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I Always Have to Be the Strong One

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    Never Get To Let My Guard Down, Except . . .

    Since my husband's accident 2-1/2 years ago I've assumed the alpha role in our household.  I'm the single parent in a two parent household.  My husband works but not consistently or in the same capacity so I've focused even more on my career to ensure the financial...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F 23 Responses Nov 29, 2009

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    Sometimes You Can't Choose Who You Are

    I always thought I would marry a man who would protect me, shelter me, defend me... I always thought I would be able to remain that girl..the cute, bashful one who would always be able to remain quiet and polite...I thought my man would deal with the things that required brute...
    cherryxblossom cherryxblossom 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2010

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    I've had a lot of tough things to deal with in

    my life, leaving home early and living in a hostel, past depression and self harm, witnessing a suicide, moving house a lot, tough relationship break ups etc etc, but.....it's so true that whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I know there isn't much that life can throw at...
    squishyarmadillo squishyarmadillo 31-35, F Mar 22

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    ….Dear you, 
i just want to tell u

    that u are wonderful and strong person and no matter what happens in ur life:
Give yourself a chance,
Give yourself the moment,
Give yourself the freedom,
Give yourself the power,
Give yourself the confidence,
Live for today not for tomorrow
Have a nice day❤️k
    happygribi happygribi 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I have always been a protector

    and even as a child I was the head of the house and would go out to work. Make the food for the table, I still have this within me and I think I was born this way. I have very little emotions and will always be the logical one. I see things as they are and never let much get...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M Nov 6

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    The ones who say you can't

    and you won't are the ones scared that you will..
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 9

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    Lean On Me

    All my life, I've always needed to be the strong one. I always try to be the best at what I do, the strongest wrestler between me and my brothers, and the one who everyone can lean on when they need someone to lean on. But, the thing is, whenever someone refuses my help, or there...
    Ashes03 Ashes03 18-21, M Apr 19, 2013

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    I'm grieving tonight.

    My story is very long. To make it short. It includes, poverty, child hood sex abuse at 6, and 9. Adoption and finding out under bad circumstances at the age of 33. I still can't find my birth family. Had two children and got divorced by 33. Tried not to marry to keep my children...
    burbanek burbanek 46-50 2 Responses Mar 26

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    It's Just Always Been Like That

    Although I am the youngest in the family, I have somehow received the role of keeping everyone together.My older sister has always been the one wearing her emotions on her sleeve, she will suddenly start crying or get mad, ofcourse i have to be there to support her, care for her...
    UmbraEyes UmbraEyes 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    Responsible

    I always have to be strong for my siblings.  My twin sister is emotionally unstable and my little brother, well, he's too young to understand. I stayed with my mom right before she went to a mental hospital. I couldn't allow myself to break down.  I had to stay strong for her...
    MyImpendingSuicide MyImpendingSuicide 13-15, F May 10, 2012

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    My husband has been struggling with depression

    throughout our ten-year relationship. He refuses to get treatment. He works one part time job and that's "too much." I work two part time jobs and run a small side business. He's too daunted to attempt home repairs - so I fix (or pay someone else to fix) everything in our...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    Sometimes, the person

    who tries to kept everyone happy is always the most lonely person, so never them alone because they will never say that they need you....
    mssst mssst 36-40, F Jul 9

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    My heart hurts at the things people did in the

    pass and not having nobody to turn to protect me and now everytime I see that person it triggers a hate I can't explain
    Theforgottenlife Theforgottenlife 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    I grew up bullied but I grew up strong.

    I am my wife's rock, and she leans on me almost daily. I don't mind most of the time, except when I'm having a hard time standing up on my own as it is.
    XxAlphaCentaurixX XxAlphaCentaurixX 26-30, T 1 Response Nov 19

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    I always have to deal with my issues on my own

    and suck up my pain, it would be nice to have someone to lean on once and a while...
    Lyssss Lyssss 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Keep It To Myself.

    Growing up, my father emotionally abused my mother. He'd cheat on her, and get drunk and call her every name in the book. It was normal to me to see my parents fight or even get physical. I was just "whatever" about it. I was so young then, it's painful to remember how innocent...
    LiberalArtsLover LiberalArtsLover 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2012

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    Who Can I Lean On?

    Since my dad passed 8 years ago, I have been the strong one in my family. Sometimes I wish that my mom or my sister would reach out to me and be a shoulder for me to cry on. *sigh*
    ScarletHawthorn ScarletHawthorn 31-35, F 1 Response May 20, 2013

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    Amongst my dearest friends I am the one

    who supports them and gives them strength. I do not show my vulnerability in front of my friends because they are sensitive. If I'm sad they'll be sad too. I don't want anyone feeling upset or depressed because that's how I feel. I sometimes feel that I'm expected to be strong...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F Jul 4

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    Will It Ever Get Better?

    I lost my mother to cancer in 1996 and my father 2003. I was 30 yrs old when my mom passed and my life changed forever. I can honestly say I loss the feeling of her safety net and love when she got sick, It was so profound I honestly hated the way it felt. But, at least I still...
    angelslookingoverus angelslookingoverus 46-50, F Aug 19, 2013

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    Pride

    It is a matter of pride as is a lot of things with me, but since i act strong i have to be strong.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M Jan 13, 2010

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    I feel like I never have anyone I can turn to

    when I have my "mini cave in" moments. I always have to be strong. God forbid I'm ever anything BUT happy the whole world crumbles around me! Yes, I know I'm strong, I KNOW I can take a lot of **** but everyone has a breaking point. When I have mine; I always have to go hide it...
    LucyScattered LucyScattered 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I Want To be That Hand That Reaches Out To Pick You Up.

    I have always liked helping people. Since I was little I would want to help the people crying, in need. Be the strong one. in this world I feel the need to be strong, as strong as i can be and protect my loved ones. I imagine myself as the one who will comfort you, the one who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    =/

    I always have to be the strong one. I feel like I can't let my defence down, and be weak, and tell someone, "I am not okay, and I need some help" dealwith with certian things. I just can't stand it sometimes. I hate always haveing to be the strong one. sometimes, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 23, 2009

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    Poor Ol' Me

    Yup... That's right! I always have to be the strong one! The only one who comes to the rescue, a helping hand or the ... i'll be here when you need me. Woe is poor ol' me! Someday... *smile* someone will be the strong one for me. Someday someone will hold me up, comfort me...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    From a far too young age adults around me would

    confide in me and I would constantly be trying to solve adult problems whilst being a kid. This has just kept on throughout my life and I have just become the person people confide in / gain support from and I am happy to do it, although ooking back as an "adult" I see I never...
    penilane penilane 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    it feels and this is kinda a mean thought like

    no one else can get things right so i feel like i have to do every thing i know that other people do have there own brains and are capable of things it just seem like i'm the only one i know to have any common sense seem's stupid huh!
    BenjaminChapman BenjaminChapman 18-21, M May 3

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    I Just Had It

    He could say to me all he wants. He could talk bad about me all he wants. All he does is complain. Tonight I couldn't stand it any more. He told me to get rid of my light because it bother him. I was trying to hurry and he pull the cord. I'm reading news on my phone because I can...
    wonderMe07 wonderMe07 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    Just An Example

    This is an email I just got from someone who was a 'friend' but when I logged on just a few minutes ago this is what I had waiting... Now that person has blocked me. I have never in my life been the focus of such viciousness but all I can say is ... out of the heart the mouth (or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    Always Called To Save The Day, But Never Saved

    I have always been the strong one, or the smart one, or the one who is always prepared for any emergency. Then as soon as the emergency is fixed, everyone moves on with their lives and assumes I am OK on my own. I have always been there to help my parents, help my friends, help...
    KSpirit KSpirit 51-55 1 Response Nov 29, 2011

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    Sky- I Can Relate

    Hi everyone. So I'm new to this. I have had a lot of stuff happen the last few weeks to say the least. Im actually afraid somebody might know who I am on this. But so be it. But I read sky's comment and felt compelled to write. I know how it feels to bottle things up and believe...
    Jeandom4 Jeandom4 22-25, F Jan 3, 2012

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    i always have to be the strong one

    because in the past i have seen lots of ups and downs my girlfriend left me and now my mom's left leg should be operated i told to myself that i should be a strong guy from inside i know that i should go through lot of things in my life im ready to fight any battle in my life...
    Roadguy Roadguy 26-30, M Feb 8

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    But Times Have Changed..

    I was the strong one.The girl everybody looked up to, the girl everybody told their problems to, the girl who always fixed things. Until people saw my scars. They moved away from me; not leaning on me like they used to. And that only made things harder. Being the strong one gave...
    FinallyBeingReal FinallyBeingReal 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    I grew up in a home with an father with a

    drinking problem, and being bullied very badly. I struggled with self harm and suicidal thoughts. I have been clean over a year now and idk If I can handle it...
    apersonwhoisntverystrong apersonwhoisntverystrong 13-15, F Sep 18

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    im always the rock for those

    that i hold dear, meaning that when im in a difficult situation and overwhelmed by stress i cant show it as i know i cannot show a weakness in order to keep my friends and family strong.
    SickMofo18 SickMofo18 18-21, M Nov 15

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    Tears

    I’m not saying I’ve had the hardest life because I have a good life. I’m not saying others don’t have it harder than I do because I know I am blessed. However I am so sick of being the strong one every time! I am even sicker of people telling me to be strong. I want to...
    Kalihansmom Kalihansmom 22-25 3 Responses Oct 28, 2011

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    I'm The Rock

    When I was younger I found out that I was the strong one among my friends. When ever they had problems I was always there to offer them a shoulder to cry on and to cling. As I got older I stopped telling others my problems and started taking others. I have always found it...
    DeadlyDragon DeadlyDragon 22-25, F Aug 6, 2010

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    Broken Down

    I always wanted to be strong. The one people look too for help. And I usually am. But hiding my pain slowly broke me. It made it so I could barely handle things words that are thrown at me. But I'm still strong in front of my friends. Because if I can't be happy, they should at...
    FlamingMusic FlamingMusic 13-15, M 1 Response May 28, 2012

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    Always

    And I always try to be, sometimes im not, and after my break down. I end up feeling really bad about it, and hating myself, and appolgize and try and be strong again. I can usually keep the front up for a while, and be strong for everyone for a while, till it all gets to be too...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 30, 2009

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    Bottled Up

    For as long as I can remember, I've always bottled up all of my bad emotions. Everything that made me angry, sad, stressed, everything, I bottle up. I last for a while, but about once a month, I just snap, and sit in my room crying all night. I know that I shouldn't keep my...
    FlamingMusic FlamingMusic 13-15, M Dec 9, 2012

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    When Everyone Else Is Childish

    I go out of my way to not show any extreme emotion that might be bad. I can act so well I deserve an Oscar. There are people in my family who haven't seen me cry since I was a baby. But right now that's all I wanna do. I'm stressed out. I just realized today that I'm losing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 12, 2012

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    I do runing everyday.

    Each day i find it deficult to keep on runing till the end because i increase the distance between initial and end point in every upcoming day.When i ran for first time,i was ok in the starting but as i go toward the end point,i felt that my legs were saying no "you can't".I was...
    Bhk213 Bhk213 18-21, M Nov 14

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    Yes....

    I feel like as of Late, I have always had to be the strong one, as a amtter of fact, i have always felt like I had to be the strong one, be there for everyone, and help everyone with anything. I hate it, but at the same times, if I don't do it, who will?
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 9, 2010

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    I'm Just Like Max From Maximum Ride

    i'm just like max from maximum ride so i'm allways strong afraid of nothing but when it comes to my feelings i become weak but i can't tell my friendsor my family and by family i mean my cousins i'm the third oldest but i'm the most brave one out of all of them but some times my...
    fax4ever fax4ever 13-15, F Nov 30, 2011

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    You Can See My Heart

    It hurts, when your so upset, but you can't show your true feeling. You have that big lump in your throat you need to cry so much but you can't be weak, your the strong one. When tears are running down your face but you have to blink them away and quickly wipe them away...
    Keelie Keelie 66-70, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2009

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    Sick Of Being The Strong One

    Every once in a while I want to be the one who is held, who is comforted, who is the only one at the centre of it all. I don't always want to be the one who is stong, who is holding everyone else up. I just once or twice when I am in trouble or upset to be the weak one, the one...
    Tigerlilly25 Tigerlilly25 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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