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I Always Thought Mid Life Crisis Was a Myth

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 25 People

    The "Quarter Life/Mid-Life Crisis" explained ~

    "Go to school, study hard, get a job, get married, buy a house, go do this...go do that...don’t do this...don’t do that.." There is a moment that can occur in a person’s life where they realize that their vehicle had been on autopilot for their entire lives. One day, you...
    NeoJesusOfTheMatrix NeoJesusOfTheMatrix 70+ 1 Response May 28

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    Mid Life Crisis

    I always thought mid life crisis was a myth until my husband turned 40 it was like watching a bomb blow up in front of me. He started making new friends that he didnt want me to meet going out to bars with them and either staying out till 3am or not coming home at all he hangs on...
    nync333 nync333 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    Who Can I Talk To

    Big time issues with my husband...don't want to share at work because my nosey coworker would hound me forever. Can't talk with friends, because all are also friends with hubby. Don't want to pay a counselor. UG I just need a good sounding board and a way to vent :-/
    Lily01 Lily01 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Old Men and Young Girls

    I used to like older men. I don`t like them anymore. I am somewhat afraid of them now. Maybe afraid isn`t the right word, but I try to avoid any kind of physical contact with older men now. I had 2 very unhealthy relationships with older men, not so long ago. Still those...
    loona loona 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 28, 2009

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    Endless Fear

    I am about to turn 45 and the past couple years have been very challenging. first finding myself doing things and.
    Sunshinedays Sunshinedays 41-45 1 Response Sep 6, 2012

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