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I Always Fall For People Who Are Unavailable Or Don't Like Me

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    FreeNbreezy FreeNbreezy 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    My Curse

    As a lesbian among straight girls,could it be any other way?
    PantherShadow PantherShadow 13-15, F Oct 12, 2009

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    Is It A Result Of Being Unavailable Myself?

    I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too. I don't know. I...
    notnownotever notnownotever 18-21, F Jul 2, 2013

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    Everyone That I Have A Crush On Is Unavailable :(

    1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...
    energizerbunnay energizerbunnay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    Everything I Desire Is Hurting Me.

    I have had it up to here. I will no longer pursue, or even peruse, the impossible.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    C-note

    Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...
    GooderThanB4 GooderThanB4 26-30, M May 3, 2012

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    Story Of My Life For Real

    I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    What Motivates You To Seek The Unavailable

    Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...
    finity finity 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    I'm In Love With A Married Guy

    I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally  love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(
    rainbow82 rainbow82 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    To Be Expected...

    "Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!" Are you married? Check. Do you have a girlfriend? Check. Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check. Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check. The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    Flirting With Disaster

    Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.." He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...
    PollySyllabacus PollySyllabacus 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    Loving Unavailable People

    All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...
    oskiesmom oskiesmom 46-50 7 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    So Frustrating

    Ive been in so  many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted.  And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...
    jojo31 jojo31 31-35, F Aug 31, 2011

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    They're either married,

    emotionally unavailable or aren't interested in me because of their sexual orientation. It's like I subconsciously scope out the people in a room who are completely unavailable.
    beautyofuncertainty beautyofuncertainty 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    I've spent years analyzing my ****** love life

    and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious: I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why) I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself... It...
    MissMojo MissMojo 18-21, F Jan 6

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    He's Confused And He Confused Me Too.

    I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else. He...
    anushka98 anushka98 13-15, F Nov 21, 2013

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    I Too, Have Noticed This Pattern In My Life

    I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me. A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    Has anyone sorted out

    why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me. They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...
    idonotwantausername1024 idonotwantausername1024 36-40, F Mar 9

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    Stalker Boyfriend

    I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend.  He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her.  When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...
    trucktippingover trucktippingover 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2010

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    No Good Explanation

    I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident.  But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend.  In either case, they're...
    Startnew Startnew 46-50, F Oct 11, 2009

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    I have this habit of falling

    for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    Emotionally Unavailable

    Yup, I can sure pick them.  I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me.  Two of them loved me.  The other guy liked me. Now I...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    ....and I Am In The Situation Now

    Have been for 5 years.  Same woman.  What the eff is wrong with me?  I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me.  Yeah, I...
    Icarus2006 Icarus2006 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    I don't know how to feel.

    Is it obsession or something real when you can't think about anyone else but this one person, when your day is not fulfilled until you've seen them, spoken with them, laughed at a silly passing joke? Is it something my mind has concocted to pass the time, something to strive for...
    AxDisorientedxMind AxDisorientedxMind 22-25, F May 31

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    It's definitely more

    so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story. The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F Apr 19

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    The Road Not Taken

    I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...
    scarsmart scarsmart 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M May 27

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    I am 29 and finally admitting to myself that I don't like or really love my father. On paper he's the perfect Dad. Despite the divorce with my Mum and periods of separation he...
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    I love my mother, but I definitely don't like her. She doesn't talk to me much, and when she does, she says things that breaks me down. She talks a lot more to her lover than to...
    InLoveWithDarkness InLoveWithDarkness 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Why do people always want me to chase them ? Message them ... Call them ... Keep asking them if they wanna talk to me or not ... I don't like it . Stop talking to me I'm that...
    Hardeepsinghkallu Hardeepsinghkallu 16-17, M 2 Responses Sep 7

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    I keep distance from political and religious leaders since they preach one thing and practice in different ways. I love simple people who are open minded and sincere in deeds and...
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    I really feel that ppl come here because they have their own problems. .they want to share their feelings with others. .or try to forget their pain for some items. ..sometimes they...
    Smunai Smunai 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I don't like it when people treat me one way when I'm alone with them, than if we were around others or in public. I'm the same person no matter what. Are they ashamed of me...
    Saram1985 Saram1985 26-30, F Sep 5

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    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm 57 years old and I still don't understand why "We" lie? Are we embarrassed? Are we ashamed? Or is it pride? What ever the reason, I don't like it and I really don't think...
    PhotoJose PhotoJose 56-60, M 1 Response Aug 31

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    Over years I've had my share of break ups and people leaving. I've learned one thing from,people leaving me. They hate being chased after. It's hard for someone like me,I tend to...
    rosesee rosesee 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 7

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    The epidemic levels of school violence tell me that more and more kids are growing up without a conscience. TV is their mother and father, and TV says if someone does something you...
    missbellelettres missbellelettres 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 10

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    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Spare me all the self absorbed flowery meanderings. And, permit me :- "I don't like poetry, actually". There, no 'Star Trek' split infinitive now.
    SLdale SLdale 51-55, M Sep 5

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    I really don't like snakes. Warning to all you snakes out there: Come near me, I'll kill you!
    letmespoo4u letmespoo4u 51-55, M Sep 7

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    Lekat Lekat 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    When someone is not open minded they do not change. They become self centered and believe they are always right. If someone does not have an open mind then they will always want...
    NameIsMailbox NameIsMailbox 13-15, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Last night I decided to go out with my cousin who I haven't spoke to in what feels like years. We use to be very close and told each other everything. Im surprised that we both...
    Monoka14 Monoka14 18-21, F Sep 6

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    I don't lol. I have done law and philosophy so am used to people being able to argue. A guy who refuses to see that his point could be wrong... or who believes if he just raises...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    Some years ago I took part in a workshop called Actualization - focusing on supporting people to be more "actual" - or, actually who they are - no more no less. This doesnt mean...
    ToniaMV ToniaMV 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    Why do so some people who have backyards never use them? Instead, they insist on doing everything out front, on the porch, and annoy the hell out of me and the rest of the block in...
    Cristofori Cristofori 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    Fighting My Own Demons The greatest enemy is the ego. I learned, it demands to act out without considering the people around and the consequences. It makes you forget wisdom. It...