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I Am a Bastard Child

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    A Child Born From Sin

    From the perspective of the average person, I look like a regular guy attending his first year of college.; I have a lot of friends, I have a family and I have my music (I'm a music performance major in college.) Behind the image of the regular guy is a history of abuse, neglect...
    Cerorizo Cerorizo 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 7, 2013

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    Raised A Bastard

    whether I am one or not. I am 36 and I just found out my dead father might not be my father at all. My father's family always treated me different. My Mother always overcompensated and has developed a "it doesn't matter who you father is, you are MY daughter. *sigh* Next step is...
    Clairedeluna Clairedeluna 36-40, F Jul 20, 2011

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    The Result Of An Affair That Did Not End Either Relationship That My Mother Was In After My Birth.

    I am the result of an affair my mother had with my father. My mother was with her husband and had one child together.   My mother began an affair that lasted for approximately 4 years.   The affair started approximately 1 year before I was born. My...
    Lalakeke Lalakeke 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 14, 2010

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    I Am a Bastard

    I was not supposed to exist. I sure as hell wasn't supposed to be born. They thought my twin was the only one in there. I was a mistake. A huge mistake. I caused my father to leave. I made my mother depressed. I was my mother's sin to my step-father. I shouldn't have been here...
    drcynic drcynic 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 3, 2009

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    Terrance Who?

    My father's name was Terrance apparently, and was a good friend of my mom's and her sisters and their friends.  Anyway my mom was about twenty six, and they were having a bit of a party.  I guess he was too drunk to go home.  I guess one thing led to another and...
    SirDaniel SirDaniel 22-25, M 4 Responses May 25, 2008

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    Puzzle

    From early childhood I was raised as Tony Hall. Everyone had the same last name, it is what everyone called me and it was the identity I had assumed was my identity my entire life. It wasn't until my dad died when I was 5 going on six that everything changed. I am the only...
    Sangiovese Sangiovese 22-25 1 Response Aug 11, 2012

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    Promise Yourself…

    Promise yourself to be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true...
    roots2life roots2life 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    Illegitimate

    i'm 43.  My father was in his early 60's and married when he had an affair with my mother.  She was in her early 40's.  By the time I was a few years old the relationship was over.  He left and I never saw him again.  She said over the years that he...
    Linda268 Linda268 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2010

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    AT Least My Dad Wanted Me

    I'M USED TO THOSE WORDS. UGLY,DUMMY,STUPID, ERROR,MISTAKE,INSIGNIFICANT,INVISIBLE&WORTHLESS ARE A COUPLE MORE. ALOT OF PEOPLE WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO NOT HAVE A DAD IN THEIR LIFE.TO HAVE SOMEONE WAKE THEM UP ON SATURDAY MORNING AND SAY"COME ON SON,LET'S GO...
    QUES30 QUES30 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    They Just Had To Go To Mexico.

    My father was on vacation in Mexico when he met my intoxicated mother. They conceived me, my father hid my mother and I from his family, mainly his wife which he never mentioned to my mother during there romp. I will always be his first child but I will never be a legitimate...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2012

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    The Mistake

    my parents were young when they had me. They have been together for years now and aren't married i've always felt that they stayed togehter cuz they had me then came my lil sister. so now they are togehter for 2 children my mom shows us she loves us everyday my dad is nto the...
    browneyegirl89 browneyegirl89 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    Found Out This Year I Am A Bastard

    Hello everyone.The revelation that I am a bastard continues to mess with my head. This is how I found out the truth.I was cleaning some old stuff out of my mothers house about a month ago(Sept. 2011) when I found the marriage certificate of my mother and father and my original...
    scd1 scd1 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    A Baptized Bastard.

    I am, a bastard child, born into a religious family. Obviously this would be a problem to some, however I was still baptized as an infant. Apparently my great grandmother was really involved in the churches dealings, and managed to 'pull some strings', so to speak. I asked...
    mistaXbarreto mistaXbarreto 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    In And Out

    My father was in and out of my life. He was in the military. I got to spend weekends and weks with him then i went back to my mother. I never really wondered why my parents never married and never really cared either. No its almost 20 years later and now im living with my dad but...
    bruh2020 bruh2020 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    They Say

    im a ******* jerk. the most natural thing to me is to be messed up to ppl. mostly to my family but they give me alot of **** but im not complaining i just throw that **** back in their face. im not their little punk ***** u know. they hate me for it but they didnt  think i...
    4theNRK 4theNRK 16-18 1 Response Feb 13, 2008

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    Before I was born my mum

    and her husband had a falling out and were apart for a while they didn't divorce as they thought they could sort things out slowly for the sake of their kids before they patched things between them my mum had a one night fling with a guy and 9 months later I came along I know my...
    knightgirlalice knightgirlalice 13-15, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I Refuse To Call My Child That Word

    I have a beautiful daughter, she is now 7 and her biological father has never been in her life. He wanted me before having my daughter until i announced i was pregnant, he never came near me until she was 4 months old "drunk" demanding to see his child I refused called him the...
    Bonnybrown30 Bonnybrown30 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 29, 2013

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    The Buddy

    My life has been a little strange so far. When I have asked my family questions about how our mess came to be - they have gotten very upset. Yelling & crying usually results- so I have stopped for the most part. I decided that I do not want to add more pain to what I already have...
    cbesetgen cbesetgen 26-30 1 Response Jan 6, 2012

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    Everybody knows it but nobody says it,

    "You're different". And it's not just physical. Always different from your sisters, not in a bad way though. But where do I fit in? 30 years on and I still don't know. All I know is every day I carry a burden that I'm not who I'm supposed to be. I'm not part of the family...
    Nobody30 Nobody30 26-30, F Mar 22

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    I've Never Seen A Bastard Pretty As You

    My mother married young to a man who fathered my three older brothers. That man was a promiscuous drunk who got around with every woman he saw. My mother soon left him and even though he was a so called "loser" he tried to be a good father to my brothers. After my brother's...
    Nothingbutblackandwhite Nothingbutblackandwhite 18-21, F Jul 27, 2013

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    I'M An Unwanted Child.

    Just found out that my father never died when I was two years old. And that his name is not what I thought it was for 27 years till now. And my schizophrenic mother is not prepared yet to tell me the whole truth...she doesn't have the courage yet..I'm being patient. I want to...
    woundedLion woundedLion 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    Had Been Told Since A Little Kid..

    Woman that adopted me didn't hiding anything from me..She told me everything, I was adopted,I was a bastard ,and she also told me I was born when my real mom was 19..way too young..I didn't born at hospital but at grandma's house instead..She said better I know it earlier so I...
    Lyna97 Lyna97 18-21, F Dec 18, 2011

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    I'm A B*****D But My Father's A C**T

    Well what to say I'm 21 years old about to get married to an Amazing supportive fiancee, I have an amazing mum too but my "father" is a major ****, I found out that whilst he was married to a woman he slept with my mum behind her back hence conceiving me, I only met him once and...
    Charlied22 Charlied22 22-25, M Aug 8, 2013

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    Never Really Thought About It This Way

    I never quite thought about it as being a bastard child.  My family more than made up for that.  I never really had any bad labels for my existence, merely a knowledge that my existence was spawned from a very bad, traumatic situation. At 7 years old, I believed I was...
    Happyface Happyface 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    What Does It Matter?

    I have a very young mother. Life happens. And I'm the result! How lucky is that??? Hahaha.   I don't believe in legal marriage anyway!
    mefirstGIMME mefirstGIMME 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    Father

    I never knew my father, so I dont miss a thing. I do know my real mother, I couldnt give less of a **** about her.She wasnt there for me so its not just deadbeat dads. It can be entire scumbag families. I have ALOT of hatred in me. For alot of things, not just family.But when I...
    augustskies augustskies 18-21 1 Response Jun 27, 2008

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    My mother had always told me

    that she didn't know who my father was, ever since I was 6 or 7 and I asked her because I friends would have srories about their dads. When I became an adult she had explained that she had been dating this guy who lived with his sister and her two kids, however they weren't...
    cora07 cora07 22-25, F Jan 15

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    Love Hurts

    When my mom was young she met my father. They were in love but my Father was in and out of jail leaving us on welfare in a tiny apartment an all the bills to pay. One night he was on parol and him and his parol officer went out for drinks with a group of men and women my dad and...
    Maria316 Maria316 13-15 1 Response Apr 1, 2012

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    Only Just ....

    i think i only just fall into this catagory as i was 3 months old when my parents got married. Stiil make me a Bastard tho right?
    Deanisstilltrying Deanisstilltrying 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 13, 2011

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    I've Never Felt Welcome

    My God, I don't even know where to begin. My whole pre-19 life was spent trying to please him and his new wife, but never doing it.  I even went to the college she dropped out of.  I spent many nights crying asking my mother and myself why he didn't love me.  I...
    k10 k10 18-21 2 Responses Jun 3, 2008

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    From East To West

    My mom discovered she was pregnant with me very early on.  As my father had a felony (as well as a father who was a doctor), she became paranoid at my potential upbringing, as well as the control she could lose, and fled the east coast to California to live with her family...
    ocelot1984 ocelot1984 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Living The Bastard Life. You Can Make It Through.

    I speak for all of us bastards (respectfully) when i say it is not impossible to make it through.When i was only 11 i discovered the definition of the word "bastard". ever since then, i take the word very seriously. I have been changed. when i was 8 my mom told me all about my...
    RetroAndLovinIt RetroAndLovinIt 13-15 2 Responses Jul 25, 2011

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    Why Mom? Why?

    I've only now since I was 12, and  on top of being abused  by my family, I had it stressing on my mind that my father could be anyone.  Not to mention, I have been through 4 paternal DNA tests.  How many men was she with in the short time there is to become...
    allalone13 allalone13 16-17 4 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    hawklight hawklight 36-40, F 7 hrs ago

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    It's like a void where there had to be actual feelings. I s suffered and still suffer alone, far from home, trying to find myself a way in my life. So, basically, the only persons...
    suns3ta suns3ta 18-21, F Mar 22

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    Today I'm not writing this expecting a pat on the back or anyone's sympathy, but I do feel it's important for people in my circle to know that there is more to me beyond a...
    DoctorBastardo DoctorBastardo 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 28

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    No Witnesses- "Noah! Noah! Where are you,girl?" Out in the hall Papa,my adopted father,was calling for my little sister. She was in her bedroom just like every other day and he...
    UnwantedMutt UnwantedMutt 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    Yesterday. ...ahhh yesterday...There are days in people's lives that you wish you never had to revisit....days you wish never had to happen at all. That was yesterday. Chas, my...
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    Childhood is the time from birth to the age of 16. According to the changes in the physiological characteristics and psychological characteristics, childhood can be divided into...
    smastar smastar 22-25, M Apr 10

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    Hate is a very strong word, so I'll try not to use it. I have a stepson (he's 15 now) who I have been around since he was 6. I knew that he was gay the day I met him. That is of no...
    needinghelpbadly needinghelpbadly 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    I read here in this experience about people who don't want to have children because being a parent isn't for them or it's just how they feel about the matter, which is fine...
    charlie4edwards charlie4edwards 16-17, F Apr 9

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    I remember people from my family, when I was little, they hugged each other. I probably was hugged as a baby, but I don't remember it. I have pretty good and clear memories since I...
    WickedScullyOfTheWest WickedScullyOfTheWest 31-35, F Apr 6

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    I have a distaste for people who say things like "I was hit as a child and I turned out fine" or "Children need to be disciplined". There are so many ways to have discipline...
    baconrind baconrind 26-30, M Apr 9

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    I am a step-parent to three children ages 12, (almost) 11, and 9. Their biological mother walked out on them on their father when the youngest was about a year and a half old, and...
    TeaMother TeaMother 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Glad to find this group. I hate children , I can not see, hear or anything that has to do with children. I'm sick of people asking me to have children. Not because I'm married mean...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses a week ago

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    I amd 21 years old, I've always said that I never want to have children. Last summer I met a man who as a little girl, she is now 2 1/2 years old,when I met him and started to get...
    heather22a heather22a 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    From the time I got pregnant weve been argueing he didnt even want me having our child he tried to pay me to have an abortion and then when my child was born thats when he grew...
    laqquita21 laqquita21 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    Oh, I so do. I think about the kids I teach in Sunday school, and if I ever found out that anyone abused them in any way, I don't know what that would do to me. That could very...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    About being an autistic child- (mild autism/ Aspergers) When I was very young, I felt as though I had something very old inside me, looking out through my eyes. It carried such a...
    LuminousMotes LuminousMotes 31-35, F Apr 2

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    As far as I can go through my childhood memories I can remember the first one… just feeling… fear. My childhood was full of it. Scared of dark, of sleeping in my own bed, of...
    Mellangela Mellangela 26-30, F Apr 11

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    I was brought up with three siblings, the older two hated my father especially the older brother who was from a previous marriage. They egged one another on and accused my father...
    Tigermoth35 Tigermoth35 31-35, F Apr 11

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    My parents are pretty much the epitome of the American Dream, but ascension into the middle-class has made them pretty ****** people. They both grew up really poor and had to raise...
    HipHipJorge HipHipJorge 26-30 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Their outstanding innocence, endless energy, high spirits, sticky fingers, wild imaginations.. oh I love it all! Children are a blessing to the world. They're our future...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 13-15, F Mar 20

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    I have deep hatred for the MAN abused me sexually when I was just a little kid. I was only 4-5 years old when this guy, this so called relatives sexually abused me. I din't know...
    nobodyn234 nobodyn234 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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