Post

I Am a Bad Friend

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 148 People

    I Just Gave Up

    In years past I used to somewhat of a good friend, I gave people gifts on their birthdays, I hung out with people, I try to help with their problems. But more and more lately, I stopped doing that. I stopped caring to listen to people, let alone my friends. I started ignoreing...
    captivityensured captivityensured 16-17, F Jan 6, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Simply... Failure...

    Today I lost. Today I betrayed the one i am. Today I fail the people i care about and wish to help. I have failed. All I can do is to beg for forgiveness, if I ever get it, I wont accept it myself, thats how I am. No reason will lets me forgive what I just done. In your eyes...
    Hino93 Hino93 18-21, M 1 Response May 4, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am Not Only Bad, But Terrible.

    Tonight was the last straw to break the camel's back. My friend that I have met for work (but never really hung around with for the most part) invited me several times to go to a pub. Sounds good, but I can't drive and I don't want to go that far, so I made an excuse a couple of...
    abscissa abscissa 22-25 1 Response Dec 7, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Failed As A Friend

    im going to keep this short, my best friend confided in me about how he was suicidal one time. He told me that he would off himself when he was 40 bc at that point he would have no more obligations to his family. I knew this was a possibility but like always i used sarcasm as a...
    pposse pposse 26-30 1 Response Feb 24, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don't Make The Same Mistake I Did.

    I met her on a field trip to our local hospital, she asked me "Have you ever been here before?" and I responded "I agree." as I was spacing out. While the friendship that this led to lasted a quick five months, it turned my life upside down and revealed how awful of a person I am...
    Additor Additor 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm usually very understanding of people

    but this one friend cries for attention and is extremely dramatic which I hate! One of our boy-friends fancies her but she doesn't want to go out with him, he cried over this and has asked her out 3 times in the last few weeks only to be rejected... well we had a party and we...
    lucybumbum1 lucybumbum1 13-15, F Dec 7, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    And I Couldn't Make Her Life Any Better?

    This year was unlike any other.   I had found my very best friend in a long time, but it was my old best friend who had suffered. I started hanging out with a new group and always telling her stories about "us". I used words like "we" and "the...
    GrapeSodaa GrapeSodaa 16-17 2 Responses Mar 31, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So It's Better That I Don't Have Any Right Now

    I've had several good friends in my life. In all cases, the getting near process was mostly due to their effort. I haven't ever expended very much energy trying to get close to someone. I have lost contact with all, except a couple of these friends. And those two, I merely...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 28, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Or Am I?

    I can't help but wonder... Truth is, I was made to feel like a horrible friend not too long ago. Yes, horrible. That's a stronger word than bad and yes, that was the word that was used. That I was that horrible, but was I? Was I really? Honestly? Oh, how I've been asking myself...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 25, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Laughed

    My friend is very caring, sweet and supportive. He has listened to most of my life's stories and has always respected me and shown me that he is there for me no matter what. He does not share as much about his own feelings and experiences, but I have tried many times to...
    sweetmeisje sweetmeisje 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 27, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Can't Find Friends Everywhere

    Many people look at me as a person from another planet.  I am treated as an outcast since I was in First Grade, until now , no one wants to go with me.That's why I spend most of my time alone. My parents and cousind tell me that I should find friends. But how could i have...
    dixofdarkness dixofdarkness 16-17 1 Response May 1, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    No Words Can Describe How Bad I Am :(

    I lost my friend a year back. She always wanted to meet me, spend time with me after we had our paths changed due to our careers. But I never found time for her. I had time only for a betrayer, my ex. She was a true person. She had to undergo a major surgery but I always thought...
    bluie19 bluie19 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Maybe I Am A Bad Friend...?

    So heres the story. I have been sharing a room for more than two months now, i share a room, bed, cloths almost everything with my friend and its just been getting to my head real bad lately. Its hard trying to maintain a tidy room when theirs two people who accumulate a lot...
    littoria littoria 18-21, F Aug 15, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Belated Happy Birthday To A Yearwithoutrain/dawn

    I have a habit of being fashionably late every time. This time around I was no different. Sorry for that my dear. Wishing you a Belated Happy Birthday! =/
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Was I Thinking?

    I've had this friend for all four years of highschool. She was pretty much my first friend and we've been sorta friends for the first three years of school. I later became really good friends with my neighbor after a while and so I never really had a chance to become close to my...
    typeusernamehere typeusernamehere 18-21 1 Response Jul 22, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Suck At Friendship

    i've just discovered this site, it's great!I am a terrible friend. Much of it stems from the fact that I don't have much/any ability to feel empathy for another person. (Yes I've considered the fact that I may be a psychopath but I don't think about it very much and I can't bring...
    Hannahmagenta Hannahmagenta 26-30 1 Response Jan 14, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Can This Be...?

    Well, it's hard for me to be a bad friend when I have no friends. But it seems like it's something that would describe me if I ever did.
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Wish I Had Thought Sooner

    Hi everyone, I'm new on here. I feel I need to share what I'm feeling and didn't know where to turn to and found this site. I like to think that I'm a good friend. Normally if someone needs me I will priorities them and change my plans at the drop of a hat. Then today one of my...
    JingleJemmy JingleJemmy 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bad Friend To A Kid.

    I have a cousin who's  7 years younger than me. Around four years ago, I started hanging out with him--I was over his house or he was over mine almost everyday, I helped him with his homework, and other things. He wanted to make a game, and I encouraged him to formulate his...
    Mikebissle Mikebissle 22-25, M 5 Responses Mar 6, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Wrong Time & Date

    Just to point out that it is not 5.15 or the 27th of april as stated in my post.....? it is actually 11.57 pm, oopppps, it is the 27th April....
    saralucky saralucky 41-45, F Apr 27, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bad At Secrets

    I am so bad at keeping secrets--sometimes I don't even realize that I am sharing things that I am not supposed to be sharing!! But the most recent case has been so sad for me.  Since about September this year, I was becoming really good friends with this girl in my class...
    unsuregirl9 unsuregirl9 16-17 1 Response Nov 4, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am A Bad Friend.

    One of my friends asked me if I wanted to go get a burger with her and some of our others girls at a restaurant for dinner today. I honestly didn't feel like going, so I told I probably wouldn't come, but that maybe we should watch a movie later (turns out nothing good was being...
    heartgirl3 heartgirl3 16-17 Oct 13, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am A Bad Friend

    I'm a really **** best friend, right so my best friend just broke up with his girlfriend but I'm also friends with her so we were having a sleepover last night and just talking with my other friend and I said something that had nothing to do with me but now I've messed up my...
    lmshit lmshit 16-17 Jan 21, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Friendship In Ruins

    Hello allIt is pretty late in my city and i was browsing online. i felt very lonely and sad. I had an intense fight with my as i thought best friend. She told me tht i am not very attentive and serious about our friendship. That i tend to forget things a lot. Well basically i an...
    secondguesser secondguesser 22-25, F Feb 8, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Only Want the Best For Them.

    I am horrible. I read one of the first stories from someone in this group who feels like a bad friend for constantly blowing their friends off because of emotional issues. Unfortunately, I am on the other end of this, and I just told my friend who does this completely off at a...
    notTheGreatest notTheGreatest 26-30, F Oct 28, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Floydess

    I know this..and im sorry..if that means anything to you. Most of the things are my fault I admit and now matter how much I try to make it right I feel like I will probably never be able to take all the pain I caused back. I dont think I even know how to, but I have always...
    Floydian Floydian 22-25, M Jul 29, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    God I'm the worst best friend ever!

    ! I used to know how to make her happy, how to make her feel better, I used to be there for her. But now I can't even be in the room while she cries :'( it breaks my heart </3 sometimes I think I'm loosing her due to me being such a bad friend. I feel like I **** her off or...
    musicismysalvation musicismysalvation 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sudden Realisation ......

    I have just found out that two close friends who I used to work with have cancer..... it wouldnt be so bad if I had bothered or taken the time to keep in touch with them but there was always something more important.... MY life.... I am feeling totally crushed and totally selfish...
    saralucky saralucky 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 27, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Suck.

    I love my friends, I do, dearly.  I have very few of them, and each one is very precious and unique...but I'm a terrible friend.  I make plans, and break them.  I say I'll be somewhere, but I don't show.  I really, really suck.  I could justify all...
    natlynn natlynn 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 3, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Who Was Wrong? Me Or My Friend?

    I have this friend who I have had a good, but not too close, relationship with, who asked me for a largish amount of money. I agreed even though I didn't have a lot to spare. I only thought that she needed it and I should, as a friend, help her. We agreed that she would pay me...
    amiejohn amiejohn 26-30 Aug 15, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Am I A Bad Friend Or Do I Have A Bad Friend

    Some of us just are lone wolves, I try to change this fact about myself but truthfully I just don't need to spend a lot of time with friends to be happy. So my Bad Friend behaviors are avoidance, not reaching out, generally just being emotionally/literally unavailable for my...
    anotheranybody anotheranybody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 29, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Rebound

    I was dumped by the first person I loved. So I was in a bad place, and then I made out with a friend. Who also happened to be one of my best friends ex-boyfriend. She was dumbed by him, the first person she loved. I told her because I knew that she needed to know, that it would...
    LivvyLuna LivvyLuna 18-21 Oct 23, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What's Right And What's Wrong ...

    I've had this particular friend since freshman year of college. We're 26 now. I have a full time job, a wonderful boyfriend, and a family that has always supported me. While all of this is true, I, like everyone else in the world, still have my issues. My mother's health has been...
    ObliviousPunk ObliviousPunk 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Insecurity And It'S Concequences.....

    I usually don't have much friends in school. But this time, I do and I treated them very badly. I admit that all the pain and tension in the air is because of me. They were so supportive of me and bared all my negativity and I treat them like garbage. Well, we met at the...
    Joni12345 Joni12345 16-17 Feb 9, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am A Bad Friend

    I am an ***-hole and I do not even realize that what I am doing is wrong. I was at a bar and dumped a bucket of ice on my "friend" more like aquaintenance's head in front of 2 girls because I was hammered and in my mind that was hilarious but I didn't realize he would get so...
    squidward00 squidward00 22-25, M Mar 20, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Nothing Is As It Seems

    Kind of using this as a sounding board.  Venting & thinking as typing.  I'm in my mid-thirties, and have always thought I was a good friend.  That's what people have always told me.  I guess the power of suggestion is a really strong thing.  I am now...
    personalTherapy personalTherapy 31-35 1 Response Jun 23, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am A Bad Friend.

    well, here I am. I make pretty good real friends.I know a thew of them are real here but most of them wears a paper bag. 
    NoLifeOnEP NoLifeOnEP 22-25, M Jul 27, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Won't Even

    It's a little after 9:30, Saturday night, and I'm not at my friend from work's birthday party. I guess she's a friend...  (I'm bad in the sense that I won't even call her that.) I routinely get invited to parties she throws and I routinely don't go. I hate crowds...
    nonplussednonsense nonplussednonsense 26-30, M 13 Responses Nov 21, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Maybe

    Sometimes I wonder if I'm a bad friend. I don't seem to be a very nice person, at least, not all the time. I'm very blunt; I tell it like it is, and some people find that harsh. I don't see any point in sugarcoating things, I get straight to the point. Maybe that's a personality...
    squishedbanana squishedbanana 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 3, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Hate Myself

    I have a friend who I love dearly. I am resentful at how he has been treating me. He has been there for me numerous times in my life when I needed him. To add to that - he has helped me improve my life, improve my character and improve myself overall. And for that - he has gained...
    SuburbanAzz SuburbanAzz 31-35 2 Responses Sep 6, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sort Of Friend...

    An old coworker of mine was separated from his wife last year. We recently became close and started dating. She just found out and now hates me. I never considered ourselves good friends, and i saw her a handful of times over the past decade. I actually didn't think she would...
    peacefulnot peacefulnot 31-35 1 Response Mar 20, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've Been A Terrible Friend All My Life... And I'm Sorry.

    I have been a terrible friend my entire life. I have continually put myself above friends and only considered my own wants/needs. I have lost many friends because of fights in which I would not admit fault. I talk bad about friends and have made public blog posts calling...
    SherBear90 SherBear90 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 15, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Do I Do It?

    I have no idea how i do it, but with every friendship i make, i **** it up some way or another and its alwasy me who buggers them up. The latest friendship i have buggered up is one with my mate Jess. To cut the story short, she is having a party and i called her to ask what she...
    whystilltry whystilltry 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 1, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not Just A Bad Friend But A Bad Person...

    I thought i was a nice person, looks out for my friends, a laugh- well i proved myself wrong... thinking about it now i am those things, but not very often, i ***** about my friends, i dont trust any of them, i'm no good with secrets, im too sarcastic in fact in general im not...
    lovessmiles lovessmiles 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've a friend, she's in the same state

    and age with me but we never meet. She's really a good friend seriously, and i really love her. But i friendzoned her, i can't love her more than a bestfriend. I feel like i'm using her, bc i always make her feels like she's more than a friend, bc i'm to lonely, i need love, but...
    adriennelle adriennelle 16-17, F Mar 12

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am Such A Bad Friend, I Missed My Best Friends Boyfriends' Birthday

    I love my friend, and her boyfriend. Yesterday was his birthday and I just did not feel like going at all. He thinks its funny to pressure his friends into drinking and smoking and he would have made me feel obligated to all that. There would have been a bunch of his friends...
    agirlikeme agirlikeme 22-25 Sep 11, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Fail At Friendship.

    I went to my friends husbands B-day celebration at some steakhouse place and not only was I late, I arrived HAMMERED (Many before party drinks/shots on an empty stomach.....STUPID). NOT ONLY did I walk in late in a drunken stupor, but I arrived...
    LadyPsycho LadyPsycho 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 26, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    My bestfriend asked me for the answers for tonight's homework and I though she only needed a few. Turns out she wanted all of them! It's hard for me to say no so I waver it. I...
    unthinkablesoul unthinkablesoul 13-15, F Mar 30

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have my best friend, who I talk to about everything. She is almost 25 years old and has never had a relationship but all she does is complain about finding someone every time we...
    Rasheeba89 Rasheeba89 22-25, F Mar 26

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have friends that treat me like crap because I am crazy and I help them with problems but they don't return the favor and if I unfriend them then their is no one else to be...
    nmhusker11 nmhusker11 18-21, M Mar 30

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Always guilty by association. Life's a trip carnal
    mierdamundo mierdamundo 31-35 Apr 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ugh. Writing off bad friends on a weekly basis. Last weekend was truly a nightmare. To sum it up I went a friends house (2 hours away), sat uncomfortably in a bar she works at for...
    SC27 SC27 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 27

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ive had a bit of bad luck with people i've considered to be 'close friends' in the past. Having said that I do really miss having a close friend that I can really trust,..just to...
    Shybi30 Shybi30 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    the thing that i want the most is wht cuts me everytime soo sad to be soo smart, but always fall for the line knew it was wrong, but still tried to make it right so i ended up...
    braveenoughto braveenoughto 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Through EP I have met many people, some genuine, others seemingly so. I have learned to be cautious through this site, often mistakenly putting my time into people who are not as...
    robbie1280 robbie1280 18-21, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I need more friends on here. Not just people who add me because they think I sound like a good toy. I want someone to talk to and get to know. I want a friendly friend so hit me up...
    NeedingSaved NeedingSaved 18-21, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    <