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I Am a Codependent

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    I'm Curious - What led you to into your relationships? Was the guy nice to you? Did he give you attention? Were you just too tired of being lonely and latched on to the first...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 6, 2011

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    In Limbo Right Now - Hello All, I have realized that I am codependent for a little over a year now. I am a man in my 40s,  I have been married for almost 14 years...
    Joe43 Joe43 41-45 2 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    When you face the tears and ongoing agony of codependence, you value every insight that comes your way. You hang on to each word of wisdom as it speaks to you. Not just any words...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 2 Responses Jan 19

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    How To Overcome Insecurities In Long Term Relationship - I have been in a relationship for six heads almost with my boyfriend who is deep down my best friend and here we are six...
    BriBri24 BriBri24 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2013

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    The Hardest Lessons Are Those We Learn Ourselves. - I've spent the past twenty years going from relationship to relationship, seeking that One Person who would make me happy to be...
    witchywomin witchywomin 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2008

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    Wanting To Get Better - My Doctor first told me about codependency. I had no idea what it was, but she believed that that was what I was suffering from. I have read Melody Beattie...
    brightsmove brightsmove 36-40, F 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    As Long As You Love Me. - i just realized that I am co-dependent or that I have codependent behaviors. i am in a relationship where i am unhappy. Today is suppose to be our...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F Dec 25, 2012

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    Hit Me Like A Ton Of Bricks... - I've been journeying down this road towards recovery from depression, and realized not too long ago that a huge piece of the puzzle is that I'm a...
    transienthope transienthope 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2011

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    The First Step Into Recovery Is... - As soon as my Dad died a little over 4 years ago, I forgot how to feel emotions and shut off into a state of numbness. 3 years later, my mother...
    steeltoad steeltoad 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 10, 2011

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    When I Point One Finger,three Are Pointing Back At Me - I have been in CODA for 17 years and have grown and changed immensely in that time.I went from living my life looking for...
    hofna hofna 51-55, M Oct 2, 2012

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    I'm don't know why I stay with my alcoholic husband...
    Jlk081981 Jlk081981 31-35 1 Response Mar 28

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    Letting Go (help) - I find that I have a hard time with people who need help. It is very difficult for me to let things (they do, have done, or have happened to them etc) go when I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 8, 2011

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    I have just discovered that I am codependent. It's not something that I want to be true, but it so obviously is. I'm terrified about what it means for my future (especially...
    sitasings sitasings 26-30 4 Responses Jan 22

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    I Just Learned I Am A Codependent.... - Hi Everyone: I just learned that I am a codependent and I am not sure what to do. For now, I have joined a therapy group for codependents...
    JamsFran JamsFran 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 9, 2012

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    I Wanted To Share This Poem - I learned that I am codependent thought one of my classes at the University.  My professor, who is also codependent, shared this poem with us and...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 23, 2010

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    Recovery - When I first joined the path to overcoming codependency, I found that I was carrying a lot of baggage for other people (not that they asked me to or even knew.) I tried...
    madstalker madstalker 41-45, M Jan 6, 2013

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    Co Dependency - hi im new on here but am also co-dependant and sat here not knowing if im in or out of a relationship, we went away for 10 days and it was brilliant we came back...
    sheila46 sheila46 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 17, 2013

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    I Am A Huge One! - I rely on my mom to survive. I'm 17 with Aspergers... And I guess I rely on her to survive but also because if I lose her, I wouldn't know how to provide for...
    don29002 don29002 16-17, M Oct 15, 2013

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    Codependency Vs. Drug Addiction... - I met by boyfriend CJ in the Fall of  2007 and I can honestly say it was love at first sight. However, the second time I saw him where I was...
    Sophie83 Sophie83 26-30 1 Response Nov 28, 2011

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    Here Goes Nothing... (Again) - 1. I know a new sense of belonging. The feelings of emptiness and loneliness will disappear. 2. I am no longer controlled by my fears. I overcome my...
    Lingaloo83 Lingaloo83 26-30 1 Response Feb 7, 2013

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    Am I A Codependent? Help!!! - Very recently, an EP member sent me a message informing me that I may be in a narcissistic relationship, he even asked me to look it up on the net and...
    prettierinpink prettierinpink 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2012

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    Total Chaos...but I'm Still In One Piece - In April of 2010, I was on POF, an online site, two months out of my self-imposed dating isolation of 13 years. I had made the decision...
    lulu1107 lulu1107 51-55, F Nov 26, 2011

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    I Was Born Codependent - My mother was an alcoholic. My husband of 29 years is an alcoholic. My daughter is a recovering drug addict who has recently been diagnosed with bipolar...
    Lv4fer Lv4fer 46-50 2 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Sadface - I made the mistake of messing around with my roommate. Now things are different, and not only do I regret it, I hate him, because things aren't the same as they before we...
    kristy8420 kristy8420 26-30, F Jul 28, 2012

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    I Want To Save The World Without Saving Myself. -   Today was a very insightful day.  I decided to move forward with my  search for answers.  I realize...
    tspenc tspenc 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 27, 2010

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    My Husband Is Helping Me Find My Independence. - I am 19 years old & ever since 5th grade, I have been in relationships without really breaks in between. I have always been the...
    AFWife96 AFWife96 18-21, F Aug 8, 2013

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    I Am Struggling - I was raised by a physically and mentally abusive alcholic father. Married twice and divorced both times. Recently I was dating someone for a year who was OCPD...
    dac93 dac93 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 24, 2013

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    Recently Discovered That I Am A Codependent Partner In An Abusive Relationship - Hello, So my title basically says it all. A two-year relationship ended 4 days ago, and I am...
    creepingdawn creepingdawn 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    I'm Terrified And Tired - Here I am, I KNOW I'm codependent and I have known this for the past couple of years, since a very painful break up . . . and I find myself dating someone...
    MargaretATL MargaretATL 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    March 5. Be Who You Are. When I meet people or get in a new relationship, I start putting all these repressive restrictions on myself. I can't have my feelings. Can't have my wants...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Coda Is Working For Me - I'm blogging a little on here, about my struggle to let go of the life I thought I was going to have with these people I love so much.  Learning about...
    rapturetourniquet rapturetourniquet 31-35 2 Responses Jun 9, 2011

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    So I didn't know what "codependent" meant until just now... I saw this group and decided to look it up and I realized it describes me. It's almost painfully accurate. Which kinda...
    yourguardianangel9613 yourguardianangel9613 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Working Through It - I never realized I was until I was researching shyness and all these other weird problems I think that I have. It has gotten better but it still s not as good...
    EnchantingMinx EnchantingMinx 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Just Found Out That I Am A Codependent And That It Hurt My Marriage For The Whole Duration - Just had a very hard time with my marriage for the first time in 8 years. My wife...
    frenchyStAnger frenchyStAnger 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    No Chance - I didn't stand a chance. My dad was a "functioning" alcoholic. He and my mother didn't agree on much. If they were speaking it was an arguement. My mother mostly...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    My Codependent Self.. - Currently I'm finding it hard to draw a boundary between codependent behaviors, and just plain caring. I hope I would be able to draw good, healthy...
    transienthope transienthope 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2011

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    What It Means To Me. - I don't know how to read people.I keep thinking that I'm "bad" if I don't do something perfectly. I feel like I have to keep striving for something but I...
    peaceapple peaceapple 36-40 5 Responses Feb 17, 2011

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    Struggling In College - I have recently discovered and recognized my codependency issues. I thrive from the recognition of things I do for other people. All I want to do is serve...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2011

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    I Am A Codependent Man. - I have been codependent for seems forever. It started I guess in school. One day I was waiting on my brother to pick me up from school and he never showed...
    markowenby markowenby 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    Trying To Make Big Changes - I am a codependent. It's an admission that's not easy to make, but a necessary one to acknowledge. The first step to making changes is to acknowledge...
    findmeholdmeloveme findmeholdmeloveme 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    I Choose Not To Be A Codependent - I found out I was a codependent the day my good friend brought me the book called "codependent no more". I realized how my life evolved and moved...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    Making Healthier Decisions...But Still Don'T Have A Lot Of Skills - I just left a relationship with a man who was a commitment phobe. I loved him a lot, and I thought I was...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    Almost All My Characteristics :( - Characteristics of Co-dependent People Are: An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others A tendency to confuse love and pity...
    writingablog writingablog 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    The Relationship Between Me And Mom - I am 28 years old, I still live with mom because i dont have a job or enough money to sustain myself. I realized some time ago that the main...
    LitamalianTherpo LitamalianTherpo 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 12, 2012

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    I've Just Realized I'm A Codependent. - My husband and I have been together since I was 15 years old. I'm now almost 33. Over the last month or so he has been doing a lot of...
    bknicely80 bknicely80 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2013

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    I Realised This Today - I was on a website trying, as I have been for what seems like eons, to work out what is wrong with me.  My activity here today is the culmination of...
    TheFunHasGone TheFunHasGone 36-40, F 10 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    I let other people's behavior and mental attitudes affect how I feel. If they're angry, sad, verbally abusive, happy, etc. I let that dictate how I feel at that particular time...
    BuddyBo BuddyBo 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    My Story Isn't Over Yet & Neither Is Yours! - Being co-dependent literally robs a person their wings. It robs them of having the ability to take care of themselves. How would I...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    Codependency No More - Has anyone read this book? I started therapy for the first time in my life (32yrs old) 2 weeks ago. My therapist asked did I know what codependency was...
    NavajoRose NavajoRose 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    For Along Time. - I have been codependent. If I'm by myself single living alone I am very independent . I have traveled all over on my own. Not afraid. As soon as I'm in a...
    Faithinyoumy1 Faithinyoumy1 31-35 1 Response Nov 10, 2013

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