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I Am a Child Abuse Survivor

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    I was abused s3xually by a family member

    and verbally abused by a parent growing up. I survived, but it left some scars one was acute fear and panic attacks. I made many bad decisions in my life all because of fear. It impacted my marriage, myself, and my children. I had no self esteem at all and lost myself in...
    Iamonlyheretowrite1 Iamonlyheretowrite1 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 3

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    It can be so hard to heal.

    My mind is continuously jumping back to the times I've been hurt. I used to hate the idea of healing from my past because the hurt of my past was all I knew and I became so comfortable with it. I was physically abused since I was 3 years old. Throughout that time I sexually...
    dancinglawn dancinglawn 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2015

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    When I was like 5 my moms boyfriend would abuse

    me and my brothers everyday until she got home it was a living hell.
    Marines75 Marines75 13-15, M 11 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    Here's A Thought...

    Just think about it, if you disagree, please tell me why I'm wrong. I won't clobber you over it, ok? ( I reserve the right to be wrong, I *don't* have to be perfect, and neither do you. ) Our abusers were weak. Weak people. They wanted to project that weakness outward, so they...
    hylierandom hylierandom 41-45 11 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    Why We Keep Bringing It Up...an Essay

    So…dragonofjapan said something: “Yes, you were abused, but what are you going to do about it right now?” So I was thinking about that. What a lot of abuse survivors do…appears like wallowing. In some cases, it may actually be wallowing…but for most of us… What...
    hylierandom hylierandom 41-45 53 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    I have never had not one person to tell me

    that I should stay away from my mother because it could be bad for my health. Because she is a woman I feel like everyone covers up for her and give her excuses when they barely know her...and it's very disappointing when it comes from relatives it makes me feel like me or my...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    "What Happens In This House, Stays In This House."

    That was the catchphrase growing up with my parents. As an adult, hearing something like that sends alarm bells ringing. This is a story of how abuse and neglect nearly ruined me, but hasn't. I am two short years away from being thirty years old, and it's only through writing on...
    littledharmabum littledharmabum 26-30, F 23 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    When I talk about the abuse I still suffer from

    my sadistic birth mother on different forums of this website, it's disturbing that some people respond with,,, wtf did u do to your mom? As if the abuse has to be my fault not my abusive mother. But for someone to say that and jump to an abusive parent's defense feels more...
    Archangel216 Archangel216 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    (BEWARE, THIS IS LENGTHY AND DEscriptIVE) It

    was another night my uncle had stayed over to go work with my dad the next morning. I remember playing with my pink princess bouncy ball in the family room with my two younger sister's Rachel and Char. As we were throwing it to each other, uncle Dan ran in and took the ball and...
    loverenzy loverenzy 16-17, F Jan 11

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    My Mother Destroyed Me

    When I was a child my mother abused me mentally, verbally, emotionally and physically. She used to beat me in the face and head, call me names, pull my hair and made me believe I was worthless. For most of my childhood, I didn't realize I was being abused. I guess I just...
    AyselMoonbaby AyselMoonbaby 31-35, F 139 Responses Mar 18, 2011

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    I am not sure if I was abused by my male cousin

    as a child of 10 or not . My family had money problems and we had to move in with my aunts and male cousin. I was told to share his bed . I was 10 and he was 11 , we had never been close at all. I got undressed in the dark and got into bed with him He had a flashlight under...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    stolen youth Only an infant,

    not even a teen, far from being a woman A tiny 3 feet tall human being that you took by the hand You said to me: you're beautiful pretty girl, want to play? Come and see me, I got a secret for you, come my way A nice little game you said, but only for you and me Better not...
    ChantouKimmy ChantouKimmy 41-45, F 19 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    This story is my own,

    I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is not a fun story, some may find it hard some may find it hard… some can relate.. When I was born, I already had a big...
    ChantouKimmy ChantouKimmy 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 20, 2015

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    Dear Daddy, I loved you

    so I hope you know I looked up to you even though You took my grace, you took my faith You made me weak and such a disgrace Just a baby, innocent, and whole You took that a away, all of it you stole And now I am here, shattered and confused How someone so little could take...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I guess I was technically abused

    though I've never really looked at it that way. When I was 12 I had an older male friend of the family who would look after me when my parents were both traveling. One day we were just hanging out at home and we were talking about girls and sex and we got on the topic of...
    jeepxjdude2000 jeepxjdude2000 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 15

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    reading some of these posts.

    ..just adding my 2 cents. If any of you think you are going to get comfort from your abuser admitting what they done or saying they are sorry or the person who enabled it to happen, think again. My father never could admit the truth to anyone, although he did say he was sorry as...
    taintdrose taintdrose 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    Time To Share

    I haven't really talked a whole lot about my past here, but recently, I think I have felt inspired to do so because of the strength of other friends in my circle who have talked about their experience. I think it's important to share, not for the purpose of reliving the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Apr 30, 2011

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    " I am " I am 16 But mentally I am 10

    Emotionally I am afraid of everything I am a victim of abuse and I am ashamed . No one knows how hard it's to hide the pain behind a mask . The memory's will always haunting but I am trying to forget . The emotional wounds just won't go away . I am dead inside just a shell...
    kittenmajor kittenmajor 18-21, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    When I was showering earlier,

    I actually went into a panic when washing and rinsing my face off. I thought I couldn't breathe and started imagining my dad was suffocating me again. Out of everything he has done, I can't stand screaming (even kids that are happy), I can't stand people touching me or about...
    44JC 44JC 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    My Dad

    I am 40 years old, and a survivor of child abuse. Although it seems so far away now, I choose to write because I am so moved by the other stories on here. I hope that I can be of help to some of you. The pain we endured cannot be reversed, but perhaps we can do something to...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 9 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    I thought I was a survivor however,

    lately its been eating at me. I've tried accepting, then exploring why and who I am because of it. Now I am full of hate! If this is what it feels like to survive, then someone please, put me out of my misery!
    rehabparty23 rehabparty23 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    In my family, the only person I was really

    close to was my mother. Once my parents divorced my brother and I lived with my mother while my father moved to the city. My mother slowly become physically and mentally abusive, beating and constantly emotionally messing with my brother and I. My brother adapted these methods...
    marcyr marcyr 16-17, M 9 Responses Jun 7, 2015

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    A friend sparked an enormous soul searching the

    other day when she asked me if I was a bug to be picked up and eaten? If you know me at all you'll realise how much pride I have in my "strength" so I did not like to be asked this question. Like when a social worker told me I was like an amoeba, the most thought provoking...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 3, 2015

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    I was 8 years old when he first touched me.

    He was in the basement spending the day at our house watching tv. I went to ask him if he wanted to play with me and my sisters, because he usually would. He told me he was too tired to play so I told him ok. I went turned around and went to walk upstairs until he strangely...
    loverenzy loverenzy 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I didn't join this site with the intention of

    sharing this experience. Not at all. I've previously done so to my therapist, but (with the exception of my sister) no one else. No one. But it is plain to me now that it's essential to do so in order to try to explain my personality and behaviour- to myself if nothing else...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Sep 17, 2015

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    reading so many stories from this group i've

    seen how vigilant friends here..your survival inspires me to do the same thank you for sharing...
    snowhow snowhow 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2015

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    I don't remember allot about my childhood.

    but I remember the abuse more clearly. I really wish I could get mental help. it's like my hart has shattered into shards of glass .
    flowergirl1997 flowergirl1997 18-21, F 19 Responses May 23, 2015

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    Both my parents were bad drunks.

    My father generally did most of his drinking outside and just came home to pass out. When he wasn't passed out he was ok, not an angry mean guy at all. My mother on the other hand was genuinely mentally ill in addition to being an alcoholic and very mean, cruel and abusive...
    mattysnycity mattysnycity 56-60, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    Both my parents inflicted physical,

    emotional and verbal abuse on me, but my father was the worst. I just moved with my sister temporarily and he has a key to her house and comes and goes as he pleases. She keeps in touch with him but I don't and we haven't spoken in over a year. I can't forgive what he's done. I...
    Salamander2 Salamander2 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    I just want to post a "THANK YOU!

    " to all the people on this site who use their experiences to support others. I've been having a difficult time coping and it usually gets worse around the holidays and my birthday, which is today (yesterday legally but that's a long story). Anyway, thanks guys. Hugs to everyone...
    ashamedofmyfamily ashamedofmyfamily 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2015

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    My Parents

    I have never received a hug or kiss from my parents. If I have I don't remember it. I've never gotten a birthday present or blown out candles. I didn't know kids got all this until I made real friends in 5th grade. I didn't understand. My friends don't understand how I could get...
    atraptbird atraptbird 16-17, F 34 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    It's one a.m and I just finish my shift.

    I must be getting wiser as I enter my 20's. The saying "With age comes maturity" must ring true. I've been reading self help books lately. Although my healing process had just begun I feel a quiet revolution stirring inside of me. It's been difficult. I never knew words could...
    Just1n Just1n 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 14, 2015

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    I'm in my way out from the state of mind,

    that I was supporting for my whole life. Now, I have so much of contradictory feelings and thoughts, that I don't know who really I am. How long does this process of recovery will endure? How can I find who am I, after relation with mother who wanna only to subordinate me, and...
    No2Symphony No2Symphony 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2015

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    My Childhood

    Violence was very commonplace at home. I would often ask my mother whether it was normal to be beaten up by my father. She would reply that I was lucky to have a father who could provide for us and that complaining was very ungrateful towards my parents and towards God's...
    deleted deleted 26-30 26 Responses Jun 10, 2013

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    A Few Words Of Encouragement

    before i let anyone in on my abuse story, i just want to say how grateful we should all be that we even RECOGNIZE that we were abused. there are many people who take tons of therapy to learn these things about their lives. i had to teach myself through small baby steps how to do...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 1, 2012

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    I am so much more comfortable writing out the

    pain through prose and poetry. My sincere hope is this is a help to others and through shared pain that the survivors will begin the long process of healing. The Tale of A Child. (This poem deals with child abuse, if it is too sensitive of a subject for you than please do not...
    justmerae1 justmerae1 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 13, 2015

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    I am but its hard to

    even bring myself to even write about it.
    Myeyestellu Myeyestellu 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2015

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    Abuse Comes In Many Forms and Degrees

      When I was a teenager, my mom kicked my step dad out when I told her he'd been sexually abusing my sister and me. There were tears and hugs that one night and then everything was expected to go on as normal. My mom acted like she didn't want to put us through a...
    sufirehorse66 sufirehorse66 46-50, F 32 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    I was sexually abused by two brothers over a

    four year period. It started when i was 8. Thought it was my fault, still kinda do. I mean, if I hadn't been born, it wouldn't of happened. I had the same nightmare night after night. When I finally told someone, I felt so embarrassed. I still do to this day. I couldn't change...
    gr8love gr8love 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 9, 2014

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    I remember being 6 years old

    and my older siblings had left home. My mother had jus had the youngest in our family. The twins were almost 3. My mother was a very sick alcoholic. Our father was the worst pervert I have ever met in real life. They started me on drugs and alcohol at this early age. After about...
    squirllykid squirllykid 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    I'm 16 years old. My Step father sexually,

    emotionally, and physically abused me since i was 9 years old. I can't escape. He won't stop screaming. I won't stop self harming. I'm so hurt.
    AnotherDepressedGirl AnotherDepressedGirl 16-17, F 6 Responses Jan 9

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    I have carried the guilt

    and pain with me for over 30 years never telling anyone what had happened. Its only now i find the strength to talk about the abuse. Why does it have to be so hard. I have days when i just want to end it all but somehow just keep on going.
    alexed65 alexed65 46-50, M 5 Responses Mar 7, 2014

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    = The grip he had on my neck was truly

    shocking to me as true fear also gripped me for the first time of my life. It was impossible for me to draw a breath and time slowed to a sickening rate. With my back against the wall and my toes pointed reaching in vain for the floor my gaze came to rest on his face. His brow...
    PetuniaPetal PetuniaPetal 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2015

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    I was 11 years old, my mom was working,

    my stepdad was drinking his usual beer. I was in my room trying to stay out of his way I didn't want another beating from his belt. It wasn't long before I heard him calling my name. I went downstairs and he told me to bring him another beer. When I handed him the beer he...
    sarah95w sarah95w 18-21, F 22 Responses Apr 22, 2014

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    This Is My Story...

    It's something I have always put away something that I have tried to forget something I don't normally talk about. But lately I'm thinking a lot I think about a lot of things... I'm thinking about the new direction I want to take in life I have decided to close this first chapter...
    surrealreality surrealreality 31-35, F 22 Responses Oct 14, 2011

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