I Am a Birthmother

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 317 People

    I gave my daughter to a wonderful couple almost

    a year ago. I have 3 other children and could not give her the life she deserved as I was a single mom. This is very difficult for me to deal with because I do not have alot of support.
    brokenhearted1985 brokenhearted1985
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    Today is my son's 10th birthday.

    I can't believe how much time has passed. I can't help but think I was only five years older when I got pregnant with him. He has made me so much stronger and wiser. I have no regrets but I still hope he doesn't follow in my footsteps. It isn't always easy living without him but...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2014

    My Story

    It has taken me 15 years to be able to put my story on paper. I thank my wonderful husband for encouraging me to do so.  In December 1992 I was a 22 yr old almost college graduate.  I was raped during our college Christmas formal and left school 4 months shy of...
    kaisu1 kaisu1
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2010

    I downloaded this app in hopes of finding some

    birthmothers or birthfathers to talk to. It would just be nice to find someone who can actually relate to what I'm feeling. Someone's who's actually had the same experience. If anyone would like to talk, or share their story with me, I am here. 💕
    deleted deleted
    Aug 28, 2015

    i placed my daughter

    for adoption... but... my mother and step dad adopted her. i am very lucky that i am still involved in her life big time. my thing is i dont under stand why i never had an attachment to her durring my pregnancy or up until i placed her at almost 6 months. i have 3 children older...
    breezie712 breezie712
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2015

    Tired of Trying to Forget

    It has been nearly 8 years since I made the decision to give my perfect baby to another couple. You see, I was not a member of the "single parent, pregnant and alone" cliched group. I was married and had a 2 year old daughter. My husband (now ex) was not a really good...
    matweeks matweeks
    9 Responses Oct 21, 2008

    I guess this is my feeling during the process

    of having my son Dylan. Four in the morning, these nine months have come to an end. The car is started and I have everything packed up and ready to go. I am scared, but I am not exactly afraid. Will everyone be there in time? Will it last forever? Is Jen going to make it...
    LikeADove LikeADove
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2014

    My boyfriend thinks I should just forget.

    I email my son's adoptive mother a couple of times a month. She sends me pictures of him and gives me updates on the entire family. Sometimes its easier than others to read those emails. Today was unbearable because I got my first video of him. For the first time since I left...
    bellefaute bellefaute
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 26, 2014

    27 years ago my baby was taken from me.

    I had no choice. I'm still angry, terribly frustrated and traumatised after the experience. It was a life changing event. I was 13 when a man at a park forced me into waste ground and made me have sex with him. My life has never been the same.i never got making any decisions...
    Shariano Shariano
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 3, 2014

    My Adoption Story of My Son

    My adoption story Don’t you ever forget My precious baby boy That I love you Don’t you ever forget My beautiful angel That you were wanted Don’t you ever forget Little bundle of joy That you were not rejected Don’t you ever forget...
    Espresso Espresso
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

    Today is the 12th birthday of my beautiful twin

    baby girls I am feeling absolutely heart broken and lost today I get this feeling every year and it never seems to get any easier. In my heart I know I made the best decision for my girls future but the sense of loss and worthlessness never seems to end. My partner their Dad...
    Mawhia Mawhia
    31-35, F
    Oct 27, 2015

    Milestones I Will Never Be A Part Of

    My baby boy will be a month old Saturday. This last month has been incredibly hard for me. I miss him every second of the day and Ive shed more tears than I've ever shed. The APs have been wonderful, sending me emails and pictures every few days. The other day they sent me a...
    Akasha5081 Akasha5081
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Oct 17, 2013

    Even After 50 Years

    I am a birthmother who relinquished some 50 plus years ago. Not one son but two. I have been found and found, have been reunited with both sons who live in different states. I was a young college freshman and met a man much older than me and we started dating not openly as he...
    kamuchey kamuchey
    70+, F
    4 Responses Oct 3, 2009

    I was 15 years old when I found out I was

    pregnant, 16 When I gave birth to her. I wasn't forced into adoption, I defiantly didn't know much about it by OB doctor is the one that brought it up and told me she could get me in contact with someone if it is what I wanted. At the time I knew I was young I didnt want my...
    KYbirthmom97 KYbirthmom97
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 3, 2014

    How To Deal With My Loss

    Mine was an open adoption and they promised on god i get to see my son but he turns 2 Jan 10th and i haven't seen him sense the hospital. I ask god why i did such a great thing for someone and they are so cold and uncaring we gave them something they could never have for 15 years...
    lovely2463 lovely2463
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 15, 2013

    Well a couple years ago I started making

    horrible choices and started seeing a much older guy. ...that didn't keep my interest so I left him and decided I wanted to be fun and carefree so I hooked up a few times with someone that I couldn't believe was interested in someone of my build...He was more athletic and such...
    LadyTrakand LadyTrakand
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 31, 2014

    I just recently relinquished my daughter

    and am having a hell of a time. My emotions come in waves, and I do not know what to do with myself. I am only a week out of the hospital and all I can do is think of her. I find myself gravitating toward her photos on my lab top, but when I look through them I start to cry...
    Montanagirl13 Montanagirl13
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jun 29, 2014

    It Has Been A Long And Extremely Painful Journey...

    There are many women who have lost their babies to adoption who do not like to be called "birth mothers". To many this term makes it seem like they are not real mothers, rather "breeders" who provide childless families with babies. I am not offended by this term. I don't see it...
    carlynne carlynne
    8 Responses Jan 17, 2011


    I put my daughter up for adoption 14 years ago! I only did it because i was 19 at the time and because the people who were going to adopt her would let me see her.. Well 1 month before the adoption was going to go through they decided to move my daughter to another home but it...
    karen1998 karen1998
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

    I was 18 when I had my daughter with a younger

    boy. I kept her for 7 months and I just couldn't do it on my own even with my parents help. I felt guilty for not providing her with a family with 2 parents. I loved her enough to give her what she needed. I didn't give her up I gave her more! She is now a beautiful 21 year...
    freston freston
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 8, 2014

    Nothing in this world can ever break my heart

    again Its been a week since I gave birth to the most perfect baby boy. And although I know that placing him for adoption remains the best choice for him and myself, I didn't know exactly how hard it was going to be. I feel as if a piece of myself is missing. I told the adoptive...
    bellefaute bellefaute
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 12, 2013

    I am 24 and pregnant with my second child.

    ..my first pregnancy was bliss and even though me and my son's father are not together he definitely takes care of his responsibility s and enjoys his son so much. I am pregnant by a different man now who has about 10 other children and I would call him a rolling stone, I come...
    loveisreal24 loveisreal24
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 18, 2014

    It is coming up on my daughters 1st birthday.

    As it gets closer my heart breaks that much more. What's worse is that it breaks silently so no one else can see. I am supposed to get more pictures and an update this month. To be honest, I know I made the right decision with giving her to the couple who is raising her but I...
    brokenhearted1985 brokenhearted1985
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 12, 2015

    I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on sept 23

    2014. he truly was beautiful, I am not one to say that, i think most newborns look like aliens, and i dont know if it was because he was mine that i saw so much beauty in him or what. On that same day i left the hospital without him. In the arms of his adoptive parents. I didn't...
    birthmom2014 birthmom2014
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Oct 9, 2014

    Last time I wrote I talked about how the email

    address I had for the adoptive father was no longer valid. Life can sure be interesting sometimes... Ben (the adoptive father) got in touch with my parents to request that we get together. I have moved away from the area but I was actually planning visit there around that time...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow
    26-30, F
    Mar 23, 2014

    i am and im proud of it.

    ..i am thankful that i was able to bear a wonderful blessing,my son...worth the pain...
    yrinmairi25 yrinmairi25
    31-35, F
    Mar 24, 2015

    Its been almost ten years I was forces to give

    my son up for adoption to a realitive I was able to have a relationship with him for six years at which point he found out I was his mom and he wanted to live with me so I was completely shut out of his life.when I first had to hand him over he was three months old and I thought...
    Danielle0525 Danielle0525
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2014

    Alone With My Son

    My story starts almost 30 years ago when I was 16.  Just prior to completing my sophomore year in high school my parent informed me that we were moving away.  I was like, what and where?  Well it turned out that we were moving to another state entirely...
    solem62 solem62
    9 Responses Apr 7, 2009

    I gave up my wonderful,

    beautiful daughter, Tatyanna, for adoption when I was 17 years old. It was the hardest, most difficult decision I have ever had to make. I LOVE kids and have my whole life making this decision even harder. My family was emotionally supportive but my mom was going through a...
    TeeMommy TeeMommy
    36-40, F
    May 12, 2015

    I was young when my girls (then 2,

    11.5 months) were placed in foster care and placed up for adoption. It has been 15 years since I have physically seen my girls. I recently have received letters as well as photos from them and the woman that raised them.. I am nervous about the possibility of seeing them. It is...
    tkb014 tkb014
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 24, 2014

    My Story

    When I was 22 i found out i was pregnant by a guy who got me drunk and took advantage of me, when i told him what happened he told me that my brother got me pregnant. At this time i knew i would not be able to raise a baby so i choose adoption,i went through everything i had to...
    AislingElizabeth AislingElizabeth
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 16, 2013

    I made this Video for my son.

    I see him on Sunday and I feel as if they are only meeting me because they have to... Not sure I feel welcome anymore.feel free to watch  
    LikeADove LikeADove
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2014

    Do you have any kids?

    Its such a loaded question for me these days....I feel like I am denying my son if I say no I don't, But do if I say yes, then there is the possibility that i have to detail my life for some random strangers. And placing my son for adoption is something that I really don't want...
    bellefaute bellefaute
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 16, 2014

    I feel like iam having a replay of the loss

    and pain I went through when I had to give my son to a couple and they hurt me so bad I had deep stabbing in my heart that never seemed to go away. Now its all coming flooding back cause my older son his brother got a girl pregnant and she had a little girl 4 days ago and she...
    lovely2463 lovely2463
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 21, 2015

    Is it wrong for me to love my son

    so much. To think of him every day and have a hollow spot in my heart. To be angry with the people involved in the adoption process because I was treated unfairly. I am not just some crazy bitter birth mom. I am a mother and my instinct is to protect my son. Now that...
    sweetsadness23 sweetsadness23
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 26, 2014

    My name is Ashley, and I am a Birthmother.

    I was 16 at the time I had gotten pregnant and I was ashamed. I didn't understand the responsibilities and emotional luggage that I would carry for the rest of my life. I chose adoption for my birth daughter because I felt like it was my way of absolution for what I have done...
    novastella novastella
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2015

    My name is Jennifer and I am a birthmother.

    I was 17 when I had my son and adoption was my choice because I loved him. I've grown up..I'm married, successful career, beautiful kids..and I love my son, still. I recently had the opportunity to chat with him after almost 20 years, and it is bittersweet. He is happy and...
    Jensword Jensword
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 27, 2014

    I gave up my son Zechariah 4 years ago.

    I live with the pain of it every day. They decided to close the adoption with out my consent. I own this pain it's mine and I will not hide it I will not be ashamed.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 20, 2015

    I'm Not A Birthmom, But I Am Adopted.

    I have a question for you birthmothers. I've been talking to my Birthmom since I was 15 (open adoption, but my adoptive mom said we were getting too close so she Closed it) well my Bmom found me and we've been talking for 6 years now. I feel closer to her rather than my Adoptive...
    Lonestar92 Lonestar92
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 6, 2013

    i gave birthday to a handsome baby boy on

    January 9th 2015, and on January 12th i left the hospital, empty belly and empty handed. he also left the hospital that day, but in the arms of his new parents. i got to spend three days with him and in that time, i got to hold him, feed him, change him, kiss his little face...
    samantharenae samantharenae
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    I guess I tend to post more

    than others. The truth is I wish I had somewhere to connect with other birth moms when the adoption was so new and painful. If my words can help even one person I know I have accomplished something. My son's 10th birthday was on the 9th. As you may have known from a previous...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2014


    I just recently have birth to an absolutely beautiful baby girl on the first of this month. She's four days old today. Sadly, my fiance and I didn't even know I was pregnant. Sounds impossible but it does happen. I skip cycles like a freshman skips classes so going months without...
    lilcaterpillar lilcaterpillar
    3 Responses Feb 5, 2013

    The Real Story And Not The One You See On Tv

    Here i am! I look on TV at how nice they make the adoption process look but i know the real story, I was a single mother of two when i got pregnant for the third time The idea that i would have three children under five and two that would be a year apart was scary. I went into...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 12, 2010

    My daughter turns 13 on Sunday.

    .. I am a very lucky BM.... I get to see her still... and I actually get to see her on Sunday... I am so very excited...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 4, 2014

    I just got an update

    and pictures of my son. I have been feeling so much better since the adoptive father has come back into my life. Receiving the occasional email makes all the difference. The pictures were of their summer vacation. He looked so happy and carefree. It sounds like they had a great...
    lovewarsnow lovewarsnow
    26-30, F
    Aug 26, 2014

    I want him back!!!! My son left the hospital

    with his new adoptive parents December 6, 2013. I signed the termination papers December 9. I know I have twenty days to change my mind and its taking everything in my power not to call up my lawyer and tell her I want him back. I know in my gut that he is where he is supposed...
    bellefaute bellefaute
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 15, 2013
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