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I Always Felt Like I Didn't Fit In

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    Black Sheep

    Ever since school start I was always different and no one understood me. I was always that weird nerd or that weird rocker and metal girl. All I ever wanted was to find people just like me so we can have conversations I can talk about and to have a mutual understanding of each...
    Numbing65 Numbing65 13-15, F May 18, 2013

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    Ghetto And White At The Same Time

    Okay so short funny story. When I moved to Chicago everyone was hesitant at first, and no one liked me. They said that I talked "white", but how can you speak a color? I don't talk white, I'm just educated. But when I moved to Naperville, which is the suburbs, they refer to me as...
    ChenelleKeepsitreal ChenelleKeepsitreal 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2011

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    Always Different

    I never felt like I could relate to anyone. I seem to keep distance between myself and everyone else. I sometimes think its because I'm ashamed of who I am inside and if I keep my distance, no one will find out. I long to be "one of the guys", but i've never had long-term...
    AmosCarlile AmosCarlile 31-35, M Dec 3, 2011

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    Still Feel As If I Don't Fit In, Even When I Might

    I had a lot of social problems and was very poor as a kid. I was the class outcast, and, being a kid, I didn't think about things in terms of later or elsewhere: I didn't just think I was a freak there in that school; I thought I was a freak in terms of the whole human race...
    SomethingLikeALady SomethingLikeALady 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    I just dont feel like i belong in all the high

    school clicks im not a jock im not emo or goth im not popular im a bit of a rebel but i feel out of place when im there like a wolf in a lions cage it just feels strange to be there
    Blueclaw Blueclaw 16-17, M Jun 21

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    But then i just got brave

    and spoke up. Lmao. Tried advising. Shared my experiences. Still dont have a nich. But fit in more than i thought. Lol. Its a nice feeling.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 12

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    Glad I didn't "fit in".

    ..**** that ****.Gotta' be your own individual,don't let society make one up for ya'.
    McKnight94 McKnight94 18-21, M Jul 12

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    I Really Started To Notice Around The Age Of 15 Or So

    i found that i didnt want to always go out and do stuff. i didnt want to get into drugs or even smoke. i remember telling myself and my best friend that i was going to try smoking pot. i convinced myself that i needed to try it. i never could do it though. and thats when me and...
    EdgeCrusher EdgeCrusher 26-30, M May 12, 2011

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    Odd Ball Out

    I havent ever felt like I "fit in" or whatever you want to say. Being a kid I was always around guys. Even now that Im older I still find myself feeling like that odd kid out. I stand out and people stare like Im going to rob them or hurt them lol. Its stupid. But I guess thats...
    lostncali lostncali 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2011

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    I was stoked to visit my first comicon today,

    as none of my friends were really "nerdy" enough to be into it. I meticulously planned my matching costume with my biffle and I thought we looked fantastic! No one knew who we were though... Plus i think I was the only woman there wearing a moustache, lol. Well, this Mecca...
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia 26-30, F Jul 13

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    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    I'm Just Me

    I don't fit it. Never have and never will. I like being alone (just not lonely). I can't be put into a particular category so sometimes I feel like I just float around. This isn't necessarily a bad thing because it's easier to judge people once you can fit them into a label. Then...
    BlankPage123456787 BlankPage123456787 70+, F Jan 7, 2012

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    I've always been a loner.

    I grew up as an only child and both parents worked so I was a latch-key kid. I was alone much of the time. I learned early on how to amuse myself. That carried into school where I was happier in the back of the room by myself and after school where I went off to the woods or...
    FriendlyBryan FriendlyBryan 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    I still feel this way,

    because it's true. I will never matter to anybody. No friends, no family, no boyfriend......just.....nobody.....
    ImaWeirdie ImaWeirdie 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    I Have Never Fit In With My Birth Family

    it was made very clear as far back as i can remember they wrong one had died at bith they wanted a girl not a son remeber being in the hopsital for 6 months as a child and i never saw family once during that time remember being used by my uncile and no one care they all knew...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Feb 29, 2012

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    Being The Oddball

    Yes, even when i was with guys who were mostly the same age as me i was not quite the same as every one else in the group. Because i wore colours that were bright and girlish, i was considered to be something of a sissy ,even back then.When i was in middle junior high school and...
    dragonfang dragonfang 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    I don't know if I was born in the wrong era

    or the in wrong side of the world or in the wrong family. I always managed to become an outsider. I don't like it and I wish to change.
    alexiadahl alexiadahl 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Outside Looking In.

    for as long i could remember, (until just recently) i had always ben the odd child out. first it was my height...i guess for girls you could say im tall..5'8 flat, and 6'1 or 6'2 in heels... what can i say? I love my high heels :) anyway, growing up I was always tall...my first...
    HERChikken HERChikken 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 22, 2011

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    at school been bullied

    since year three. badly bucktoothed therefore badly bullied. lost all my friends basically spent a whole year of lunchtimes sitting alone. didnt feel like i fitted in at all. i struggled to make friends and got myself into lots of trouble at home and at school. by yr nine...
    emmy1998 emmy1998 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    I went to a group who were also fatherless.

    I realised I was part of something more than loneliness of a parent. My father was killed. Some women have fathers who runaway. Although I still feel I don't fit in in this particular way over others, at least my father didn't reject me.
    Silfverberg Silfverberg 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    Yeah that's me. Up until

    now I never felt like I belonged anywhere. Sometimes I still do but I realized now that I have always fit in with myself. I will never fit in with society the way I'd always dreamed and I'm glad. Self acceptance lets me forget everybody else and be happy with just me. :)
    SunlilySky SunlilySky 18-21, F Feb 27

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    I Do Not Fit

    i should have died back in 1967 when my wife was killed and her mother took her own life think bot of her kids were dead i learned to give respect to others few have that anymore and i know i am a bad speller now and i am sorry for that it is just one of the skills that never...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Jun 16, 2011

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    I used to not fit in In till yesterday.

    I went to party got high and drunk, lost my virginity ended up going to jail because the cops where called and I was caught doing illegal things. Don't really care at this point, my dad bailed me out but whatever as long as I have my job and my money for weed I'm good. No longer...
    nerd1500 nerd1500 16-17, M Jul 12

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    pmax2000 pmax2000 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 28

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    Do you ever feel you can not fit into into

    cliques and groups? I go to a recreational outlet for people who have various disabilities. I do not like I have to ride my bus there alone. Most of these people seem to know each other from other places. The ones that group up together tend to ride together too. I am from the...
    LovelyChris71 LovelyChris71 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    The Way Things Are

    As a little kid I remember sitting at the edge of the playground watching all of the other kids playing. I remember wondering why I couldn't be like them. As I got older things didn't change much. I still watch the people around me and wonder why I can't be like them.I have never...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    I always felt like I didn't fit in.

    But it was more than that for me, I knew I didn't fit in. From first grade and someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. My answer was normal. I wanted to be normal when I grew up. So even when I was little I knew I wasn't normal. But I didn't really want to be normal...
    ElizaKate ElizaKate 16-17, F Jul 13

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    Outcast

    It started when I was about 14. I got told by many people that I would never amount to nothing. Here I am now 2 years later, in school. I let them get me down so badly that when I would get home I would cry.When I felt this way I would always think will I ever fit in with anybody...
    mystoriesforyou mystoriesforyou 16-17, F May 7, 2012

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    Ever since elementary school.

    I've always been the odd one out. It was like no one wanted to be my friend and they just wanted me for my smarts. As the years progressed I'd assumed that I would get that kind of sense of belonging but I still haven't. Highschool isn't that bad since I have a few friends I can...
    Xoxolife Xoxolife 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I am always the odd one out.

    When I'm at school I have a few different groups that include me, but when we're together I feel like I'm the only one they won't talk to. I'm confident, fun, and outgoing, but I feel like people purposely leave me out. Maybe I'm just paranoid. But why would so many people open...
    lifeinthecity lifeinthecity 16-17, F 6 Responses Jun 24

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    And that's when I realized

    that I needed a bigger bra.
    ronnkron ronnkron 22-25, F 3 Responses May 4

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    Groupies, Gangs or club i really never had

    that kinda thing during my time in school even till now being in college. I mean other then my work environment but i mean that forced upon the employee so i don't think that really counts. I suppose i can be a little weird and corkie sometimes but i mean isn't everyone at some...
    NymNin NymNin 18-21, F Mar 17

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    Throught out my whole life I have felt like

    that , even in my own family . I can't talk to my parents or my sister about it . They won't understand it's a personal problem.
    shyartist1983 shyartist1983 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    Don't Fit In!

    I guess since a small child I never had a place in the world. Being a step-child at age 2 I was always somebody elses child. Then when my siblings were born I became the baby-sitter. I just wasn't the one that belonged. All through life it seemed I was trying to please the people...
    Shadowbond Shadowbond 46-50, M Feb 29, 2012

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    I'm Tired And I Don't Feel Like Doing This Anymore..

    I'm not easily understood. People look at me and just assume that I have everything. When someone is pretty that must mean they are automatically happy and everything goes perfect for them all the time. I wasn't pretty my whole life. As a matter of fact I was quite awkward and...
    Teresa83 Teresa83 36-40, F May 10, 2011

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    Being The Weird Kid

    Ahh I can't pinpoint what makes me different. I'm just weird. I like being alone. I remember in middle school I grew accustomed to sitting alone and it didn't bother me. I liked it. It gave me time to think. A lot of Holden Caufeild thinking, looking in at the phonies in their...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Always. This is why I didn't stay in public

    school and was instead home schooled. I was always just so different from everybody else.
    LoneDreamer11 LoneDreamer11 16-17, F Jul 26

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    I'm not trying to sound conceded

    or whatever, but honestly I swear I'm an earth angel next to humans...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Jun 28

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    Related Experiences

    I've felt this way for a lot of my life, certainly from my teens onwards anyway. I've always felt like an 'outsider', somebody who is different to everyone else, which is sometimes...
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    I dated someone for a few years. I call it dating but I was really just the girl on the side. I think deep down he knew how I felt but didn't care. I tried to be there for him...
    NewGuernica NewGuernica 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    When you live in a small town, you don't think about someone harming you...Everyone knows everybody, people are either very charming, reserved, or just take everyone for granted..I...
    prettyface1 prettyface1 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    I have always been attracted to older men but I really stepped it up when I was 15. I started dating a man 15 years my senior. He treated me like his daughter and I treated him...
    kittygurl66 kittygurl66 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 25

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    I'm sorry. I didn't mean to avoid you like that. When you said hi to me, I felt afraid. Today was the first day of college . Giving someone the intention that I am the type of...
    Nethaera Nethaera 18-21, F Aug 26

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    Throughout my life I have been with all different kinds of people, but never once felt I was part of the group or that we connected. I just feel like the fly on the wall--that all...
    SoUnderwhelmed SoUnderwhelmed 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 11

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    I loved someone who wasn't ready to be in love. We were young and I totally understand it now. At the time I felt so empty and I let it all take over my life. I dislike how I dealt...
    InfiniteSunshine InfiniteSunshine 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    I was 17, it was 4/20. We weren't dating. He was just a friend I've known for awhile & we were supposed to hangout after school. We we're supposed to get high & I was already...
    Jnicole19 Jnicole19 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 2

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    Ah this is the worse experience in my life to be honest. A while a go my best friend went to Ibiza to work for a few months and in that time I became really good friends with his...
    jaymes14 jaymes14 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Idk like I was talking to my boyfriend we were eating and I just felt like he wanted me to shut up. Cause when I was quiet he was looking around and would talk or comment on...
    msmendiola122 msmendiola122 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    The reasons I don't have friends is because I like everything old. And I don't like anything that's new. Old tv shows, old cars, ect. I don't fit in with my younger generation...
    Justadarkhole Justadarkhole 18-21, M Aug 19

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    I love a man I have never met. We have been good friends/pen pals for almost ten years and we will meet in a few months. I recently tested the waters by admitting I had a crush. I...
    femketje femketje 22-25 a week ago

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    y,y I regretted since the ever first time it felt so awkward, out of place, and wrong!!!! >,< 8( I wish I would have ignored my instincts, and emotions.... Because they were...
    SabrinaRavenCroft SabrinaRavenCroft 18-21, T 3 Responses 1 day ago

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