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I Am a Bisexual Woman Married to a Man

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    Bisexual, Married To A Man, Want To Be W/ A Woman

    My first sexual experience was with a girl. Actually about 75%% of my sexual relations have been with girls. But for some reason, I got married to a guy (most likely to make my mom proud... she wants grandkids) and I used to love him... Anyway, Im really starting to miss girls...
    Graceful123 Graceful123
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Mar 7, 2011


    At night I dream of her...holding me, caressing me, kissing me, gazing into my eyes, making love until sunrise. Sometimes when I'm with him and I kiss him with closed eyes I imagine it's her. I lift his shirt exposing his chest and back. Kissing his chest and run my fingers up...
    BiButterfly BiButterfly
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 21, 2013

    I have known I had an attraction to women

    since I was in my early teens and I never acted on it until this past summer. I have been married to my best friend for 12 years almost and we have 2 kids together and the 3 of them are my world. Right before my last birthday, I decided to finally see what it would be like to be...
    suena5106 suena5106
    36-40, F
    5 Responses May 15, 2014

    I married my high school sweetheart,

    Sunday is our 20th wedding anniversary, It was just 6 years ago when I finally opened up to tell him that I am bi. It actually made us more secure within our marriage to each other. I would never go behind his back and act out on any of my fantasies alone without him being in...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 5, 2015

    So Prouded That Im

    im prouded that im bi. its a gift from god to give me the talent to enjoy both gender. it also made me a kind open minded person who knows how to live the life and even how to entertain others. my marriage did not affect those desires in me and my hasband always beside me. with...
    naughtytequila naughtytequila
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Oct 7, 2010

    I am scared to lose her.

    I don't want to lose her. I've told her time and time again to date elsewhere as as seeing me because I don't want her "wasting" her time- since I do not plan on leaving my husband. She doesn't seem interested in going anywhere else, and I love that...but I know what will happen...
    LittleTarheel14 LittleTarheel14
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2014

    Something A Little Off The Beaten Path

    hi all, I am a transgendered (mtf) pre op that is living entirely as a woman, although i am still technically a male.......most people just assume i am gay, and attracted to men.........but I actually am more attracted to other women, which always make for a difficult...
    Jaclyn30 Jaclyn30
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Oct 6, 2011

    I'm a married, mother of 2,

    doctor. From the outside looking in anyone would say I literally might have the perfect life. Amazing, intelligent, understanding husband. Two beautiful children. A perfect girly girl and a rough and tumble football loving momma's boy. Those people would be mostly right...I...
    s061516 s061516
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2014

    Reading others experiences reassures me

    that I am not alone. That being married to a man and loving, longing for a woman is not uncommon. I have been married for 12 years. 5 years ago I had an encounter with a woman that changed my whole outlook on life and made me question myself. I was raised with the value of a...
    surrealzeal surrealzeal
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 4, 2014

    Were there any of you

    that told your husband about your sexuality and him not taking it well? I feel this would be my husband if I told him. I think he probably has a small idea but if I was to admit it he would find it very confronting and probably threatening to our relationship.
    Bollenstitue Bollenstitue
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 8, 2015

    I have always been attracted to men

    and women. Being raised in a strict Southern Baptist household led me to suppress my attraction to women - women are supposed to be with men, and that's that (or so I was taught). As an adult, I have come to accept myself as bisexual, but have only recently come out to my...
    LoriLynn621 LoriLynn621
    31-35, F
    Dec 13, 2014

    All Of Your Stories Speak Volumes.

    I'm 33 and have been married to a outstanding husband for 6 years. We've been together for 8 years. From our early dating and intimacy, my husband knew I was bisexual. He knew a female ex of mine, and also knew I dated women for the better half of my 20s. We've had conversations...
    Pepperminta Pepperminta
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Oct 1, 2013

    Hi name is Nelia. I'm 23 years old

    and will get married to my fiance Adam Sept 14,2014.. (We have yet to talk to his pastor) I became a Christian on March 22, 2013.I was raised Catholic my whole life. But I joined a Southern Baptist church March 30 of 2013. My fiance works alot and right now I am unable to work...
    Ironmaiden22 Ironmaiden22
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    When I was younger, I had little crushes on

    women. Having grown up in a strong Southern Baptist church, I fought off any feelings that I had. At the encouragement of my husband, I put an ad out in cyberspace. I am amazed at the lack of genuine people out there, but every once in awhile you can find a gem. I found an...
    flip4me flip4me
    46-50, F
    Apr 2, 2015

    Heartbroken And Confused

    I told her the truth today. something that i had been holding back for quite some time. I don't know why I told her it just felt like the right time and the right thing to do. She said she wasn't upset with me and we'll always be friends. It's what she said and how she said it...
    BiButterfly BiButterfly
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2013

    A Night Out With My Crush...

    I can still feel the warmth of her breath on my neck...the softness of her lips as she leaves sweet kisses on my neck...our bodies pressed up against each other as we flow to the music, my hands around her neck, her arms around me, her hands exploring my body. She turns me around...
    BiButterfly BiButterfly
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 12, 2013

    Worried about husband's feelings, but hey, what about me?

    I've been with my husband for almost 11 years, since the age of 15. He is my absolute everything and love him very much. I remember being 6 years old, kissing a girl on the school bus. Had only boyfriends in school. My husband and I have had fun with another chick about 5 years...
    Bihousewife Bihousewife
    26-30, F
    10 Responses May 21, 2012

    Playing House Led To Much More

    I'm 24yo female, with my husband over 7 years. My first sexual experience was with a female at age 10. Playing house led to much more but I can remember being much younger and knowing then i was attracted to females, I showed a girl My nipples in first grade. I lost my verginity...
    snelletrail snelletrail
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Dec 3, 2012

    The Secret Me!

    I’m "happily" married to a man for the last 13 years. We have a great life together and don't have any kids. He has no idea about any of this and wonder is it time to come clean now or do I just deny who I really am?? Boys never really featured for me when I was a teenager, I...
    riveria riveria
    41-45, F
    28 Responses Aug 1, 2011

    I didn't want go behind his back

    so I told him. It wasn't easy to tell him how attracted I am to other women but I didn't want to hide it from him. I knew I couldn't anyway. So I told him one evening and I was so relieved when he was ok. Three years later he's still fine with my occasional ladies night out with...
    AdorableMermaid AdorableMermaid
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 6

    Is there anybody here

    who has slept with males and females? And if so did U find it more enjoyable with a male or female?
    Bollenstitue Bollenstitue
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 11, 2015

    I Kissed a Girl - and I Liked It

    I guess I am still in the process of really understanding what being "bisexual" is.  I am married to my college sweetheart for 12 years, and we have 2 beautiful children.  I do love him with all my heart and can't really complain about our sex life - he is...
    cmeshine cmeshine
    27 Responses Sep 27, 2008

    So, being on the experience project has

    convinced me to start a blog. Please check it out and feel free to share with friends. This is all new to me and because I haven't come out to my whole family, I am anonymous for now. :) So, here goes:
    flip4me flip4me
    46-50, F
    Apr 5, 2015

    I Am Married to a Bi - Girl - There Is Hope Girls!

    G uys, to me as a very hetero guy, married to a bi girl, (and she is 29 years old) , the issue is a simple one.  When she is happy I am happy.  So before you assume that I am going to say *********, let me stop you.   I am very happy to let my wife go off and...
    suziegirrrl suziegirrrl
    7 Responses Jul 25, 2009

    I started to feel like I was the only person

    who was bisexual and married, but at the same time I recently discovered this part of myself. I would love to chat with anyone who is married and bi
    xbellas xbellas
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Feb 18, 2015

    Thats Right What The Title Says.

    I been this way since I was very young.  It started when I was exposed to it by a girl I grew up with . She lived in my neighborhood. Lets just say when she introduced this "game" and showed me how to "play it " honestly almost cummed in my panties because sadly I am very...
    fang3 fang3
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2013

    I enjoy Bi sex with my sister.

    First while babysitting in High school, & later other close girl friends. Now at age 53 my husband & I both enjoy time together with other women.
    Helenjoy Helenjoy
    51-55, F
    Jan 23, 2014

    Me Too

    Im a bi sexual woman, I've never fully explored my bisexuality , when I was a teenager I shared a few romps and kisses with a female but we were only young and it never went any further at 17 I met my hubby, who I adore, we have a fantastic sex life and he's my best friend, I...
    Curious678 Curious678
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 18, 2012

    Lying to Myself

    All my life I did what I was expected to, got good grades, got married had kids, I even served in the military. I did everything except what I wanted to. I wanted to be with a woman. I love my husband but I have always been attracted to girls, I have never acted on it, other...
    furie furie
    21 Responses Mar 23, 2008

    It's Hard Being A Bisexual Wife

    I have been married to my husband for the past 8 years, but I have been a bisexual woman for most of my life. I knew I wanted to kiss other girls by the time I was six years old. Sometimes I think I lean closer to being gay than bi, seeing as I am not attracted to very many men...
    jackie829 jackie829
    31-35, F
    21 Responses May 17, 2010

    ***** Club Hook Up

    My husband and I had to go out of town on business and while there we discovered a ***** club.  We decided to go get cleaned up have a nice dinner and go to it.  While there we noticed another couple watcing the show and noticed that she kept making eye contact with me...
    IMASassyAss IMASassyAss
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Jun 10, 2010

    I have been a member

    for a few years, but haven't posted until today. I am married to a wonderful man and I like women. My husband is aware of this, but I don't think that he understands that I am new than just attracted to them. I have had several encounters over the years, especially during my...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 23, 2015

    I have been married for going on 4 years.

    I have had a gf (the same girl) on n off since 09. I'm so confused. I don't want to leave my husband n I don't want to lose her either. She has always been around and we are in love but I think she is tired of not being the main one anymore. Yesterday she told me we needed...
    acw0225 acw0225
    1 Response Jan 19, 2015

    I am a woman married to a man.

    I have always known that I liked women. They way they look and feel and smell. I recently in the past year has my first experience with a woman who happened to be my best friend. My husband was also involved. I have been opening up to my husband more and expressed interest in...
    Amy8274 Amy8274
    4 Responses Jun 24, 2015

    A couple of months ago I realised I'm bisexual.

    I've come out to a few supportive family members and friends. I've been married ten years to a wonderfully understanding guy, who wasn't entirely surprised when I came out to him. We are considering a one-sided open marriage, so that I can explore my bisexuality. . My husband is...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 20, 2014

    I am so happy I found this blog.

    It is so refreshing to see so many other ladies I can relate to. I am looking to be a pen pal with a bisexual woman/women that maybe I can one day meet in person. Please private message me if your interested. I would love to chat with other women via text/email who share the...
    jennifer021582 jennifer021582
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 28, 2014

    I say bisexual only because I am married to a

    man. In my heart and in all of my being, I love women... only women... and just realizing I can't deny it any more.
    femoiselle femoiselle
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Mar 1, 2014

    Where do I start? I've been married 14 years,

    been with my husband over 20 years. We are high school sweet hearts and I love him with all my heart. I couldn't have done this without him. It took me SO long to come to terms with my sexuality and he has been there with me the whole way. I...I feel free for the first time in...
    chickapea80 chickapea80
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 21, 2015

    I Finally Told My Husband

    Well, I finally told my husband about my feelings toward women. See, he had an idea- I've joked around about women and being attracted to them BUT he never realized how serious it was OR that I would define myself as being bisexual. Well, now I told him that I do, and that it is...
    ButterflyBreeze ButterflyBreeze
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Apr 10, 2011

    omg i really thought i was the only one haha

    ive been married for nearly 2 years to my awesome husband but i think i'm starting to miss being with a girl, what should i do???
    leahlovesyou leahlovesyou
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2014

    Glad I'm not alone. My husband

    or anyone for that matter knows at all. It's been inside so long. 23rd birthday just looking for people to chat with around my age who are going through this too. Thank you guys!!
    kaye23e kaye23e
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    Does Any Woman Really Want To Share Her Life With A Bisexual Married Woman?

    I am a 31 years old good looking and successful girl that have been with the most amazing man since almost 9 years. 2,5 years ago I fell in love with a woman. I had only experienced sex with one other woman some years before but never really fell in love. My life completely...
    vidaa vidaa
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2013

    Still So Confused...

    Since she and I became friends things have definitely been better between my husband and I but at the same time he seems more adamant than before about having a 3some. He even went as far as to ask a female co-worker of his if she is bi and/or curious! (I was furious) Since that...
    BiButterfly BiButterfly
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Aug 6, 2012

    I have been with my husband

    for 10 years and we have 3 children together. I have recently come out to my friends and some of my family in the last year and openly bisexual. My husband has known for a long time. I have deep down known since I was 6 years old that I am very into women. As far as attraction...
    piperk piperk
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 5, 2015

    Seeking Support

    I am trying to come to grips with the fact that I am bisexual and married to my husband of 10 years. We were high school sweethearts and he is actually the only person (male or female) I've ever been with sexually. I've known I was bi since I was 10 years old, but spent years...
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Jun 11, 2013

    Not Sure Why I Decided Now That I Was Going To Explore This Side Of Me.,,

    I am married happily :) I Love my husband very very much. Sex with him is amazing... it always has been. Im not sure exactly what happened but he asked me one day if i checked out other women. and all i could do was laugh... like a kid caught in a lie. He finds it extremely sexy...
    RiAnEaToN RiAnEaToN
    18-21, F
    14 Responses Dec 9, 2010

    I recently met an amazing woman,

    and we became really close friends. We understood each other, and the struggles of being bi and married. Unfortunately her husband didn't like us being in contact, and put a lot of pressure on her. What he didn't realise, however, was that our respective marriages were always...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 2, 2014

    Craving A Woman

    Anyone who is bisexual and married to a guy knows there's nothing quite like a woman's touch. I miss the all-night sexual experiences I would have with my girlfriends that were filled with long building sexual tension that often resulted in giving me the best climaxes I have...
    HotwifeKelly31 HotwifeKelly31
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 14, 2013

    Last night I chatted with an old school friend

    for hours. She and I have a lot in common, and it turns out she's open to relationships with women. She doesn't say "bi" because she's attracted to intelligence regardless of who possesses it, and she says you can't help who you fall in love with. I have the same stance. She's...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

    I Just Woke Up

    So while I've always been very sexual, for years, I had a sort of emptiness that I couldn't really identify. I've been married for over 20 years to a wonderful man who I love very much. We have a wonderful sex life and he is very open to whatever I want. It has always been just...
    iloveboth iloveboth
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    My First Time.....

    The first time I ever experienced another female was when I was living at Lake Powell working at the resort. I was 19 and very much into experimenting. Of course I knew my bf at the time just wanted a chance to be with the hot chic we lived with and of course so did I. We had...
    foxytinkerbell foxytinkerbell
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 23, 2010

    About six years ago my husband

    and I ventured into the swinging world because we were both interested in exploring our fantasies. I was looking for my first bisexual experience and he wanted to be involved as well. We had some fun doing that but none of the experiences were very satisfying for me. I knew I...
    JuniperG JuniperG
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2014
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