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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 59 People

    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    Iv recently just left my partner due to

    domestic abuse, he first hit me the start of this year. he grabbed me by the neck on the bed, shouting abuse saying he hates me, I could not breath, afterwards he called the police on himself because he felt bad. I thought that would be the end, but it carried on, he slapped me...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 41-45, F Nov 18, 2013

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    I Am a Child Abuse Survivor MOM If you've read some of my earlier posts, you'll see that my step dad was an angry, vile man who ruled the house with an iron fist. He openly...
    JesseLeeJames JesseLeeJames 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 10

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    As a child abuse survivor, I am completely conscious of how I discipline my son. As a little one, all I had to do was put him in time out. Now that he is twelve, things do not...
    sweetandspicy1 sweetandspicy1 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Because I work with abused children on a regular basis I know that my story is neither unique or uncommon. Man's inhumanity to man shouldn't really surprise me, yet somehow it...
    brokenat5 brokenat5 61-65, M 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I had a major flashback to childhood today. I finally decided to tell someone that my boyfriend has been very abusive to me for the past two years. I sat down next to my mom and...
    SkullRoseInsignia SkullRoseInsignia 16-17, T 4 Responses Nov 1

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    I never really saw it as abuse. In fact I thought it was normal. I thought getting the **** beat out of you until you had trouble walking and being constantly belittled and...
    chaoshead chaoshead 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    chanjen chanjen 41-45, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    My cousin molested me since i was to young to remember. I started to realize it was wrong around the ages of 7-8. He slept over all the time practically lived with me. I started to...
    Prettygurl234 Prettygurl234 16-17, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I got with my boyfriend and everything was perfect he was everything I could have wished for honestly then 4months in he started shouting at me all the time told me I couldn't see...
    gracee07 gracee07 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 26

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    just kids experimenting or abuse?? boy 2.5 years older than sister engages her is sex play on landing while dad at pub and mum watching tv. too young to penetrate her. multuple...
    Movingon45 Movingon45 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    What my mentally ill father will never understand. I see women on television being tearfully walked down the aisle by their loving fathers. The wedding speeches telling of their...
    EverlyAnn EverlyAnn 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 23

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    My parents had split up when I was very little. I'm not sure how old I was. Anyway, my mom had custody of me, so I lived with her and my grandmother. My mom was strict and if I...
    JasmineMonique JasmineMonique 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 4

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    will never be able to talk about it.....
    canttell21 canttell21 18-21, F 11 Responses Nov 11

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    Some things are just best left unspoken! We remember daily, may still need our operations or other services but the unspoken word is sounded loud & clear. I have no more fear.
    raestar raestar 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 14

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    I hate the fact that dating is so stressful . I am literally afraid to give too much of myself because of 3 people who couldn't care less. It's a terrible feeling, wanting to be...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am completely shattered! I am damaged, in all senses. My stepfather is to blame for all my troubles. That man thinks he can just walk in and cause us grief and later on stiffs...
    Profweird Profweird 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I'll tell everybody I am 27 I never had friends not even a girlfriend the word rejection is huge and the pain is horrible been depressed for a long time already since I was 12 not...
    forsa85 forsa85 26-30, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I just wanna forget. I know it wasn't my fault...Sometimes the flash backs make me cry. Sometimes angry. My father is dead to me.
    roxrockman roxrockman 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Starving all the time was nothing new to me growing up. Other kids in school were the same way. My late father, used the money (Child tax benefit) to gamble, drink and feed himself...
    roxrockman roxrockman 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I guess I can't quite say that I'm a survivor of emotional abuse since I am still in the relationship. By the time I knew what emotional abuse was or that it even existed I already...
    LOMD LOMD 31-35, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Do you stick up for yourself and get beaten worse or just take it in and beat yourself up on the inside. I chose to stick up for myself. Im left with tear stained cheeks, a jaw I...
    itsmemargret itsmemargret 18-21 2 Responses Nov 6

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    So basically, when I got pregnant for my boyfriend, yes I was young. We were stupid, but we were in love. When we told his mother, she flipped out and started asking for a DNA test...
    SincerelyRae SincerelyRae 16-17, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Good news coming, new laws are being put in place to outlaw any types of abuse in relationships this is just what we need! please check out this brilliant article! http://www...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I searched everywhere online to find a place to vent my story. I hope I finally found it. I am a victim of domestic violence. I wish I could could replace the word "victim" with...
    imsolost14 imsolost14 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 8

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    I've always struggled with accepting that I have been abused. My mother was abusive and I cut her out of my life 5 years ago. My husband was also abusive. I never ended up in the...
    littlegiraffe13 littlegiraffe13 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I have just joined this forum and am looking to support and be supported by other survivors of domestic violence. My ex is currently in maximum security awaiting a trial that will...
    KateElizabethF KateElizabethF 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 28

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    I am a survivor, I left just over a month ago and I have fought hard to get myself back on top, I know it will take longer than this but already things are getting better and I am...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    i need someone to talk to about domestic violence
    guidness24 guidness24 26-30 3 Responses Nov 13

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    I was sexually abused for several years when I was a child. My psychological problems followed me for many years . Because I did allow it to happen even though I understood it was...
    EmmaHansson EmmaHansson 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 2

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    Tonight I'm having random body aches. Lower back especially. I've read somewhere this isn't unusual for survivors of child abuse. Phantom pains plaguing me. This is new. The pain...
    scarecrow71 scarecrow71 41-45, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I had a difficult time accepting that I had been abused as a child. Part of the reason for that is because growing up in that environment one tends to normalize what happened...
    scarecrow71 scarecrow71 41-45, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I've been struggling with these memories for years. The memories come and go. I'm not angry anymore, now that I'm older. It doesn't help and the abuser doesn't care. (mine is...
    justme7654 justme7654 46-50, F Oct 29

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    I find it unbelievable how cruel people are towards abused women. How little real help there is for such a very serious and rampant social issue. I cannot tell you how many times...
    anibee1230 anibee1230 36-40, F Nov 9

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    Its a very sad reality when you actually discover you are a victim of emotional abuse. I was the same, I didn't even know I was made to believe I was the crazy one. One of the...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Or not. What is survivor. Do they hold jobs. Do they avoid applying for disability pay. Do they cheer up. If so then me didnt survive.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am having a difficult time deciding if my situation is as serious as everyone tells me it is. I keep going back and forth, almost on a daily basis. I've been with my husband for...
    htb1025 htb1025 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I was abused by my father as a child. We were Jehovahs Witnesses at the time and I told a family friend what was happening. He went and told the elders of the congregation who told...
    meemaw2011 meemaw2011 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 3

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    I was sexually abused by someone i still see every day. It affected my life greatly, and I still have flashbacks of it. It happened for a while before she was caught. And in my own...
    mugzib mugzib 13-15, F Nov 3

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