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I Always Fall For People Who Are Unavailable Or Don't Like Me

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    FreeNbreezy FreeNbreezy 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    Loving Unavailable People

    All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...
    oskiesmom oskiesmom 46-50 7 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    It's definitely more

    so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story. The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F Apr 19

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    I Too, Have Noticed This Pattern In My Life

    I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me. A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    To Be Expected...

    "Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!" Are you married? Check. Do you have a girlfriend? Check. Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check. Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check. The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    Flirting With Disaster

    Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.." He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...
    PollySyllabacus PollySyllabacus 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    C-note

    Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...
    GooderThanB4 GooderThanB4 26-30, M May 3, 2012

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    I've spent years analyzing my ****** love life

    and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious: I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why) I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself... It...
    MissMojo MissMojo 18-21, F Jan 6

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    I have this habit of falling

    for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    Stalker Boyfriend

    I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend.  He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her.  When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...
    trucktippingover trucktippingover 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2010

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    Everything I Desire Is Hurting Me.

    I have had it up to here. I will no longer pursue, or even peruse, the impossible.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    Has anyone sorted out

    why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me. They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...
    idonotwantausername1024 idonotwantausername1024 36-40, F Mar 9

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    So Frustrating

    Ive been in so  many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted.  And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...
    jojo31 jojo31 31-35, F Aug 31, 2011

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    Emotionally Unavailable

    Yup, I can sure pick them.  I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me.  Two of them loved me.  The other guy liked me. Now I...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M May 27

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    Everyone That I Have A Crush On Is Unavailable :(

    1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...
    energizerbunnay energizerbunnay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    Is It A Result Of Being Unavailable Myself?

    I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too. I don't know. I...
    notnownotever notnownotever 18-21, F Jul 2, 2013

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    The Road Not Taken

    I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...
    scarsmart scarsmart 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    What Motivates You To Seek The Unavailable

    Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...
    finity finity 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    ....and I Am In The Situation Now

    Have been for 5 years.  Same woman.  What the eff is wrong with me?  I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me.  Yeah, I...
    Icarus2006 Icarus2006 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    He's Confused And He Confused Me Too.

    I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else. He...
    anushka98 anushka98 13-15, F Nov 21, 2013

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    Story Of My Life For Real

    I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    I'm In Love With A Married Guy

    I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally  love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(
    rainbow82 rainbow82 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    I don't know how to feel.

    Is it obsession or something real when you can't think about anyone else but this one person, when your day is not fulfilled until you've seen them, spoken with them, laughed at a silly passing joke? Is it something my mind has concocted to pass the time, something to strive for...
    AxDisorientedxMind AxDisorientedxMind 22-25, F May 31

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    My Curse

    As a lesbian among straight girls,could it be any other way?
    PantherShadow PantherShadow 13-15, F Oct 12, 2009

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    They're either married,

    emotionally unavailable or aren't interested in me because of their sexual orientation. It's like I subconsciously scope out the people in a room who are completely unavailable.
    beautyofuncertainty beautyofuncertainty 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    No Good Explanation

    I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident.  But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend.  In either case, they're...
    Startnew Startnew 46-50, F Oct 11, 2009

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    I just had a friend booted from collage cos she couldn't pass the tests. She is the nicest person i ever met and deserves the best in life. I feel so sorry for her.
    bw32 bw32 31-35, M 3 days ago

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    I used to really care but what's it going to matter in the future? All the people that says they don't like me never has a good reason, and I still don't care. Because they don't...
    icecreamsoda icecreamsoda 16-17, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good...
    Sophie119 Sophie119 18-21, F Oct 13

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    Does anyone else stand up to it? I remember when I was in primary school and I was bullied! some kicks to the jaws even! from 17 year olds! then that day I decided to stand up to...
    shadowhunter221 shadowhunter221 13-15, M 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Stereotypes aren't based on the colour of our skin or the beliefs of the afterlife or the chromosomes we inherited or even the disability badges we hold. Stereotypes are based on...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    I am s closet lesbian myself and when people who are close to me say something offensive about homosexuality, it upsets me. they don't realise the damage they are cause around them...
    chlo3ann3 chlo3ann3 13-15, F 4 Responses Oct 4

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    “Don’t think too high of anyone. A person is a person. No matter how perfect they may appear, none are flawless on this earth. Don’t think someone can understand you more...
    pashey pashey 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 1

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    They have a sense to them that anything can and will happen. They are the blank, infinite canvas, always waiting to be filled with more amazing things. For those who are spiritual...
    TheDragonPriest TheDragonPriest 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 4

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    I don't like people who make fun of anyone else period. It shows an embarrassing lack of ...humanity.
    niklb niklb 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 3

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    I admire people who are real and true. I admire people who aren't afraid to stand up for who they are. I believe if you're faking who you are, you're just making the impression...
    drinksandflowers drinksandflowers 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 6

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    People who are open minded are just great people to hangout with. They tend to be more nice and more understanding and welling to try something new. So it's great to have friends...
    Custos1 Custos1 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 10

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    I know the title is I don't like my in laws but I it should be my in laws don't like me .... I guess you could say I have a different name which I don't care to share but these...
    BlackWidow65 BlackWidow65 18-21, F Oct 17

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    I'm focused on getting mula , 💵 sittin' pretty , getting a good education and staying blessed 🙏 . Your opinion of me is worth $0.00 and it costs $0.00 to keep it in your head...
    ThePrettyOnee ThePrettyOnee 13-15, F 9 hrs ago

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    I love people who aren't scared to be themselves even if people might think there weird!
    YoungJoseM YoungJoseM 18-21, M Oct 5

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    I really love my parents. For me they are so precious that i hope i will never let them down. As long as i can, i will do what they ask me to do, especially what my mom want. But i...
    meandmythought meandmythought 26-30, F Oct 22

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    i like people who are open minded. Because they can understand our confusion.
    POO74 POO74 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I really don't like one of my closest friends anymore. Honestly, she's done a lot of things that I don't like. Last year, she consantly told me that I should tell the guy I like I...
    p3ppermint p3ppermint 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Look at me, look at me! Does this look like a face that gives a **** if you don't like me? I'll give you a hint: NO! I don't want people to like me anyway! It means I'm not doing...
    ThereIsNoName ThereIsNoName 31-35, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Tip: if you don't like what I post don't read it. Or better yet, block me. Idc.
    CoveringThePain CoveringThePain 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    i don't know why but i know that it is better for some 1 who will love me i don't want him to remember me or i just don't like take picture huh i don't know why huh tell me your...
    poker7777 poker7777 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 6

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    My parents recently just asked me a pretty good question.....why I always drink so much and take so many damn pills. I said the first thing that came to my head, "Because I hate...
    SonofSomebody SonofSomebody 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    I don't like the word "tolerate" because it sounds negative. I don't like how people use it I guess. They can tolerate a person but can't accept them. 
    WhatTheFrenchToast WhatTheFrenchToast 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I don't like depending on people because people leave all the time. Because at the end of the day, all you have is yourself and that has to be enough.
    Aubreyxoxoxo Aubreyxoxoxo 16-17, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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