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I Always Feel Second-best

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    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

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    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    Always

    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

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    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

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    Yep

    it's like i care so much more than everyone else, and they're free to do whatever they like to me and I'll still be there. I don't understand why I'm always second best when I have so much love and affection to give. People are always looking for "nice" people, I am a nice...
    papercastles papercastles 22-25, F 2 Responses May 25, 2010

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    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

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    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26

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    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    I know I'm still at a young age and will probably find someone again blah blah, but it hurts to have heart broken by someone you thought loved you. My first relationship was awful...
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    I feel different... Whoever you are, if your reading this, I'm sorry that it doesn't make sense but I come with an odd problem or ability of feeling different while losing the...
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    I've changed to a new school this school year. I have a pretty good group of friends now and they're just so nice to me. We always sit together during morning tea and lunch but I...
    katrinaxxoxo katrinaxxoxo 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I just started 5th grade and of course I would always find a best freind but none of them were well enough interested in me they would always drift away and leave me behind I sat...
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    I never feel like i belong with my friends. I won't lie and say i'm the best friend there is because i'm not. I always think bad about them or insult them in my head. I know it's...
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    Why is it that I always feel more depressed the day and days after marriage counseling? Our counselor is the best one we've had yet I'm not feeling optimistic. Is universe trying...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I always feel this way, best to control it and cry at the right times.
    Diamondgirly Diamondgirly 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I dont need many. Maybe I just need one. one to share everything that happen in my life. I already have a boy friend. but Im losing my best friend... It hurts you know. when you...
    pikachiel pikachiel 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am feeling so alone, no matter how many people are really around me. I have 2 kids and a partner. I also live in a house with my family, a total of 8 people. I feel I need more...
    Krissysheart Krissysheart 22-25, F 59 mins ago

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    So I'm bi and yes I fell in love with my best friend who was a girl. (Thats when i found out i was bi) I could talk to her about anything, no secret was hidden between us. We'd...
    jacithepanda jacithepanda 13-15, F 56 mins ago

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    You inspired the deepest most profound poetry I never thought I had the ability to write. You inspired the deepest most profound feelings that led me into an obsession with you. As...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Ur the reason it didn't work out with anyone else, I always have and always will have feelings for u, u believe I deserve better and that u are not good for me but u are wrong my...
    Danosaurphilion Danosaurphilion 13-15, F 9 hrs ago

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    Most of my life has been a complete mess. I had a terrible childhood, I was bullied, my dad has drinking problems, my mother has psychiatric problems, etc. And now, that my parents...
    DeniedWings DeniedWings 18-21, M 17 hrs ago

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    The void I felt as I fell apart was, at least to what I could imagine in my mind, probably equal to what you felt when I'd left you in the hospital. I began to feel very sad. I...
    justderek justderek 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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    He left for uni. The last time I see him its maybe one or two weeks ago, on a Friday. The last time I ever see him face to face. I tried to stay in contact with him. But he seems...
    yomy1603 yomy1603 18-21, F 19 hrs ago

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    I moved back to Florida with my husband at the end of May, and my grandfather died on June 4th while I was on the phone with my grandmother. It was sort of expected because he had...
    PunkinH2O PunkinH2O 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    Alright, okay. I really just need to get this out there, even if it is to a community of strangers. I would also like to apologize in advance for how long this may be. I am deeply...
    7Questions 7Questions 13-15, M Jun 25

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    So I did the personality test (http://www.16personalities.com) too like many people have and I was suprised by how well certain aspects fit me 0.o I always felt like not many...
    kimmy159 kimmy159 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 14

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    There is a girl in my band class, that I got to know really well last school year. During the school year we got to become really good friends if not best friends. During second...
    marchdan marchdan 13-15, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    She still doesn't care. Nor does he. I don't know why I spend so many tears of sorrow on them. I just can't seem to stop. No matter how hard I try to push away the memories, they...
    bornand4gotten bornand4gotten 18-21, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    He is the kindest soul you could ever wanna meet. He understands me more than anyone >.< ive known him under a year. But it feels like my whole life. I was nervous when I told...
    yukihiro yukihiro 18-21, F 8 hrs ago

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    Feb 20, 2014 my best friend and mentor died of cancer. He was diagnosed on Christmas Eve 2013 and given 3 months. Feb he was gone. He helped me when I was suicidal. I thought I was...
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    A man of the past I lie at night in bed alone thinking of his smile last night, I knew he would be here any second, I don’t know where he goes but I keep believing he will be...
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    I want one good friend that's always on and there for me. Who actually wants to talk to me all the time ..
    xXSkylineXx xXSkylineXx 18-21, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I have a Best friend that is married shes in her 30's shes a curvy type of woman brunette hair & tanned skin.... This 1 time she had a falling out with her hubby and was alone in...
    NathanLovesHisBestfriend NathanLovesHisBestfriend 22-25, M Jul 13

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    sometimes it is the best idea to hide your feeling, this is because they're people in this world that will be quick to grab an opportunity to take advantage of thoughts who are...
    Elizabeth1411 Elizabeth1411 16-17, F 5 hrs ago

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    I think I've finally found my true love. His name is Paul and we first met in 8th grade which was about 8 years ago. When we first met he was a real jerk, he constantly teased me...
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    Okay so I met this boy and instantly I felt a connection, we got to know each other over the span of two months and he treated me amazing, we would talk on the phone every single...
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    I met you at a bar in my hometown only six years ago. We barely knew each other but we got along like we'd known each other forever. You chased me around the bar with a pool cue...
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