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I Always Feel Like I Bother People

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    Navnx Navnx 13-15, M 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    I legit feel like an intruder every time I go

    into a room because there are groups and I feel like they stop their conversations specifically because I am there. I feel like my presence can become a nuisance to those who want to talk but I'm there and so I just leave and I feel so unwanted
    youngandinexperienced youngandinexperienced 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2015

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    When I'm talking to someone,

    I feel like they're getting bored so I speak really fast to get my story over with. And then they have trouble understanding me. :/
    WritingDesk11 WritingDesk11 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    Most of the times when I'm with friends,

    I like listening to what they have to say. I always show interest whenever they tell me all the stuff the did and what they think even if I personally find them uninteresting. But when it's my turn to tell stories, they start taking out their phones and do this charade of...
    jenna4xa jenna4xa 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    I'm trying to overcome this feeling.

    It keeps me from calling or texting people, or even talking much. I'm a great listener, but I'm overly polite and never sure anyone actually wants to hear from me. Another product of my abusive childhood, being made to feel like I'm less than nothing, a burden to others.
    goodwitchofthenorth goodwitchofthenorth 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2015

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    It's so hard to share your problems

    and not feel like a burden
    maknaekid maknaekid 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    I really want to talk to you,

    but i just can't. I'd ruin everything. I don't want to bother you anymore than i already have. Forget all about me, everyone else did and they all seem so happy.
    DreamingSouls DreamingSouls 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2014

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    Obviously, there are times

    when I am bothered. Like yesterday, being woken by my cousin Luigi and his 'problem'. I'm not sure what it was this morning, he was sitting on the end of bed. I thought I cant call uncle Giancarlo again, he will think me paranoid or something. So I tried talking with Luigi...
    Beannie97 Beannie97 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 13

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    'I'm sorry I constantly want to talk to you.

    I'm sorry when you take long to reply, I get sad. I'm sorry if I say things that might annoy you. I'm sorry if I come off as annoying. I'm sorry if you don't want to talk to me as much as I want to talk to you. I'm sorry if I think about you too much and too often. I'm sorry if...
    IRID3SC3NT IRID3SC3NT 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    I have a problem: I never text people first

    because I always feel like I bother people...I can't ever shake that feeling.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jul 3, 2015

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    Seems to me that I always bother my friends,

    don't know if they're really my friends anymore. We are a group of 5 and I never hear anything from 4 of them, whenever I say hello it always takes them several hours to just text me back a simple "sup man", then if we keep the conversation they answer in simple words like...
    xav116 xav116 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2015

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    Because when I start to talk to my (i guess you

    can say) my best friend, okay close friend, she's always like pissed off and being like "What??!" like the kind of way that's like get the eff away from me, I hate you. Or maybe I'm just worrying a lot, or talking to the wrong person. But then nobody else really knows me. Even...
    lunaticunicorn lunaticunicorn 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 24, 2015

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    when you're all excited to text someone & they

    either ignore you or make you feel like ****.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    I just keep getting treated like a damn

    annoyance and I don't want to be around anymore.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F Oct 15, 2015

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    I feel like a useless waste

    that deserves nothing. I feel like I can't satisfy anyone anymore, and if I say it, it just paints the people I love as idiots and monsters. I'm afraid, lost, and feel like I can do no right. I've resorted to slapping and punching myself just to feel something again. I don't...
    AlwaysFacingtheFace AlwaysFacingtheFace 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 20, 2015

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    twerkingnarwhals twerkingnarwhals 16-17, M 5 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I don't know! I don't text people a lot anymore

    I feel like they don't want to talk with me! So I just leave them alone!
    kaiovinicius kaiovinicius 16-17, M 4 Responses Oct 17, 2014

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    It's A Part Of Me

    I struggle with this greatly, and I think it's a part of my inadequacy with everyone around me. I am always afraid to make the first contact with someone, to phone them, or email or message....because then they are obligated to say hi back, and maybe even talk, when I don't...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 28, 2010

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    Hey guys there are so many nice people I've met

    here on this site a dim sorry I can't get to all my friends cause of all the people I meet. I'm sorry if I get incredibly annoying and if you don't want to talk that's fine.
    Mrmanaphy Mrmanaphy 18-21 2 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    I'm always on edge on

    whether I'm bothering people when I speak or not, it's made my normally outgoing self all the more reserved and quiet. Most people that get to know me, start off with knowing me as a quiet, calm, sometimes weird person.
    ApatheticSpark ApatheticSpark 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2015

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    There's a point where you feel numb.

    I try and I try to voice my feelings and gain that comfort embrace. I'll just sit here and feel nothing. I give up for tonight on how to get through to you. ..
    littlejxoxo littlejxoxo 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    I feel like I always get people in fights

    because I don't say anything to resolve it. I don't want to get involved but I hate seeing people I love fight. over all I feel all I do is anger people or tell them things they don't care about. I feel like a burden to everybody and everything.
    nickthejunky nickthejunky 16-17, M Dec 9, 2015

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    When I am in one of my moods I feel I can be a

    terrible nuisance, so I tend to sit back be all Silent Bob-ish
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 3, 2015

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    PEOPLE ALWASY SEEM TO RUN AWAWY FROM ME WHEN I

    TRY TO GET CLOSER LIKE I AM DISEASED
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 1

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    maybe so :/ is it too much to ask

    for attention? no, but then i'm greedy. i get the attention, but when the person leaves for a while i want them to come back and talk more. my boyfriend, best friend, other friends...... but then i sometimes run out of things to talk about, so i always feel like a bother to...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    I always get that feeling

    because a lot of people say that I talk to much and when I have a conversation with someone else I feel like I'm bothering them. And I don't want to stop to ask them because then I'll really look like a fool. It also looks like that they don't like enjoying listening to the...
    BudderNinja11 BudderNinja11 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 10, 2015

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    I was at lunch with my friends

    and we were laughing and everything was fine and fun then Viviana asked a serious question it goes silent for a while then they all start saying what they think on the topic. and I try to say my opinion but they continue arguing over me. i started the first few words and only...
    bellefrench bellefrench 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    does anyone ever feel

    so embarrassed to be alive? Does anyone else just hate when people look/think about you? Like people just sit up and think about how dumb and worthless your life is or just like you bother people. I know i do, nobody at school or that i talk to ever even responds to my messages...
    love3m love3m 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 21, 2015

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    I think I bottle things up to the point

    where I explode and start ranting to people about things that make me angry. So then I try to bottle it back up and not say anything. Well the cycle repeats and, obviously, doing the same thing and expecting different results is insanity. So I guess I'll post around here some...
    LoZtMe LoZtMe 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 9, 2015

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    Please don't block me.

    I had grown this attachment with someone on here and then we had a small disagreement about weight and then he blocked me. This really hurts and I haven't stopped crying. So if you are going to do something like that please don't add me or talk to me. Heartbreak is harder when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    I'm a bother to everyone.

    I'm a bother to my girlfriend, to my parents, to friends, to EVERYONE!
    kingbanda kingbanda 22-25, M 2 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    I feel like I annoy my friend

    when I try talking to her. I'm always happy to let her talk, listen to her, and let her get things off her chest, but it seems like she doesn't like talking to me anymore. It makes me sad. I think I'll stop talking to her for awhile so she doesn't have to deal with me. I don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses May 25, 2015

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    Whether it's texting,

    messaging on EP, email, phone call, I get so stressed out wondering if I am bothering people. I will compulsively keep checking messages, wait by the phone, and sometimes get so distracted I do nothing the entire day but worry if my message was bothering the person, wondering if...
    VirtualExistence VirtualExistence 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 9, 2014

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    Whenever somebody asks "are you okay?

    " or "whats wrong?" I try not to tell them whats bothering me cause i dont want to seem burdensome. If i do tell them they think im lying just to get attention. i promise i dont lie.
    SkyIsHere SkyIsHere 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    People never stay around long enough

    for me to even say,"hi."
    loneshadow151 loneshadow151 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    I'm a very quiet and shy person,

    I have been all my life. My mom told me that when I was a kid, I never bothered anyone. She said it was a good thing, but not common. I guess other kids often bother their parents or are maybe annoying, but I wasn't. I kept to myself, entertained myself, etc. The only time I...
    awaywego4 awaywego4 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    I feel like I don't belong.

    Like I'm different then the ppl I'm around and no one ever understands and I'm incapable of a right explication for it but I feel as if my difference is my fault and why no one seems to get me, or think I'm "weird"..heh. Thanks for reading:p
    petitelady28 petitelady28 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 17, 2014

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    I feel like everybody kind of hates me a bit.

    I don't make friends easy, and I always feel like I'm not a part of something. Like everyone things I'm anoying.
    CallMeAmy CallMeAmy 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 4, 2015

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    They usually voice their annoyance,

    so I just shut down and keep to myself. I don't really want to be a bother to anyone at all.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F Dec 27, 2015

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    I'm so sorry... I really dont want my illness

    makes my family gets worried about me too much. I hate myself sometimes, I should be stronger than this! I'm trying my best now, but I still cant win it. I just need to help myself!
    kimlys kimlys 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    I'm the type who doesn't put up a fight

    when it comes to being around people. If I get the slightest hint they don't want me to around, I have no problem disappearing at all its a clean break and it usually makes things less messy in the long run. I don't want to think of myself as "annoying" or "needy" and It...
    DesiredUserNameandStuff DesiredUserNameandStuff 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    It's not a good feeling,

    but I just learned to deal with it.
    Wolflover1999 Wolflover1999 16-17, M 4 Responses Oct 25, 2015

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    It makes me so extremely nervous in social

    situations and I go for long periods of time without talking to someone because I don't understand how people would actually want to talk to me.
    Rucbrar Rucbrar 13-15, F Jan 30

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    This is the main reason

    why I don't text/message people first. 😂😩
    twerkingnarwhals twerkingnarwhals 16-17, M 3 Responses Aug 27, 2014

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    sometimes i feel like i annoy my friends on EP

    by constantly messaging them. i just do it because i'm bored most the time and constantly need someone to talk to. nothing specific just friend chatter. so i'm sorry if i bother or annoy any of you
    velloric velloric 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 19, 2015

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