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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 36-40, F Nov 18, 2013

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    About two weeks ago my now ex-boyfriend strangled me and knocked me around. He refused to let me leave, even though I begged and pleaded with him- he injured my throat so badly I...
    Smashley007 Smashley007 26-30 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am 34, yet I still crave a father. My own father was cold, violent, and at times, delusional. My mother who by all appearances was a warm and loving mother, in private withheld...
    EverlyAnn EverlyAnn 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I tried to go to a church group once, to talk about what happened. I hadn't talked about it since I was a child. I sat and listened to others but said nothing. It was like I was...
    SleeplessNites SleeplessNites 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    As a child, I never knew unconditional love, affection, or attention. It was always conditional. I learned sex = love. I hurt for that little girl. All she wanted to do was be...
    SleeplessNites SleeplessNites 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 4

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    I'm still trying to escape Opus Dei. It's hard work after all the propaganda. I am escaping!
    Mstroig Mstroig 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    When I was ten and in the fifth grade, an obese boy in my class asked me to be his girlfriend. When I declined, he made up a lie about me, saying that I had *********** with a hot...
    gwisforlovers gwisforlovers 31-35, F 9 Responses Sep 8

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    I met him when I was a freshman in high school, he was a senior. After he graduated I'd run into him every so often when I would be grocery shopping with my parents or out and...
    kay5262 kay5262 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 15

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    Both my parents were physically abusive, they'd find any reason to hit me with just about anything, dad loved using the strap though but at least with him he got it over and done...
    jessefb80 jessefb80 31-35, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Mom was emotionally abusive, mostly. The was very good at emotionally blackmailing me, shaming, invalidating, and belittling. Those were her specialties. She was pretty big into...
    thecellardoor thecellardoor 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    My dad was verbally and physically abusive. I still have a scar from him.
    Theycallherelly Theycallherelly 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm obsessed with having sex with my father.
    Eva1974 Eva1974 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have friends who have known me for 25 years who don't know the pain I feel. On the outside, I am someone who is always in control. I don't cry, I'm not easily upset. I work in a...
    EverlyAnn EverlyAnn 31-35, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I read a story on deviantart but it was a gay gentlemen calling the domestic abuse hotline, he was explaining that his boyfriend was beating him but the operator said this was only...
    DysfunctionalPiano DysfunctionalPiano 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    About two weeks ago my now ex-boyfriend strangled me and knocked me around. He refused to let me leave, even though I begged and pleaded with him. When I tried to escape he...
    Smashley007 Smashley007 26-30 4 days ago

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    being blessed with such a rare talent, you could have been one of the best running backs ever. Adrian (all day) Peterson... You are a sick man. Abusing your two sons ESPECIALLY...
    Spencaa92 Spencaa92 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 17

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    Hi. This post is more to do with me just writing down my feelings about a recent break-up with a BPD ex girlfriend, as I'm having a really bad day today. We had been dating (and...
    GoodThingsToCome GoodThingsToCome 26-30, M 9 hrs ago

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    I am an abuse victim survivor. And I think people need know that an abuser can be anybody. They can be black or white, male or female, mother or father. And anybody can be a victim...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    I was in an abusive relationship for two years. I stayed because I moved across the country to be with a boyfriend and the only people I knew were his friends. When I finally tried...
    jlkelly01 jlkelly01 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 17

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    Yesterday morning there was a *breaking news* story about a murder that took place around midnight Saturday night (very close to where I live). A husband had strangled his wife to...
    Polly73 Polly73 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    I was engaged to who I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I didn't realize how much abuse I was receiving until I had him arrested. He finally hit me and I had...
    stacyda30 stacyda30 31-35, F Sep 10

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    My mom was really nice at first until we moved back to Florida from Georgia. Her and my dad were trying to work things out but she had a mental illness and bipolar. They say that...
    amersonjazzy amersonjazzy 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Hi everyone! I created this group because I have yet seen a group Specifically to domestic discipline boot camp. Post your comments, concerns, questions, stories, where to find...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 8

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    I lost 2 members of my family while we r struggling to get out of our burning house , it was horrible .. It hurts that they didn't make it .. It's true we took them out of the...
    farnoush farnoush 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 16

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    Boot camp is on hold. In a strange way I'm really upset about this. I have asked Sir for a boot camp a few weeks ago. Just a week ago I was diagnosed with shingles. I have been in...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 8

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    My husband and I have struggled with maintaining a domestic discipline marriage for years now. I was the one to bring it up to him. But we always kind of fissled out of doing it...
    meganluck21 meganluck21 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 9

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    If you are reading this message, you too are a survivor. If you are not reading it, then you may or may not be dead.
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am a survivor of rape. I was a victim of an ex-boyfriend and he raped me in January of 2014. I need some support and all of that to get through this. It would be nice if someone...
    momoshep142 momoshep142 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 13

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    There seems to be a black cloud that follows me everywhere I go. I tried to leave my abusive boyfriend yesterday. I already had a bag packed and hidden away. We got into a...
    BrandNewChic BrandNewChic 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 16

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    By the time I was 24 years old, I long ago passed that line between social drinking and alcoholism and, in that nebulous alcoholic fog and exaggerated egoism, smirked at relatives...
    cmmacneil cmmacneil 51-55, M Sep 17

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    I have been a victim of domestic violence 2 times, I feel so depressed, no friends to talk to. My life feels stuck and I don't know what to do, where to go, I don't even know me...
    Grace8grace Grace8grace 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 22

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    I have been in a domestic partnership with my love for years. We have two children together. Just for clarification we are a straight couple and unmarried. His brother's wife is...
    alora236 alora236 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I don't have any children of my own but I can not imagine being able to abuse my own flesh and blood. I was never abused as a child by my parents but I was sexually molested by...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    When I was 4 years old my parents were divorced. I remember 2 police cars driving up the road while my mother and dad were yelling at each other. My mother got custody of me and my...
    mymindhurts mymindhurts 18-21, F Sep 4

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    I was emotionally abused, emotionally blackmailed, and thanks to my friends and family I left him. But I miss it. I want to be abused like that again. I want to be physically...
    Gallowsweet Gallowsweet 18-21, F Sep 22

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    Where I work, I see child physical and sexual abuse every day. It makes me question humanity. How can people be so evil? Some days I feel like I can't keep going....I have to make...
    hopeisfaith hopeisfaith 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 22

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    Since i was young i never really had a family along with my fathers physical and sexual abuse he emotionally abused me. He'd yell and call me a worthless piece of **** ***** and a...
    EmoNekoNiki EmoNekoNiki 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    my new baby girl was the result of long term sexual abuse... im scared she will look like my abuser or be violent or something... she's also had cystic fibrosis and there is so...
    ana097 ana097 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I wonder, how it would have been if I was raised in a normal family. My mother is a narcissistic person (NPD) and my dad was and is her enabler. I was raised with the burden of...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 16

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    I know how it feels I been through that kind of stuff even still and I'm 17 years old. I started getting abused when I was about 2/3 years old I think. It's sad to watch and like...
    Strangerdanger47 Strangerdanger47 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 16

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    I've been abused basically my whole life. Physically abused, mentally, and emotionally. I hate it and I still do. I don't want anyone to go through what I had to go through.
    Katiepoohmm Katiepoohmm 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 17