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I Always Feel Second-best

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    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Yep

    it's like i care so much more than everyone else, and they're free to do whatever they like to me and I'll still be there. I don't understand why I'm always second best when I have so much love and affection to give. People are always looking for "nice" people, I am a nice...
    papercastles papercastles 22-25, F 2 Responses May 25, 2010

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    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26

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    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

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    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

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    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

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    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

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    spent my time watchin' the spaces that have grown between us. And I cut my mind on second best or the scars that come with the greeness. And I gave my eyes to the boredom, still...
    Nichalas Nichalas 22-25, M 11 hrs ago

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    Lately, I have not been feeling very great. I do not have anyone to talk to and so it's usually just me and God (but most of the time, I don't know if he's even listening to me...
    bakemehappy bakemehappy 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have a clique of friends, consisting of 7 ppl including me. So right, everyone has their own pair and I'm always always alone. My best friend, F, is also in the clique but...
    Planetweird Planetweird 16-17, F Mar 28

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    I feel extremely guilty even writing this, but I can't keep it to myself anymore. My friend-last year definitively a "best" friend and this year one of my roommates- has become...
    messycrazylife messycrazylife 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    My girlfriend is 1st best Toothless comes second best!
    123kact 123kact 13-15, M 3 days ago

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    It is always so easy for people/friends to say "stop feeling that way. Your feeling aren't helping you." Feeling can't be turned off and on with a switch. The feelings of...
    Linndsay Linndsay 26-30 1 Response Apr 6

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    I don't why~ I have a big one who's generally aloof to me. I always wanted a cute little brother who looks up to me and thinks I'm the coolest. :D Hm...really awesome kid who's...
    ladypirate108 ladypirate108 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough, even when I'm trying my best. Today I finished my 5th term of college and my over all grade came out to a B (mostly cause I forgot to...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F Mar 26

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    remember in elementary school when if we didn't know the answer we could "phone a friend" or "pick a lifeline" and you'd always choose you best friend because you knew they wouldn...
    jenna009912345 jenna009912345 22-25, F Apr 6

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    I dislike tipping, plain and simple. It's not legally required unless a large bill incurs a mandatory 'gratuity fee.' Then again, I'm unsure if a restaurant has the legal right...
    FonderAbsence FonderAbsence 31-35, M Apr 11

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    I hate this feeling. Going day by day with no one to talk to. Having no close friends or anyone for that matter to call a friend, to share random stupid things about :( I always...
    Nikky13 Nikky13 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I really feel that I don't have friends , friends who I can trust , who I share problems. I just have people who just love to torture me , ruin my life & make feel. I don't have...
    darkheart93 darkheart93 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I really feel that I don't have friends , friends who I can trust , who I share problems. I just have people who just love to torture me , ruin my life & make feel. I don't have...
    darkheart93 darkheart93 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    I know many people, but I haven't found more than 2 people that just click with me. I always feel lonely, even when I'm talking to people I care about.
    Marshallman90 Marshallman90 16-17, M Apr 3

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    Think I'm coming down with the flu or something..... Hope not though! My best friend's wedding shower is tomorrow and I want to feel my best for her! Say a little prayer for me...
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 22-25, F Apr 11

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    I'm a college student whose boyfriend allows to go to school full time and not work as much. He pays all the bills and since I made a choice early in life to not drive, he drives...
    PoisonLace PoisonLace 31-35, F Apr 14

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    This is actually a dissociative disorder called derealization/depersonalization, in case you were wondering. People who are sleep deprived, bipolar, depressed, schizophrenic or...
    xmer831x xmer831x 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I have been in relationship for 10 years since my 19. I know I have a huge problem with communication but I have always did everything for my bf and our relationship more than for...
    zubel zubel 26-30, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Hello everyone. I am 14 years old and you might think this is just the stupidity of teenage hood but I seriously have a problem. So I became friends with my "Beast Friend " 4 years...
    AlexandraMikhailov AlexandraMikhailov 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    My ex and I have been together two different times. The first time lasted 3 months and then 6 months later we ended up together again for a year. It's been a little over two months...
    LameyC LameyC 18-21, F Apr 12

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    I have seen this more and more and I don't understand. Best friend -A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or...
    lovedandadored lovedandadored 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now wants me back. We've been together 2 and a half years and he decided he was unhappy and we were both sick of the arguing. i do love...
    abi14 abi14 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I believe everything happens for a reason and that you meet everyone that you meet for a reason. Most of my friends have been girls, but I've had one really good guy friend and...
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    I miss my best friend so bady 😭😭😭 Sometimes i just wish i could go back start over. Maybe if I had a second chance, I wouldn't have lost her. She can't possibly know how...
    TaylorNicoleee TaylorNicoleee 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    whoevausayiam whoevausayiam 26-30, F Mar 31

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    harperm97 harperm97 16-17, F Mar 24

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    WhyDoYouThinkYouKnowMe WhyDoYouThinkYouKnowMe 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    CaptainMer CaptainMer 16-17 Mar 31

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