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I Am a Birthmother

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    Let The Healing Begin - I work for a software company that touches all sides of the adoption triad. Post adoption has more emotion that a John Steinbeck novel. It was the best of...
    cairsgreg cairsgreg 51-55 Nov 14, 2013

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    My Story - It has taken me 15 years to be able to put my story on paper. I thank my wonderful husband for encouraging me to do so.  In December 1992 I was a 22 yr old almost...
    kaisu1 kaisu1 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 18, 2010

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    My daughter turns 13 on Sunday... I am a very lucky BM.... I get to see her still... and I actually get to see her on Sunday... I am so very excited...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    I Don't Want To Sound Like A Feminazi But - I don't want to sound like a feminazi but I feel I should point out that women only seem stupid when you compare them with men. If you...
    TRUECRISTIAN TRUECRISTIAN 70+, F 4 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    I am 24 and pregnant with my second child...my first pregnancy was bliss and even though me and my son's father are not together he definitely takes care of his responsibility s...
    loveisreal24 loveisreal24 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    The Choice of Adoption - It was a very hard one to make.  My birthson is now 14 years old.  He was placed for adoption when he was on 2 1/2.  I also have a...
    stillsurviving stillsurviving 31-35 4 Responses Aug 26, 2008

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    The Truth - 21 years ago I was raped. I was 14 years old at the time. Shortly after this had happened I found out that I was pregnant. After the initial shock of the news the next...
    afraidmom afraidmom 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    Life After Birth - Today is my 6 year olds birthday, but all I can think about is the baby I placed for adoption 12 1/2 years ago.  It was the right decision at the time and I...
    littleredballoon littleredballoon 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2009

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    Tired of Trying to Forget - It has been nearly 8 years since I made the decision to give my perfect baby to another couple. You see, I was not a member of the "single parent...
    matweeks matweeks 31-35 10 Responses Oct 21, 2008

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    Even After 50 Years - I am a birthmother who relinquished some 50 plus years ago. Not one son but two. I have been found and found, have been reunited with both sons who live in...
    kamuchey kamuchey 70+, F 4 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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    I guess this is my feeling during the process of having my son Dylan. Four in the morning, these nine months have come to an end. The car is started and I have everything...
    LikeADove LikeADove 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    My Story - I am currently 8 months pregnant with my first child. I was just short of starting my senior year in college when I found out I was pregnant with my boyfriend of 3...
    linz1023 linz1023 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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    I Am A Birthmom Who Has Been In Reunion For 2-1/2 Years.... - I was 17 when I gave birth to my daughter in 1970 (the closed era).  I never considered keeping her because I came...
    humbird753 humbird753 56-60, F 6 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    I was 15 years old when I found out I was pregnant, 16 When I gave birth to her. I wasn't forced into adoption, I defiantly didn't know much about it by OB doctor is the one that...
    KYbirthmom97 KYbirthmom97 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    Is it wrong for me to love my son so much. To think of him every day and have a hollow spot in my heart. To be angry with the people involved in the adoption process because I was...
    sweetsadness23 sweetsadness23 22-25, F Mar 26

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    I want him back!!!! My son left the hospital with his new adoptive parents December 6, 2013. I signed the termination papers December 9. I know I have twenty days to change my...
    bellefaute bellefaute 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I was raped... St Patrick's Day and the only thing I know about him is that he was Jamaican. After it happened I did what I do best bury the bad memories underneath mountains of...
    bellefaute bellefaute 26-30, F Dec 11, 2013

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    13 Years Later.... - I was standing in the shower rubbing my stomach telling the little thing growing inside me I was sorry. Sorry for what I was about to do. Sorry for not giving...
    KatieGlatt KatieGlatt 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    The Road Less Traveled - I guess my story truly starts at the beginning of my senior year of high school in 2007.  I had just met Tony, and although he was 20 and I was 17...
    halleygrace18 halleygrace18 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    It Has Only Been A Week - Hi..my name is Misi and I am 32. I have 2 children..one son who just turned 14 and one son who just turned a week old yesterday. I decided early in my...
    Akasha5081 Akasha5081 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2013

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    The Real Story And Not The One You See On Tv - Here i am! I look on TV at how nice they make the adoption process look but i know the real story, I was a single mother of two when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 12, 2010

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    What Do I Tell Her?? - When and if my daughter is ready to know I am her birth mother what am I going to say to her?? How am I going to explain that I gave birth to her, couldn't...
    jjmommy09 jjmommy09 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I was 15 when I became pregnant to someone of whom I was with for a year, I finished the relationship due to my hormones and moods. I concealed my pregnancy and no one had a clue...
    sophie1153 sophie1153 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    My Heart Still Aches Everyday - I was 18 when the doctor told me I was pregnant, something I never thought would happen to me. I was getting ready to be a senior in highschool...
    jjmommy09 jjmommy09 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    Its been almost ten years I was forces to give my son up for adoption to a realitive I was able to have a relationship with him for six years at which point he found out I was his...
    Danielle0525 Danielle0525 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    We Should Have Rights Too -   13 years ago I gave birth to a beautiful little boy. I kept him for a few months but seeing as I was only one month shy of being 20 years old...
    hopetohelp hopetohelp 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 9, 2009

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    Need Help Coping - I am a fairly young mom, I'm 25 with 3 beautiful daughters from a previous marriage. In February I had gotten pregnant during a one night stand with a friend of...
    bre03 bre03 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Feedback Needed From Fellow Birthmoms - I was hoping for some feedback. Quick background just in case, 10 years ago when I was 16, I was raped and made a clear choice to give the...
    paigegurl paigegurl 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    A Birth Mothers Request - As of 2:18am, my baby boy is a month old. I can't sleep so I wrote a poem for him. I thought it would be nice to share it here. I hope you ladies like it...
    Akasha5081 Akasha5081 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Cfs Put My Daughter Up For Adoption!!! - lets start with i was pregnant with my daughter at the age of 18. she was born october of 2007. i had her from about 3 weeks, i was living...
    dididothewrongthing88 dididothewrongthing88 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 13, 2012

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    How To Deal With My Loss - Mine was an open adoption and they promised on god i get to see my son but he turns 2 Jan 10th and i haven't seen him sense the hospital. I ask god why i...
    lovely2463 lovely2463 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Today is my son's 10th birthday. I can't believe how much time has passed. I can't help but think I was only five years older when I got pregnant with him. He has made me so much...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Heartbroken - I just recently have birth to an absolutely beautiful baby girl on the first of this month. She's four days old today. Sadly, my fiance and I didn't even know I was...
    lilcaterpillar lilcaterpillar 22-25 4 Responses Feb 5, 2013

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    I gave up my son for adoption because I was told by my mother that she would kick me out pregnant. I chose adoption to survive and because abortion in my family is a sin. I was...
    sweetsadness812 sweetsadness812 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Today, I Am Grateful - What I thought was the worst thing that ever could have happened to me has turned out to be a blessing in disguise. As hard as it was for me to place my son...
    Akasha5081 Akasha5081 31-35, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Baby William - Wednesday, May 9, 2012 I need my baby to know how deeply he was loved and what lead up to me having to give him up.we were in a two year battle with the state for...
    lovely2463 lovely2463 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 11, 2012

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    My Story - When I was 22 i found out i was pregnant by a guy who got me drunk and took advantage of me, when i told him what happened he told me that my brother got me pregnant. At...
    AislingElizabeth AislingElizabeth 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    My Dad Has Accepted My Decision Finally! - Me and my father had a really good talk thismorning when he drove me to work. He found out about the adoption a couple weeks ago and he...
    Akasha5081 Akasha5081 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    27 years ago my baby was taken from me. I had no choice. I'm still angry, terribly frustrated and traumatised after the experience. It was a life changing event. I was 13 when a...
    Shariano Shariano 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I'm Not A Birthmom, But I Am Adopted. - I have a question for you birthmothers. I've been talking to my Birthmom since I was 15 (open adoption, but my adoptive mom said we were...
    Lonestar92 Lonestar92 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 6, 2013

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    It Has Been A Long And Extremely Painful Journey... - There are many women who have lost their babies to adoption who do not like to be called "birth mothers". To many this term...
    carlynne carlynne 46-50 8 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I was raped walking home alone from a friends one night , I told myself I could forget what happened but four months later I found out I was four months pregnant. My life felt like...
    LoveMeAlways21 LoveMeAlways21 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Alone With My Son - My story starts almost 30 years ago when I was 16.  Just prior to completing my sophomore year in high school my parent informed me that we were...
    solem62 solem62 46-50 9 Responses Apr 7, 2009

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    Milestones I Will Never Be A Part Of - My baby boy will be a month old Saturday. This last month has been incredibly hard for me. I miss him every second of the day and Ive shed...
    Akasha5081 Akasha5081 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    Lost Her Twice - I am a birthmother, a woman in long term recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. In 1981, my life was a mess. I was living with a married man and got...
    gnaples gnaples 56-60, F 2 Responses Oct 31, 2013

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    My Adoption Story of My Son - My adoption story Don’t you ever forget My precious baby boy That I love you Don’t you ever forget My beautiful angel That you...
    Espresso Espresso 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    Hi! - I put my daughter up for adoption 14 years ago! I only did it because i was 19 at the time and because the people who were going to adopt her would let me see her.. Well 1...
    karen1998 karen1998 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    For those who don't know my story I entered an open adoption that subsequently closed. Today I tried to email my son's adoptive father (his adoptive parents are divorced) to...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Too Young For 2! - I am a Birthmother of identical twin girls. I became pregnant in college, my boyfriend didn't want to get married and took me to an abortion clinic. I ...
    Blondambition64 Blondambition64 46-50, F 9 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    Last time I wrote I talked about how the email address I had for the adoptive father was no longer valid. Life can sure be interesting sometimes... Ben (the adoptive father) got...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow 26-30, F Mar 23

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    Nothing in this world can ever break my heart again Its been a week since I gave birth to the most perfect baby boy. And although I know that placing him for adoption remains the...
    bellefaute bellefaute 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I was removed from my birthmother when I was 2. Spent the next 3 years in foster homes. Adoptive parents were abusive and I was returned to the system at age 13. I don't talk to my...
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