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I Always Fall For People Who Are Unavailable Or Don't Like Me

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    So Frustrating

    Ive been in so  many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted.  And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...
    jojo31 jojo31 31-35, F Aug 31, 2011

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    Everything I Desire Is Hurting Me.

    I have had it up to here. I will no longer pursue, or even peruse, the impossible.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    Impossible Men

    They are impossible for reasons like: religion, they are already married or in relationships, I'm basically not their cup of tea, they only like me as a friend, airy or firey men with whom you just can't build a life... Etc Etc etc They say, one day someone will appear in your...
    ThePeach ThePeach 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Flirting With Disaster

    Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.." He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...
    PollySyllabacus PollySyllabacus 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    He's Confused And He Confused Me Too.

    I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else. He...
    anushka98 anushka98 13-15, F Nov 21, 2013

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    Stalker Boyfriend

    I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend.  He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her.  When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...
    trucktippingover trucktippingover 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2010

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    I don't know how to feel.

    Is it obsession or something real when you can't think about anyone else but this one person, when your day is not fulfilled until you've seen them, spoken with them, laughed at a silly passing joke? Is it something my mind has concocted to pass the time, something to strive for...
    AxDisorientedxMind AxDisorientedxMind 22-25, F May 31

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    FreeNbreezy FreeNbreezy 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    My Curse

    As a lesbian among straight girls,could it be any other way?
    PantherShadow PantherShadow 13-15, F Oct 12, 2009

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    ....and I Am In The Situation Now

    Have been for 5 years.  Same woman.  What the eff is wrong with me?  I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me.  Yeah, I...
    Icarus2006 Icarus2006 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    Loving Unavailable People

    All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...
    oskiesmom oskiesmom 46-50 7 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    I've spent years analyzing my ****** love life

    and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious: I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why) I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself... It...
    MissMojo MissMojo 18-21, F Jan 6

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    I Too, Have Noticed This Pattern In My Life

    I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me. A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    What Motivates You To Seek The Unavailable

    Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...
    finity finity 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2012

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    Is It A Result Of Being Unavailable Myself?

    I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too. I don't know. I...
    notnownotever notnownotever 18-21, F Jul 2, 2013

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    Hmmm...

    Read all stories in this group. No men posting. So what is this - a girl thing? Guess so. Recovering from my last unrequited love guy. Feel like a joke. He is (or was he ever) a friend. Played me good. He spent years pining over me while I was in a relationship. I broke...
    Godess4Fun Godess4Fun 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Everyone That I Have A Crush On Is Unavailable :(

    1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...
    energizerbunnay energizerbunnay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    C-note

    Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...
    GooderThanB4 GooderThanB4 26-30, M May 3, 2012

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    It's definitely more

    so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story. The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    They're either married,

    emotionally unavailable or aren't interested in me because of their sexual orientation. It's like I subconsciously scope out the people in a room who are completely unavailable.
    beautyofuncertainty beautyofuncertainty 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M May 27

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    Has anyone sorted out

    why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me. They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...
    idonotwantausername1024 idonotwantausername1024 36-40, F Mar 9

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    The Road Not Taken

    I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...
    scarsmart scarsmart 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    Story Of My Life For Real

    I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    Emotionally Unavailable

    Yup, I can sure pick them.  I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me.  Two of them loved me.  The other guy liked me. Now I...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    To Be Expected...

    "Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!" Are you married? Check. Do you have a girlfriend? Check. Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check. Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check. The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    I have this habit of falling

    for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I'm In Love With A Married Guy

    I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally  love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(
    rainbow82 rainbow82 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    No Good Explanation

    I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident.  But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend.  In either case, they're...
    Startnew Startnew 46-50, F Oct 11, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I Like People Who Can Handle Different Opinions What Being Open Minded Is Really About I want to post my thoughts in this group here hoping that there is not yet such a group...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I've never fit in. And I'm okay with that. I remember my best friend telling me that when she turns 18, she is going to get extremely drunk on her birthday. I begged her not to but...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    It's not that I don't like them, it's more like they're just so annoying and often times you can't say anything to them because it's their way or no way. They're always right...my...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Jul 12

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    So many people lie especially on-line. I don't see the point of it. Who you are is who you are if you don't like it change it. Just my opinion.
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Him Or Us? Thank God my mother wasn't mancrazy.Anyone who knows me knows I am true Mama's Boy. I have loved my mother intensely and possesively my entire life. Since my mother...
    Eitan Eitan 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    It's just so much nicer that way :) However, I don't not like people who are closed minded!
    lindsaymaegan lindsaymaegan 22-25, F 14 Responses a week ago

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    I don't like hugs because I'm very closed up to new people. It's like, opening your arms and letting someone in near your heart. I have trust issues and I'm always scared of being...
    nightcreature16 nightcreature16 13-15, M 3 Responses Jul 4

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    There's a lot to be said for the people who are true to themselves and stand by their beliefs and opinions. I love honest and kind people. They make the most interesting of...
    nainaii nainaii 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I really don't care if people don't like me I'm still gonna be me and be doing me if people don't like you the way you are **** Them that's all I got to say
    Chasemanning Chasemanning 13-15, M Jul 13

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    I'm 14 years old and i just don't like my mom. Im not even sure if I love her. It sounds horrible I know. I am thankful she takes care of me and stuff like that but we are just too...
    Zoenepsa Zoenepsa 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I like my private space, my bubble. People around me all seem to like keeping close to each other, touching hands legs, arms, shoulders, whatever. I can't stand being touched. I...
    Liz1795 Liz1795 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    Don't Like It When People Are Fake
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M a week ago

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    I came to this realization today.. I do not like my job.. It's too random and you never know where your going with the task, you end up repeating it multiple times different ways...
    ThePeach ThePeach 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I like hanging around people who are just as weird and crazy as me and that normally means that they are being themselves:) Everyones weird on the inside I just also happen to be...
    trombonegurl trombonegurl 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    A certain person is opening new accounts daily to talk to me.... I DON'T LIKE IT! It's creepy & there is no reason for it. If I don't talk to you it's because there's no connection...
    sharondb sharondb 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 12

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    In this day and age, it is quite rare to find people who are just themselves, instead of trying to copy things their idols do, or what they see on tv. I cannot be anybody but me...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    Like People Who Are Nice...............
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M Jul 23

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    Yup i hear this one n Shout It out LOUD. Now i dont believe in people who are mean, rude, bullies etc in the name of Being Themselves. Ive met far toooooo many people like this. BE...
    Janeysunshine Janeysunshine 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Like People Who Are Open Minded
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I'm reading For One More Day by Mitch Albom. I really like his books. I am really just beginning this one. It's open in front of me and I'm on page six. This book explores the...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I definitely don't like bullying. I was bullied the first three years of high-school. The worst was junior year. A whole group of friends that I had turned on me because I stood up...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F Jul 20

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