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I Always Thought Mid Life Crisis Was a Myth

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    Mid Life Crisis

    I always thought mid life crisis was a myth until my husband turned 40 it was like watching a bomb blow up in front of me. He started making new friends that he didnt want me to meet going out to bars with them and either staying out till 3am or not coming home at all he hangs on...
    nync333 nync333 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    The "Quarter Life/Mid-Life Crisis" explained ~

    "Go to school, study hard, get a job, get married, buy a house, go do this...go do that...don’t do this...don’t do that.." There is a moment that can occur in a person’s life where they realize that their vehicle had been on autopilot for their entire lives. One day, you...
    NeoJesusOfTheMatrix NeoJesusOfTheMatrix 70+ 1 Response May 28

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    Old Men and Young Girls

    I used to like older men. I don`t like them anymore. I am somewhat afraid of them now. Maybe afraid isn`t the right word, but I try to avoid any kind of physical contact with older men now. I had 2 very unhealthy relationships with older men, not so long ago. Still those...
    loona loona 22-25, F 10 Responses Mar 28, 2009

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    Endless Fear

    I am about to turn 45 and the past couple years have been very challenging. first finding myself doing things and.
    Sunshinedays Sunshinedays 41-45 1 Response Sep 6, 2012

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    Who Can I Talk To

    Big time issues with my husband...don't want to share at work because my nosey coworker would hound me forever. Can't talk with friends, because all are also friends with hubby. Don't want to pay a counselor. UG I just need a good sounding board and a way to vent :-/
    Lily01 Lily01 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I don't want much to do with my husband or kids lately .... That is not me .... I love my kids so much and have always been there with them for everything !!! I always get...
    spower79 spower79 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I just turned 25 this year and Ive been in this quarter life crisis loop for quite some time now. Started around 20 I believe. No matter what I'm doing to better myself, I feel as...
    Adavis3 Adavis3 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I think I love my partner still,but I am considering leaving him. It is difficult because there is good between him and I, but we either need to see someone and he needs help or we...
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Aug. 1. Gratitude. "We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more." —Codependent No More Say thank you, until we mean it. Thank God...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 30 mins ago

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    I left my own country to live in another one (Asia) nearly 8 years ago... not to immigrate but just to change surroundings... I failed to travel much first i studied new exotic...
    kuroneka kuroneka 31-35, F Jul 15

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    July 28. Fear. One day, I decided to try something new. I took my ten-year-old son out on the St. Croix River on a Waverunner. A Waverunner is a small boating vehicle resembling a...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    July 21. Being Is Enough. We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 21

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    July 12. Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment. "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 12

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    Finding yourself after college. Any advice ? I Have a great job and live in a new city. But can't help to stress over what's next and where my life is going.
    pittpirates23 pittpirates23 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    July 29. Have Some Fun. Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Enjoy life! We do not have to be so somber and serious. We do not have to be so reflective, so critical, so bound up...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    July 22. Learning to Trust Again. Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    July 2. Who Knows Best? Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 2

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    July 31. Letting Go of What We Want. "For those of us who have survived by controlling and surrendering, letting go may not come easily." —Beyond Codependency In recovery, we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    July 17. Love, in Words and Actions. Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about. Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 17

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    July 27. Letting Go. Stop trying so hard to control things. It is not our job to control people, outcomes, circumstances, and life. Maybe in the past we couldn't trust and let...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    July 5. Survivor Guilt. We begin recovering. We begin taking care of ourselves. Our recovery program starts to work in our life, and we begin to feel good about ourselves. Then...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    July 9. Overspending and Underspending. "I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 9

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    July 13. God as We Understand God. "God is subtle, but he is not malicious." —Albert Einstein Recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 13

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    July 14. We Are Lovable. "Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay." —Codependent No More Do you ever find...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 14

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    July 15. Self-care with Family Members. "I was thirty- five years old the first time I spoke up to my mother and refused to buy into her games and manipulation. I was terribly...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    July 16. Insisting on the Best. We deserve the best life and love has to offer, but we are each faced with the challenge of learning to identify what that means in our life. We...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 16

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    July 19. Proving It to Ourselves. "I spent a year trying to prove to my husband how much his drinking was hurting me. When I began to recover, I realized I was the one who needed...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 19

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    July 20. Letting Go of Resistance. Do not be in such a hurry to move on. Relax. Breathe deeply. Be. Be in harmony today. Be open. There is beauty around and in us today. There...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 20

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    July 25. Keep at It. Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. Sometimes it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    July 26. Owning Our Power. Don't you see? We do not have to be so victimized by life, by people, by situations, by work, by our friends, by our love relationships, by our family...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    As I have got older I find myself increasingly willing to experiment with new sexual experiences. All of a sudden the riskier or more taboo the more I want to try it. Things that...
    Peeonme69 Peeonme69 46-50, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    July 4. Celebrate. Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your successes, your growth, and your accomplishments. Celebrate you and who you are. For too long you have been too hard on...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 4

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    July 7. Getting It All Out. "Let yourself have a good gripe session." From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" —Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 7

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    July 8. Going with the Flow. Go with the flow. Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 8

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    July 11. Bring Any Request to God. Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 11

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    Well...yes.I have travelled since birth and seen a variety of lives and experiences.I was a very stimulated child with culture and cultures,history,books...and awesome mother <3...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    July 24. Denial. Denial is a powerful tool. Never underestimate its ability to cloud your vision. Be aware that, for many reasons, we have become experts at using this tool to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 24

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    July 30. Accepting Powerlessness. Since I've been a child, I've been in an antagonistic relationship with an important emotional part of myself: my feelings. I have consistently...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    Me and The people around me: 1. They are always drinking and smoking = I hate smoking and drinking 2. They always use abusive language = I rarely even talk 3. They are always in...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M Jul 20

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    July 1. Receiving. Here is an exercise. Today let someone give to you. Let someone do something nice for you. Let someone give you a compliment or tell you something good about...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    July 3. Directness. So much of our communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 3

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    July 6. Step Seven. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. —Step Seven of Al-Anon In the Sixth and Seventh Steps of the program, we become willing to let go of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 6

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    July 10. Ending Relationships. It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship - with friends, loved ones, or a work relationship. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 10

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    July 18. Time to Get Angry. It's about time you got angry - yes, that angry. Anger can be such a potent, frightening emotion. It can also be a feeling that guides us to important...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    July 23. Making It Happen. Stop trying so hard to make it happen. Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 23

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    I am and I'm glad I am because being different makes me special :)
    HappyHart5 HappyHart5 16-17, F Jul 20

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    I am different from the crowd because I don't follow it or stay inside of it. I'm just my own person in a world full of people.
    Born2Inspire Born2Inspire 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 20

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