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I Always Feel Second-best

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    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26

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    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

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    Yep

    it's like i care so much more than everyone else, and they're free to do whatever they like to me and I'll still be there. I don't understand why I'm always second best when I have so much love and affection to give. People are always looking for "nice" people, I am a nice...
    papercastles papercastles 22-25, F 2 Responses May 25, 2010

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    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F Mar 2

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    Always

    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2013

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    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

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    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

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    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

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    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    My husband preferred fat, slips and stockings over intimacy with me. I craved romance. He craved dressing up and showing someone else online how he looked. I wanted to be wanted as...
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    I do not believe there is a better way to describe how i feel than just putting AAAAARRRRGGGHHH!!!!! >:( The most suprising thing is, others in our rather large frendship group...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    I don't know how I can explain more then the title. I need to feel important. Right now I feel like second best...
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    I have been in a friendship with several friendship groups since I began secondary school. However, whenever I'm with any of these people, I always feel as if me being there or not...
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    I admit it hurts...to always feel as if in the end, it comes down to me and just me. But that philosophy has also given me tremendous amount of courage to take charge. And it's my...
    ConLocura ConLocura 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    Emily means the world to me... She has always been there for me and even though I may not agree with everything she does, she'll always be my best friend and I will always love her...
    xxInes20xx xxInes20xx 13-15, F Oct 20

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    Women deserve only the best when it comes to fashion accessories and dresses. The different examples of high quality silk cami sets in the online market these days are the things...
    edr567 edr567 26-30, M Oct 15

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    I haven't seen him in 3 years and I remember everything about him, and everything the two of us did together. He was my best friend for as long as I can remember. He moved to...
    DenverBroncos21 DenverBroncos21 13-15, F Oct 16

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    So I'm 20 he's 21 we've known one another for about 4yrs now, and have been in serious long term relationships while remaining friends, we've always kept a respectable distance and...
    lilzee225 lilzee225 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    So I'm 20 he's 21 we've known one another for about 4yrs now, and have been in serious long term relationships while remaining friends, we've always kept a respectable distance and...
    lilzee225 lilzee225 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    I'm going to tell you guys my perspective on how my depression came to what it is now. This is going to take a while. five years back, I was then 10/11 years old. I had a group...
    RianneK RianneK 16-17, F Oct 15

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    I always thought I would have someone who I would get along with constantly, who I could talk to about anything, who i could help when they needed it, but then it just never...
    Hopespringseternal Hopespringseternal 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    I put this together. My first speech so please be nice :) Spread the love <3 To my fellow classmates, Mrs. McLoughlin, and to anyone who cares to listen: Focus on my voice...
    CGilmartin CGilmartin 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Yes, definitely it would be great. My experience turns out to be an huge cliché tough. My boyfriend at high-school was actually gay. He was also my best friend, and I think I have...
    Awkward26 Awkward26 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    I was really depressed last November to the point that I didn’t believe I was depressed and told my 2 best friends I was bipolar when I wasn’t. I also told one of them I was...
    em27soccer em27soccer 16-17, F Oct 7

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    I suppose it all started the night of hallowe'en when i was walking back from a party, drunk, having already purchsed my kebab, and wanting to devour it in peace. My memories are...
    lologreeno lologreeno 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    So... I'm gay and best friends with this straight guy and i went over to his house and he's so provocative the first time i went to his house and the second time that i went he put...
    benjibatch benjibatch 13-15, M 6 days ago

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    Okay, so here's my story. One which I am still living. It's been the hardest time of my life and I thought I should share this experience with everyone who feels the same way. So...
    shenanigan94x shenanigan94x 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Well, I'm a girl, and my best friend is also a girl, just to clear that up. When we first met, I was kind of closed up. I didn't like to be touchy with people. A bunch of my...
    refusingtogiveup refusingtogiveup 18-21, F Oct 12

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    My last chance at anger management, it was run by the Salvation Army people, we sat in a room, which had school like desks, there were ten people in this room. I could see from...
    Create63 Create63 46-50, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've best friends with my guy friend E since freshman year (3 years) (though I've known him since 8th) and We've been through so much together, His suicide watch in 10th grade, my...
    Creelluka Creelluka 16-17, F Oct 13

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    So, i have this one friend that i love so much he's so adorable ive known him since 2005 and he's my best friend i love him so much and he's everything i'd ever ask for he's the...
    BrokenBrittanyLovesDaniel BrokenBrittanyLovesDaniel 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    It has been a little over a month since our break up. Everyday is hard but everyday is getting easier. I was best friends with my ex before our relationship, and we decided we...
    Hohjo Hohjo 18-21, M Oct 12

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    I just bought a Blue SecondSkin Full Body Spandex/Lycra Suit. This is my second full body spandex suit from SecondSkin Suits. I am currently wearing my red full body spandex...
    ILoveSpandex ILoveSpandex 18-21, M Oct 4

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    Hey everybody, I'm new to this Experience Project. Anyways, I just wanted to express that lately I feel like I have lost some friends. The "best friends" that I thought I had some...
    iloveleague iloveleague 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 9

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    So, I call him just a person, because we have been romantic for about a year, but never officially. I couldn't get a hold of him for a few days, and naturally, I was worried. He...
    pinupjacket pinupjacket 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 21

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    First boyfriend- I felt like he'd never leave and no matter how sad I was, i'd be happy when he was around. I felt safe from everything bad. Second boyfriend- was a piece of...
    KayandtheCelloCats KayandtheCelloCats 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    My best friend is actually a guy, girls that I have considered best friends have always stabbed me in the back and now I don't really trust them anymore and I don't let people get...
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    "Just Once" I did my best But I guess my best wasn't good enough Cause here we are Back where we were before Seems nothin' ever changes We're back to being strangers Wondering if...
    zoiera zoiera 26-30, F Oct 6

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    I think I only text him in the morning to laugh at what he'll say. I swear I shouldn't be best friends with my best friends ex but it's worth every second of it!
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt 16-17, F Oct 12

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    I have a crush on my best friend "Amy". (I am a girl) I've had a crush in her for two months and she knows, but she doesn't really take it seriously. She has a crush on Jane. So...
    Kaylee000 Kaylee000 16-17, F Oct 19

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    So , I love my best friend, rather she is my best friend because i liked her so much and just spent so much of my time wit her. It has been two years now since i started talking to...
    randomguy16 randomguy16 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 30

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