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I Always Fall For People Who Are Unavailable Or Don't Like Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 364 People

    So Frustrating

    Ive been in so  many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted.  And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...
    jojo31 jojo31 31-35, F Aug 31, 2011

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    Everything I Desire Is Hurting Me.

    I have had it up to here. I will no longer pursue, or even peruse, the impossible.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    I've spent years analyzing my ****** love life

    and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious: I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why) I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself... It...
    MissMojo MissMojo 18-21, F Jan 6

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    Loving Unavailable People

    All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...
    oskiesmom oskiesmom 46-50 7 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    Has anyone sorted out

    why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me. They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...
    idonotwantausername1024 idonotwantausername1024 36-40, F Mar 9

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    Story Of My Life For Real

    I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    No Good Explanation

    I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident.  But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend.  In either case, they're...
    Startnew Startnew 46-50, F Oct 11, 2009

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    C-note

    Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...
    GooderThanB4 GooderThanB4 26-30, M May 3, 2012

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    Everyone That I Have A Crush On Is Unavailable :(

    1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...
    energizerbunnay energizerbunnay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    He's Confused And He Confused Me Too.

    I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else. He...
    anushka98 anushka98 13-15, F Nov 21, 2013

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    My Curse

    As a lesbian among straight girls,could it be any other way?
    PantherShadow PantherShadow 13-15, F Oct 12, 2009

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    I Too, Have Noticed This Pattern In My Life

    I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me. A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    I have this habit of falling

    for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    To Be Expected...

    "Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!" Are you married? Check. Do you have a girlfriend? Check. Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check. Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check. The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    ....and I Am In The Situation Now

    Have been for 5 years.  Same woman.  What the eff is wrong with me?  I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me.  Yeah, I...
    Icarus2006 Icarus2006 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    Emotionally Unavailable

    Yup, I can sure pick them.  I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me.  Two of them loved me.  The other guy liked me. Now I...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    It's definitely more

    so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story. The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F Apr 19

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    I don't know how to feel.

    Is it obsession or something real when you can't think about anyone else but this one person, when your day is not fulfilled until you've seen them, spoken with them, laughed at a silly passing joke? Is it something my mind has concocted to pass the time, something to strive for...
    AxDisorientedxMind AxDisorientedxMind 22-25, F May 31

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    What Motivates You To Seek The Unavailable

    Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...
    finity finity 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    Flirting With Disaster

    Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.." He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...
    PollySyllabacus PollySyllabacus 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    I'm In Love With A Married Guy

    I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally  love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(
    rainbow82 rainbow82 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    The Road Not Taken

    I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...
    scarsmart scarsmart 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    They're either married,

    emotionally unavailable or aren't interested in me because of their sexual orientation. It's like I subconsciously scope out the people in a room who are completely unavailable.
    beautyofuncertainty beautyofuncertainty 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Is It A Result Of Being Unavailable Myself?

    I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too. I don't know. I...
    notnownotever notnownotever 18-21, F Jul 2, 2013

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    FreeNbreezy FreeNbreezy 41-45, F Feb 4

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    Stalker Boyfriend

    I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend.  He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her.  When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...
    trucktippingover trucktippingover 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I just had a friend booted from collage cos she couldn't pass the tests. She is the nicest person i ever met and deserves the best in life. I feel so sorry for her.
    bw32 bw32 31-35, M Oct 27

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    I used to really care but what's it going to matter in the future? All the people that says they don't like me never has a good reason, and I still don't care. Because they don't...
    icecreamsoda icecreamsoda 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    Its really hard when you've lived with a parent who is so against people who are gay and you are completely for it. You don't want to cause problems so you don't disagree with them...
    Lai96 Lai96 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Does anyone else stand up to it? I remember when I was in primary school and I was bullied! some kicks to the jaws even! from 17 year olds! then that day I decided to stand up to...
    shadowhunter221 shadowhunter221 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 30

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    I don't really get the whole process of doing this? Like who are you to shame someone for being themselves. I feel if you don't like something about yourself change it. And for...
    AshCakes AshCakes 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I don't like it either. You know people say that people fear what they don't understand especially if you can't understand yourself or don't want to, ignoring your true sexual...
    Andrei21 Andrei21 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 5

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    It's not like I don't like eating in front of everybody, but I just don't feel comfortable eating with anyone except my family and my close friends. I always feel like other people...
    eclairec eclairec 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 16

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    So today at school was pj day and I was wearing a baggy pair.. In 7th hour I bent down to grab a book and I guess you could see my boxers. And being the only transgender kid at my...
    crazyhyperkid crazyhyperkid 18-21, M 6 Responses Nov 10

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    I know nobody likes me. I used to be quiet as hell but it just made me an easy target for bullies. I am still shy and socially awkward. I just always assume people don't like me...
    xdarkangelx666 xdarkangelx666 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    Seriously though, grow up. what are we 5? Im not even gay and i don't like it. People do stuff. Get over it
    TheWickedJester TheWickedJester 26-30, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm focused on getting mula , 💵 sittin' pretty , getting a good education and staying blessed 🙏 . Your opinion of me is worth $0.00 and it costs $0.00 to keep it in your head...
    ThePrettyOnee ThePrettyOnee 13-15, F Oct 30

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    I don't like judges either. I don't like how they tell you everything your doing wrong. I don't need you telling me about all the mistakes I made. It can ruin people and make them...
    deathsdestruction deathsdestruction 16-17, M Nov 8

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    Animals are cool and all, and I don't like them being abused. But I care way more about other humans than animals. All this rallying and support could be put towards helping people...
    pinkypie5 pinkypie5 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    Okay so my in laws and I don't get along! They are sneaky, deceptive, fake, and the list could go on and on One example out of many is when I was in the hospital having my...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I hate the image and cage engraved by the ppl who don't like me. I don't like them either but I don't spread my opinions about them. just because my individual experience with them...
    TheAnonymous99 TheAnonymous99 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't like depending on people because people leave all the time. Because at the end of the day, all you have is yourself and that has to be enough.
    Aubreyxoxoxo Aubreyxoxoxo 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    Look at me, look at me! Does this look like a face that gives a **** if you don't like me? I'll give you a hint: NO! I don't want people to like me anyway! It means I'm not doing...
    ThereIsNoName ThereIsNoName 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I think I have an exceptional body and I accept that others think I'm pretty- but it doesn't do me any good. I don't like to see myself in the mirror. I don't like being...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 14

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    When it rains it pours! it's Saturday here in New Zealand, the morning shows signs for complete and utter rain. Don't get me wrong I love the rain because it reminds me we are not...
    Lilian29 Lilian29 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14

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    The thing about public restrooms that bothers me is that there is a little gap on each side of the stall door and that makes it easy for people to see in! I don't like it.
    Sierra346 Sierra346 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    some of my old ex women I don't like running into they as lost it in the head
    marvel901jones marvel901jones 41-45, M a week ago

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    I am who i am, unless your close to me i could care less if you don't like me. Everybody can't like everybody. That would just be boring
    TheWickedJester TheWickedJester 26-30, M 3 days ago

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