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I Always Thought Mid Life Crisis Was a Myth

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 25 People

    Endless Fear

    I am about to turn 45 and the past couple years have been very challenging. first finding myself doing things and.
    Sunshinedays Sunshinedays 41-45 1 Response Sep 6, 2012

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    Mid Life Crisis

    I always thought mid life crisis was a myth until my husband turned 40 it was like watching a bomb blow up in front of me. He started making new friends that he didnt want me to meet going out to bars with them and either staying out till 3am or not coming home at all he hangs on...
    nync333 nync333 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    Old Men and Young Girls

    I used to like older men. I don`t like them anymore. I am somewhat afraid of them now. Maybe afraid isn`t the right word, but I try to avoid any kind of physical contact with older men now. I had 2 very unhealthy relationships with older men, not so long ago. Still those...
    loona loona 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 28, 2009

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    The "Quarter Life/Mid-Life Crisis" explained ~

    "Go to school, study hard, get a job, get married, buy a house, go do this...go do that...don’t do this...don’t do that.." There is a moment that can occur in a person’s life where they realize that their vehicle had been on autopilot for their entire lives. One day, you...
    NeoJesusOfTheMatrix NeoJesusOfTheMatrix 70+ 1 Response May 28

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    Who Can I Talk To

    Big time issues with my husband...don't want to share at work because my nosey coworker would hound me forever. Can't talk with friends, because all are also friends with hubby. Don't want to pay a counselor. UG I just need a good sounding board and a way to vent :-/
    Lily01 Lily01 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Mid life bites. Too young to go with no sex. Too old for most. Too damaged to tolerate crap. Too much crap to tolerate. Lol.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    September 11. Conflict and Detachment. In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when things go smoothly for both people, and neither person needs to focus too heavily on...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 11

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    September 18. Letting the Good Stuff Happen. "Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    September 4. Finding Direction. "I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    August 26. Making Amends. "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." —Step Nine of Al-Anon When we make amends...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 26

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    It's been several months since the start of the crisis. I've fortunately narrowed it down to three options, but here's the snag--I can't pick between any of them. Any thoughts much...
    glache glache 22-25 Aug 26

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    September 9. Perspective. Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time. That will make us crazy. We do not always know why things are happening the way they...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 9

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    August 22. Responsibility for Family Members. "I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I have to admit, this is challenging. I have a teenage daughter who has her own life. I've never been married, so there's no ex- baby daddy drama. I have my life together {as I...
    flutterby0913 flutterby0913 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    What I'm wondering is how the hell did I get to be this age???!LOL Seriously. I was 21 yesterday..now I'm 45. Makes absolutely NO sense.;) I have had a very hard time accepting...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    August 27. Procrastination. Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 27

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    September 15. Getting Through Hard Times. "We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    August 30. Accepting Our Best. We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever. Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 30

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    August 31. Denial. I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 31

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    September 5. Step Ten. "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." —Step Ten of Al Anon Once we have worked our way to this Step, we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 5

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    September 8. Stopping Our Pain. "Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn." —Beyond Codependency There are many sources of pain in our life. Those...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Thinking of the times when I've sought love and attention from people who were suppose to love, nurture and protect me and didn't get it. Then I sought to fill the void through...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    September 12. Healing. "We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 12

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    September 14. What's Good for Me? When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

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    September 16. Revenge. No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    August 21. Detaching in Relationships. When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 21

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    August 28. Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job. It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 28

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    September 1. Patience. Sometimes we get what we want right away. At other times, we wonder if our desires will ever be fulfilled. We will be fulfilled in the best way possible...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 1

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    September 3. Word Power. "I know I'm controlling, but so is my husband. Possibly more controlling than I am. Each time I set out to leave him, each time I started to walk away...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 3

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    September 6. The Good in Step Ten. Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 6

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    September 7. Powerless over Others. Stop making excuses for other people. Stop making excuses for ourselves. While it is our goal to develop compassion and achieve forgiveness...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 7

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    September 10. Self-approval. Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others. Since...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    September 13. Times of Reprogramming. Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 13

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    September 19. Apologies. Sometimes, we act in a manner with which we are less than comfortable. That's human. That's why we have the words: "I'm sorry." They heal and bridge the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    in life we always need to take risks sometimes ..we don't know whether we will succeed or not ..but that makes difference in taking risk ,person should risk according to them self...
    rev429 rev429 18-21, M Aug 29

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    I believe we all have flaws.. I also believe as all have had to come to a place in life where our flaws don't out weigh the good characteristics about ourselves. I can work with...
    LoveCures09 LoveCures09 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    September 21. Letting Go of Urgency. One thing at a time. That's all we have to do. Not two things at once, but one thing done in peace. One task at a time. One feeling at a...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    August 23. Self Care. "When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 23

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    August 24. Step Eight. "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." —Step Eight of Al-Anon The Eighth Step is not meant to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 24

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    August 25. Willing to Make Amends. The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing change. This attitude can begin a great chain of repair and healing in our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 25

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    So I met a guy he just got divorced. Now after eight years we broke up and he's back with his ex-wife she is working to get him back he did not work to get her back what is that...
    rubysmom rubysmom 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    August 29. Owning Our Energy. "Learn to keep your energy inside." —From Women, Sex, and Addiction, Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. For many reasons, we may have mastered the art...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 29

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    Hard but I'm trying and trying to become a better person
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F Aug 30

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    September 2. Detaching with Love with Children. "It's one thing to let go of my husband and let him suffer the consequences. But how do I let go of my children? Isn't it different...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    I misunderstood this experience. I'm 34 no kids never been married. Now that I understand... All of the married women here are lucky to have had real love at some point. But...
    spaceylibra spaceylibra 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    September 17. New Relationship Behaviors. We talk much about new relationship behaviors in recovery: allowing others to be themselves without over reacting and taking it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    I cant do anything right and I just hate myself. I wish someone would just kill me and end my suffering.
    AlphaOmega007 AlphaOmega007 16-17, F Aug 27

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