Post

I Always Feel Second-best

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 119 People

    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yep

    it's like i care so much more than everyone else, and they're free to do whatever they like to me and I'll still be there. I don't understand why I'm always second best when I have so much love and affection to give. People are always looking for "nice" people, I am a nice...
    papercastles papercastles 22-25, F 2 Responses May 25, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F Mar 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Always

    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    So I thought he liked me, then he met her, stopped giving me attention, messaging me and spending his time talking to me. I thought we had something. We did, right? Or what? Was I...
    sunnychoke sunnychoke 16-17, F Aug 26

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I feel like I can't ever get anyone because of the way I look or act. I'm self conscious about myself at times. I feel like I am overweight (170 lbs) and I feel ugly on the outside...
    KenKitty KenKitty 16-17, F Aug 24

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband often makes me feel like myself and our kids come in second to his friends and video games and whatever else he can distract himself with. I know it could be just me...
    AshWilkie AshWilkie 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 31

    Your Response

    Cancel
    There's nothing like a nice hot shower get all soapy and clean and then jump into a nice clean fresh bed. It has to be the best feeling outside of sex...
    Wheels64 Wheels64 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 19

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Showering is the best experience ever!! Cleansing myself externally and feeling refreshed and alert as ever. I sleep better as well afterwards.
    NightMagic367 NightMagic367 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    so im 26 and have two children 4 and 7.I do all i can for them i adore them.Right now it is difficult as my financial status isn't great so obviously im going to worry about there...
    cizzyfla cizzyfla 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    In the past I used to have a really good set of people/social skills so much so that I was popular in primary school. I had a best friend then after a year at the same school they...
    lilygeorge12 lilygeorge12 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 6

    Your Response

    Cancel
    There you go, I feel like a failure sometimes no matter how hard I try not to quit. My whole life I feel like I been going in circles. Like no matter what I do to try to succeed in...
    MrKool82 MrKool82 31-35, M 1 Response 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Best Policy is Be honest. Second best Policy is if you cannot be honest - KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT
    Thesoutherner Thesoutherner 66-70, M 1 Response 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've been feeling so alone lately for a week now I'm like battling depression of not being good enough. I went through something like this last winter n now it's back . I just...
    youngadult14 youngadult14 13-15, F Sep 6

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My academic grades aren't the best, and with an older sister who excels in many things I am often overshadowed by her. My parents support her in everything she does but refuse to...
    sleepsoundsnice sleepsoundsnice 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 20

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Growing up I always had guy best friends. Then last year I started college and became really close with a group of girls. These girls broke every "girl code" in the book and...
    MindOverMatterx MindOverMatterx 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So.. I went out with this boy a few years back. We argued all the time and it resulted in him breaking up with me.. I was broken and had already had a previous experience of...
    H0pe123 H0pe123 13-15, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    There was a time in my life where I thought my dreams will become true at some point. I was always a little bit depressed but I always had this strong faith in me that it will get...
    bravebunny bravebunny 26-30 1 Response 17 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Since I was a young child I didn't see eye to eye with almost everyone in my family. The only person I trusted was my brother, my sister and parents never treat me with respect so...
    ozziegirl88 ozziegirl88 13-15 1 Response 12 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i really want a best friend who won't just chat once on the internet and never again but someone who i will know and who will know me inside out and stuff like that. ever since i...
    LovelyTammii LovelyTammii 13-15, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I absolutely love and adore my husband. He is my best friend and couldn't imagine my life without him. We were both married before and this is a second marriage for both of us. Our...
    redhot1221 redhot1221 36-40, F 11 Responses 16 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I lost my boyfriend of 5 years a few months ago and I have never felt more alone. It was my fault but it was his too. As much as he annoyed me he was always by my side I was never...
    SecretSpirit SecretSpirit 22-25, F 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ive had custody of my daughter since she was 5, shes 16 now, we are very close, im all she has. Ive raised her to be strong and tough, shes a licensed competitive boxer, a straight...
    anronioV anronioV 46-50, M 1 Response 15 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Sweet Dreams? Sarahbella’s story about her bad dreams (http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Feel-Like-My-Dreams-Are-Telling-Me-Something/4781103#reply_5943032) got me...
    bethturner bethturner 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have a friend who thinks she is carrying the whole world with her. I find her always haggard and very lonely. Later this morning, I saw her. Her eye bags were very big. Let me...
    kiendy123 kiendy123 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Me and my best friend had sex again. And we recorded it. It's hot. We watch it and play with each other. We grind our little bare naked p*ssies together and c*m over and over while...
    CuriousGurl13 CuriousGurl13 13-15, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So this all started in 5th, I felt as if it was destiny that brought us together. He first moved to this elementary school n then I also moved to the elementary in like the quarter...
    intellinerdgirl intellinerdgirl 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I really do ... ;( i always think suicide is the best solution of all my problems that ive been thru .
    paola93 paola93 18-21, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've always been the kind of person who was everyone's second mother. I listen to everyone's problems, make them laugh and cry with them. But I feel that when I have a problem and...
    LonelyUsagi LonelyUsagi 13-15, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    For story purposes, we'll just call him, uh, "my broski" (I only call him that when we text) :3 This is gonna be long, but it'll be good... Once mid-November comes, I will have...
    SeitheSaiyan SeitheSaiyan 16-17, F 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    When I was a kid it was hard for me to make friends. My parents really didn't let me do anything, and when I did have friends over they were so strict on me and my friends that no...
    Thatonegirl53 Thatonegirl53 18-21, F Sep 1

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have friend that I met through work. He had recently broken up with his girlfriend when he started flirting with me, telling me how much he wanted to spend time with me. I...
    Muse20 Muse20 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    ''It took me right until present day follow,'' he explained. ''I used to be (ticked) off for about two days, so modern apply permitted me to flush that from my program and just get...
    Jewelgzr Jewelgzr 31-35, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Hi everybody, I'm feeling very lonely. I need a good and best female friend to talk with whom I had lots of fun AND PLEASE NO MALES
    shweta121 shweta121 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ok so I'm a girl and I think im in love with my girl best friend. It scares me a lot because I didn't think I could love a person so much. Our friendship started a few years ago...
    teddy237 teddy237 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'll only ever have one true friend... The only one who's been there for me when I felt weak, who's got my back, who's always been at my side, who never talks back at me. The...
    justicehero justicehero 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i just started high school. my best friend yesenia have been best friends since 7th grade. we were both new so we didn't know anybody and automatically became best friends. the...
    larissa14 larissa14 13-15, F Aug 30

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have this one guy bestfriend, we are super close and he loved this one girl but this girl is so jealous whenever he see me with this guy cause you know they loved each other. But...
    saffaismail saffaismail 16-17, F Sep 5

    Your Response

    Cancel