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I Always Feel Like I Bother People

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    I do always bother people.

    I know I do, they either tell me or make it clear. But oh well, I'm fine. 😔
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    It's A Part Of Me

    I struggle with this greatly, and I think it's a part of my inadequacy with everyone around me. I am always afraid to make the first contact with someone, to phone them, or email or message....because then they are obligated to say hi back, and maybe even talk, when I don't...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 28, 2010

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    I always want to call someone

    or txt them or whatever but i feel like im annoying do i dont even try like i hve no life becuz i dont tlk to any one becuz i feel to annoying
    curvybitch curvybitch 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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    I Don'T Know Why...

    I don't know why I am always worried that I bother people. I've always felt like this for a very long time. I guess I do say stupid things that would bother some people, but maybe others are more tolerant of it. I'm not really sure.
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19, 2013

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    Every time I try to talk to some people in a

    class I take, I feel like a huge bother... We're supposed to be really open. All I do is make a fool out of myself. I want to open up about being depressed and wanting to kill myself... I know no one really wants to hear it, though.
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    I feel like I'm always the last person anyone

    would want to talk to. I might be a bit cynical and sometimes I talk too much but I do have feelings . This happens in both reality and on other websites when I talk to older friends. They seem to talk to me once then I guess they regretted it because the next time I say hi they...
    JustTipton JustTipton 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I feel like such a bother in people's lives

    now .... I feel like everyone is leaving me
    imsobroken1123 imsobroken1123 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    when you text someone,

    they don't reply, so a few hours later you text them again and feel bothersome because they probably didn't want to talk to you. Or someone acts completely different around other people than you and you wonder if they are being fake and not really that happy to be around you...
    projectdivamiku projectdivamiku 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    I always think I'm annoying.

    .. even though I should know that I'm not annoying because I am shy so I don't talk a lot anyway! I think it's because i am caring and quite sensitive to what others think/feel about me so I do worry whether i bother people or not! Also I don't want to come across that i'm...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    No mattter how old the child is,

    it's scary. i'm stuck in this house and there's fighting and yelling and arguing and worse. and i'm scared. i'm scared. i am scared. i'm scared and i want to cry and i want to stop it. no, that's wrong. i just want to leave. i left and i forgot and i came back. it's just me, i...
    usernameuphup1 usernameuphup1 18-21 1 Response Jun 29

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    Often

    It just feels like people don't want to hear what I have to say, and I know they don't listen. Numerous times I'll tell them something, and they'll either give a distracted answer or just snap at me. Then later, when it comes up, I'll get snapped at for not warning them. Even...
    fuzzynerd fuzzynerd 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    First Contact Of The Bothered Kind

    "Call me," something that we hear very often and probably have said just as many times however that is the one thing I can't do no matter the person. There seems to be a very fine line between what I feel is bothering people or what isn't. I feel that when I'm in a social...
    Linxer Linxer 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    I'm so tired of loving people

    who only toss me crumbs. My H loves me in a lukewarm, old-man kind of way - but there's no passion in it. We haven't had sex since March. My crush - well, it's complicated. There are good reasons why he hasn't been able to give me much. But still. Because what we have has...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    Since I'm not what people stereotype me to be,

    I often feel as though I bother them by simply existing. One of my many corks is that I always feel like I'm in someone's way. I always let others have the right of way because I don't feel like they should be subjected to try and maneuver around me. If someone is walking...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 4

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    And I just get so anxious around people

    whether I've known them my whole life or I've just met them.
    c4mila c4mila 13-15, F Jan 30

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    Including my friends.

    I'll be waiting to see someone for forever, and as soon as I actually get to talk to them, they push me out of the way for someone else. After this, they don't even bother trying to have any social interaction with me even though I try to get them to talk to me. One of my...
    immieomg immieomg 22-25, F 11 Responses Feb 27

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    I have a problem saying whats on my mind

    and sometimes people get annoyed or mad with my honesty. I don't mean to be rude but sometimes it comes off that way
    WendyDarlin WendyDarlin 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    I feel thatvi really was a bother.

    . That it was totally fine ifni was gone forever, i still do.. Whenever i become so stubborn, i always think that im annoying and that i wasnjust bothering people and my friends so i tend to keep my mouth shut
    PureLies PureLies 13-15, F Mar 27

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    theluckyduck theluckyduck 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I always feel like I'm bothering my boyfriend,

    I text first and I'm always the one asking to see him.
    JustHer22 JustHer22 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    Feeling Like A Bother And Having Insecurity Issue

    I have insecurity issue Some of my friends here in EP knows that... they were actually the ones who pointed this out to me and made realize this part of me. I'm not very confident of who I'am. I know I should be but it's really hard for me. Most of the time I feel like I'm a...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 26, 2013

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    so it took me a long time to share an

    experience. I kept silent just like I am offline. Sometimes I truly believe people can't notice me. Sometimes I like to believe they can't see me. Sometimes it makes me sad.
    ponto ponto 31-35 1 Response May 3

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    I really hate this feeling.

    .. I don't know if it's me over think or not.. This guys that I usually text just stop talking to me.. He didn't replay... I feel like I was trying to hard to always talk to him even when I would wait a day so I didn't seem annoying... It's sad because now I don't want to text...
    zy7a zy7a 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 3

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    I feel like I don't belong.

    Like I'm different then the ppl I'm around and no one ever understands and I'm incapable of a right explication for it but I feel as if my difference is my fault and why no one seems to get me, or think I'm "weird"..heh. Thanks for reading:p
    petitelady28 petitelady28 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    I can't even begin to thoroughly explain this

    feeling I despise it so much. It's this bullshit consistent weight that I'm a burden who doesn't deserve any attention from anyone. As much as I crave any interaction from a person, I feel like I weigh them down. I can't start conversations very well or even enjoy them without...
    lawree lawree 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    Wondering if you're bothering people is like

    the worst feeling ! Always in fear .. I hate it . So a lots of time I say f*** it I still have to ask what I have to ask , and immediately regret it . Man... Sucks
    romi777 romi777 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    This is true of the vast majority of people

    who are nice to/friendly with me. I feel that they're just being nice because they feel sorry for the weird girl and they really want me to go away, while I'm the only one who cares about the relationship. Needless to say, most of my relationships don't last long. I even feel...
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I can't ask questions about anything cause I

    feel like I bother them.. I got confused about what someone said and they got mad at me.. I didn't want to bother them with questions to make them more upset. I just feel like I'm such a huge bother. And I hate making people feel upset with me when I get confused. I guess I...
    BrokenKeeley99 BrokenKeeley99 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    Yeah I admit it, I always feel

    that way. Someone here which I will not say her username.
    heartbroken198 heartbroken198 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    sometimes i feel that

    if i walk into a room and if two people are having a conversation then i feel as though im interrupting their train of thoughts and i feel even worse if i have to ask one of those people something. i feel the same way if a person i wish to talk to is chatting on the phone. i...
    figmentoftheirimagination figmentoftheirimagination 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 3

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    Pretty much but yeah.

    I don't intentionally do.
    Makaleetah Makaleetah 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I've just learned to not care,

    because I make people laugh, and that's all Icare about
    ssjwesker ssjwesker 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 3

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    babypussy234 babypussy234 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    i have friends i really do

    but i can never ask them anything. not because they cant or wont do it but because i dont have the right to ask anyone a favor. im a bad friend why should i have good friends? i am always hurting my friends unintentionally but i should know better and in retrospect i do know...
    Anaihsohs Anaihsohs 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    i hate it cause i enjoy talking to them

    and thats all i wanna do!! oh an bfw, if you start the conversation you are really great because i am incapable of starting one.
    griefseed griefseed 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    I feel like people don't get me!

    ! So I feel like I bug them with my issues :-/
    stjlynn stjlynn 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 2

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    I never send anyone messages first

    because I feel like it bothers them. I don't want to bother anyone that doesn't want me to . I wouldn't mind if anyone sent me a message :)
    SchamDea3398 SchamDea3398 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    I always feel like I bother people,

    especially lately. I have been going through a lot lately, medical wise, and just have been fighting the depression demon pretty bad lately, and I feel like if I talk about it, I'm bothering all my friends, and its not something that I enjoy at all. So lately I have just been...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    Every moment I talk to someone.

    It really sucks. I feel it on this website. If I didn't feel like I'd be alone no matter what, I probably wouldn't say anything.
    IAimForHonor IAimForHonor 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 29

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    Sick of being hated & ignored.

    People treat me like a true pest because of my disability.
    otad12 otad12 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I feel as if I too annoying.

    I swear no one even likes me.
    cheley cheley 13-15, F 6 Responses Jun 21

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    I think this a lot. I don't know why.

    But I can't text people sometimes. I will take out my phone to think of something and then a voice in my head says don't do it. Don't bother them. So I don't text anyone. But then I wonder later if by not texting them does that make me a bad friend? Do they hate me? And so I...
    marmalade93 marmalade93 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    Whether it's texting,

    messaging on EP, email, phone call, I get so stressed out wondering if I am bothering people. I will compulsively keep checking messages, wait by the phone, and sometimes get so distracted I do nothing the entire day but worry if my message was bothering the person, wondering if...
    VirtualExistence VirtualExistence 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 9

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    cerberus87 cerberus87 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 3

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    I already have truest issue

    and my parents and my 11 sibling don't help at all because they don't understand and when I try to play with them or hung out with them I just feel like a bother and it the same way when I'm txting someone or when I'm at school or tribute dates anything with a group that has...
    Triplepower Triplepower 13-15, F Jun 9

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    Each and every day I go through these mood changes (sort of), basically I reflect back on what I did the past few days, and what I've been doing.. my failures and accomplishments...
    TomCassidy TomCassidy 22-25 Jul 14

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    Ohhhh yeahhhh not people, only one specific person
    desirejanice desirejanice 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    Yeah those days when you kinda are tired of everybody and wanna punch them so hard. But then after you do it's not a good feeling cause then they're mad at you and you have to then...
    Diamondgirly Diamondgirly 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Honestly, people can be so dumb sometimes.
    GemmaWeasley GemmaWeasley 13-15, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Like right now gezzzzzz -.- just someone idc who you are just aregrgrgeggeb bye !!!
    smilelover smilelover 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    Omigosh. Yes. There is one guy who had a crush on me, and he was probably only the second guy ever. He was really weird and perverted, and I tried to be nice to him cause I felt...
    TorissaNikole TorissaNikole 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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