I Am a Childless Stepmom

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 307 People

    Oh I sometimes get the feeling

    that the only time my stepson contacts me is when he wants something. Ouch! I don't want to believe that this is true, but I fear that it is. I of course fantasize that if he was my biological child he would be calling in just to see how I am. He calls his father sometimes...
    sittochrissy sittochrissy
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2015

    Ready for divorce!

    My step-daughter, Veruca picked up that there was an “imbalance” in her parent’s relationship and started playing us up against each other. I was getting resentful because she was getting away with murder, and my husband (No. 2) just coddled his daughter further into...
    Cruelgabi Cruelgabi
    36-40, F
    Jan 24, 2013

    I've been married to my wonderful husband

    for a short time. He has two children, an adoring 10 yr old and a 21 year old who tends to never have a dull moment in life. I'm seeking advise when it comes to his oldest. Though it's not been acceptable, but for most of my husband's oldest son's life, he's stayed in trouble...
    ldp2015 ldp2015
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 5, 2015

    I amd 21 years old, I've always said

    that I never want to have children. Last summer I met a man who as a little girl, she is now 2 1/2 years old,when I met him and started to get to know him, he always had his grandmother babysitting his child. His ex-girlfriend (the mother) has the girl one week then he has her...
    heather22a heather22a
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 17, 2014

    I have a 7 y/o step daughter

    who stays a couple days once a month with us. a couple weeks ago she stayed for 2 weeks. in this span of 2 weeks the following happen bleach was sprayed on my black pants, my dogs claws were clipped. it is just her, her father, and I who live here. so clearly she did it each...
    imoverit00 imoverit00
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 22, 2015

    I always said I would never date anyone

    who had been married and/or have kids. My life changed when I fell in love with someone who is both. We have been together now 2 years with talk of an engagement soon. He has 2 daughters 5 and 7 who adore me and I them. In the frantic stage of trying to save his marriage, he got...
    sheshasheila sheshasheila
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2015

    Anyone else have issues with stepchildren going

    through their cellphones to find anything to start a fight between BM and BD?
    msp2dc msp2dc
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    A childless woman wants to keep a dog.

    But your in-laws said it is not good for my grandchildren. They have asthma. You devote yourself to someone kid for a life. You can't have your own child and even a pet. I will die with loneliness
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom
    46-50, F
    Feb 3, 2016

    A Blessing Of Life From God

    When I hear new parents say that their child is a blessing of life from God, it cuts through my soul. That word: life. Life as in a new creation of a person into mankind. Life as in a growth inside you, connected in a way that no other can be connected. Life as in "You are my...
    Childlessmom Childlessmom
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2012

    I'm 45, fit, successful,

    married... and totally alone. I married at 42, thinking I was waiting for just the right man to be a family with. I believed my husband was it, though his now-12-year-old daughter was always a concern. She's spoiled, rude, selfish, greedy, a liar, a bully, a thief, labeled ADHD...
    ziggette ziggette
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Mar 7, 2015

    My fiance has a 6 year old daughter from a

    previous marriage, Jilli, she lives with us and sees mom 3 weekends a month and I have done my best to make her as comfortable as possible with me and her situation and she has totally blossomed in health and happiness. Her mother is a, ahem, high class prostitute. She has...
    cassidy113 cassidy113
    22-25, F
    Feb 13, 2015

    I used to dislike children all together,

    but as I get older I have found that I really love them. I feel a huge need to protect them, provide good memories for them, and let them be children. We all only get one childhood and mine was so screwed up I desperately want to make sure that children close to me get wonderful...
    ThatGirlIsPoison23 ThatGirlIsPoison23
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 19, 2015

    Will It Ever Get Better?

    I am a childless step-mom of a 6 yr old girl, my husband is amazing, but I can't shake the jealousy and cringing feeling I get when she thinks she is all that and getting his attention.   We have been married for 3 1/2 yrs, together for 4 1/2, so I have known her...
    magpie590 magpie590
    17 Responses Aug 17, 2009

    Everytime when my tummy feel pain I am

    expecting to have baby. I know I can never have baby but I need it. I need this imagination. A couple sleep in the same bed, they will have different dream. I dream of being pregnant, feeling uncomfortable during pregnancy, having baby, and caring my kids. I dream of he or...
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom
    46-50, F
    Feb 3, 2016

    Childless stepmom to a 9,

    almost 10, year old boy. My boyfriend and I started dating at 14. We were on/off for 17 years. At 22, he had a fling, and ended up with a child. His mom kicked him out, and he was forced to live with her and her 2 year old daughter. They were on/off for 7 years. We...
    BeFree619 BeFree619
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2014

    My husband and I have been married

    for two years now and I love him more than anything in this world. However, he has two children from a previous marriage. A boy that's 3 and a girl that is 6. We have gone through our share of battles with his ex-wife but things are finally smoothing out for us. My husband says...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    Ah here we go with holiday season.

    This year for Thanksgiving my husband and I have bee asked to join my stepson and his family at his mother's home. It's complicated, but let's just say that this year we are going. My husband just told me that he doesn't really want to go to his ex's. We haven't done things...
    sittochrissy sittochrissy
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Nov 20, 2015

    I Hate Being A Stepmom

    I don't really like kids in general. Sounds harsh doesn't it? But i'm serious. I am not a child person, and I am not ready to be responsible for one. BUT my partner has got a 3 year old daughter that I have grown to accept as a part of US. It was hard, and still gets hard. I try...
    LivingandLoving LivingandLoving
    9 Responses Mar 4, 2013

    A Little Uncertain.

    My boyfriend and I live together, we see his son every week. He stays with us 2 to 3 days out of the week and during those times he is generally a well behaved little boy, but does have his tantrums ("hissy fits" is what I cal them, I.E: he throws stuff, cries for no reason, acts...
    rebeccabebe89 rebeccabebe89
    18-21, F
    Aug 17, 2011

    I am engaged to the man of my dreams.

    I live with him and his beautiful 6 year old daughter in an apartment attached to his moms place until we can get out on our own. A week before Christmas, my fiancées wife (they were going through divorce) passed away from a drug overdose. My fiancé and I are taking care of...
    Sunshine121604 Sunshine121604
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    My Lifetime Story

    Eight years ago my husband and I met while working; his son was 7. I didn't meet his son right away which I respected and I wasn't ready for it anyway. Probably a year and a half later I met the son and then at a baseball game I met his mother (BM). I still remember the day...
    TheOneMrs TheOneMrs
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2013

    Living With A Teenage Stepson

    I am a childless stepmom who has been with the dad for 4yrs. I have watched his son grow from a child to a teen and I hear these are the worst and most trying years for a blended family. I never wanted any children and I have been married before. I am now 34 and wondering if I am...
    namastewoman namastewoman
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 16, 2013

    Stressed And Tired

    Im not really sure where to start here so here it goes..... I married my husband this past summer after being together for 4 years.  About 2 months after dating we both found out that he had a son (surprise), after the paternity we filed for visitation and got court ordered...
    margaritababe232 margaritababe232
    3 Responses Nov 28, 2011

    Hey all. I have been married to my husband

    for less than a year. He has two children from a former marriage. Both boys, 3 & 5 and a lot alike. Obviously, before we got married we had a trial run for me to see how I am with kids. I have never had any experience with kids prior to becoming a stepmother. I knew it would not...
    cdnatheart cdnatheart
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2014

    I've been with my SO

    for 7 years, he has 2 kids, sd - 9 and ss - 8. They live with their bio mom full time, and we do visitations. I am still on the fence about having kids, but he has made it pretty clear he doesn't want any. Then he changes his mind and tells me he will walk that journey if I...
    justtakestime justtakestime
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 3, 2014

    Think reallllllllly long

    and hard if you are considering whether to have kids or not. I didn't, and I regret it.
    amywatt amywatt
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 20, 2015

    Hey guys! I am super new to this whole step mom

    thing. I did have a relationship with my step son prior to being married, however we waited quite some time to introduce just to make sure it was the right thing to do. We recently got married (about 2 months ago) and then moved to Oregon where my step son lives (he is 7). My...
    Morgsrenee09 Morgsrenee09
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2015

    Want My Own Child

     I have been married for 5 years now. One reason I got married was to have kids. I obviously loved my husband too. Well, due to medical problems-  I could not conceive. This has devastated more me than my husband. He is happy with his 2 sons from his first marriage. I am...
    kteacher1 kteacher1
    11 Responses Jan 1, 2011
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 3, 2016

    I have a 13 year old stepson

    who hates my guts. I've been married to his father for 5 years and have been in his life for an additional 5 years, so I'm not new to him by any means. Maybe it's the teenage stage, maybe it's because he longs for his absent mother in another state (who has 3 other children with...
    AllieLindsey AllieLindsey
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2014

    Lucky To Have Her

    I am not a stepmom but I am lucky enough to have one.  There is no greater gift than a woman stepping into your life who has chosen to do so.  I was born to my biological mother but my stepmom chose my father and I.  That is a wonderful gift that I never forget.  I am lucky...
    mariemarie1978 mariemarie1978
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Nov 29, 2011

    My fiance has a 6 year old daughter from a

    previous marriage, Jilli, she lives with us and sees mom 3 weekends a month and I have done my best to make her as comfortable as possible with me and her situation and she has totally blossomed in health and happiness. Her mother is a, ahem, high class prostitute. She has...
    cassidy113 cassidy113
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Feb 13, 2015

    I am a 32 year old stepmother to three boys,

    15, 12, and 11. The story of my husband and I is a complicated one, but we are both in love with each other and cannot imagine being apart. My husband's first wife was sick for a while, cancer, and he had a vascetomy. We talked about it and I knew I couldn't push, but he doesn't...
    ducabbage ducabbage
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 17, 2014

    Im 25 and married. I have one step child

    who stays with us 3 days out the month. In the beginning from time to time I find myself pissed off about different situations.Tonight for example I wake up at 1:50am to use the bathroom and she is up with her dad watching tv. I was instantly pissed because she is 7...
    imoverit00 imoverit00
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 14, 2015

    Young Custodial Stepmom of Three

       First off, I'd like to mention that it seems like all the posts I have read from stepmoms have been negative and bitter. I am not writing this to complain about how unfair it is to be a step mother and how the skids are so disrespectful and the biomom is so awful...
    Rosemb Rosemb
    4 Responses Mar 24, 2009

    Trying To Love Another Womans Child After Loosing My Own..

    My partner and I have been together for two years, lived together for 1. He has a beautiful 5 year old little boy called Kai. I've always put a lot of effort, since day 1, into making sure that Kai and me have a good relationship and Ive always tried my best to love him like I...
    angelmommy060113 angelmommy060113
    4 Responses Mar 18, 2013

    I have 2 step kids. I adore them both.

    My spouse has gotten "fixed". He made the choice and then told me about it before getting it done. It's been about a year since then and I still cannot come to terms with not having my own children. I also couldn't imagine my life without them. We've been together for years. I...
    2stepkids 2stepkids
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 7, 2014

    I am almost 35 years old,

    married for the second time to a man with two boys(16 & 11) from his previous marriage. His ex wife isn't in the picture at all. I don't have any kids with my hubby as yet. we have been married for almost 4 and a half years. He had promised that we will have kids of our own...
    notmomyet notmomyet
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 23, 2014

    My New Life

    I am a new step mom, and I love it, I actually met my hubby over the phone then 4 months later met him and his 2 girls and we been together since. being an instant mom is great, since I am in my 30's and have no kids of my own.The girls accepted me instantlly and loved me right...
    stepmom09 stepmom09
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 10, 2010

    I need words of advise please!

    I am a childless step mom to a 6 year old and a 10 year old. They live with their mom and we have them every other weekend. I knew what I was getting into when I married my husband. I knew the kids mom would always be around some way or another because of the kids. I have never...
    irishefsanv irishefsanv
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 11, 2014

    I am a young, childless stepmother to a

    beautiful little boy who is wrought with issues due to years of neglect and emotional abuse by his mother, who suffers from narcissistic personality disorder and bipolar depression (both of which she refuses treatment for). This role has easily been the most difficult one I have...
    FindingHerWay22 FindingHerWay22
    22-25, F
    Sep 3, 2014

    Sad to see your step has their grandchildren.

    I hope that I have mine. But he decided not to let your have kid. Can you blame him? No, he has his human right. He will never regret it but you are the only one feel regret. Woman takes care of yourself!!! Man is selfish
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom
    46-50, F
    Feb 2, 2016

    I Give You All Credit

    Because I know no one else does. It's a hard road. And usually a thankless job (to varying degrees). I love my stepkids and couldn't imagine life without them- but life with their mom (and knowing she is the 1st to my 2nd) ....is just not an easy road.
    Pormisere Pormisere
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Aug 15, 2011

    I'm in the strangest situation

    and my situation would make an excellent episode of Maury or Jerry Springer . I'm 17 and already a step mom . My SO had a daughter September 27 2013 , we've been together on and off for almost a year before she was born , we had our problems both with cheating , that's how my SD...
    brookieboo8090 brookieboo8090
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 9, 2014

    Stressed. Help

    When I married my husband my stepkids were 15. They lived with us all the time because their mom left when they were 6. My husband has ALWAYS listen to his daughter. I tried to get pregnant when we first got married but my stepdaughter did not allow this. She would not allow us...
    olderstepmom olderstepmom
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2013

    3am Tears - Am I Alone?

    I thought I could do it. I really did. I told myself that I am a strong, educated, and flexible woman who can handle anything. I read all the books, did my research online, etc... but nothing could prepare me for the feeling of resentment, jealousy, and anger that shudders...
    CLC123 CLC123
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 14, 2012

    I am a stepmom without my own kid.

    I always fight with my husband about having one together. He said wait it happen naturally. There is no naturally when you know how to avoid pregnancy. Anyone like me? Your husband gives you are good excuse that he will have baby later? But you also think this is an excuse only...
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2016
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