I Always Feel Like I Bother People

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    I think I bottle things up to the point

    where I explode and start ranting to people about things that make me angry. So then I try to bottle it back up and not say anything. Well the cycle repeats and, obviously, doing the same thing and expecting different results is insanity. So I guess I'll post around here some...
    LoZtMe LoZtMe
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Feb 9, 2015

    Obviously, there are times

    when I am bothered. Like yesterday, being woken by my cousin Luigi and his 'problem'. I'm not sure what it was this morning, he was sitting on the end of bed. I thought I cant call uncle Giancarlo again, he will think me paranoid or something. So I tried talking with Luigi...
    Beannie97 Beannie97
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 13
    pegg09 pegg09
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 28

    It's so hard to share your problems

    and not feel like a burden
    maknaekid maknaekid
    13-15, F
    1 Response Oct 29, 2014

    maybe so :/ is it too much to ask

    for attention? no, but then i'm greedy. i get the attention, but when the person leaves for a while i want them to come back and talk more. my boyfriend, best friend, other friends...... but then i sometimes run out of things to talk about, so i always feel like a bother to...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Dec 31, 2015

    It's A Part Of Me

    I struggle with this greatly, and I think it's a part of my inadequacy with everyone around me. I am always afraid to make the first contact with someone, to phone them, or email or message....because then they are obligated to say hi back, and maybe even talk, when I don't...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Jan 28, 2010

    I fight with my younger brother

    and sister all the time at home and fight with my parents. My mum yells at me all the time for being so secluded. I sit with a group of fake friends at school because the only real one I have sits with people I don't know. My mum always makes sure I am hanging around these fake...
    AstridNightfall AstridNightfall
    13-15, F
    Apr 3

    In junior high I felt like I was bothering

    people a lot so I just gradually stopped talking as days went by and people did not seem to mind. Some people did ask if I was okay especially my friends since I'm more loud when I'm around them but I was really okay. An ex-friend even said that he wouldn't talk to me anymore...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 19

    Whenever somebody asks "are you okay?

    " or "whats wrong?" I try not to tell them whats bothering me cause i dont want to seem burdensome. If i do tell them they think im lying just to get attention. i promise i dont lie.
    SkyIsHere SkyIsHere
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 13, 2014

    Hey guys there are so many nice people I've met

    here on this site a dim sorry I can't get to all my friends cause of all the people I meet. I'm sorry if I get incredibly annoying and if you don't want to talk that's fine.
    Mrmanaphy Mrmanaphy
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    I'm trying to overcome this feeling.

    It keeps me from calling or texting people, or even talking much. I'm a great listener, but I'm overly polite and never sure anyone actually wants to hear from me. Another product of my abusive childhood, being made to feel like I'm less than nothing, a burden to others.
    goodwitchofthenorth goodwitchofthenorth
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    when you're all excited to text someone & they

    either ignore you or make you feel like ****.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    I like how that one person

    and only person I'm looking forward to get a text from never text me back.... yup
    masmelo masmelo
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    They usually voice their annoyance,

    so I just shut down and keep to myself. I don't really want to be a bother to anyone at all.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Dec 27, 2015

    my amazing teacher showed me what is to be

    understood. when i graduated, however, i avoided contacting her many times to not bother her. she assured me over and over that i don't bother her, but i still avoid texting her about personal things sometimes because i don't want to bug her. It makes me so sad because I used to...
    thisbrokengirl777 thisbrokengirl777
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 25, 2015

    When I am in one of my moods I feel I can be a

    terrible nuisance, so I tend to sit back be all Silent Bob-ish
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2015

    I always get that feeling

    because a lot of people say that I talk to much and when I have a conversation with someone else I feel like I'm bothering them. And I don't want to stop to ask them because then I'll really look like a fool. It also looks like that they don't like enjoying listening to the...
    BudderNinja11 BudderNinja11
    13-15, M
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    I don't have any friends

    because I think everyone that I meet thinks I'm too quiet, awkward, or weird. Or all of the above! I have always been VERY shy. I was a "selective mute" as a kid. I talk to everyone now but it's not much easier than it was. I don't know how to talk to people and I always feel so...
    MadnessIsGenius MadnessIsGenius
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    yep obviously I do and not just in RL met

    someone here who I thought was a friend *stupid * we had talked almost every day for a few months until recently when they asked me a question guess they didn't like answer . When I asked what I did wrong I felt like I had been lied to this whole time . Still haven't gotten...
    GoldenTigerSpirit GoldenTigerSpirit
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    Well, as many others are aware of,

    I am known to be very quiet, anti-social, and uncomfortable around huge crowds. But another thing I'd like to admit is the fact that I feel like I am bothersome to others as well. Why? Well, lets see, I just feel that, they have more important things to do then talk with me or...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 19

    Sometimes i feel like i talk to much.

    . An it bothers people.. Like they want me to stop but just are being nice to me an letting me rant on.
    oreomine12 oreomine12
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    Seems to me that I always bother my friends,

    don't know if they're really my friends anymore. We are a group of 5 and I never hear anything from 4 of them, whenever I say hello it always takes them several hours to just text me back a simple "sup man", then if we keep the conversation they answer in simple words like...
    xav116 xav116
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 13, 2015

    I really want to talk to you,

    but i just can't. I'd ruin everything. I don't want to bother you anymore than i already have. Forget all about me, everyone else did and they all seem so happy.
    DreamingSouls DreamingSouls
    16-17, F
    Oct 19, 2014

    I was at lunch with my friends

    and we were laughing and everything was fine and fun then Viviana asked a serious question it goes silent for a while then they all start saying what they think on the topic. and I try to say my opinion but they continue arguing over me. i started the first few words and only...
    bellefrench bellefrench
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Jan 1

    I don't know! I don't text people a lot anymore

    I feel like they don't want to talk with me! So I just leave them alone!
    kaiovinicius kaiovinicius
    16-17, M
    4 Responses Oct 17, 2014

    I feel like everybody kind of hates me a bit.

    I don't make friends easy, and I always feel like I'm not a part of something. Like everyone things I'm anoying.
    CallMeAmy CallMeAmy
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    I feel like I annoy my friend

    when I try talking to her. I'm always happy to let her talk, listen to her, and let her get things off her chest, but it seems like she doesn't like talking to me anymore. It makes me sad. I think I'll stop talking to her for awhile so she doesn't have to deal with me. I don't...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses May 25, 2015

    I feel like a useless waste

    that deserves nothing. I feel like I can't satisfy anyone anymore, and if I say it, it just paints the people I love as idiots and monsters. I'm afraid, lost, and feel like I can do no right. I've resorted to slapping and punching myself just to feel something again. I don't...
    AlwaysFacingtheFace AlwaysFacingtheFace
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 20, 2015

    Today in Child Development,

    we played a game that makes us link arms with people in the class and when someone is alone, they case someone until that person links arms with someone else. You can only link arms with one other person. Anyway, whenever it was my turn, I felt like my partner was thinking, "Oh...
    SpnFreak SpnFreak
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    It makes me so extremely nervous in social

    situations and I go for long periods of time without talking to someone because I don't understand how people would actually want to talk to me.
    Rucbrar Rucbrar
    13-15, F
    Jan 30

    I'm so sorry... I really dont want my illness

    makes my family gets worried about me too much. I hate myself sometimes, I should be stronger than this! I'm trying my best now, but I still cant win it. I just need to help myself!
    kimlys kimlys
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 8
    nice4mheart nice4mheart
    31-35, M
    Mar 3


    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 1

    does anyone ever feel

    so embarrassed to be alive? Does anyone else just hate when people look/think about you? Like people just sit up and think about how dumb and worthless your life is or just like you bother people. I know i do, nobody at school or that i talk to ever even responds to my messages...
    love3m love3m
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Feb 21, 2015

    I feel like I don't belong.

    Like I'm different then the ppl I'm around and no one ever understands and I'm incapable of a right explication for it but I feel as if my difference is my fault and why no one seems to get me, or think I'm "weird"..heh. Thanks for reading:p
    petitelady28 petitelady28
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2014

    Or maybe they bother me

    either way that's how i feel any suggestions on how to be more sociable?
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Mar 3

    I have a problem: I never text people first

    because I always feel like I bother people...I can't ever shake that feeling.
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jul 3, 2015

    Most of the times when I'm with friends,

    I like listening to what they have to say. I always show interest whenever they tell me all the stuff the did and what they think even if I personally find them uninteresting. But when it's my turn to tell stories, they start taking out their phones and do this charade of...
    jenna4xa jenna4xa
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    sometimes i feel like i annoy my friends on EP

    by constantly messaging them. i just do it because i'm bored most the time and constantly need someone to talk to. nothing specific just friend chatter. so i'm sorry if i bother or annoy any of you
    velloric velloric
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Jul 19, 2015

    'I'm sorry I constantly want to talk to you.

    I'm sorry when you take long to reply, I get sad. I'm sorry if I say things that might annoy you. I'm sorry if I come off as annoying. I'm sorry if you don't want to talk to me as much as I want to talk to you. I'm sorry if I think about you too much and too often. I'm sorry if...
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2014
    Blurryface5936 Blurryface5936
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 3

    People keep getting away from me,

    lie to me, ignore me and to be honest if someone asked me what do I feel about this I'd say I don't give a damn about them but the truth is, it hurts like hell. I used to talk to someone who now lied to me and I think they ignore me but what I really wanna know is what did i do...
    20ShadesOfBlue 20ShadesOfBlue
    18-21, M
    1 Response Aug 2, 2015
    twerkingnarwhals twerkingnarwhals
    16-17, M
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2014

    I feel like I always get people in fights

    because I don't say anything to resolve it. I don't want to get involved but I hate seeing people I love fight. over all I feel all I do is anger people or tell them things they don't care about. I feel like a burden to everybody and everything.
    nickthejunky nickthejunky
    16-17, M
    Dec 9, 2015

    It's been few days since I quit my last job.

    I used to work in other city far away from my hometown. The reason I gave to my family about quiting was I didn't find the job satisfying and the pay sucks. Truth is I felt lonely out there. I didn't had any true friends. I was quite friendly but people out there didn't liked my...
    notsonaiveanymore notsonaiveanymore
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Mar 22

    I do feel like I bother people.

    I'm usually always the first to message people. But I feel like if they truly want to talk to me they will message me first. But at the same time I also feel that I wouldn't hear from them if I didn't message first....sigh...
    lovesthenightsky lovesthenightsky
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 10

    When I'm talking to someone,

    I feel like they're getting bored so I speak really fast to get my story over with. And then they have trouble understanding me. :/
    WritingDesk11 WritingDesk11
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    Guess i'm just trash.

    People throw away trash and leave it.
    deleted deleted
    Feb 24

    Please don't block me.

    I had grown this attachment with someone on here and then we had a small disagreement about weight and then he blocked me. This really hurts and I haven't stopped crying. So if you are going to do something like that please don't add me or talk to me. Heartbreak is harder when...
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Oct 5, 2015

    I kinda have some old friends

    that I could easily reconnect with but I'm too scared to talk to them. I don't want them to be dissapointed with the way that I have become and I don't want them to leave me as soon as they find out how I really am. I don't know I just feel like they'll sooner or later will get...
    paintdeath paintdeath
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    This is the main reason

    why I don't text/message people first. 😂😩
    twerkingnarwhals twerkingnarwhals
    16-17, M
    3 Responses Aug 27, 2014

    I legit feel like an intruder every time I go

    into a room because there are groups and I feel like they stop their conversations specifically because I am there. I feel like my presence can become a nuisance to those who want to talk but I'm there and so I just leave and I feel so unwanted
    youngandinexperienced youngandinexperienced
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2015

    Whether it's texting,

    messaging on EP, email, phone call, I get so stressed out wondering if I am bothering people. I will compulsively keep checking messages, wait by the phone, and sometimes get so distracted I do nothing the entire day but worry if my message was bothering the person, wondering if...
    VirtualExistence VirtualExistence
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 9, 2014
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