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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

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    Iv recently just left my partner due to

    domestic abuse, he first hit me the start of this year. he grabbed me by the neck on the bed, shouting abuse saying he hates me, I could not breath, afterwards he called the police on himself because he felt bad. I thought that would be the end, but it carried on, he slapped me...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    It's been 3 years since I left him.

    I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that because I am still in the "victim closet" that my relationship will eventually suffer. So here I am. My new boyfriend knows of my past and...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 41-45, F Nov 18, 2013

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    For a long time i used 2 blame myself for the physical, mental & sexual abuse that was inflicted on me, blamed myself because i used to beg to God and beg in my head please make...
    Pennycaca Pennycaca 36-40, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It stops with me. Yes, I was abused. Still am, and I'm 65 years old. I was watching an episode of Law and Order SVU, and one of the characters said it poignantly said that she...
    casualwear casualwear 61-65, M 5 Responses Jan 4

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    It's funny how kids/teens these day say they were abused mentally/physically/emotionally over little things that are meaningless like a spank or their dad being an alcoholic, or...
    MrHypothetical MrHypothetical 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 9

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    Being a survivor is something I embrace in myself. I could ponder endlessly as to why I experienced the trauma... and believe me, I have. But honestly, I've fought hard to put it...
    WithGracefulness WithGracefulness 46-50, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's been ten years today since she made sure with her abuse that I would forever live in pain, that I would never be normal and carefree no matter how far I ran and moved on. I...
    ScarredScared ScarredScared 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    My brother from so long ago physically sexually verbally abused me I was a frightened little girl who was always hiding n running away but was always found Very very violent n...
    LATEENO79 LATEENO79 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I’m not sure when the latter state of mind ended and the former started. It’s like the event horizon of a black hole The outcome is obvious but it’s conception is hidden in...
    Bonocular Bonocular 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    Talking about my past still makes my skin creep, my butt pucker, and my emotions go on overdrive. It always makes me cry, and I've learned to just go with it. Crying is cleansing...
    brokenat5 brokenat5 61-65, M 7 hrs ago

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    this is the 1st time I am mentioning this after 37 years. I remember my brother telling me that I can't tell anyone as he will get in trouble because people won't understand. that...
    tony71tony tony71tony 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 6

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    To me, my parents were just ***** and egg donors . They have some kind of love towards us in them, and they are good people now i think, but that doesn't matter to me anymore. I...
    Ajushi Ajushi 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    My former wife would get very angry particularly prior to her period. Her moods would change. Nothing anybody did was right. On one occasion she threw her birthday dinner across...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    I used to tell myself: 'I refuse to let those things stand in my way, I refuse to let them even leave a scratch in the paint' ...but I no longer need to tell myself that, and...
    Jumeia Jumeia 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Power Is Rebellion. It will serve you well to place the people behind bars. or at least destroy them emotionally, spiritually.
    Gabster27 Gabster27 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    I've lived in this situation for about 2 and a half years. I've been stalked, monitored phone calls, harrassed, threatened on a regular basis. The hardest part is society not...
    sensitivityexperience31 sensitivityexperience31 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 19

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    I have been thinking about domestic abuse. I believe that schools should educate pupils to prevent and spot domestic abuse and how to handle it when it happens. An abuser may well...
    iou1soul iou1soul 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's been 25 years ago I left the man who abused me. It took a while to become strong but I built a good life raised my son the best I could and had a successful business. My son...
    Truthsetsmefree Truthsetsmefree 61-65 1 Response Jan 2

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    I am a high school student in a large school in New England. I was emotionally abused for a few years by a girl I thought was my friend. I have trouble talking to people about it...
    OrionO OrionO 16-17, T Jan 19

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 2 Responses Jan 6

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    What is it about DV that just sticks with us for so long? I think it affects every relationship that I experience...maybe this is not a bad thing. I am wiser and just more aware-I...
    AramatLynn AramatLynn 46-50, F a week ago

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    Never Tolerate Bring Hit!!! Does the abuser your with call it domestic discipline or refer to themselves as the head of the household? Are they using any church or social group...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    If ever there was a time to get this going it is now. It doesn't matter who the survivor is and what she has gone through. It doesn't matter who the healer is and how they...
    hasmita hasmita 61-65, M 2 days ago

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    I believe that those who abuse children should lose the right to ever raise or care for any child ever again.
    oneawkwardcactus oneawkwardcactus 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    i was as young as 6 when a distant relative who lived next door, started to sexually abuse me, now im 21 and im very sexually active, ive been beaten up for being gay. and everyone...
    queencruella696 queencruella696 22-25, T 1 hr ago

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    So, as I wrote before I am in relational group trauma therapy for women who have survived childhood abuse. It is an intense program that I attend four days a week for three hours a...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    ocecas ocecas 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I didn't understand that what was happening wasn't normal. It was part of my daily life, being touched, being forced to do disgusting things to him. The first time I was raped, I...
    NotSoAngelic NotSoAngelic 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm a childhood trauma survivor, have worked in the prevention field. Child abuse and sexual abuse are hidden epidemics that affect us all.
    CultivatingPurpose CultivatingPurpose 36-40, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse, I am 25 and met him when I was 19. As many people say, they are charming at first and seemed very clever and manipulative with his...
    Brightheart89 Brightheart89 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 16

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    I am in a very bad situation. I have been verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abused by my ex for the past 5 years. I moved away from the U.S.A. to Argentina to be...
    sumaura85 sumaura85 26-30, F Jan 21

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    I was told by my uncle's friend that I should give this guy, I've known since I was 12 and didn't really like, Ilan "Reipie" Shane a chance to be friends. So I contacted him and...
    JessiAimee JessiAimee 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    I'm laying in bed, sick with a sinus infection and watching Fried Green Tomatoes. The part where Ruth's husband beats her up and kicks her down the stairs when she's trying to...
    TheLittleMrs TheLittleMrs 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    DV (Domestic Violence, for those unfamiliar with the acronym) is not acceptable in any circumstance. Words and emotions are FAR more eloquent and take a lot more thought...
    wuiop wuiop 31-35, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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