I Am a Bad Friend

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    I Suck At Friendship

    i've just discovered this site, it's great!I am a terrible friend. Much of it stems from the fact that I don't have much/any ability to feel empathy for another person. (Yes I've considered the fact that I may be a psychopath but I don't think about it very much and I can't bring...
    Hannahmagenta Hannahmagenta
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2011


    I know this..and im sorry..if that means anything to you. Most of the things are my fault I admit and now matter how much I try to make it right I feel like I will probably never be able to take all the pain I caused back. I dont think I even know how to, but I have always...
    Floydian Floydian
    26-30, M
    Jul 29, 2012

    I think am a bad friend.

    Someone trust meenough to tell me she is a lesbian with a girlfriend who makes her happy and I am so proud of her but I didn't have the guts to tell her that I like girls too.
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 11, 2015

    Not Just A Bad Friend But A Bad Person...

    I thought i was a nice person, looks out for my friends, a laugh- well i proved myself wrong... thinking about it now i am those things, but not very often, i ***** about my friends, i dont trust any of them, i'm no good with secrets, im too sarcastic in fact in general im not...
    lovessmiles lovessmiles
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 23, 2011

    Was I Thinking?

    I've had this friend for all four years of highschool. She was pretty much my first friend and we've been sorta friends for the first three years of school. I later became really good friends with my neighbor after a while and so I never really had a chance to become close to my...
    typeusernamehere typeusernamehere
    1 Response Jul 22, 2009

    Wrong Time & Date

    Just to point out that it is not 5.15 or the 27th of april as stated in my post.....? it is actually 11.57 pm, oopppps, it is the 27th April....
    saralucky saralucky
    41-45, F
    Apr 27, 2012

    And I don't know why.

    I don't try to be a bad friend or person. But as it turns out...even though I have a small group of friends, I'm not actually anybody's favorite. I'm usually the one who gets excluded at the convenience of the others. Basically I only get called upon as a last option.
    RelayedDeaction RelayedDeaction
    26-30, M
    Feb 23, 2015

    Some wounds are too deep

    or too close to the bone. And no matter how hard you work at it, you just can't stop the bleeding
    Btimez3 Btimez3
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 14, 2014

    So It's Better That I Don't Have Any Right Now

    I've had several good friends in my life. In all cases, the getting near process was mostly due to their effort. I haven't ever expended very much energy trying to get close to someone. I have lost contact with all, except a couple of these friends. And those two, I merely...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 28, 2008

    Insecurity And It'S Concequences.....

    I usually don't have much friends in school. But this time, I do and I treated them very badly. I admit that all the pain and tension in the air is because of me. They were so supportive of me and bared all my negativity and I treat them like garbage. Well, we met at the...
    Joni12345 Joni12345
    Feb 9, 2013

    I Suck.

    I love my friends, I do, dearly.  I have very few of them, and each one is very precious and unique...but I'm a terrible friend.  I make plans, and break them.  I say I'll be somewhere, but I don't show.  I really, really suck.  I could justify all...
    natlynn natlynn
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jul 3, 2007

    I'm usually very understanding of people

    but this one friend cries for attention and is extremely dramatic which I hate! One of our boy-friends fancies her but she doesn't want to go out with him, he cried over this and has asked her out 3 times in the last few weeks only to be rejected... well we had a party and we...
    lucybumbum1 lucybumbum1
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2013

    Bad At Secrets

    I am so bad at keeping secrets--sometimes I don't even realize that I am sharing things that I am not supposed to be sharing!! But the most recent case has been so sad for me.  Since about September this year, I was becoming really good friends with this girl in my class...
    unsuregirl9 unsuregirl9
    1 Response Nov 4, 2008

    Maybe I Am A Bad Friend...?

    So heres the story. I have been sharing a room for more than two months now, i share a room, bed, cloths almost everything with my friend and its just been getting to my head real bad lately. Its hard trying to maintain a tidy room when theirs two people who accumulate a lot...
    littoria littoria
    18-21, F
    Aug 15, 2012

    Won't Even

    It's a little after 9:30, Saturday night, and I'm not at my friend from work's birthday party. I guess she's a friend...  (I'm bad in the sense that I won't even call her that.) I routinely get invited to parties she throws and I routinely don't go. I hate crowds...
    nonplussednonsense nonplussednonsense
    26-30, M
    13 Responses Nov 21, 2009

    So yesterday my friend attempted suicide.

    I always knew she was upset with life. I also know she cuts, but I never thought she would actually try to kill herself. Now that this has happened it got me thinking. I have been a terrible friend to her because I have never tried hard enough. Well, I do try to cheer her up...
    BlueSkysGreySkys BlueSkysGreySkys
    16-17, F
    Sep 25, 2014

    I Only Want the Best For Them.

    I am horrible. I read one of the first stories from someone in this group who feels like a bad friend for constantly blowing their friends off because of emotional issues. Unfortunately, I am on the other end of this, and I just told my friend who does this completely off at a...
    notTheGreatest notTheGreatest
    26-30, F
    Oct 28, 2007

    I Am Not Only Bad, But Terrible.

    Tonight was the last straw to break the camel's back. My friend that I have met for work (but never really hung around with for the most part) invited me several times to go to a pub. Sounds good, but I can't drive and I don't want to go that far, so I made an excuse a couple of...
    abscissa abscissa
    1 Response Dec 7, 2010

    I'm Sorry Sorry Sorry!

    I do rude things in my interactions with others on here. No, I don't call my friends names or anything like that. I just suck at saying goodbye! I never say anything, I just log out(actually I don't hit "log out". I just go do something else). And I am slow at answering mail. I'm...
    Kittychanel Kittychanel
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jun 28, 2012

    I know Danae since kindergarten,

    we were just 4 year old *****! Oh well... So in October of 2014 it was obvious that she had nervous anorexia. Things were awful with her family but she had a boyfriend and me, although I didn't live near her, my city is 3 hours away from where she lives. I promised that I'd...
    ScissorhandsFingeredMe ScissorhandsFingeredMe
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    What's Right And What's Wrong ...

    I've had this particular friend since freshman year of college. We're 26 now. I have a full time job, a wonderful boyfriend, and a family that has always supported me. While all of this is true, I, like everyone else in the world, still have my issues. My mother's health has been...
    ObliviousPunk ObliviousPunk
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2011

    Forgive me for being a bad friend .

    I know you hate me now and you think I absolutely hate you too . But I don't . I miss talking to you . I know we fought a lot and rarely got a long . But I miss you . I know we promised each other to never talk to each other again . I was rude back in July and blamed you for my...
    zebrelle9 zebrelle9
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2015

    Am I A Bad Friend Or Do I Have A Bad Friend

    Some of us just are lone wolves, I try to change this fact about myself but truthfully I just don't need to spend a lot of time with friends to be happy. So my Bad Friend behaviors are avoidance, not reaching out, generally just being emotionally/literally unavailable for my...
    anotheranybody anotheranybody
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 29, 2011

    I've Been A Terrible Friend All My Life... And I'm Sorry.

    I have been a terrible friend my entire life. I have continually put myself above friends and only considered my own wants/needs. I have lost many friends because of fights in which I would not admit fault. I talk bad about friends and have made public blog posts calling...
    SherBear90 SherBear90
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2012

    No Words Can Describe How Bad I Am :(

    I lost my friend a year back. She always wanted to meet me, spend time with me after we had our paths changed due to our careers. But I never found time for her. I had time only for a betrayer, my ex. She was a true person. She had to undergo a major surgery but I always thought...
    bluie19 bluie19
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 5, 2011

    Sudden Realisation ......

    I have just found out that two close friends who I used to work with have cancer..... it wouldnt be so bad if I had bothered or taken the time to keep in touch with them but there was always something more important.... MY life.... I am feeling totally crushed and totally selfish...
    saralucky saralucky
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 27, 2012

    Reasons why im a bad friend: • i get too

    attached • i will complain about all my problems to you • i will snap at you by accident one day, causing you to hate me • i need to be reassured periodically CONSTANTLY that you dont think im annoying • i am annoying • im boring • i dont know how to keep the...
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 26, 2014

    Who Was Wrong? Me Or My Friend?

    I have this friend who I have had a good, but not too close, relationship with, who asked me for a largish amount of money. I agreed even though I didn't have a lot to spare. I only thought that she needed it and I should, as a friend, help her. We agreed that she would pay me...
    amiejohn amiejohn
    Aug 15, 2012

    I hooked up with the guy my bestfriend likes

    for about 2 years during my 16th birthday party. It's been almost 5 years and she still doesn't know... I'm a bad friend....
    ysabelizade ysabelizade
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 28, 2014

    Don't Make The Same Mistake I Did.

    I met her on a field trip to our local hospital, she asked me "Have you ever been here before?" and I responded "I agree." as I was spacing out. While the friendship that this led to lasted a quick five months, it turned my life upside down and revealed how awful of a person I am...
    Additor Additor
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 3, 2012

    I Fail At Friendship.

    I went to my friends husbands B-day celebration at some steakhouse place and not only was I late, I arrived HAMMERED (Many before party drinks/shots on an empty stomach.....STUPID). NOT ONLY did I walk in late in a drunken stupor, but I arrived...
    LadyPsycho LadyPsycho
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Apr 26, 2010

    My Rebound

    I was dumped by the first person I loved. So I was in a bad place, and then I made out with a friend. Who also happened to be one of my best friends ex-boyfriend. She was dumbed by him, the first person she loved. I told her because I knew that she needed to know, that it would...
    LivvyLuna LivvyLuna
    Oct 23, 2012

    How Can This Be...?

    Well, it's hard for me to be a bad friend when I have no friends. But it seems like it's something that would describe me if I ever did.
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2009

    Nothing Is As It Seems

    Kind of using this as a sounding board.  Venting & thinking as typing.  I'm in my mid-thirties, and have always thought I was a good friend.  That's what people have always told me.  I guess the power of suggestion is a really strong thing.  I am now...
    personalTherapy personalTherapy
    1 Response Jun 23, 2010

    I Wish I Had Thought Sooner

    Hi everyone, I'm new on here. I feel I need to share what I'm feeling and didn't know where to turn to and found this site. I like to think that I'm a good friend. Normally if someone needs me I will priorities them and change my plans at the drop of a hat. Then today one of my...
    JingleJemmy JingleJemmy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    I Hate Myself

    I have a friend who I love dearly. I am resentful at how he has been treating me. He has been there for me numerous times in my life when I needed him. To add to that - he has helped me improve my life, improve my character and improve myself overall. And for that - he has gained...
    SuburbanAzz SuburbanAzz
    2 Responses Sep 6, 2008
    Nat2244 Nat2244
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 28, 2014

    I was a bad friend today.

    My ex reached out knowing I was having a bad day. Instead of just appreciating her help I ended up being selfish and rude.
    thecaptain2 thecaptain2
    41-45, M
    Oct 7, 2014

    Or Am I?

    I can't help but wonder... Truth is, I was made to feel like a horrible friend not too long ago. Yes, horrible. That's a stronger word than bad and yes, that was the word that was used. That I was that horrible, but was I? Was I really? Honestly? Oh, how I've been asking myself...
    deadmoon deadmoon
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 25, 2012

    I'm such a bad friend.

    Do I even show I care anymore? I just ***** and tell her what I think she's doing wrong. I wish she'd just take time as listen to herself and no one else. I wish she could see that she needs to fully listen to her heart. And I try to tell her this but am I too pushy?? I know...
    musicismysalvation musicismysalvation
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 13, 2014


    Sometimes I wonder if I'm a bad friend. I don't seem to be a very nice person, at least, not all the time. I'm very blunt; I tell it like it is, and some people find that harsh. I don't see any point in sugarcoating things, I get straight to the point. Maybe that's a personality...
    squishedbanana squishedbanana
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 3, 2007

    Belated Happy Birthday To A Yearwithoutrain/dawn

    I have a habit of being fashionably late every time. This time around I was no different. Sorry for that my dear. Wishing you a Belated Happy Birthday! =/
    MissGaga MissGaga
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 5, 2012

    I Am A Bad Friend.

    One of my friends asked me if I wanted to go get a burger with her and some of our others girls at a restaurant for dinner today. I honestly didn't feel like going, so I told I probably wouldn't come, but that maybe we should watch a movie later (turns out nothing good was being...
    heartgirl3 heartgirl3
    Oct 13, 2012

    God I'm the worst best friend ever!

    ! I used to know how to make her happy, how to make her feel better, I used to be there for her. But now I can't even be in the room while she cries :'( it breaks my heart </3 sometimes I think I'm loosing her due to me being such a bad friend. I feel like I **** her off or...
    musicismysalvation musicismysalvation
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 20, 2014

    Simply... Failure...

    Today I lost. Today I betrayed the one i am. Today I fail the people i care about and wish to help. I have failed. All I can do is to beg for forgiveness, if I ever get it, I wont accept it myself, thats how I am. No reason will lets me forgive what I just done. In your eyes...
    Hino93 Hino93
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 4, 2013

    I Am A Bad Friend

    I am an ***-hole and I do not even realize that what I am doing is wrong. I was at a bar and dumped a bucket of ice on my "friend" more like aquaintenance's head in front of 2 girls because I was hammered and in my mind that was hilarious but I didn't realize he would get so...
    squidward00 squidward00
    26-30, M
    Mar 20, 2013

    I Failed As A Friend

    im going to keep this short, my best friend confided in me about how he was suicidal one time. He told me that he would off himself when he was 40 bc at that point he would have no more obligations to his family. I knew this was a possibility but like always i used sarcasm as a...
    pposse pposse
    1 Response Feb 24, 2013
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