary tests and all that...
    funereal1134 funereal1134 18-21, M Jan 28, 2012

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    My Boyfriend Looks Better Than Me...

    Literally. he has it ALL. a cute face, nice toned 6 pack, broad ... thick muscles & hes VERY flexible. Me? I have a huge nose, stretch marks on mu hips & Butt from God knows what & a Teeny bit of a pot belly. We haven't really been in public together, & he talks about hanging...
    lovelustandpixiedust lovelustandpixiedust 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    When You Always Compare Yourself To Others...you Always Feel Like Everyones Better Than You.

    I always compare myself to other people. I just started doing it this year. It's mostly about looks. When I'm at school, and I see a pretty girl who people seem to like, I constantly think about how she is better than me and how she isn't.For example, I'll see a girl and think to...
    madx1996 madx1996 13-15 1 Response Dec 19, 2011

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    I Don't Know How To Stop?

    I’ve obsessively compared all aspects of myself to other people all my life. I suppose it was a part of the way that I was raised, having been raised a perfectionist and made to believe that I am unworthy unless I am perfect. Stopping this is so hard for me. I don’t know how...
    AspergersandMe AspergersandMe 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 17, 2012

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    And Especially To My Sister.

    My usual day:I wake up, dress, go downstairs. I have breakfast with my sister, because we're the only ones who have to leave earlier. I compare mines to hers:My breakfast contains whole grain bread with smoked chicken breast/muesli with yoghurt/ oatmeal, some fruit, usually milk...
    Hoshii Hoshii 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2011

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    I Always Always Always Think I'M Fat, Ugly And Worthless.

      I'm sixteen years old. Junior in high school. Dancer, singer, actor and photographer. I have this little issue, I know all these beautiful girls, my BEST friend i've known for 7 years is maybe the most absolutly beautiful most perfect girl on this planet both inside and...
    ItsToriaMaroonHere ItsToriaMaroonHere 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2013

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    Worthless

    I compare myself to almost everyone around me on a daily basis. I look at characteristics, abilities and talents that they have and wish that I had them. Despite this I still do nothing to improve myself or bring myself up to other peoples' standards. 
    zebedee236 zebedee236 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    You to Me Is As Pirate to ______

    This is just something I'm constantly doing in my head. What are they better at than me? How would I have done something differently? Are they smarter than me? Stronger than me? Faster than me? I don't really know if I'd go as far as to call it a competition inside my brain...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 17, 2008

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    It's a Bad Habit

    but sometimes I can't help feeling jealous and wish I was like the person I'm comparing myself to. So, I understand how you feel.
    MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F Oct 4, 2009

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    A Bad Habit

    Yes... I often do this... I try not to. I should be happy with just being myself. I am unique and nerdy. :-D But every now and then, I'll see some girl with a cool outfit on or some really cool boots. And I'll start comparing myself... I'll look at my own clothes and try to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 25, 2009

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    And It Hurts.

    I do this so often it's like my form of cutting.  Everyone I meet seems prettier, cooler, more successful, or whatever than me, and I walk away feeling like a failure at everythinig I do.
    jansarin jansarin 31-35, T 1 Response Jun 14, 2010

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    Always Do

     I always compare myself with others. Mainly on how they are better looking then me and aren't as big as me I also do this with what kind of clothes they are wearing. I have always done this. And whenever I do this I get so upset about myself I can't think straight and I...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F Jun 18, 2008

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    yes Sadly I Do But Then I K...

    yes sadly I do but then I know it's better not to.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 7, 2009

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    I Do It Too Much..

    i compare myself to everyone in a negative way. actually it gets me pretty depressed in conversation. my mind kind of goes blank, can't decide who to be. i feel like i have no foundation. like today i met up with my friends ross and ryan and i felt so out of everything.. cause...
    whereamigoing whereamigoing 18-21, M 4 Responses May 14, 2008

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    Cant Help But Feel Lower

    i cant help but feel lower down to some people, i mean some people just must be better than me, so if i ever look at a person, i will see how wrongly different i am to them, rather than rightly. i know you cant really be right or wrong in comparision to a person, but i feel you...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F Aug 17, 2007

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    I see perfect guys everywhere.

    Blue eyes. Blonde hair. Perfect face. Then I see myself and think "why am i so ugly?" "Why can't i be them?" "i don't want to live being this ugly" I really wish I could be half as perfect as the guys I see. I just wish
    LSFFx3 LSFFx3 13-15, M 3 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Unhappy With Myself

    i'm always comparing myself to other people always saying "why cant i look like him" blablabla mostly famous people i know people say "oh you shouldn't compare yourself to others" but it just seems so natural for me, i am so unhappy with myself :/ i hope this feeling goes away
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    It Is Wrong And I Know It. Just Do Not Ever Do It, People!!!

    There's just one thing I always compare myself to others about - looks and beauty. Yep, that's it. I am 15, female, and I've always dreamt of being the most gorgeous girl ever. Yet in 2008 I was hurt very badly by a boy I still am madly in love with, and he totally changed my...
    xSapphire xSapphire 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    It's My True Downfall.....

    I compare myself constantly to others and worry all the time if I see differences between me and someone of a similar age. I am almost 27 and constantly feel as though something is amiss. Like I should be married and with kids by now but not feeling entirely ready for that and...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 14, 2012

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    I see myself as weak

    and everyone is better than me. If I can do it anyone can, although I do know that it is realistic.
    persononinternet persononinternet 16-17, M Jan 11

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    It's a Massive Fault of Mine

    I've always compared myself to others.  It has served to comfort me and help my esteem (favorable comparisons) - at the same time it serves to motivate (when I compare myself unfavorably to others).  This awful, judgmental behavior has trashed my self-image and self...
    yukonpete yukonpete 36-40 1 Response Jun 7, 2009

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    Oy Vey!

    That's one of my vices, comparing myself to other people. It really gets in my way.  Instead of focusing on my own work, making my work better, I'll look around me, see what other people are doing, and copy them.  In orchestra, chamber music, etc.  It became this...
    periola periola 22-25, F Mar 28, 2008

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    My Grandmother...

    sadly died on November 2. I was pretty tore up about it. However, even though she had 5 grandchildren, i think she liked to believe she only had one. My 16 year old cousin, Katie. My grandmother would tell me how perfect Katie was and how perfect Katie is. She did everything for...
    MagicGirlfriend90 MagicGirlfriend90 16-18, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    I Compare Myself To Celebrities

    I am the type of person who idolizes and obsesses over celebrities, and it makes me who I am, but I am always looking at them thinking how I will never be as beautiful as them, or how I will never be with someone that beautiful. I don't care what others think of my appearance as...
    retrogagafreak retrogagafreak 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    Negative Thinking

     i compare myself to so many people in so many ways ...  well what if i did this like they did ...  i look in the mirror at myself and im sooo  just so disgusted with how pale i am ... and how my legs look ... i have a huge issue w/ my legs .. im seeing the...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Sep 23, 2007

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    My Siblings Especially

    My sister is beautiful. When people I know meet her, they ask "Are you two even related?" because we really look nothing alike. She had braces and now her teeth are fixed. The municipality didn't have the funds for mine, so my teeth aren't. My brother had his teeth fixed too and...
    hutre hutre 22-25 Dec 14, 2010

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    I am extremely insecure

    because I always compare myself to others. I never feel good enough.
    ashleeley ashleeley 16-17, F Feb 5

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    It's a Bad Habit

    but sometimes I can't help feeling jealous and wish I was like the person I'm comparing myself to. So, I understand how you feel.
    MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F Oct 4, 2009

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    People Like Me But I Don't

    random people always notice things about me that they like but i don't like myself all the time like i should i hate myself most of the time actually and i'm always noticing everything about other people that's better than it is with me...whether i like their personality or...
    Loganberry Loganberry 16-18, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2007

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    I Do

    i always compare myself to other people at work .  my strength . my goals and there goals and vice versa.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 18, 2009

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    The Best In Others and the Worst In Myself

    I have always had at least somewhat of a difficult time with this problem of comparing myself to other people.  Whether it was in high school where I compared myself to the cool, jock types who always knew the right thing to say, to where I am now in college where I have...
    collegeguy collegeguy 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 16, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I once read an interesting perspective about the people you will encounter in your life, it states: "25% of people you meet: will never like you; 25% of people you meet: won't...
    FussBox FussBox 26-30, F Apr 7

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    i hate giving myself feedback, so i always look to others opinions on how they see me and how i did, i guess i value others opinions when i ask
    Hemanwar Hemanwar 18-21, M Mar 27

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    I've always been kind of shy and quiet around strangers, but I can be really outgoing, ambitious, and I want to help whoever I can, whenever I can. Since I've always had a close...
    wintermyracle wintermyracle 16-17 Apr 14

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    ive always figured that others see me as just a burden that they hate me and want me to die. they always say they don't but i don't trust anyone enough to belive that i hope i'm...
    BenjaminChapman BenjaminChapman 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 6

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    I wish I could perceive myself from the point of view of other people. I can certainly imagine it. I'm not without empathy. But I wish I could really get inside someone's head and...
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    I have always cared about how people see me. I'm sure a lot of people do. I have a lot of secrets that I don't share with even my closest friends because I don't want to be judged...
    Culinaryman23 Culinaryman23 22-25, M 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I am unsure if I can read other people's minds but I do have a gift that others seem to think is mind-reading. It has happened often enough in my life. I will say something out...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    I wonder how warped my perception of how other people see me is or if its warped at all
    Kasney Kasney 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I wish I could discipline other people
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    I feel my parents love my older brother more than me. Even though they've never said so, even though they rarely directly compares me to my brother - I know they do, all the time...
    dysfori dysfori 16-17, M