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I Am a Control Freak

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    Totally Depressed -- Definitely Controlling

    Hi. I don't really know where to start with this. I never thought before that I was controlling. I always thought I had another complex instead. Some sort of Nightingale syndrome. I'm not a nurse, but I seem to date people that have "problems" that I can help them with. I'm...
    Buggie28 Buggie28 22-25 1 Response Jul 5, 2010

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    I Admit It

    I need to control everything but that bring me a lot of frustrations because there are things that are well beyond my control.  I am also trying to let go but it is not easy.
    jc2009 jc2009 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 11, 2011

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    I Hate Relying On People, For Anything.

     I'd rather put in more work to get something done, then let someone else do it. People are so careless these days. They're selfish, and only think of themselves.  Even if it takes me way longer to do something, let me do it. At least when I do it. It gets done...
    InfatuationAtItsBest InfatuationAtItsBest 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    I try to control everything in my life

    and everyone in my life. I tell my spouse what to do and then I tell him that he did that wrong. I try to control what my family does and what they think and if it is not my way it is the highway. I am sick of me.
    Karenflagg Karenflagg 61-65, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I'm A Control Freak

    I just realized I'm a control freak I try to control my feelings. I try to keep everyone at a distance so I don't feel anything, Dat **** don't work!
    pinkgodess pinkgodess 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2010

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    O.J. Simpson Will Pay For This!

    I was in college when O.J. Simpson's murder trial was going on. The public's obession with the case was as compelling as the case itself. On the day the verdict was announced, student's gathered in the school's campus center to see it on T.V. Hundreds of students gathered in a...
    CodyForrester CodyForrester 36-40, M 3 Responses May 21, 2009

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    So Much So That It Hurts Relationships

    Although I am a sexually submissive female in all aspects of my life I am in complete control. I do not rely on others, I do not ask others for anything I do not need others for happiness or success My home operates the way I allow it to run, my relationships are prety well...
    RighteousGirl RighteousGirl 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Control Freak

    i guess i have had bad things happen to me in life. who hasnt. ive learned from them and feel i can control what happens to me. the bad part is i try to control other people that can affect my life and it drives people away. i dont like being lonely! its a vicious circle.
    nrv1 nrv1 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 25, 2010

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    Big Argument

    I am a control freak.  My fiance and i just had massive fight.  It was over a minor thing, building debris (bricks etc) on front lawn, just asked when it would be moved as we are going away for a few days and i was thinking about security, or thats what i said as...
    littlecowpoo2 littlecowpoo2 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    Hells Yeah, My Ep Friends'!!!!

    It is really bad! I finally vented on my need to control, just now, and how I do it. It drives me mad, because I don't think what I do is cool, but the CONTROl in what I do, is what I freak, over. I gave up, control, more often, with others' because then I do not have the take...
    stigmafree stigmafree 31-35 Aug 29, 2010

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    Line Up Girls

    I have a hair brush and I am going to use it!
    LilAnnie LilAnnie 56-60, F Feb 15, 2013

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    Help Me....

    Hello, I have been researching the internet for some advice or help to deal with my problem(s). I want help so I can live a healthy life with a significant other. A little about myself so maybe this all makes more sense. I am somewhat young in age, 30ish, and have lived to a...
    a886933 a886933 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 10, 2010

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    Am I Controlling Or Just Scared of Being Alone?

    Hello All, I have been havig some problems with an on and off, relationship. We have some very intense feelings for eachother. I wont go to into detail, but at the beginning, she moved away and i was to follow, we were not in a relationship, and i was close with her best...
    donnoguy donnoguy 22-25 1 Response Jul 8, 2009

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    Let Go...let God!

    I try to be in complete control over my destiny but all things cannot be anticipated or controlled.  I had to learn the hard way but now that I've learned to let go and let God; my life is so much more relaxed.
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 2 Responses May 21, 2009

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    My Way Is the Right Way

    I can’t help it but I am getting better. It’s mostly with the kids and the way things are done. When my oldest would go to her grandmothers I needed things to be my way. Feed her what I say, put the cloths on that I sent and even do her hair a certain way. Yes control...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2007

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    I Don't Want My Son to Grow Up to Be Like Me

    I am a control freak.  My father was one and I am one.  The cycle ends with me.  I don't know how, but I need to end it.  I am overly judgemental and need to change.  I now understand from a psychological and physiological perspective Why I am like...
    iamweak iamweak 36-40 1 Response Nov 16, 2008

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    Control Freak Story

    First off, I am a control freak.  However, if there was a scale from 1-10, I'm not so sure how I'd be rated?  I've been married a little over a year but have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years now.  Since the beginning, he told me I was controlling, always...
    poohgal983 poohgal983 22-25 1 Response Aug 14, 2008

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    Weston666 Weston666 18-21, M Jun 17

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    Absolutely Not *lol*

    the random experience thing made me laugh. I am by no means a control freak. :P I have been called strong willed by others, but do not try to force my will on others. I attempt to give advice only as needed. I am a good leader but I realize there is more than one way to...
    wack1985 wack1985 26-30, F May 1, 2010

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    I Might Lose the Person I Love

    I am a control freak, which I just found out.  I have been with this amazing man for five years and we are planning on getting married in October.  He decides to tell me that he has been unhappy for two years and he is unsure if he wants to be with me, also  I...
    kelster kelster 22-25 4 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    Blocked on DA - Well,

    I never thought it would happen and I never thought I would have to type this but...apparently I was blocked on Deviantart for being a control freak towards a friend. It was regarding my latest storyline. Basically my character has vampiric traits and as part of his...
    Monstermaster13 Monstermaster13 22-25, M Apr 21

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    Where Are All the Control Freaks?

    I'm surprised there are only two people in this group.  This is the major issue I am dealing with in my life.  My relationships are suffering because I always think I know best.  I believe this really contributed to my divorce since my ex never felt like he was...
    jendd810 jendd810 26-30 9 Responses Jan 14, 2008

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    Only To My Self

    i have no interested in controlling others........................................................................................
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Sep 25, 2011

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    If I Don't Change, I'll Lose Everything That Matters

      My marriage is hanging by a thread for several reasons. One of the biggest reasons is because my husband feels like I control everything and that I need to lay off. objectively, I totally get what he's saying. If I go to bed early, I get so mad at him if he doesn't...
    nikki3585 nikki3585 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 14, 2009

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    Lost With Children That I Try to Control and Get No Respect

    I need to talk to someone that is going through what I am. I am 47 years old and I have lost a lot of my family by death. I try to control both my daughters 25 and 19 only because I am so fraid that something is going to happen and I will loose them. Its a horrible feeling I a...
    bottomlow bottomlow 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2008

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    I Lost the Best Girl Ever

    I was dating the best girl ever and I lost her because I was unable to let go and let her do whatever she wanted. She wanted to go out and party and I wanted to keep her all to myself. She said she will reconsider our relationship if I can change and stop trying to control her...
    andrewjscott andrewjscott 22-25 1 Response Jul 29, 2008

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    Control Freak

    i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years on and off due to my immaturity sort of say. but now that we are living together i notice i am a control freak and i had brought upon myself many problems in my relationship. trust me you dont want to be an insecure control freak...
    jeanette1721 jeanette1721 22-25 1 Response Dec 30, 2010

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    Coping

    I obsess over schedules. I schedule every second of my day. The stress of not keeping my schedules has actually given me ulcers.
    germanlbs germanlbs 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 25, 2008

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    Hi Guys

    I would have to say this is probably one of my biggest vices. I live off of to-do lists and schedules.  I make plans and do my best to stick with them.  I do everything in my power to run things "smoothly" whether events or relationships. But on the plus...
    SearchingAlone SearchingAlone 22-25 2 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I am so sick of the way my wife tries to control everything about me. I've been with her for 10 years now and I can't take it anymore. She can't even accept that she's a control...
    LewisCollins LewisCollins 31-35 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I hate them. I certainly hate that person as well. He is the worst control freak. I wish I was old enough to leave for college. 18 years seems too far away. That's next November...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So apparently I found out I can call the get the cops to get involved with my family situation
    findingbeauty2468 findingbeauty2468 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    We have been together for 10 years and married for six of them. Have twin, two and a half year olds and a four year old. My husband is a control freak and emotionally abusive. I...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 1

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    My boyfriend is controlling, he hates me going over to friends house which I really don't have many but whenever I visit them he is like I'm not going to talk to you because he...
    ilybb ilybb 13-15, F Aug 13

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    At my last girly doctor appointment my made made them put me on birth control I hate it I'm not even doing anything but she seen one bad picture and freaked out
    BeautifulBabygirlkayla BeautifulBabygirlkayla 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Many ways 2 B a freak - many different kinds of freaks... I used 2 have a shirt that read : "Blessed B the "cracked" 4 they let N the light."
    JusDifferent JusDifferent 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    Mothers who believe they can shape their destinies give children a head start A study of 10,000 young people suggests belief in the ability to change your life is formed in infancy...
    koyptakh koyptakh 51-55, M 5 days ago

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    For seven months, I was in a controlling relationship. I thought I had met the man I wanted to be with always. There were red flags from the beginning, but I was so attracted to...
    flpatty flpatty 51-55, F 11 hrs ago

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    Freaks do it best💋.....(;
    JayKnotz JayKnotz 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    Hey guys, I'd like to introduce you to Mr Awesome (aka me :P) I mean, I'm so freaking amazingly awesome you wouldn't be able to take it in. Just imagine that guy you'd see in the...
    Kwilkwar9 Kwilkwar9 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 28

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    This series is what got me into reading and I would like to thank Darren Shan not only for Cirque du Freak but for Larten Crepsley books and Zom-B!
    UntamedComic UntamedComic 18-21, M Jul 29

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    I love anything taboo add me freaks
    Daddylicksyou Daddylicksyou 61-65, M Aug 4

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    Im a 13 year old boy and I like older men but everyone treats me lika freak cause im gay and I like older men. Does anyone understand
    Bobbylover2000 Bobbylover2000 13-15, M Aug 5

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    I'm not underweight. I'm 5'5 and 130 lbs, but I am thinner than most people I know or come across and they have noticed it too. I don't eat a lot, just because I don't really...
    Slexre Slexre 22-25, F Aug 10

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    Freaking out The other day I told the guy I like about my cutting and suicidal thoughts and I don't know if that was a mistake or not I'm so lost in life again right now
    JalenFrankie616 JalenFrankie616 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    While I'm not sure why.. I've always been considered kinda a freak.. People look at me strange on the streets.. Most avoid me though, which I don't mind, it's better than being...
    Luciakitten Luciakitten 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Once again, I felt my life is slipping away from me. I started to dread about what the future holds for me. His departure tore me apart but soon I quickly found myself again. I...
    minyue minyue 18-21, F Aug 5

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    Sometimes the need to kill others gets so bad so I kill myself instead and wake up in the morning and start over. But what if one day the need over powers my self control and I...
    KatIsCrazy KatIsCrazy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    My boyfriend won't let me express myself. When I turn 18, if I'm still with him, he won't "let" me get tattoos or piercings. Well, I refuse to abide in his stupid, controlling...
    stillYDGN stillYDGN 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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    More like I need to be controlled. I'm always touching and pleasuring myself. I want someone who will discipline me when I do those things when I'm not allowed. I want her to tell...
    mrfister1967 mrfister1967 46-50, M Jul 26

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