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I Always Feel Second-best

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    I have come to notice

    that over the last few months i have managed to put everyone elses feelings before my own. Worrying about what they will think or worried i will hurt them in some way. I should have been looking out for myself in this process and i just forgot.I miss who i was becoming and not...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    Second Best To Her Ex

    I am so tired of my gf crying about her ex..they never even met! She was just an online thing..why can't she see that when people talk online it can seem intense but its not real..the person can be so different in real life..Her ex has so many issues too and she can't cope with...
    taintedbutterfly taintedbutterfly 36-40, F Feb 10, 2013

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    Always No.2 And How It Sparked Thoughts Of Death

    Well, if I am good at something, I can never be the best....NEVER~ someones gonna come and crush me down. In fact, I've never been"the best" in anything....I always think I am the worst...which is the truth. Was just thinking long and hard just now. Nothing can force me to keep...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    It's A Vicious Circle That Never Seems To Turn

    When I was a kid growing up, I was always that kid in the schoolyard who found solace with being on his own. Instead of going out at lunch, I'd come up with a hundred and one excuses not to. I'd pull a sickie and sit outside the principle's office for lunch; and on the rare...
    Samcro440 Samcro440 18-21, M 1 Response May 25, 2010

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    Eternal 2nd Place

    I’m tired. I have issues with not feeling good enough. I’ve felt like that my entire life. That I was in an eternal 2nd place. Literally, every day, I have to work on it. And it’s not just in one area of my life, it’s in all of them. It’s the reason I don’t ever like...
    cwhite35 cwhite35 22-25, F Oct 24, 2012

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    Insecure

    isnt it just great feeling best though? always feeling like someone just speaks to you cause no one else will, or the other persons busy? yeah well this is me all the time. what am i doing wrong that no one speaks to me
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    Never Been Crowned The Best...:(

    I am the middle child among the three siblings.When we were younger people always said I am different because I was the only one who didn't know how to mingle with the people around me especially to my parents' friends and colleagues. I could still remember their reactions when...
    lonelylady25 lonelylady25 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    This must how the folks in

    that small town in Washington State must feel right now. Why? Check the news ... that missing plane is STILL dominating the headlines (at least on CNN) even though it's almost been 3 weeks since it's gone missing and not a he1luva lot has been discovered to push the story...
    midnighttrain61 midnighttrain61 51-55, M Mar 26, 2014

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    Always

    I never feel good enough... I have crushed my own ego.. I never am satisfied... I always want to achieve more... I wish I could stop this vicious cycle...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F 6 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Second Is Just the First Loser...

    I have felt, my entire life, like I was always second-best to someone or something else, no matter the situation.  Growing up, my grandparents had multiple grandchildrenm and I was not special.  I was just a number in the large group of grandchildren. The third...
    shag79 shag79 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    Second Best ...

    See this group says ''feel'' second best ... that is not the case for me ... i know i am second best. It is one of the hardest things to feel and to come to terms with but when it comes down to people you love it becomes even harder and it breaks every part of you. I have spent...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2013

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    Music, Cooking And Other Things.

    I don't really have a whole lot to say about this other than I feel exactly the way this group title says. Wherever I play music live, there's always a hotshot freak player who's about to get signed and has only been playing for half the time I have. I'm never play poorly, but...
    rynfolk rynfolk 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2010

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    So I've had a day of just feeling sorry

    for my self, and i guess it's just made me feel worse x I've never really had confidence issues, and I'm not a shy person; I'm just having a really big problem at the moment when I'm out with my best friend x We seem to be spending so much time to together and going on night out...
    chazneychimp chazneychimp 22-25, F Mar 2, 2014

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    It's not the children's fault. It's the parents waiting years to get divorced and complicating my life. I met my BF/husband to be while he was still legally married. He explained...
    celinamars123 celinamars123 18-21, F 12 hrs ago

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    I may take this further and not understand it "right" but.. The second best... (second to none?). I wont always settle for second best.. But the best, number 1 is often abit too...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M Mar 12

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    I met my best friend when I was 14 and he was 12. There was an instant connection and I fell head over heels for him. Everyone asked if we were a couple and we both said no...but...
    zippy80 zippy80 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    ive got 3 children twins age 12 and a daughter age 11.im not with their dad I ended our relationship when they were 2 and 3.he was so violent and I couldn't cope anymore.it wasn't...
    wholetintherain wholetintherain 36-40, F Mar 21

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    Maybe its just boredom or the several restrictions of society which enable us from living our lives properly, but sometimes i feel nothing. Where i grew up and used to live was a...
    crazydoughnut123 crazydoughnut123 13-15, F Mar 7

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    It sucks that I always like or fall for the wrong women. And sometimes I don't even know it. My feelings always get the best of me when I should go with my gut first.
    Justadarkhole Justadarkhole 22-25, M Mar 12

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    I don't have many friends. I only have 3 to 6 friends. And they are not my classmates now. There are my best friends from junior high school and from class before. I am not popular...
    ochamr ochamr 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I always feel like I'm sitting on the outside looking in. Can someone out there be that special person who can just pull me in and make me feel like I'm part of their world?
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 3

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    I always try to be positive no matter what, i really think without a positive mind you wont have a good life,it takes one thing and its at least trying, i know i failed to stay...
    NataliaKry NataliaKry 13-15 Mar 17

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    I always try my best to save every animal that I see. One time, I almost killer someone who was trying to buen a dog so I hited him with a branch and taked the dog to my home.
    KiddoAisaku KiddoAisaku 13-15, T Mar 7

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    I fell in love with my best friend. Just the other day we had a talk about how we were both questioning our sexuality. It took a lot for me not to just kiss her dight then and...
    BeYou321 BeYou321 13-15, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I dont care what people think of me or say about me because i am who i am and i can not change that i dont care anymore that i failing after trying my best
    iqra765 iqra765 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

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    She is my best friend we meet in the university we eat to gather we do our projects together we come in the same time, I liked her because she is always happy and laughing at my...
    collegegirl20 collegegirl20 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    I'm so Confused! PART 1 So I changed schools. I finished my tenth grade and left to another school and stayed there my junior and senior year. In my junior year I met a boy named...
    M1k3L3vitZ M1k3L3vitZ 18-21, M Mar 5

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    I feel this deep emptiness filling every inch inside of me. Maybe it the result of my impatience to move forward. I want to leap but things in life are not obtained in a single...
    searchingfar searchingfar 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    I received a letter from the Calgary City police about 2 days after I returned home from my over night stay at the hospital. They said they were now in possession of all my...
    paganknight72 paganknight72 41-45, M a week ago

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    Okay so, I have a friend that I grew up with throughout high school. He always flirted with me and stuff, but I always ignored it because I knew he basically just wanted to have...
    SupremeBeingOfLeisure SupremeBeingOfLeisure 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    To start this experience off, yes I did take sleeping pills because I hadn’t slept in 3 days straight and I was to the point of exhaustion and my stress levels from my occupation...
    paganknight72 paganknight72 41-45, M Mar 19

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    I'm friends with almost every single person in my school, yet I never get invited to go out with anyone. I feel like nobody really cares about me. Even though while I walk in the...
    futuremike1 futuremike1 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    So all of my life, I have liked guys. Not girls. Not in that way. but recently I have been having... in the words of Jack Sparrow, stirrings for my best friend. Now I have known...
    futurefish futurefish 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I honestly don't know how to feel about myself at all anymore. I've been dating this guy for 7 months Nd I just don't feel good enough for him at this point. I feel like I can't...
    DyingLightx DyingLightx 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    I can't believe it has been 3 years since you have been gone. When I was 14, me and my best friends had taken the world. The trio and I would do anything and everything together...
    tessagj14 tessagj14 16-17, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I let him in and he destroyed me. So basically, I'm writing this right now because I feel the need to speak out about what I went/am going through. As most painful heartaches...
    LittleMissDuck LittleMissDuck 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My parents split a few years ago. My mom fell in love with a neighbor and eventually moved states away. That was the most difficult depressing time of my life. As soon as she moved...
    Shessolovely Shessolovely 18-21 1 day ago

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    When I was a Junior in high school I dated this boy and we were madly in love. We dated until after graduation, we went to Junior and Senior prom together and lost our virginity to...
    Rah04 Rah04 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    I was 7years old again. Roaming a town that looked like Ireland in the 1900s. Down and broken, I didn't speak.... All I could remember is the feeling of despair and being lonely...
    QueenGeisha QueenGeisha 22-25, F Mar 13

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    I never knew what having a real best friend was like until I met her. It was like we knew each other better than anyone else. We knew how each other were feeling beneath the...
    mytruth54695 mytruth54695 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    Hey guys! iam sorry if my english isnt that good becouse its not my first language. So like a month I feel depressed, sad, usless, lonely,... I dont want to go in school anymore...
    evica123 evica123 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I fell in love. At least I thought I did. Several years ago I just came out of an ugly relationship and immediate jumped into a completely 100% different one. I was happy and...
    betterthanbono betterthanbono 22-25, M Mar 10

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