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I Always Have to Be the Strong One

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    My husband has been struggling with depression

    throughout our ten-year relationship. He refuses to get treatment. He works one part time job and that's "too much." I work two part time jobs and run a small side business. He's too daunted to attempt home repairs - so I fix (or pay someone else to fix) everything in our...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    Amongst my dearest friends I am the one

    who supports them and gives them strength. I do not show my vulnerability in front of my friends because they are sensitive. If I'm sad they'll be sad too. I don't want anyone feeling upset or depressed because that's how I feel. I sometimes feel that I'm expected to be strong...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F Jul 4, 2014

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    im always the rock for those

    that i hold dear, meaning that when im in a difficult situation and overwhelmed by stress i cant show it as i know i cannot show a weakness in order to keep my friends and family strong.
    SickMofo18 SickMofo18 18-21, M Nov 15, 2014

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    it feels and this is kinda a mean thought like

    no one else can get things right so i feel like i have to do every thing i know that other people do have there own brains and are capable of things it just seem like i'm the only one i know to have any common sense seem's stupid huh!
    BenjaminChapman BenjaminChapman 18-21, M May 3, 2014

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    I run a class to help other kids in my school

    with bullying. I help them when there upset dealing with bullying even help them stop self harming because there's a lot of them that do I also have to talk kids out of suicide a lot. now this is great helping people right? but I self harm and struggle with being suicidal and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Poor Ol' Me

    Yup... That's right! I always have to be the strong one! The only one who comes to the rescue, a helping hand or the ... i'll be here when you need me. Woe is poor ol' me! Someday... *smile* someone will be the strong one for me. Someday someone will hold me up, comfort me...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    I had to be strong because we was thrown out

    like thrash. I had to be strong because mom and dad wasn't there. I had to be strong because nobody else cared. I had to be strong when my older sister turn to drugs. I had to be strong because I had a little brother and sister I had to be strong because inside I was weak. I...
    SleepingTeddy SleepingTeddy 26-30, M Apr 1

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    I always have to be the strong one. I feel like I can't let my defence down, and be weak, and tell someone, "I am not okay, and I need some help" dealwith with certian things. I just can't stand it sometimes. I hate always haveing to be the strong one. sometimes, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 23, 2009

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    Always Called To Save The Day, But Never Saved

    I have always been the strong one, or the smart one, or the one who is always prepared for any emergency. Then as soon as the emergency is fixed, everyone moves on with their lives and assumes I am OK on my own. I have always been there to help my parents, help my friends, help...
    KSpirit KSpirit 51-55 1 Response Nov 29, 2011

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    The ones who say you can't

    and you won't are the ones scared that you will..
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2014

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    I attract more troubled people

    than a liquor store. I've recently gone through a time period in which I had a lot of people looking for answers. it has been a draining experience, so here we go, I'ma share it with you. so first off, there is this girl who had a miscarriage around age 13, a physically abusive...
    SprinklesINF SprinklesINF 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 6

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    I grew up bullied but I grew up strong.

    I am my wife's rock, and she leans on me almost daily. I don't mind most of the time, except when I'm having a hard time standing up on my own as it is.
    XxAlphaCentaurixX XxAlphaCentaurixX 26-30, T 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    I Just Had It

    He could say to me all he wants. He could talk bad about me all he wants. All he does is complain. Tonight I couldn't stand it any more. He told me to get rid of my light because it bother him. I was trying to hurry and he pull the cord. I'm reading news on my phone because I can...
    wonderMe07 wonderMe07 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    I feel like I never have anyone I can turn to

    when I have my "mini cave in" moments. I always have to be strong. God forbid I'm ever anything BUT happy the whole world crumbles around me! Yes, I know I'm strong, I KNOW I can take a lot of **** but everyone has a breaking point. When I have mine; I always have to go hide it...
    LucyScattered LucyScattered 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2014

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    When Everyone Else Is Childish

    I go out of my way to not show any extreme emotion that might be bad. I can act so well I deserve an Oscar. There are people in my family who haven't seen me cry since I was a baby. But right now that's all I wanna do. I'm stressed out. I just realized today that I'm losing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 12, 2012

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    My heart hurts at the things people did in the

    pass and not having nobody to turn to protect me and now everytime I see that person it triggers a hate I can't explain
    Theforgottenlife Theforgottenlife 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    Just An Example

    This is an email I just got from someone who was a 'friend' but when I logged on just a few minutes ago this is what I had waiting... Now that person has blocked me. I have never in my life been the focus of such viciousness but all I can say is ... out of the heart the mouth (or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    I often feel like, I have to be the strong one.

    Like everyone has their problems and wanna talk about them with me. But when I got problems, I just have to be the strong one and don't get to talk to anyone about them.. So yeah.. As the oldest sister of 3, I've experienced this a lot. Cuz they are not very old, so I can't...
    CallMeAmy CallMeAmy 18-21, F Apr 4

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    I grew up in a home with an father with a

    drinking problem, and being bullied very badly. I struggled with self harm and suicidal thoughts. I have been clean over a year now and idk If I can handle it...
    apersonwhoisntverystrong apersonwhoisntverystrong 13-15, F Sep 18, 2014

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    girlcandy1973 girlcandy1973 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    Dad where did you go?

    Mom now uses money for cigarettes Instead of food. I have 3 younger siblings. Who need a meal. Luckily for me I have made a deal. Get a job and be strong. Pretend I'm alright when everything is so wrong. Smile for another mile. That's called being strong. Jessica always...
    ImperfectWeirdo ImperfectWeirdo 13-15, T 4 Responses Jun 1

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    From a far too young age adults around me would

    confide in me and I would constantly be trying to solve adult problems whilst being a kid. This has just kept on throughout my life and I have just become the person people confide in / gain support from and I am happy to do it, although ooking back as an "adult" I see I never...
    penilane penilane 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    Never Get To Let My Guard Down, Except . . .

    Since my husband's accident 2-1/2 years ago I've assumed the alpha role in our household.  I'm the single parent in a two parent household.  My husband works but not consistently or in the same capacity so I've focused even more on my career to ensure the financial...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F 23 Responses Nov 29, 2009

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    ….Dear you, 
i just want to tell u

    that u are wonderful and strong person and no matter what happens in ur life:
Give yourself a chance,
Give yourself the moment,
Give yourself the freedom,
Give yourself the power,
Give yourself the confidence,
Live for today not for tomorrow
Have a nice day❤️k
    happygribi happygribi 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I take the hit to ensure others get their

    happily ever after..... Will it ever be my turn ? I don't think so, time is passing I'm aging less confident , my looks have faded, my body has betrayed me and my heart is held together my a thread.
    auburngirl52 auburngirl52 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I always have to be the strong one in my family.

    My parents have enough problems and I always have to give advice and can't show them that I'm sad. They shouldn't worry about me as well when they have other things ... And my father is most of the time working so to my little brothers I always have to be like the other parent...
    Sukisara Sukisara 18-21, F 1 Response May 26

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    i don't have many people i can count on,

    or rely on, including my family lol.. so ive always been on my own ever since i was 16. ive become a strong independent woman thanks to that experience, but sometimes i do feel like im more mature than my friends who are older than me. i end up giving them advice, taking care of...
    Endureandconquer Endureandconquer 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    i support my parents

    because neither of them were responsible enough to save money when they were younger and had good jobs. i am 20 years old. i live a constant struggle between anting to live my own life and the guilt of caring for them. i dont know how much longer i can do this.
    katiestark22 katiestark22 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Sometimes, the person

    who tries to kept everyone happy is always the most lonely person, so never them alone because they will never say that they need you....
    mssst mssst 36-40, F Jul 9, 2014

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    Well, my best friend is pretty sensitive

    and anxious most of the time. I can cry over Disney movies, but I was never stressed over a school test, or other daily staff. My friend is the one who's stressing over small things and that automatically makes me the strong one, who has to make her calm down and bring her back...
    hellohowlow hellohowlow 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    everyone is dealing with lots of things

    but I don't know who I can talk to about it all. I'm okay, but I'm scared that I'm not strong enough to help everyone.
    starlingriptide starlingriptide 18-21, F Mar 27

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    Everyone always relies on me to help them out

    when they are going through a rough time and when I am the one roughing it nobody seems to care so I have to suck it up and deal with it on my own.
    brooklyn98 brooklyn98 16-17, F Jan 13

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    I have always been a protector

    and even as a child I was the head of the house and would go out to work. Make the food for the table, I still have this within me and I think I was born this way. I have very little emotions and will always be the logical one. I see things as they are and never let much get...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M Nov 6, 2014

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    I Want To be That Hand That Reaches Out To Pick You Up.

    I have always liked helping people. Since I was little I would want to help the people crying, in need. Be the strong one. in this world I feel the need to be strong, as strong as i can be and protect my loved ones. I imagine myself as the one who will comfort you, the one who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    Pride

    It is a matter of pride as is a lot of things with me, but since i act strong i have to be strong.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M Jan 13, 2010

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    sleepyphotograher sleepyphotograher 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I do runing everyday.

    Each day i find it deficult to keep on runing till the end because i increase the distance between initial and end point in every upcoming day.When i ran for first time,i was ok in the starting but as i go toward the end point,i felt that my legs were saying no "you can't".I was...
    Bhk213 Bhk213 18-21, M Nov 14, 2014

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    ok so life is crazy, I'm behind in school

    for my credits, well actually I just got my credit caught up, but now I'm behind in my normal classes, my mom is about to have surgery, my dog just had surgery and can't walk.. I am so stressed I am falling into my old ways of thinking.. the thinking bout self harm, drinking...
    shadowrain96 shadowrain96 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    My husbands youngest daughter (age 21) is

    making her appearance for Father's Day, as it stands right now at least, we will see. This is one man that is abused verbally by his grown children and allows it to happen, he paid child support even when it was not ordered he try's to be a good dad.
    Noname19744 Noname19744 36-40 1 Response Jun 18

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    Well my heart got broken last night,

    my best friend send me a picture of her new tattoo she got with another girl, it's her other best friend. The reason it hurt me so much, I felt like I was suppose to do that with her, we been friends for 16years, been thru so much together, and gone thru things that we had to...
    choli choli 26-30, F Mar 31

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    I'm Just Like Max From Maximum Ride

    i'm just like max from maximum ride so i'm allways strong afraid of nothing but when it comes to my feelings i become weak but i can't tell my friendsor my family and by family i mean my cousins i'm the third oldest but i'm the most brave one out of all of them but some times my...
    fax4ever fax4ever 16-17, F Nov 30, 2011

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    Being strong is measure by how much you can take

    and keep on moving forward towards any objective. Its the attitude of mind that makes successful leaders as people will always draw on your strength by burdening you with their problems directly or indirectly. Not everyone can be strong because its the hardest thing to be since...
    stuckd stuckd 18-21, M Feb 7

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    dad went to jail and my mom is never home I care

    for my sister and my brother so I have to stay strong
    boredgirl02 boredgirl02 13-15, F Mar 2

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    Bottled Up

    For as long as I can remember, I've always bottled up all of my bad emotions. Everything that made me angry, sad, stressed, everything, I bottle up. I last for a while, but about once a month, I just snap, and sit in my room crying all night. I know that I shouldn't keep my...
    FlamingMusic FlamingMusic 13-15, M Dec 9, 2012

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