I Am A Demi-Sexual

A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. 551 People

    No one really understands my sexuality.

    They ask, "So, you're asexual?" In a sense, I am, but I'm also not. Demisexuality is when a person can only have sexual feelings to those they are emotionally attached to. Like, for example: **** is displeasing, one night stands are meaningless, and hookups could only ever work...
    TheKatAttack TheKatAttack
    16-17, F
    Apr 20, 2015

    Being demisexual is so depressing.

    I've only liked 3 guys my entire life. And they all had to be taken. I guess it's not the worst that can happen. But it doesn't feel very good at all. I hope I can find someone one day. I feel like I'm running out of time.
    RayniiDays RayniiDays
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 12, 2015

    As a guy it took me a long time to figure out

    what was the deal with me. Then I discovered this definition: "A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The...
    fr33bird fr33bird
    51-55, M
    Jan 25, 2016

    I am a panromantic demisexual male.

    Perhaps it's a bit confusing, because honestly I can only feel sexual attraction to ladies--but I know that if I ever fell in love with a man then it would run just as deeply as it would with a woman. My best friend found it to be a surprise when I came out as demisexual. She...
    JamesSilverlight JamesSilverlight
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2016

    I've realized that while I'm a demi-sexual I'm

    also borderline asexual. It's difficult to explain. But, I'm fine being alone. I've been alone since the day I was born. If I I never have kids that's a-okay. It will suck for my parents though, most importantly my mother. I'm just not interested.
    OldSoulRedux OldSoulRedux
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 13, 2016

    I need a strong emotional connection to feel

    attraction. I'd rather be someone's best friend than date them. I don't look for relationships...Would much rather not date to be honest. Demisexual is close to asexual, but not close enough for me. I didn't choose this and I wish I were asexual.
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    I only found out recently

    that I am demisexual, although I have been looking for answers for a while. I don't get attracted to people physically - at least immediately - but usually after becoming close to them over a period of time. I've only been in 2 relationships, and they both evolved out of...
    tec90 tec90
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Nov 10, 2015

    My Demi-Sexuality

    Firstly, I know most people don't know what demi-sexuality is, so to begin I'll quote the definition. "A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means...
    LyricallyPoetic LyricallyPoetic
    22-25, F
    34 Responses Aug 8, 2013

    I really don't know what my true sexuality is,

    but demi is probably the closest thing that describes it and – for other people's convenience – the one I identify as. For the most part, a deep mental connection has to be present for me to experience sexual attraction. However, there have been a few exceptions to this, and...
    SqueezeTheLemon SqueezeTheLemon
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2016

    Ummmm...this is actually what sex is supposed

    to be! How is this new ?...let alone an actual label! Seriously?
    GypsyMiss GypsyMiss
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 29, 2014

    Hey guys! I recently joined,

    because I didn't know where to go with this. I've always had this mental battle over my sexuality; I know I'm not asexual, because here are rare times when I can be sexually attracted to guys. I can talk about sex without feeling too uncomfortable, but I've noticed that when I...
    Kitten161 Kitten161
    22-25, F
    Feb 19, 2016
    notthatweird notthatweird
    22-25, M
    Feb 28, 2016

    I'm not sure if I'm demisexual

    but I've liked like three people my entire life, all guys I knew as soon as I got to know them how much I liked them and none of it has change an inch for years and years and to this very day
    shamop shamop
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2015

    Well it took me quite a

    while to figure out what I actually am in regards of sexuality but yeah demi-sexual Is definitely it. I'm 20 years old, and I don't really find anyone attractive, regardless of sex, I find a lot of people hot, attractive looks etc but that's not the same thing.. I guess? As...
    LukeShaggyJones LukeShaggyJones
    22-25, M
    Apr 1, 2015

    I'll never date here on ep

    if i give a msle attention it's because im only bored or lonely i meet many strangers online but I'll never meet up with a male off ep or anywhere not being suckup im demisexual if the male refuses to understand he'll be blocked or insulted constantly until the pig...
    nana2085 nana2085
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015
    shamop shamop
    18-21, F
    Oct 13, 2015

    I'm a virgin ...but I would only have sex with

    the person I fall in love with emotionally
    MoonlightAlma MoonlightAlma
    18-21, F
    Aug 19, 2015

    When I had came across Demisexuality,

    I had already gone through being Bisexual, Asexual, and Grey-Asexual. I was really confused about what my sexuality was. I knew I didn't have the sexual attraction that most of my friends did and I always liked someone I knew. Also, **** never turned me on like it did with some...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 7, 2015

    I am demi-pansexual, meaning I rarely

    experience sexual attraction, only to people I'm very close with, but when I do it doesn't matter what gender they are. I used to identify as just pansexual, until I realized that I don't experience much sexual attraction at all. For a while after that I identified as asexual...
    MashiLouis MashiLouis
    18-21, T
    Mar 16, 2016

    I guess I don't really know what I am,

    nor do I really care to put a label on it, but when you label it, I guess it's easier to find others who feel similarly and who you can talk about it with. I never understood why everyone always made such a big deal out of sex, or how people could start dating someone they'd...
    graveyardghosty graveyardghosty
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 16, 2014
    GoddamnSpagetti GoddamnSpagetti
    26-30, M
    1 Response Dec 21, 2015

    This explains me very well.

    I have to have my mind stimulated for there to be any type attractive attributes to come to life.
    FrankK70 FrankK70
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 26, 2015

    I never really understood the

    why people would be sexually attracted to someone when they first meet them or know them a short period of time and see an interest in them,it would take me months till I actually start properly trusting someone and catch feelings for them
    jasmine7312 jasmine7312
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    I recently found out I am demisexual,

    and it makes sense why I hate being touched without permission, why certain things the other guy does makes me want to punch him or vomit. Sexual inuendos make me uncomfortable because for so long, I was told I had to be a horny latino teenager. I just want people to know I'm...
    lightningelemental lightningelemental
    1 Response Oct 1, 2015

    I was in sixth grade

    when I remember most of my female friends first becoming interested in boys. I remember when girls would ask me if I found someone attractive, I felt like a deer in headlights. I could tell if they found him attractive, and I knew if he was considered traditionally attractive or...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 12, 2013
    TheNightAfter TheNightAfter
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    It feels really good to give a name to

    something I've felt for most of my life. Thought that I was phobic or frigid or asexual ... I knew those labels didn't fit. A little knowledge can rock your world.
    Lookherecranley Lookherecranley
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2014

    Yap ! Thats true ! !!

    gaziraisa gaziraisa
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2016

    I hate when I try and tell people about myself

    and they just answer with: But everyone is like that. No. Not everyone is. And it kills me sometimes because people don't understand that I will refuse anything unless I know you. I don't want to hug or kiss or have a one night stand. I don't lust after strangers or really...
    CandraFlare CandraFlare
    26-30, F
    Jul 11, 2015

    Demisexuals are not choosing to abstain; they

    simply lack sexual readiness until a close relationship is formed. This doesn't apply to me when drunk, but I'm sober all the time. Some might call it "love", but I just call it emotional connection or closeness. It doesn't matter how outwardly beautiful the person is. This...
    OnAlert OnAlert
    61-65, M
    2 Responses Apr 26, 2014

    When I encountered the term "demisexual,

    " I wanted to break out into Handel's Hallelujah chorus! FINALLY a reason why I could never get into "girl talk" in high school about which guy was cutest, why I was clueless who the hottest celebrity was, why I never found any of my guy peers attractive (except for two of my...
    kilmenyorchard kilmenyorchard
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 24, 2015

    Males don't inbox me ask2 what demisexual means

    don your own research thanks.
    nana2085 nana2085
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 6, 2016

    I learned about demi sexuality in detail a few

    months ago and something clicked. I never understood how people could see a person and have a sexual response. I have an extremely low (maybe even absent) sex drive but am capable of having a low-key sexual relationship with a sexual partner. It's just never at the front of my...
    chrysanthemumtea chrysanthemumtea
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2016

    Let's see, I've had many crushes over the years.

    Some were most likely physical, but others were...something deeper. As if it was some sort of long lost spiritual connection. These people were absolute strangers to me but something unspoken drew me to them. Like a reminder of the past. In terms of sex, I experience natural...
    OldSoulRedux OldSoulRedux
    22-25, F
    Nov 12, 2015

    It's a made up word, I know,

    but it's who I am. I'm more attracted to conversation than looks; looks are important but they're not everything. Some of the most attractive people are mean, rude, stuck on themselves and make lesser attractive people feel ugly when they're the ones who are ugly (you know who...
    Logic34 Logic34
    36-40, M
    7 Responses Jul 16, 2015

    If you're a virgin & have never been in love

    how you can you tell if you're demisexual vs asexual?
    kchristine7 kchristine7
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Awkward when all your friends are sexually

    minded and you just feel out of place when those conversations come up, especially when it's considered the normal thing.
    dylbot787 dylbot787
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    I am demisexual and pansexual

    and because I have only ever felt sexual attraction towards my husband I often think I am heterosexual. it is hard for me to internalize my pansexuality.
    nezno nezno
    18-21, F
    Oct 29, 2015

    just had a mental breakthrough thanks to a very

    goooood friend of mine ;) I found out I'm demisexual. long story short, I only only only will have sex with a man I have a person connection with. and growing up people would say eww you can do better than him. but I'm not attracted to physical appearances. if I love your mind...
    siciliana88 siciliana88
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    It's all about the emotional connection

    for me and it seems extremely hard to find with someone lately... πŸ‘ΎπŸ‘ΎπŸ‘ΎπŸ‘ΎπŸ‘ΎπŸ‘Ύ
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Apr 25, 2014
    ladysapio ladysapio
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    Not only am I demi/gray sexual,

    I am also demiromantic. I always feel bad whenever someone tries to develop a romantic relationship with me, but I just don't feel anything.
    shatteredporcelain shatteredporcelain
    18-21, F
    Feb 14, 2016

    Found out one of my friends is demi too,

    so happy :) Finally someone I can talk to about this.
    dylbot787 dylbot787
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 10, 2016

    In a way it's a relief to know

    that there are others out there like this. At first I thought most people were, but as I got older I realized I was wrong. I felt alone, left out. I began to wonder if something was wrong with me. Now I know there isn't. Unfortunately this makes me sad too. I know I'm not alone...
    DariusMajicou DariusMajicou
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Nov 23, 2015

    There's so many different kinds of sexual

    orientations and identities out there it's insane yet confusing. I realized that I'm a Demi-heterosexual after doing some research. This means that I'm straight, but I won't feel sexually/physically/emotionally attracted to someone unless I have a deep bond with them first. To...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 13, 2016

    So after talking about my sexuality

    for about the sixth time with my parental guardians they have now decided I can't have any friends over to spend the night because Im Demi-sexual and therefore would just sleep with them. I'm also not allowed to spend night at friends houses even though I've stayed over there...
    leaguegirl97 leaguegirl97
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Dec 16, 2014

    It's great to an extent.

    I enjoy knowing who I am but I feel trapped in a sexualized world that can't understand how I feel. It's so hard to find people to fall in love with when in this society most people are thinking about sex and can't give me a chance because I'm too "slow". I haven't ever felt...
    Smartpaws Smartpaws
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 13, 2015

    I'm not sure what I am to be honest,

    but this is the one definition that fits best. I have found myself attracted to male and females, but only after close relationships, after we have formed a strong bond, and I've grown to truly like who they are. The more I know about a person, the more I hang out with them and...
    beautyfromthis beautyfromthis
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 27, 2014
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