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I Am a Cheater

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    An Open Letter to the Man Who Cheated On Me

    T o a man who broke my heart: The man I loved, you may never read this, but I need you to know that I am GRATEFUL in a profound way for the gift of freedom you have given to me. It felt life my world had collapsed when I found out that you had cheated. Who had...
    Kixx Kixx 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 27, 2008

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    Cut Off Without Warning

    i dont really have a story i wanna tell but i do have a question for everyone...can anyone give me a good reason why I shouldnt cheat after beeing in a relationship for 12yrs and sudenly without warning having any sort of sexual contact beeing cut off..this happened two months...
    lickusilly lickusilly 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    No Self-Respect

    Dating and relationships is about perspective,you might learn something....or read about people crying,ranting about how they have been wronged but my fav are the poor worthless women that post and boast about cheating while married or being the other woman. The lack of...
    Terrable1020 Terrable1020 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    i've been the other woman

    for as long as i can remember, never number one. i've hooked up with guys in every stage of a relationship. Single guys, guys who aren't exclusive, guys with girlfriends, baby mommas, wives. Divorced and even widdowed guys. i've always been the other woman and i had no problem...
    marykatherine92 marykatherine92 22-25, F Dec 9, 2013

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    I have no problem cheating at all.

    . its like a huge turn on actually... I feel nothing when i do it... I think i do this because i love to put a mask... Love to **** people i don't even know
    Strippedaway Strippedaway 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    Ok I admit it i cheated on a test!

    Their now that that's out if the why I fell better :)
    1LilLefty 1LilLefty 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 18

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    Do Cheaters Love? Ode to My Muse.

    This has become a popular topic of late among my stories and friends, so here goes: I think that you can love someone and cheat on them.  "Here we go again," they think.  Allow me to explain first.  That being said, I agree that not all cheaters ...
    flirtswithdisaster flirtswithdisaster 26-30, M 47 Responses Aug 26, 2007

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    Cheated With My Doctor

    I have been with my husband for 7 years, married for six. We have 3 children. My husband and I have had our ups and downs. He's been pretty good to me for a while now. I was just getting bored with my routine, driving around in a mini-van, all that. I know I'm an attractive...
    Mujer82 Mujer82 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    I hate the label cheater,

    but I did cheat. I've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 and a half years now. My bf is such a nice, smart and caring person. We are from the same race, and we've seen each others' parents. Everyone would expect us to be married at this point. We text each other...
    EricaL2013 EricaL2013 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I have been married for about 3 years to the

    "perfect" guy, except that we live like flatmates now. He's not interested in me anymore, not to talk, no cuddling, no sex, nothing. I've told him I'm unhappy and I've told him why, suggested relationship counselling, more quality time together etc. He's just not interested in...
    masa2014 masa2014 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    Once Upon A Time.....

    I believed in fairy tales. Then you grow up and realize that life is not a fairy tale. I found that out the hard way. I started dating my husband when I 14 years old and he was 18 years old. Yes, I was very young and had to grow up at a very early age. I know what you are...
    navybean navybean 46-50 2 Responses Sep 9, 2013

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    I'M Addicted To Having Multiple Relationships

    I have been in terrible , terrible relationships with people I have loved . Every person I have ever dated cheated on me or lied to me in some way. After the last relationship, in which a person who I had literally given up EVERYTHING to be with left me, I decided I was done with...
    numbhappiness numbhappiness 16-17, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Question For Cheaters

    Cheaters often do not use condoms. I have heard many explanations for this both from my wife and from other people as well. Why do you want to risk your health, your spouses health, and your children's health, pregnancy, for unprotected sex. The risk reward ratio is way off...
    Sigmamale Sigmamale 41-45, M 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    I Love The Adrenaline Rush

    Well I have been cheating since high school. At one time I had 7 boyfriends, that all believed they were my one and only. The funny thing is I never once got caught. It takes alot of thinking, coordination and planning to not get caught. You have to be on your toes 24/7...
    supergrrl supergrrl 18-21, F 13 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    How I Became a Cheat.

    I think it all started in High School. I was kinda dorky to begin with and I didn't have any girlfriends for a long time. Eventually I did manage to attract a girl and for a while it was great. But then slowly she started to get more and more psycho. She became depressed and...
    velosapien velosapien 31-35, M 8 Responses Feb 1, 2008

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    same house I have cheated on my BF with my

    daughters BF funny thing is we all live in the same house so its hard to hide the fact, although my daughter cheats as well not only on her BF with my BF but with other guys just recently we both cheated on our BFs with the same guy of course neither of our BFs know about it and...
    midschtch midschtch 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I cheated on my girlfriend,

    but she forgave me
    SkateDutch SkateDutch 16-17, M Mar 20

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    My Boyfriend Answered My Boyfriend's Skype Call

    It was bad. Really, really bad. I was on the phone with boyfriend A who demanded my skype password and since I thought boyfriend B was asleep I let him have it. As we're talking on the phone I suddenly hear the skype calling ring tone. Guess who?!? Before I knew what was going...
    paterpeccavi paterpeccavi 18-21, F 34 Responses Aug 26, 2013

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    ?

    I stopped you know? for the first time i was faithful for four years straight and then ta da! I snapped! I first blamed it on my man, he doesnt satisfy me he doesnt have the stamina to keep up with me hes too old blah blah When i knew it all along....this is sadly a part of who...
    Unmasked Unmasked 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Damn right i am, have been

    now since my ex bf went and current on came into my life, I cheat on him with other guys i meet at work usually or just neighbors. I love being able to do this without him knowing and im hoping someday my gd will take after her mom (who also cheats on her bf) and her g ma and...
    midschtch midschtch 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 23

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    I Love Them Both.

    I'm engaged to the love of my life. We're getting married in a little more than a month. He's awesome. He's gorgeous, the sex is incredible (even after 4 years), we have a lovely home, we never fight (nobody believes that, but it's true) and I can't wait to be his wife. However...
    TwoMenOneHeart TwoMenOneHeart 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I was with my boyfriend

    for about a year when things weren't so perfect anymore. Instead of focusing on trying to fix it, I started feeling helpless, and turned to a coworker as an escape. I started seeing him more and more... Ended up sleeping with him multiple times, after my boyfriend realized we...
    skairider235 skairider235 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 27

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    Used To Cheat

    I used to be a cheater. I used to think it was fun to use guys to get anything I wanted, not because I wanted things but because I got a rush from getting them to do it. I always have had this deep depression, where I felt like nothing was enough. I needed to have everyone love...
    Keers Keers 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 21, 2012

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    I have been in love for over 3 years

    now it may not sound like long but he means everything to me. We used to be so happy together and he treats me so well I don't deserve such an amazing man. But when I went away to college we broke up for a little while and we were talking again but not officially dating and I...
    lost0000001 lost0000001 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Infidelity Doesn't Just Happen

    Contrary to what some people claim, infidelity doesn't just happen. It requires participation and a desire to carry it out. The first time I cheated I didn't start out to cheat but was also very aware of what I was doing. Nearly 15 years ago after having been married for two...
    Kissweeterthanwine Kissweeterthanwine 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    A Cheating

    I just recently cheated on my boyfriend. Again. For a long time, since two years, in fact, I've been with my boyfriend. During this 2 years we were a loving relationship, it is however from what i feel, going down hill now. The distance is just killing our love and it is...
    nicorley nicorley 26-30, F 14 Responses Dec 13, 2007

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    Well actually let me be more candid.

    Been dating one girl since about sept of 2013 and everything was going good except I noticed a pattern with her. Now everytime we go out we would have a great time and when we would talk on the phone it would be hours of riveting conversation however I always AND I MEAN ALWAYS...
    TiimoFatz TiimoFatz 31-35, M 6 Responses Feb 12

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    Today

    Today i lost my virginity to someone else than my boyfriend. He knows, and i hate myself. I am the worst thing on the planet!. & im sorry
    BeautyIsPain20 BeautyIsPain20 18-21, F 23 Responses Sep 9, 2013

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    ive been with my boyfriend

    for almost 5 years. hes a sweet guy but a total **** up. im talking to a man twice my age and who may not have been interested in getting to know me outside of my pants but i didn't care. its gotten sexual and he's kinda starting to like me and i kinda like him too. i'm not a...
    inthismomentwhore inthismomentwhore 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Every morning I meet my faithful sweetheart.

    He's always waiting for me warm and welcoming. I embrace all that he offers me and depend on his support. Truly without him I would suffer just to make it through the day and if he were to ever abandon me, I would be lost. I remember the early days when I first met him, my...
    Sarbar96 Sarbar96 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Cheating On Abusive Husband

    I can't make excuses I knew and know what im doing was wrong but I just feel like I want to punish my husband forever. I want him to feel helpless and humiliated and ruin his life like he's ruined mine. I live with my husband although we we're living separately for a while and I...
    kssdjr kssdjr 22-25 7 Responses Oct 22, 2013

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    What Have I Done!

    Recently, I started getting really close to my best friends boyfriend and one night a few weeks ago he came over to my house because we just wanted to see each other, I didn't think anything would happen, but it did, we slept together. I told my friend that we had pulled and she...
    makeitreal makeitreal 16-18, F 8 Responses Sep 22, 2007

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    Cheating Can Be An End In Itself...

    A person can indeed cheat on their lover for no good reason. I have been in a relationship for several years.  My girlfriend is absolutely wonderful.  She is kind, loving, and empathetic.  She actually wants to get intimate more often than I do.  However...
    flirtswithdisaster flirtswithdisaster 26-30, M 39 Responses Aug 17, 2007

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    *Venting* I think I need to end this.

    ..what ever THIS is...with my friend. I'm feeling very upset right now. He hasn't returned my texts messages for two days now. I'm upset with him for this and I am worried about him. The last time he did this everything was ok but I really and truly hate to worry about those I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 22

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    For the record? I never cheated in my serious

    relationships. I did with someone else from Grad school. I understand why she did and dont judge. Both great people they later separated but got back together. Wiser maybe for it? I wish them well.
    FCyclone FCyclone 46-50, M Jan 9

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    Meet The Cheater.

    so .... I noticed there's a group with a title " I hate cheaters " and that made me think of myself ,not that I hated cheaters but being one is not that fun and easy and usually the real reason forwhy women/men cheat is not a selfish reason as most of you might think it was.Of...
    BloodOnLace BloodOnLace 18-21, F 34 Responses Mar 4, 2012

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    Thrilling

    In high school I had a bad shoplifting problem. Each time I got away with it i became more bold. It wasn't so much to get free things as it was to feel that thrill. To know I could be caught, but I never was. Then I found my new fix. Casual sex. I can't think of a boyfriend I...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 11 Responses Oct 20, 2013

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    I am a cheater i always was i dont like being a

    cheater and i dont want to be but its just something i cant help i really dont want to be a cheater i dont want to be the reason why a girl is crying her heart out cause of a brake up i dont really tell girls im a cheater beacause i feel like if they knew that then girls wouldnt...
    moet16 moet16 16-17, F Dec 11, 2013

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    Tempted by Love to Cheat

    Loving two men was not in my plan To leave my husband and family for another man Which man will win and which one will lose? How could I ever choose? Do I choose by the number of years? Thinking about it brings me to tears Living as an impostor pretending life is good. Not being...
    dare2love dare2love 56-60, F 17 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    I'm in a long relationship with someone

    who is one of the best men in the world. But our relationship is not going anywhere with no future promises. . I love him & he loves me but that's all.. I started to know this guy , we studied in the same college but we never been friends before.. he is treating me as a sister...
    TurningPage2013 TurningPage2013 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Schmidt In New Girl

    Anyone else here watching this show? They are doing a good job, as many shows do, of being funny about what is in reality a very sad, heart-wrenching thing. Schmidt was a cheater for a little while, two-timing two women, they both found out and it blew up in his face and they...
    crunchymouse crunchymouse 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 17, 2013

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    I am cheating on my husband.

    ... I met my friend about a year ago and there was a connection between us from the first meeting. I've reached out to him and he's responded. We haven't actually had sex but have been sexual together, it's only a matter of time...Do I love him? Yes and no...do I see a future...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    Cheating By Nature

    i am with someone and i want to have an affiar with lovely woman !! see how honest i am i am living in the middle east whish will make it harder to meet any member from here :) but i will keep waiting for a lovely woman to visit my country and then we can cheat and enjoy...
    DirtyMind DirtyMind 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 14, 2007

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    The Curse Of Cheating

    okay so i was with my ex for two years, we used to fight a lot but loved(still do) each other a lot. one night, right before going to a club, we fought real bad and the last thing he said to me was ''i hope you screw someone so we can be over''. I was so mad i got drunk as soon...
    gaby2506 gaby2506 18-21 7 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    I Am A Female Against Monogamy

    I feel as though the pressure to be faithful makes people miserable. It's why we have difficulty maintaining monogamous relationships. Think about it, there is no other relationship that you aren't allowed to have any other companions of the same kind. You can have multiple...
    confusedandupset confusedandupset 26-30, F 56 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    I'm a cheater. Not embarrassed by it either.

    Human beings are toys--just things to use. I could stop cheating any time I wanted, but I don't. Because it's exciting to have two different people, sometimes more, biting your bait at the same time. The best thing is to keep your original partner and dispose the other one like...
    Stythe Stythe 18-21, M 4 Responses Jan 27

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    Day 1 for me: About to leave my family

    for the love of my life until I found out she has been with 3 other guys over the last 6 months alone!! The pain is like a knife to the heart. I became a liar and cheat, I am far worse off emotionally for having known her. I am searching for the strength not to rush back and...
    LostSoul235 LostSoul235 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    I am a 16 year old girl

    and I am a cheater. I do recognize it's wrong. But I absolutely love it. I lasted almost 2 years with my last boyfriend, cheated on him with over 10 guys. I don't feel guilt. I don't know why I do it, to feel better about myself maybe, but I do know one thing, I enjoy it. Not...
    anatomicalheart anatomicalheart 16-17, F 13 Responses Mar 17

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    I've been m@rried for 5 years (2 kids,

    4 & 1 years old). I thought I was happy. Then one Saturday morning a old high school crush started chatting to me on Facebook. I didn't think anything of it at the time. It was just chit chat.. Then it he started saying things like 'he shouldn't have let me go', 'he m@rried the...
    maendie maendie 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 30

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    Related Experiences

    I am now on a life long mission to destroy the personal lives of cheaters who continue on their life of self lustification and self gratification. This being a long weekend coming...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was going through experiences on here n I see soo much support for cheating. Really? My husband n I have strong values. To him those girls r nasty *** ***** that have no values...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have news for you... cheaters cheat because they're unhappy. There's two sides to every story.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    This may be long and scrambled a bit but I will try my best. This is my first post. I have been with the same man for a little over 4 years and he is a cheater, among other things...
    straightjacketdolly straightjacketdolly 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    I am so angry. I give everything. All I get in return is to be cheated on. **** him who does he think he is. All those stupid *****.. I will never ever trust another man again. I...
    frances91 frances91 22-25, F 23 hrs ago

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    He cheated 3 months into us dating with an ex who he wasn't over. I didn't find out until our 4th month of dating, after we said we loved each other. I literally found out he...
    berrybumble berrybumble 18-21, F Mar 20

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    Keri Anne Kiss Stephens of Palm Desert sleeps with married men. She's a liar and a thief. She is not to be trusted around your husband or family members or anything of value...
    threesacharm threesacharm 51-55, F Mar 21

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