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I Always Feel Second-best

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    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

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    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

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    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

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    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2013

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    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    Always

    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F Mar 2, 2014

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    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

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    One of my best friends is always better

    than me, and it's just getting to me. She's always smarter (people listen to her advice), prettier (she gets hit on a lot), better (people want to spend time with her) than I'll ever be and it's wrecking my confidence. I love her to bits, but around her, I'm nothing but a second...
    SoulScribe SoulScribe 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 22

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    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26, 2014

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    Most 23 year olds are either engaged or married and want to start a family. They go to multiple interviews and kiss ***** for the most boring jobs on earth. Me, I'm studying...
    DreamWarriorBlake DreamWarriorBlake 22-25, M 18 mins ago

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    I think of my self as a never ending project. Perfection is impossible but I can come as close as I can to my ideal self. I want to be the best guy I can be and I refuse to give up...
    youngadult18 youngadult18 18-21, M 30 mins ago

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    My cousin lost her dad yesterday an hour before her favorite singer's concert. the day before we had gone shopping and she was so so excited. but she got a call and he had...
    yrasel yrasel 16-17, F 4 hrs ago

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    I'm just looking for a cool chick that can understand me. My last best friend abandoned me and I just feel lost in terms of people to confide in. I'm tired of people abandoning me...
    Kasiariele Kasiariele 18-21, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    My Partner and my Best friends decided to tell me that they met this fun new person and uninvited me from all upcoming trips that were always our yearly thing to do, so that they...
    EarthBound86 EarthBound86 26-30, M 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    My best friend makes me laugh and smile when I want to cry. He has no idea how I feel and how much a little part of me dies when he talks about other men / women. We talk about...
    hopefullove86 hopefullove86 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    I know this looks really bad, but please don't judge me. I was 17 when I started working as a waitress in a restaurant in my hometown. One day, as I was about to leave work and...
    ironwoman45 ironwoman45 26-30, F 11 hrs ago

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    Ugh it literally sucks I have a crush on this cute guy for about 2 years and he always tells me he like my best friend and it really hurts and I now know that they are both dating...
    vidiepie3174 vidiepie3174 13-15, F 11 hrs ago

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    Okay, so I have this boyfriend . we have been dating practicality since September of last year. but we broke up for a tad after new years. In between that time he was the most...
    IlyAAfaa IlyAAfaa 13-15, F 12 hrs ago

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    I've been doing so much traveling -Reunited w/ family out in St. George, not the best circumstances, however..such a beautiful experience. Humor has gotten us through the tough...
    marianajohnson marianajohnson 16-17, F 18 hrs ago

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    The fact that my own mom says she'll live better without me really doesn't help the issues im facing and as I look on and on through my life what I've done and what I've been...
    Amubarak88 Amubarak88 16-17, M 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I've noticed that I've been expecting too much from people. I think I am worth so much and deserve love and romance and friendliness and caring, but I don't I hold high standards...
    TrappedAbs TrappedAbs 18-21, F 22 hrs ago

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    So, when I was about 10 my dad got remarried to my now Step-mom, at first she acted like she liked me. She was trying to be my best friend or whatever, but I noticed that she...
    IcySongBird IcySongBird 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    However, this is where I draw the line. So, when I was about 10 my dad got remarried to my now Step-mom, at first she acted like she liked me. She was trying to be my best friend...
    IcySongBird IcySongBird 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    My best friend and I meet three years ago in Sophomore year of high school. She was a friend of a friend, and we instantly clicked. This past year, senior year, we have gotten...
    Sarah1232 Sarah1232 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I don't feel lonely. I am lonely. I'm afraid of people. So I don't have any best friend in real life besides this guy who tries to make me feel welcomed... He tries to get people...
    Shilfer Shilfer 16-17, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Even when I'm surrounded by those who know me best I always feel like this, it's starting to wear at me, and every night I start breaking, crying, shaking, wanting to stop... I'd...
    qman986 qman986 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    I deleted one of my posts due to negativity about how my face looks so not feeling the best kinda depressed about it to be honest because I didn't think I look that bad...
    Jacob0399 Jacob0399 16-17, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I aint been talking to my friend nowadyas, it seems like she does not wanna b online because of me, as far as I know I dont do anywrong with her...but I know one day she will talk...
    Sonjay22 Sonjay22 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    I went to a biker festival called mountain fest about hour away. I decided to camp their for the 4 day event. While I was camping their on Friday ran into a nice couple and their...
    johnjoe4824 johnjoe4824 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I feel like my stepmom hates me, her and my dad have been together since I was 16 months old and I'll be 20 in April, she's the one who caused my parents divorce, but I've never...
    harliedanielle417 harliedanielle417 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I don't know....reading all the stories here...makes me feel I was never really even friends with my best friend. I mean we never actually met. Except for once. Never before or...
    stabbedtoceasersalad stabbedtoceasersalad 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I am a 15 year old girl. I am the oldest in my family and i just finished 10th grade. I do ok in school but i got bullied by the older girls. I have a few friends but they're...
    Dunyyax Dunyyax 13-15, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Psychedelics and Moving On: So I'm at a point where I am ready to let go and take a break from my social group. I've been in denial and making excuses as to why things have been...
    elodiedreams elodiedreams 22-25, F Jul 26

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    Whenever I am out somewhere with my family and we stop to eat somewhere or go to the grocery store I always recognize the person who is ringing us up or waiting on us is a real...
    jillmyers91901 jillmyers91901 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    Me and this girl, let's say her name is Lucy, for privacy purposes, had a undeniably strong connection from the start. We just got each other so well. And it didn't take us long...
    RecklessReign RecklessReign 16-17, F Jul 23

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    Whenever life knocks me down (and it has many times) I always pick myself up off the mat, brush myself off, and move forward from that point. I always try my best to not allow...
    allisonhashope allisonhashope 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    I realize some of my experiences on here have been rather dark or not so happy happy and it's true. They were shared at times when I wasn't feeling my best. As I'm sure many on...
    MrPerditus MrPerditus 51-55, M Jul 23

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    I just... it's so hard to explain. I don't know where to start. A few years ago, my life was perfect. I was the best at everything, an A+ honor student, a promising future in any...
    AnyExperience AnyExperience 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 23