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I Am a Closet Lesbian

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    I am hoping to chat to Asian lesbians/bisexuals

    (closeted or not) here in the UK. I'm hoping there's another woman who understands how it feels to close yourself up and not be able to talk to anyone about these feelings, no matter how close they are to you
    sara0088 sara0088 22-25, F May 10

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    The Closet Gets Cramped

    Hi, my name is Stephanie. :) I am a college student who only recently started coming to terms with my sexuality. I've known for as long as I can remember that I liked girls, but I always did my best to stifle the truth, and keep my feelings buried. This is a huge contributing...
    stephanie929 stephanie929 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    My mom just found out

    that I am in love with one of my best friends.. She was fuming mad at me. She said that I better stop seeing her... I could only cry. I wanted to tell her that I am really gay and there is nothing I can do with it. I want to run away from home so I can be free.
    Mikey022 Mikey022 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    I am currently writing a play about coming out

    stories that I hope will educate and remind people of the difficulties faced by people coming out every day and how people react but also about the positive reactions people receive which I believe are important too. One section of the play is about someone who hasn't come out...
    Kayceyy Kayceyy 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    I have a girlfriend right now

    and i'm so scared to death if I come out to my parents. They're ******* religious and our religion is pretty different among the others like they dont allow haircuts,wearing pants/sleeveless/shorts/tight clothes, piercings,same sex relationships etc.. but i dont follow it lmao...
    poqari poqari 18-21, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I Was Confused For So Long...

    I'm not one of those "I knew since I was 5 years old" lesbians...but I am gay. Very gay. And even though I'm closeted at the moment, I'm proud of who I am and I'm happy with being gay. It took a long time to even understand my sexuality, allow me to explain... When I was 12, a...
    shesaloverofthelight shesaloverofthelight 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    I am a 22 year old female

    who has been in three long-term relationships with men. I am currently on my third one, and it is to that same point it was at with any other male I have been with. I get into these relationships for the wrong reasons. At first I feel I am genuinely into these people and I think...
    kaylabean92 kaylabean92 22-25, F 4 Responses May 3

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    I’m Tired And I’m Coming Out!

    I have been a resident of the closet for a long time. I’m 22! So I have been hiding here for so many years. I used to consider it my comfort zone. A place where I can safely hide my ego from being hurt by homophobes who can’t understand. I am a lesbian. And a few months...
    deleted deleted 26-30 32 Responses Aug 26, 2012

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    So I haven't come out

    yet to my parents or anyone else except for two people. Yes I know it's important to do this, but it's so stupid. My parents already suspect me of being lesbian and they never fail to remind me that they will love me no matter what. I just think the whole coming out thing is...
    Madamoiselle1 Madamoiselle1 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    I come from a RELIGIOUS background.

    I got a good reputation and have a lot of good friends and love to hangout with people. My family and friends loves me and i obviously love them too. But they dont no im a lesbian! No one knows! If i come out nothing will be the same everything will change. Yh so thats why im...
    L4Love L4Love 18-21, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I'm Stuck In Closet-land..

    I'll start at the beginning.. I was a late bloomer in the love department. As a kid, I was always fine with just having fun whereas the other girls were more concerned with who liked who and which boys were the cutest. As much as I tried, I could not get into these conversations...
    ageyutsa ageyutsa 18-21, F 10 Responses Sep 26, 2011

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    i am 27 yrs old and just a couple yrs ago i

    realized that i am attracted to women. the hardest thing for me right now is the fact that i haven't been able to explore these feeling further. i don't know why it took me so long to realize that i like women; all the early signs were there for me but i never paid close...
    laencantadora laencantadora 26-30, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    i am in the closet and i cant come out anytime

    soon. i need a woman who can understand me and support me all the way. i crave intimacy, i wish i could fall in love. anyone interested in getting to know me more inbox me. i love honesty and sincerity.
    lesbewoman lesbewoman 26-30, F 2 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Why Do People Assume You Choose To Be Gay Or Lesbian?

    Today during my Sociology class, we were talking about deviance and how a lot of psychologists believe that you're born 'bad'. Well, one of my stupid classmates, Ian, said, "I don't believe you can be born bad just as much as you can be born gay,"Well, that got me ticked off. Why...
    WeArePilots WeArePilots 18-21, F 25 Responses Dec 15, 2011

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    I have an amazing boyfriend

    and I care about him but I can't love him. I can't love him because I like girls, not boys... And I've tried and tried and tried so hard to make it work but to me it's just an act. an act I need to keep on playing because I know what my parents and my friends would say if it...
    infinite1994 infinite1994 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    I fell in love in love with a girl but cause

    I'm a girl I hide in fear and shame I try to keep a distance but every thing about her pulls me in she has the beauty an perfect soul I've always wondered if she knows Just say something or give me a hint But every day ends just as it begins With her thinking I just wanna be...
    watdoido2094 watdoido2094 18-21, F 4 Responses May 11, 2014

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    I've been a lesbian for four years now,

    but my family and I are Christian, and my family would disown me if I told them that I love lady parts. I hate hiding who I am. What should I do?
    xdragonxfangx xdragonxfangx 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I tried so hard to like boys.

    But it just never really worked. When I tried dating guys, after a couple weeks I just couldn't do it anymore, I felt nothing towards them. Every time. I kept trying to go farther with guys sexually and I never felt aroused or good. When I lost my virginity to a guy it was awful...
    SavannaJade SavannaJade 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    I want to come out because im not fully lesbian,

    im bi but I feel like people and my family will look at my differently and not accept me. Can anyone relate? How can we overcome this feeling? I've been looking for a girlfriend with no luck as well. Is anyone looking or single? If so would you keep your relationship secret as...
    sexysoutherngirl24 sexysoutherngirl24 22-25, F 2 Responses May 6

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    I told my friend today.

    I was the first whom she came out as a bisexual, so I thought she would understand me. I was right. she supports me. She told me: "whatever you need me or talk about something; I'm here for you. We are together in this". Was even better because she told me this face to face...
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses May 27, 2014

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    Willing To Come Out For The Sake Of Love

    I am an average looking girl who has a boring life. I've been hiding inside the closet and now I realized that I've been depriving myself the chance of loving and being loved by someone. I am an introvert and it's quite difficult for me to open up with anyone. I've never been in...
    strikien strikien 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 9, 2012

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    I did the stupidest thing ever.

    I pushed away the girl that I liked so much and said mean things to her. Idk why I always tend to push away ppl that gets close to me. Now tht I apologised to her and we're friends again, it's never the same as before... I like her even more this time.
    flowerbedxxx flowerbedxxx 18-21, F 1 Response May 6

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    Lesbian, But I Can't Find Other Lesbians Or Don't Know Where To Look.

    I just joined this site because I saw another person post a similar concern as I have myself, but didn't quite answer all of my questions. I am a lesbian, been with men, been told all of my life being gay is wrong, or "weird", but now that I'm 20 years old I can form my own...
    brookesmelscer18 brookesmelscer18 18-21, F 30 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    I am in a long term relationship with a man.

    ..I have a daughter, who is not his but he has been involved most of her life. We live together and I figured out I was a lesbian about 6 years into our eight year relationship. I told him about a year ago and he was actually very supportive, even telling me I could have female...
    Baldbeauty Baldbeauty 26-30, F May 8

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    I never reveal my affection towards a girl.

    I have strong urges to be with one but i never go for it. Its against my family and religion. I just want a girl who understands me and someone who's struggling with the same thing. I want to run away and be with a woman i can call my own. I dont want to come out. I just want to...
    Islandkween Islandkween 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 15

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    Hi, any closer lesbians in the UK wanna chat?

    Message me xxx preferably under 20
    rainbowgirl07 rainbowgirl07 18-21, F May 16

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    I'm just stressing out about coming out of the

    closet to someone close to me. I want to tell my brother first since we are really close, and I had originally made plans to tell him when I turned 18, but I turn 19 tomorrow and I still haven't told him. Should I come out to my brother tonight? I think it would just be so nice...
    buddytori buddytori 18-21, F 4 Responses May 9

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    are there any girls between the ages of 24-30

    that would like to get to know each other? I would really love to hear about others with similar feelings.
    anli28 anli28 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    My worst fear is that I'm going to come out

    and then magically not like girls anymore, but I know that's not gonna happen lol x
    ParisMaisie ParisMaisie 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    If you are a woman 30-50 years old

    who dreams about teaching a young lesbian how to worship her body, message me. I want to be taught how to make love.. I want to explore a mature woman's body..
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    Kinda, but I am still.

    I have told three people who are my best friends. The people I trust with my darkest secrets. I just told one of them today, and I wasn't sure how she would react, we had never talked about how we feel about gays or lesbians and I was freaked out she wouldn't like it. She...
    Madamoiselle1 Madamoiselle1 16-17, F May 6

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    At Least I Can Be Proud Here, Where No One Knows Me.

    Isn't that sad? That we have to live in a worl where the only place we can be ourselves is when we are anonymous. I mean, of course Rose Donovan is not my real name. It is the name of one of my fictional characters. I could not out my real name on here for fear someone I knew...
    LonelySoul LonelySoul 18-21, F 74 Responses Jul 18, 2007

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    Not really......after all there isn't enough

    room for the two of us in my closet anyway. I guess I could get a bigger closet or just be out like I'm starting to be. Okay so long story, but basically I've discovered girls in a whole new way. All through my life I thought I was straight, normal, you know, not gay...
    ClaudNine ClaudNine 18-21, F 14 Responses Jul 17, 2014

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    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    I'm a Closeted Lesbian

    I'm not sure how I got to this point. It's like I have two different lives--two sets of friends, two sets of stories; everything split rather unequally to fit into 'gay' and 'normal'. Not straight. Normal. My mother is my idol, and she's the hardest-working, most beautiful...
    Harpertrap Harpertrap 18-21, F 176 Responses Dec 28, 2007

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    HEYYY guess what?! Im gay!

    🌈 But dont tell my family 😶😶😶
    L4Love L4Love 18-21, F May 11

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    Yesterday my gf and I fought,

    it was nobody's fault, but the fight went nasty and now she doesn't wanna talk to me.. though i have said sorry million times, she is not picking my calls. what should i do ? i love her but it seems like she is going away :( i feel helpless
    juslive21 juslive21 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    This is my first time

    even writing the words "I am a lesbian," so this is a big step for me. I think I've always known (very very deep down, so far down that the thought never even came into my head), but I had my "aha" moment about 7 months ago (in the beginning of my senior year of college). I...
    anonymous0987654 anonymous0987654 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 4, 2014

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    Well I am mostly still in the closet.

    My closest friends know. Well basically anyone who isn't my family knows. and i would prefer to keep it that way. I joked about it to my mom once (to test the waters) and her reaction was not one i would like to see ever again. She may be fine with everyone else being gay but...
    TaquilaTopaz TaquilaTopaz 26-30, F Apr 15

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    its so hard. laying in bed every night

    and fighting the urge to get online and look up videos of lesbians. its my only way of releasing the sexual frustration I have built up. I want to be out and to have a girlfriend and just be myself.
    sydlittle sydlittle 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I want nothing more than to help other fellow

    lesbians get off! Please add me on snapchat @ sleepystoney69
    babylips666 babylips666 18-21, T May 8

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    We were best friends.

    For five years I have gotten to know her. I grew up with her. Now, she's a stranger. When we got into the same college it seemed the only choice was to room with each other. We knew the risks, but we thought that we did not apply to those circumstances. WE were closer... WE...
    redefiningjane redefiningjane 18-21, F 1 Response May 4

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    Couldn't Change Even If I Wanted Too

    It is scary to be yourself in a world full of hateful people. In a world full of people who don't understand that being gay isn't a choice. It isn't something that you decided. I don't wake up and think "You know what I'm feeling a little gay today." lol. It is something that I...
    EElena EElena 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    At Fifteen

    My first serious gay relationship happened when I was 15. I'd kissed several girls prior to that, and had a fairly intense sexual experience in grade school, but lesbian lovesexmagic didn't happen till the summer before tenth grade. She was my next door neighbor, a cute...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    elle0489 elle0489 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    I Am Almost Certain I'm Gay... But I Love My Boyfriend. Argh. Help.

    I'm in my mid-twenties and I'm really just starting to accept that I'm a lesbian. The signs were always there, and I suppose it's always been in the back of my head since I was little. Men really don't interest me. I LOVE them purely and fully. I even feel in love with them.I...
    PeaceLilyGirl PeaceLilyGirl 22-25, F 41 Responses Feb 21, 2012

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