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I Always Feel Second-best

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    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

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    When I'm dating someone I always try

    and put my girlfriends feelings and plans into consideration before I make a decision or even make plans to do something. For example if I find something in a store that she might like I consider getting it for her, or even making plans with friends I ask her if she would like...
    zackers zackers 18-21, M 5 hrs ago

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    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

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    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2013

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    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

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    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

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    Always

    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    One of my best friends is always better

    than me, and it's just getting to me. She's always smarter (people listen to her advice), prettier (she gets hit on a lot), better (people want to spend time with her) than I'll ever be and it's wrecking my confidence. I love her to bits, but around her, I'm nothing but a second...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 22

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    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26, 2014

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    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F Mar 2, 2014

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    i make sure that i keep to a workout routine. i will start with squats and crunches. I like side stretches and leg lifts. it makes me feel better about myself as i am a girl that...
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    Everyone should make the effort to always look their best in my opinion. Your best is just exactly that, your best, it makes you feel good, well it does for me.
    heterohelen heterohelen 31-35, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    TheMeditatingCat TheMeditatingCat 18-21, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am the helpful kind of person and always try my best to help people and they will treat me like dust i mean i am a person too and i have things more important to do but i am a...
    whitelightning809 whitelightning809 13-15, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Why did you have to tell me? I was perfectly happy and perfectly fine. I was fine with being just friends. I moved on from you, and found someone great. But every time you come...
    Lilibear Lilibear 22-25 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I know mine seems a lot better since I found her. I have to confess, I never really saw myself having a female best friend....kind of a sex fiend, so that always seemed a little...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    My Meyers-Briggs personality profile is ISFJ and I often find myself feeling used by others. I am very compassionate and go out of my way to help friends and family. As I grow...
    OML1971 OML1971 41-45 3 days ago

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    I am okay. and I don't mean it in a dishonest way, or telling you what you want to hear so I don't need to explain myself. I am okay,happy and relaxed typing this. I have finally...
    kiki2016 kiki2016 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Since 8th grade a girl and I became bestfriends and so close. We're in 10th grade now and she had gotten a boyfriend in 9th grade and at the beginning they he was nice and sweet to...
    Girlyneedhelp Girlyneedhelp 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    Things are complicated... To say the least. I have a crush on my best friend, as the title says...at least I think I do. I don't know, I've never really liked someone like this...
    AllieKat17 AllieKat17 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Yeah i always had a crush with my best friend (a girl) i just cant pretend that feeling, the feeling when you love someone because you feel comfortable with her. That made my bf...
    recovery420 recovery420 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    My best friend and I have known each other for 10 years. Lol it's going to sound lame but he is also my only friend. My only friend back in Texas. The first thing that entered my...
    Perseph0ne Perseph0ne 26-30, F a week ago

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    so apperantly my best friend didn't text me or call me for nearly a week.. the last time we spoke "properly" was on friday last week.. a friend of mine came from another city to...
    leyelaxx leyelaxx 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    so apperantly my best friend didn't text me or call me for nearly a week.. the last time we spoke "properly" was on friday last week.. a friend of mine came from another city to...
    leyelaxx leyelaxx 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm not sure if it's all in my head or what, but I constantly feel someone watching me. My best friend and I always talk about a group of people who are after us, and I don't want...
    MrMenShow MrMenShow 18-21, F Aug 27

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    Just got out of a 7 year relationship. I had given everything for this relationship; my friends, my family, and I geared everything I did as well as the things I was willing to do...
    kongxmeng kongxmeng 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 27

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    In seventh grade, I came to a private Christian school. I had been homeschooled for five years before that and was to enter a new school. I knew what to expect in some ways, but in...
    xoxosweetsierra xoxosweetsierra 13-15, F Aug 26

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    Firstly, I have always known somehow I had a gift to sense the emotions of other people as if they were my own. I can also sense any feeling when someone really *wants* something...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    I am tired with my family not accepting me as a gamer, an atheist and a feminist. They keep criticizing me for not living in the real world, say games are for kids and teenagers...
    EV97 EV97 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    Not sure what to say... Feel like we took a step backwards not where I want to be... Not at all... When I say things... I truly mean them I need to see if I'm worth the effort...
    HisBeautifulDisaster HisBeautifulDisaster 36-40, F Aug 24

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    I am done with this place. I am not here for convenience. I am sick of feeling like I am being tossed to the side or being second best. It only makes me feel like I'm never going...
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    Have you ever felt that you always fall short of everything.. That theres always missing, somethings not right. Or is it all in my mind that when you think you gave your best the...
    nalbyan nalbyan 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 23

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    Went to my best friend Aury's birthday party today. Even though her real birthday passed a few weeks ago lol it was still fun! I love this girl so much, she's the best!!! And her...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 23

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing through newsgroups just like you are...
    manusundr manusundr 46-50, M Aug 22

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    Speaking it out loud would sound more than a little needy, or selfish, or attention seeking. But on EP i hear it's okay. But i wondered many times what is this strange feeling I...
    stabbedtoceasersalad stabbedtoceasersalad 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing through newsgroups just like you are...
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