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I Always Fall For People Who Are Unavailable Or Don't Like Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 408 People

    I have this habit of falling

    for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2014

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    My Curse

    As a lesbian among straight girls,could it be any other way?
    PantherShadow PantherShadow 13-15, F Oct 12, 2009

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    Is It A Result Of Being Unavailable Myself?

    I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too. I don't know. I...
    notnownotever notnownotever 18-21, F Jul 2, 2013

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    Emotionally Unavailable

    Yup, I can sure pick them.  I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me.  Two of them loved me.  The other guy liked me. Now I...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    He's Confused And He Confused Me Too.

    I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else. He...
    anushka98 anushka98 16-17, F Nov 21, 2013

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    Yes,it has happened on more

    than one occasion.The last person i fell for I really did think she was,'the one' Perhaps the fact she was a work colleague didn't help matters.Maybe I mistook friendliness for something else.So when she left of course I was devastated.Now I believe she is with someone whom she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 25

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    Loving Unavailable People

    All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...
    oskiesmom oskiesmom 46-50 7 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    ....and I Am In The Situation Now

    Have been for 5 years.  Same woman.  What the eff is wrong with me?  I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me.  Yeah, I...
    Icarus2006 Icarus2006 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    Story Of My Life For Real

    I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    The Road Not Taken

    I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...
    scarsmart scarsmart 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    To Be Expected...

    "Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!" Are you married? Check. Do you have a girlfriend? Check. Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check. Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check. The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    Has anyone sorted out

    why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me. They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...
    idonotwantausername1024 idonotwantausername1024 36-40, F Mar 9, 2014

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    Everything I Desire Is Hurting Me.

    I have had it up to here. I will no longer pursue, or even peruse, the impossible.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    FreeNbreezy FreeNbreezy 41-45, F Feb 4, 2014

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    I Too, Have Noticed This Pattern In My Life

    I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me. A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    What Motivates You To Seek The Unavailable

    Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...
    finity finity 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    I don't know how to feel.

    Is it obsession or something real when you can't think about anyone else but this one person, when your day is not fulfilled until you've seen them, spoken with them, laughed at a silly passing joke? Is it something my mind has concocted to pass the time, something to strive for...
    AxDisorientedxMind AxDisorientedxMind 22-25, F May 31, 2014

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    Everyone That I Have A Crush On Is Unavailable :(

    1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...
    energizerbunnay energizerbunnay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    So Frustrating

    Ive been in so  many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted.  And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...
    jojo31 jojo31 31-35, F Aug 31, 2011

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    I've spent years analyzing my ****** love life

    and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious: I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why) I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself... It...
    MissMojo MissMojo 22-25, F Jan 6, 2014

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    No Good Explanation

    I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident.  But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend.  In either case, they're...
    Startnew Startnew 46-50, F Oct 11, 2009

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    Stalker Boyfriend

    I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend.  He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her.  When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...
    dancingindifference dancingindifference 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2010

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    C-note

    Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...
    GooderThanB4 GooderThanB4 26-30, M May 3, 2012

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    It's definitely more

    so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story. The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F Apr 19, 2014

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    Flirting With Disaster

    Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.." He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...
    PollySyllabacus PollySyllabacus 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    They're either married,

    emotionally unavailable or aren't interested in me because of their sexual orientation. It's like I subconsciously scope out the people in a room who are completely unavailable.
    beautyofuncertainty beautyofuncertainty 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2014

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    I'm In Love With A Married Guy

    I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally  love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(
    rainbow82 rainbow82 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    They ruin it for all the rest of us to the point where I pretend the women that I don't know personally don't exist least they think I'm some creepy perv trying to hit on them
    MsElle88 MsElle88 22-25, M 5 hrs ago

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    Let's start with the beginning: I am the last child of 3. My childhood was not pleasant nor sad. My dad took care of us while my mom was working. My siblings were protecting me and...
    GirlWithNoFamily GirlWithNoFamily 22-25, F 12 hrs ago

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    So I have started doing my girl analy to get around it since I don't want kids right now. It's been going great.
    ApollosArrow ApollosArrow 18-21 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I've been getting this frequently. Someone will message me just saying "hi." Then I message back and then they say "never mind" or don't message me back at all afterwards. If you...
    musicman99 musicman99 22-25, M 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    What the hell do I do? My parents are both unreliable, and are putting me in a bad position. I lived with my father up until 8 months ago, as he was abusive, pulling me around my...
    Emigirl7 Emigirl7 16-17, F 17 hrs ago

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    I love terms of endearment when used by people who are being genuine. But when someone just uses it online when they don't know who I am I find it to be fake and meaningless.
    dawinla dawinla 56-60, M 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I'm always suspicious when people use such terms of endearment when addressing me. They only do it because they want something. They aren't just being polite.
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I believe it was two days ago me and a really good friend were talking about how these religious people were verbally attacking someone because they were transgender. Their reason...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm not anybody's babe or hun. It's ******* annoying and I don't like it. Go somewhere else with that ****.
    spaghetti12 spaghetti12 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I don't like wearing pants and when I'm at home I just wear a shirt and my diaper or just my diaper if I can get away with it.
    tylerlovesdisposablediapers tylerlovesdisposablediapers 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    I think that I am always drawn to iconoclasts of some type. Whether they're revolutionaries or musicians or great writers. But what I don't like are self-centered people who only...
    rebelrebel07 rebelrebel07 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    So my friend put me in a group chat with random people she knows . We follow eachother on Instagram and stop talking. Well a couple days later, this kid adds me on snapchat . He...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    never have! yuck! I like onions, but I don't like liver!!!
    craigslist504 craigslist504 36-40 6 days ago

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    My parents (actually my mom because I don't talk to my dad so much) say that they love my sister and I equally but they don't. It's clear to me that my mom likes my sister more...
    sk761921 sk761921 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I really don't! I jus want a peaceful life! I don't like arguments!
    craigslist504 craigslist504 36-40 a week ago

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    Why do they leave, why do they always leave?! It may be easier from now on to not let people in, I should know by now seeing as it happens so often. I always care and love too much...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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