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I Always Fall For People Who Are Unavailable Or Don't Like Me

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    Loving Unavailable People

    All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...
    oskiesmom oskiesmom 46-50 7 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    It's definitely more

    so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story. The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Stalker Boyfriend

    I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend.  He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her.  When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...
    trucktippingover trucktippingover 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2010

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    I'm In Love With A Married Guy

    I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally  love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(
    rainbow82 rainbow82 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    Impossible Men

    They are impossible for reasons like: religion, they are already married or in relationships, I'm basically not their cup of tea, they only like me as a friend, airy or firey men with whom you just can't build a life... Etc Etc etc They say, one day someone will appear in your...
    ThePeach ThePeach 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Story Of My Life For Real

    I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    Hmmm...

    Read all stories in this group. No men posting. So what is this - a girl thing? Guess so. Recovering from my last unrequited love guy. Feel like a joke. He is (or was he ever) a friend. Played me good. He spent years pining over me while I was in a relationship. I broke...
    Godess4Fun Godess4Fun 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Has anyone sorted out

    why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me. They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...
    idonotwantausername1024 idonotwantausername1024 36-40, F Mar 9

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    The Road Not Taken

    I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...
    scarsmart scarsmart 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    Is It A Result Of Being Unavailable Myself?

    I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too. I don't know. I...
    notnownotever notnownotever 18-21, F Jul 2, 2013

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    I've spent years analyzing my ****** love life

    and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious: I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why) I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself... It...
    MissMojo MissMojo 18-21, F Jan 6

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    Everything I Desire Is Hurting Me.

    I have had it up to here. I will no longer pursue, or even peruse, the impossible.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    They're either married,

    emotionally unavailable or aren't interested in me because of their sexual orientation. It's like I subconsciously scope out the people in a room who are completely unavailable.
    beautyofuncertainty beautyofuncertainty 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    So Frustrating

    Ive been in so  many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted.  And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...
    jojo31 jojo31 31-35, F Aug 31, 2011

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    Emotionally Unavailable

    Yup, I can sure pick them.  I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me.  Two of them loved me.  The other guy liked me. Now I...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    To Be Expected...

    "Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!" Are you married? Check. Do you have a girlfriend? Check. Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check. Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check. The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    No Good Explanation

    I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident.  But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend.  In either case, they're...
    Startnew Startnew 46-50, F Oct 11, 2009

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    C-note

    Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...
    GooderThanB4 GooderThanB4 26-30, M May 3, 2012

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    What Motivates You To Seek The Unavailable

    Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...
    finity finity 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    I have this habit of falling

    for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    He's Confused And He Confused Me Too.

    I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else. He...
    anushka98 anushka98 13-15, F Nov 21, 2013

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    ....and I Am In The Situation Now

    Have been for 5 years.  Same woman.  What the eff is wrong with me?  I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me.  Yeah, I...
    Icarus2006 Icarus2006 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    I Too, Have Noticed This Pattern In My Life

    I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me. A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403 26-30, F Jul 3, 2013

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    Everyone That I Have A Crush On Is Unavailable :(

    1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...
    energizerbunnay energizerbunnay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    Flirting With Disaster

    Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.." He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...
    PollySyllabacus PollySyllabacus 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Apologies in advance: this is a longer rant. Most sitcoms disturb & anger me because much of the humor is mean-spirited & involves humiliating other people. I like witty, creative...
    LuminousMotes LuminousMotes 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I don't think people understand how hard it is for people who are or aren't openly gay. It's not someone's choice to be gay its natural. I hate seeing people get bullied over their...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    BRAVO! Nothing worst than someone conforming to peer pressure and being like "sisters" by copying and being exactly like their friends - imitating the same behavior and do what...
    MilweePisces MilweePisces 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Hello guys, I hope you're all doing well. I sort of hesitated about the idea of posting my experience here but I decided to do so. I sort of think that I have been a schizoid my...
    Bloodyshrines Bloodyshrines 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    I am tired of people who make snap judgments, people who assume they know you based on a number of limited experiences they've had with you, people who are convinced that their...
    ashleymaggie ashleymaggie 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 3

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    So I have had some stories about how men disrespect women I figure I should state this one. There are some women out there, who use their assets to use good men. They use them for...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 4

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    I try to be an open minded and thoughtful person and whilst I'm definitely thoughtful and considerate I am not as open minded as other people. I don't run around "hating" people...
    CaptainCalculus CaptainCalculus 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    I wish people were more honest with me. I have more respect for people who just tell it as it is and not lie than people who just tell you what they think you want to hear. I...
    pip34 pip34 31-35, F Apr 11

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    I admire people who are able to be honest about their feelings and tell me how they really feel. It takes courage to express yourself, especially when you are unsure of how the...
    smhinterrupted smhinterrupted 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    I have demonstrated I don't care about the pervert EP community that don't like I get their stories remove that promote ********* content. They are upset they don't have the same...
    ChillyWilly82 ChillyWilly82 31-35, M Mar 27

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    I don't like seeing rude comments anywhere! Come on people - step it up a little. People who come here and poetically pour their heart out don't do it to get rude comments! They...
    GeekyLittleThing GeekyLittleThing 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's not in a 'i'm too good for people' kind of way, its just that i don't feel any connections to them. I don't like relationships that are entirely based on small talk and i hate...
    grungehippy grungehippy 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I don't like people who make fun of anyone. Like, shut up. That's so hateful.
    lifelesswine lifelesswine 13-15, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I can sense negativity in the things i say. It may come across as rude, and i notice almost immediately, but i am too awkward and anxious to smoothly correct the statement, i just...
    theMETAmonologue theMETAmonologue 18-21, F Mar 20

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    I'm not saying people who are the same are bad I love twins but its better to be yourself your not a copy machine
    MerpR MerpR 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    yeah like people who are comfortable wid their thoughts and dont go on the moral high ground standards set by some unknown people society etc etc in short like people who challenge...
    romell romell 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    They terrify me. I'm really a huge chicken. Of winds. I always think it will develop into a tornado. I'm like that with life. I don't like the tornado so much might become. "Might...
    jeresey jeresey 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I... I don't like players, I'm just usually not in the same game they are and it's like I'm that dumb bird who's flying around the baseball field and almost gets hit with the ball...
    fearlessbae fearlessbae 16-17, F Mar 25

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    I don't exactly dislike everyone; I just don't like most people. I don't expect most people to like me either.
    TheBadgeringWitness TheBadgeringWitness 70+ 1 Response a week ago

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    Yep that's pretty much what I'm feeling right now, I don't care if you don't like me, or my sense of humor. I think I'm pretty dang awesome and that's all that matters.
    IheartCupcake IheartCupcake 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I don't like my body. I think I'm a bit fat.. I exercise every evening to get a flatter stomach and less round hips. But I still see no difference. It's demotivating. I'm searching...
    SkateDutch SkateDutch 16-17, M Mar 21

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    It's crazy. If you could see me in the flesh, you might say I am not fat and you'd tell me to stop whining and all but I just don't like the way my belly bulges.Honestly, I'd agree...
    baseCharlie baseCharlie 18-21, M Mar 27

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    Hey I want to let everyone in on a little secret... There is a way out of this lifestyle and a way to make money! I'm on my way to the top. Having financial freedom and I'm looking...
    mchalk mchalk 22-25 Apr 2

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    I wouldn't say I don't like eating per say. I just don't know the aftermath. I have ednos and I know I should eat, but I feel like once I do, I won't be able to stop. My mind says...
    PanicAtTheDiscount PanicAtTheDiscount 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    It's just a pet peeve of mine. Yes, "I do like Cookies". No. I don't like cookys. That's just an example. I also hate it when the groups don't make any sense or even when the...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    i like a lot of people then when we talk for a bit i don't like them because they have some pretty bad qualities. like racism,prejudice,thievery,or wanting to commit an horrible...
    TheSouless TheSouless 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    I don't care if you don't like me...I don't even like you too so stop minding my business and get a life of your own.
    Kaksy Kaksy 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My in laws hate me yet they don't know me. They blame me for everything my husband does or doesn't do that they don't like. I've been with my husband 5 years yet I don't think I've...
    l2thedoublej l2thedoublej 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 24

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