I Always Have to Be the Strong One

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    i don't have many people i can count on,

    or rely on, including my family lol.. so ive always been on my own ever since i was 16. ive become a strong independent woman thanks to that experience, but sometimes i do feel like im more mature than my friends who are older than me. i end up giving them advice, taking care of...
    Endureandconquer Endureandconquer
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 28, 2015

    Throughout my life i had to be tough

    and strong for my family. im adopted and i always felt if i was sad or weak at a point that they would be hurt. my brother who has depression has always been the one who needed help. My family of course has to focus on him and that is not to say that they never focused on me...
    learellie learellie
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 10, 2015

    Life is to short to be just a somebody.

    Everyone thinks I have it good but I really don't, I am the oldest of my sisters so I have to be "The Strong One" and it's not fun... Now I am smarter and more capable than any of my sisters.
    abalde03 abalde03
    Jul 23, 2015

    I can't afford to cry.

    I can't afford to not be strong. It's the only option I have when I'm all I have.
    leadmenot leadmenot
    18-21, F
    Feb 25, 2016

    I have to be strong for me

    and for the people I love but honestly I am breaking down and I don't think I can keep picking myself up
    blackskyline blackskyline
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016

    When my father died, all my family

    that I barely started looking up to me to be their comforter. Me, so young, yet so damaged. Yet, I am able to do it. I am able to take that as my responsibility as his only son. I am strong enough.
    LonelyTooth LonelyTooth
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 12, 2015

    Got a real close friend

    who is going to hospital soon, don't want to go into the details why but its enough to worry me more than should be normal. So despite it being serious where I am worried beyond what is normal for me I'm not allowed to lose it, too many of my friends are barely holding it...
    Sportser Sportser
    31-35, M
    Oct 10, 2015

    Dad where did you go?

    Mom now uses money for cigarettes Instead of food. I have 3 younger siblings. Who need a meal. Luckily for me I have made a deal. Get a job and be strong. Pretend I'm alright when everything is so wrong. Smile for another mile. That's called being strong. Jessica always...
    ImperfectWeirdo ImperfectWeirdo
    16-17, T
    2 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    I take the hit to ensure others get their

    happily ever after..... Will it ever be my turn ? I don't think so, time is passing I'm aging less confident , my looks have faded, my body has betrayed me and my heart is held together my a thread.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    Never Get To Let My Guard Down, Except . . .

    Since my husband's accident 2-1/2 years ago I've assumed the alpha role in our household.  I'm the single parent in a two parent household.  My husband works but not consistently or in the same capacity so I've focused even more on my career to ensure the financial...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl
    46-50, F
    23 Responses Nov 29, 2009

    I don't always have to be the strong one,

    but I usually am. I see people all around me falling apart and I'm just here "Eh, I've had worse." I'm usually the caring person, but when I've had enough, there's never any stronger person to care for me. That's the only downside of being the strong one
    Tovar Tovar
    16-17, F
    Jul 19, 2015


    I always have to be the strong one. I feel like I can't let my defence down, and be weak, and tell someone, "I am not okay, and I need some help" dealwith with certian things. I just can't stand it sometimes. I hate always haveing to be the strong one. sometimes, I...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Everyone always relies on me to help them out

    when they are going through a rough time and when I am the one roughing it nobody seems to care so I have to suck it up and deal with it on my own.
    brooklyn98 brooklyn98
    18-21, F
    Jan 13, 2015
    KyrenaH KyrenaH
    16-17, F
    Jul 19, 2015

    This gets kinda old and tiring.

    . everyone looks to you to fix things...expected to make everything OK. especially family! I am the mediator, the bounce your day off of, and fighter of the family. They tell me about arguments they have, what they are doing, and if someone is in trouble I'm expected to get...
    angelpumpkin36 angelpumpkin36
    36-40, F
    Mar 30, 2016

    No matter how much I want to cry,

    the tears won't come out anymore. Frustration, sadness, anger, fear, and loss of hope have overwhelmed me, and I'm not sure how to help my situation. I feel so helpless, yet I'm strong enough to keep going.
    PoisonLace PoisonLace
    31-35, F
    Dec 21, 2015

    Well my heart got broken last night,

    my best friend send me a picture of her new tattoo she got with another girl, it's her other best friend. The reason it hurt me so much, I felt like I was suppose to do that with her, we been friends for 16years, been thru so much together, and gone thru things that we had to...
    choli choli
    31-35, F
    Mar 31, 2015

    I Just Had It

    He could say to me all he wants. He could talk bad about me all he wants. All he does is complain. Tonight I couldn't stand it any more. He told me to get rid of my light because it bother him. I was trying to hurry and he pull the cord. I'm reading news on my phone because I can...
    wonderMe07 wonderMe07
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2013

    My husbands youngest daughter (age 21) is

    making her appearance for Father's Day, as it stands right now at least, we will see. This is one man that is abused verbally by his grown children and allows it to happen, he paid child support even when it was not ordered he try's to be a good dad.
    Noname19744 Noname19744
    1 Response Jun 18, 2015

    I often feel like, I have to be the strong one.

    Like everyone has their problems and wanna talk about them with me. But when I got problems, I just have to be the strong one and don't get to talk to anyone about them.. So yeah.. As the oldest sister of 3, I've experienced this a lot. Cuz they are not very old, so I can't...
    CallMeAmy CallMeAmy
    18-21, F
    Apr 4, 2015

    ....and I love it, I admire it,

    and I am thankful for it, because for most of the time, I only have myself, no one else. Although I admit, whenever I face problem, I lose my mind, I freak out, I go nuts, I panic, I literally and exactly go crazy and I feel like I need to take a quick action to clam myself...
    MissGaga MissGaga
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016
    clearmymind clearmymind
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2015

    U & Me forever this way www.

    nidhisuraj.com There are so many Love Stories in this world. Few stories become so famous but few are unsaid and been buried with time. Few others share their love stories with their friends, while some leave them as sweet memories for themselves within their hearts and few...
    evan003 evan003
    22-25, F
    Jul 20, 2015

    It's hard to always be the strong one

    for everyone and smile the most when as soon as you're alone you end up with red covered wrists and thighs, tears stained cheeks and a breaking heart
    deleted deleted
    Mar 20, 2016

    I always have to be the strong one in my family.

    My parents have enough problems and I always have to give advice and can't show them that I'm sad. They shouldn't worry about me as well when they have other things ... And my father is most of the time working so to my little brothers I always have to be like the other parent...
    Sukisara Sukisara
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 26, 2015
    girlcandy1973 girlcandy1973
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 4, 2015

    Everyone sees me as strong

    and always turns to me to solve their problems, and frankly I just want to sleep and slip away for a year with no contact with anyone.
    MysteryGirl2012 MysteryGirl2012
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    last year i travel aa the way to Los Angeles i

    explore buses streets trains stores and other places it was nice i had fun there it was a good experience for me
    joshua70000 joshua70000
    18-21, M
    Dec 24, 2015

    I Want To be That Hand That Reaches Out To Pick You Up.

    I have always liked helping people. Since I was little I would want to help the people crying, in need. Be the strong one. in this world I feel the need to be strong, as strong as i can be and protect my loved ones. I imagine myself as the one who will comfort you, the one who...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 4, 2011

    People look at me as

    if I'm some sort of warrior. I don't cry that often, I'm adept at hiding pain--quite frankly, I don't emote well. Just because I don't dissolve into a puddle of gelatinous goo while watching a pathos-ridden "chick-flick", doesn't mean I'm stronger than the next woman. I'm...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2016

    And I hate it soooooo much!

    !! But who can I trust enough to be vulnerable with?
    arai12 arai12
    18-21, F
    Mar 1, 2016

    Everyone sees me as a stable person.

    They always think that i'll have all the answers. Everyone depends on me, and I feel like i have no one to go to. I feel like I can't go to anyone because I feel like a burden.
    1004love 1004love
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2015

    I had to be strong because we was thrown out

    like thrash. I had to be strong because mom and dad wasn't there. I had to be strong because nobody else cared. I had to be strong when my older sister turn to drugs. I had to be strong because I had a little brother and sister I had to be strong because inside I was weak. I...
    SleepingTeddy SleepingTeddy
    26-30, M
    Apr 1, 2015

    Everyone always thinks I have it easy,

    that I she it good and that I have a good life. I don't. I'm am so thankful for having running water, endless supplies of food and medicine when others in third world countries don't. But the point is that I hate my life. I hate everyone in it expect from about 10 people...
    Brokenandforgotten123 Brokenandforgotten123
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    I've been taught not to show my weakness

    and I've been getting pretty good at it.. but it's a really hard skill and don't wish it upon anyone..always being strong isn't the best thing ever.
    cloverxx cloverxx
    18-21, F
    Jul 22, 2015

    Poor Ol' Me

    Yup... That's right! I always have to be the strong one! The only one who comes to the rescue, a helping hand or the ... i'll be here when you need me. Woe is poor ol' me! Someday... *smile* someone will be the strong one for me. Someday someone will hold me up, comfort me...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
    56-60, F
    Oct 2, 2013

    I don't want to be the strong one right now,

    I just want someone to hold me and tell me everything will be all right
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015

    ….Dear you, 
i just want to tell u

    that u are wonderful and strong person and no matter what happens in ur life:
Give yourself a chance,
Give yourself the moment,
Give yourself the freedom,
Give yourself the power,
Give yourself the confidence,
Live for today not for tomorrow
Have a nice day❤️k
    happygribi happygribi
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

    So, when I was about 10 my dad got remarried to

    my now Step-mom, at first she acted like she liked me. She was trying to be my best friend or whatever, but I noticed that she treated my older cousin (who was about 17 at the time) like complete ****. Well, I just passed it off as my cousin not liking her very much, because to...
    IcySongBird IcySongBird
    18-21, F
    Aug 2, 2015
    sleepyphotograher sleepyphotograher
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2015

    You did make me suffer

    and cry, you made me feel unimportant, nothing. But I don't care, thank you to all the people who helped me and told me to stay strong, because I'm still solid I haven't moved an inch from yesterday, and I'll stay like this, because I can't break now, I can't loose my confidence...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 27, 2015

    But you can't always be the strong one,

    and once in a while it's nice to just break down and cry your eyes out.
    Leonoraa Leonoraa
    18-21, F
    Aug 17, 2015
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