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I Am a Bastard Child

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    I've Never Felt Welcome

    My God, I don't even know where to begin. My whole pre-19 life was spent trying to please him and his new wife, but never doing it.  I even went to the college she dropped out of.  I spent many nights crying asking my mother and myself why he didn't love me.  I...
    k10 k10 18-21 2 Responses Jun 3, 2008

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    Everybody knows it but nobody says it,

    "You're different". And it's not just physical. Always different from your sisters, not in a bad way though. But where do I fit in? 30 years on and I still don't know. All I know is every day I carry a burden that I'm not who I'm supposed to be. I'm not part of the family...
    Nobody30 Nobody30 26-30, F Mar 22

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    AT Least My Dad Wanted Me

    I'M USED TO THOSE WORDS. UGLY,DUMMY,STUPID, ERROR,MISTAKE,INSIGNIFICANT,INVISIBLE&WORTHLESS ARE A COUPLE MORE. ALOT OF PEOPLE WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO NOT HAVE A DAD IN THEIR LIFE.TO HAVE SOMEONE WAKE THEM UP ON SATURDAY MORNING AND SAY"COME ON SON,LET'S GO...
    QUES30 QUES30 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    Promise Yourself…

    Promise yourself to be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true...
    roots2life roots2life 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    I'm A B*****D But My Father's A C**T

    Well what to say I'm 21 years old about to get married to an Amazing supportive fiancee, I have an amazing mum too but my "father" is a major ****, I found out that whilst he was married to a woman he slept with my mum behind her back hence conceiving me, I only met him once and...
    Charlied22 Charlied22 22-25, M Aug 8, 2013

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    The Result Of An Affair That Did Not End Either Relationship That My Mother Was In After My Birth.

    I am the result of an affair my mother had with my father. My mother was with her husband and had one child together.   My mother began an affair that lasted for approximately 4 years.   The affair started approximately 1 year before I was born. My...
    Lalakeke Lalakeke 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 14, 2010

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    Was Told Years Ago By My Sister

    that was why I was hated as a child my mother had went to take this guy milk as my grandfather had forgot to take it to his home and the guy raped my mothers and I was the result of that rape and the wanted a girl child not a boy and I had the same flaming red hair as the guy and...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Sep 6, 2013

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    The Mistake

    my parents were young when they had me. They have been together for years now and aren't married i've always felt that they stayed togehter cuz they had me then came my lil sister. so now they are togehter for 2 children my mom shows us she loves us everyday my dad is nto the...
    browneyegirl89 browneyegirl89 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    In And Out

    My father was in and out of my life. He was in the military. I got to spend weekends and weks with him then i went back to my mother. I never really wondered why my parents never married and never really cared either. No its almost 20 years later and now im living with my dad but...
    bruh2020 bruh2020 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    I've Always Been Pretty Okay With It

    When I was 9 my mom confessed that my dad wasn't my dad, and that my real father was a guy she'd had an affair with early in her marriage.I was more relieved by this than anything because it explained why I'd always felt my dad was showing favoritism for my older brother. And...
    Volleyballchick2 Volleyballchick2 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    Never Really Thought About It This Way

    I never quite thought about it as being a bastard child.  My family more than made up for that.  I never really had any bad labels for my existence, merely a knowledge that my existence was spawned from a very bad, traumatic situation. At 7 years old, I believed I was...
    Happyface Happyface 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    Well, I was adopted after my mom

    and I left my abusive alcoholic druggie ***** of a dad. He was...not a good person. Still, I'm his kid, and I'm scared that one day I'll be like him. Sometimes I think maybe I'm worse than him. I haven't seen him since I was four, and he hasn't tried to contact me. I mean, I'm...
    thatonekid98 thatonekid98 16-17, M Oct 18

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    Puzzle

    From early childhood I was raised as Tony Hall. Everyone had the same last name, it is what everyone called me and it was the identity I had assumed was my identity my entire life. It wasn't until my dad died when I was 5 going on six that everything changed. I am the only...
    Sangiovese Sangiovese 22-25 1 Response Aug 11, 2012

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    A Child Born From Sin

    From the perspective of the average person, I look like a regular guy attending his first year of college.; I have a lot of friends, I have a family and I have my music (I'm a music performance major in college.) Behind the image of the regular guy is a history of abuse, neglect...
    Cerorizo Cerorizo 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 7, 2013

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    They Say

    im a ******* jerk. the most natural thing to me is to be messed up to ppl. mostly to my family but they give me alot of **** but im not complaining i just throw that **** back in their face. im not their little punk ***** u know. they hate me for it but they didnt  think i...
    4theNRK 4theNRK 16-18 1 Response Feb 13, 2008

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    Raised A Bastard

    whether I am one or not. I am 36 and I just found out my dead father might not be my father at all. My father's family always treated me different. My Mother always overcompensated and has developed a "it doesn't matter who you father is, you are MY daughter. *sigh* Next step is...
    Clairedeluna Clairedeluna 36-40, F Jul 20, 2011

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    Only Just ....

    i think i only just fall into this catagory as i was 3 months old when my parents got married. Stiil make me a Bastard tho right?
    Deanisstilltrying Deanisstilltrying 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 13, 2011

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    Why Mom? Why?

    I've only now since I was 12, and  on top of being abused  by my family, I had it stressing on my mind that my father could be anyone.  Not to mention, I have been through 4 paternal DNA tests.  How many men was she with in the short time there is to become...
    allalone13 allalone13 16-17 4 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    A Baptized Bastard.

    I am, a bastard child, born into a religious family. Obviously this would be a problem to some, however I was still baptized as an infant. Apparently my great grandmother was really involved in the churches dealings, and managed to 'pull some strings', so to speak. I asked...
    mistaXbarreto mistaXbarreto 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    I'M An Unwanted Child.

    Just found out that my father never died when I was two years old. And that his name is not what I thought it was for 27 years till now. And my schizophrenic mother is not prepared yet to tell me the whole truth...she doesn't have the courage yet..I'm being patient. I want to...
    woundedLion woundedLion 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    The Buddy

    My life has been a little strange so far. When I have asked my family questions about how our mess came to be - they have gotten very upset. Yelling & crying usually results- so I have stopped for the most part. I decided that I do not want to add more pain to what I already have...
    cbesetgen cbesetgen 26-30 1 Response Jan 6, 2012

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    What Does It Matter?

    I have a very young mother. Life happens. And I'm the result! How lucky is that??? Hahaha.   I don't believe in legal marriage anyway!
    mefirstGIMME mefirstGIMME 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    I Am a Bastard

    I was not supposed to exist. I sure as hell wasn't supposed to be born. They thought my twin was the only one in there. I was a mistake. A huge mistake. I caused my father to leave. I made my mother depressed. I was my mother's sin to my step-father. I shouldn't have been here...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 3, 2009

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    Found Out This Year I Am A Bastard

    Hello everyone.The revelation that I am a bastard continues to mess with my head. This is how I found out the truth.I was cleaning some old stuff out of my mothers house about a month ago(Sept. 2011) when I found the marriage certificate of my mother and father and my original...
    scd1 scd1 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    Had Been Told Since A Little Kid..

    Woman that adopted me didn't hiding anything from me..She told me everything, I was adopted,I was a bastard ,and she also told me I was born when my real mom was 19..way too young..I didn't born at hospital but at grandma's house instead..She said better I know it earlier so I...
    Lyna97 Lyna97 18-21, F Dec 18, 2011

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    Father

    I never knew my father, so I dont miss a thing. I do know my real mother, I couldnt give less of a **** about her.She wasnt there for me so its not just deadbeat dads. It can be entire scumbag families. I have ALOT of hatred in me. For alot of things, not just family.But when I...
    augustskies augustskies 18-21 1 Response Jun 27, 2008

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    Terrance Who?

    My father's name was Terrance apparently, and was a good friend of my mom's and her sisters and their friends.  Anyway my mom was about twenty six, and they were having a bit of a party.  I guess he was too drunk to go home.  I guess one thing led to another and...
    SirDaniel SirDaniel 22-25, M 4 Responses May 25, 2008

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    I Refuse To Call My Child That Word

    I have a beautiful daughter, she is now 7 and her biological father has never been in her life. He wanted me before having my daughter until i announced i was pregnant, he never came near me until she was 4 months old "drunk" demanding to see his child I refused called him the...
    Bonnybrown30 Bonnybrown30 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 29, 2013

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    My mom was 16 and my dad was 18.

    They were never really together. They just hooked up frequently. My dad was seeing another girl around the same time so I also have a brother 6 months younger than me. I've always been ashamed of having parents who are young enough to be my siblings. And I'm always embarrassed...
    Livvy2 Livvy2 18-21, F Jun 23

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    I've Never Seen A Bastard Pretty As You

    My mother married young to a man who fathered my three older brothers. That man was a promiscuous drunk who got around with every woman he saw. My mother soon left him and even though he was a so called "loser" he tried to be a good father to my brothers. After my brother's...
    Nothingbutblackandwhite Nothingbutblackandwhite 18-21, F Jul 27, 2013

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    Living The Bastard Life. You Can Make It Through.

    I speak for all of us bastards (respectfully) when i say it is not impossible to make it through.When i was only 11 i discovered the definition of the word "bastard". ever since then, i take the word very seriously. I have been changed. when i was 8 my mom told me all about my...
    RetroAndLovinIt RetroAndLovinIt 13-15 2 Responses Jul 25, 2011

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    Life As A Bastard = Difficult

    I am the product of a one night stand between two friends that worked together. My father was married at the time and still is to the same woman. My father knew about me and saw me sporadically until i was 4 years old and then he just walked away. I know many of my "issues" stem...
    vegasmom79 vegasmom79 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 21, 2011

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    From East To West

    My mom discovered she was pregnant with me very early on.  As my father had a felony (as well as a father who was a doctor), she became paranoid at my potential upbringing, as well as the control she could lose, and fled the east coast to California to live with her family...
    ocelot1984 ocelot1984 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    They Just Had To Go To Mexico.

    My father was on vacation in Mexico when he met my intoxicated mother. They conceived me, my father hid my mother and I from his family, mainly his wife which he never mentioned to my mother during there romp. I will always be his first child but I will never be a legitimate...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2012

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    Illegitimate

    i'm 43.  My father was in his early 60's and married when he had an affair with my mother.  She was in her early 40's.  By the time I was a few years old the relationship was over.  He left and I never saw him again.  She said over the years that he...
    Linda268 Linda268 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2010

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    Love Hurts

    When my mom was young she met my father. They were in love but my Father was in and out of jail leaving us on welfare in a tiny apartment an all the bills to pay. One night he was on parol and him and his parol officer went out for drinks with a group of men and women my dad and...
    Maria316 Maria316 13-15 1 Response Apr 1, 2012

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    I have a heck of little cousins who live in buildings just besides mine..they come to my home and just make a mess out of my room and I ******* hate that qnyone except me is...
    UNRECOGNIZED UNRECOGNIZED 13-15, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    No child should have to go through any problem that is bigger then themselves, there is NO excuse for abusing a child.
    RealProject RealProject 13-15, M 7 hrs ago

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    I don't believe spanking is abuse if done right. Spanking should be done out of love and the child should know why you are spanking them and know they are loved. You should never...
    Keegal Keegal 18-21, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I think adoption may be my form of "having" a child, someday.
    Am3917 Am3917 18-21, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    WTF no posts in here since April??????? Why do people have to hide everything they are in some **** attempt to look good to other people. Just be yourself goddammit!!!!! If you're...
    Thorranthus Thorranthus 31-35, M Oct 12

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    I'm so scared my husband will leave me to have children. He wants children, loves them, idolises them. I think kids are cute but I'm much rather enjoying seeing, learning and...
    CorruptedAngel CorruptedAngel 22-25, F Oct 4

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    I am the mother of children with different fathers. Right away when people hear that, they think bad things. They judge incorrectly. I never actually thought I would be in this...
    Col308 Col308 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    It shouldn't hurt to be a child. No child should feel like they are alone in the world, and nothing that they can do is right, but so many do, and the ones who do, feel like they...
    SouthernBella89 SouthernBella89 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 16

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    I hate them. I am 16 years old, in grade nine, my classmates and I had to take home a computerised baby, which woke me up at 3am for whatever reason. It screamed and cried, and I...
    minecraftmaniac1998 minecraftmaniac1998 16-17, M 3 Responses Oct 8

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    You know my name, but not my story. I am strong, yet also weak. I am independent, yet also dependent. I am optimist, yet pessimist. I am many different things, which make me who I...
    SimplySecure SimplySecure 18-21, F Oct 18

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    If I made my mother mad, she asked my dad to spank me. Clearly, my mother ran the house. My father was a quiet, determined man. He was kind, and not quick to anger by any means...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 6

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    If I made my mother mad, she asked my dad to spank me. Clearly, my mother ran the house. My father was a quiet, determined man. He was kind, and not quick to anger by any means...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 6

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    When I was very young, I was a normal, energetic, and happy kid. I consider myself lucky that I can remember that because that happy child was almost completely destroyed by the...
    dynosophical dynosophical 26-30, M Oct 20

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    If you have an ACoA in your life, learning about and taking care of YOUR emotions is always a good idea. The following is adapted from L. Markham "Are your feelings dangerous...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Oct 9

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