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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 36-40, F Nov 18, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I wish she instead asked, " Are a Child Abuse Survivor". It is a Statement. How she made it a choice for all. I was never ABUSED as a Child. My Abuse began when I was 35.
    paradisequeen paradisequeen 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    So here is my story all my life I seeked attention I wanted to be the cemter of attention : talking loud .acting dramaticly .fighting with teacher to make them noticing me born in...
    aryela aryela 18-21, F Jul 10

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    I ran into an old friend I grew up with. We weren't really that close but were from the same neighborhood. Been at least ten years. We met at Starbucks, since both of us are clean...
    Airmech Airmech 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 19

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    It was one of the nails that sealed my coffin, damning me to a short lived life of isolation. My life has been one wreck after another, but I suppose it starts here at the gateway...
    Yearsgoby Yearsgoby 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 20

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    i don't know if me and my siblings are being abused but it seems like we might be i never thought about it before because we are homeschooled and this is my first phone and i got...
    valbunny valbunny 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    It shouldn't hurt to be a child. No child should feel like they are alone in the world, and nothing that they can do is right, but so many do, and the ones who do, feel like they...
    LostAriel LostAriel 22-25, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    As I live in the midst of chaos. I understand that I must stay composed. I must not allow the sheer amount of idiots, and fools-THESE THINGS WHO CLAIM THEMSELVES TO BE INTELLIGENT...
    adamfducas adamfducas 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 4

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    I had a flashback today. It took me a little bit to recover. I was walking in the park with my husband when it happened and he wanted to know what was wrong. I had stopped walking...
    Smilenbhappy Smilenbhappy 46-50, F Jul 20

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    8065 members in this group. And i thought i was unique.
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    I always imagine what my life would have been and how I would be if what happen didn't happen..
    freedom16 freedom16 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    When ever I took a shower in my home after my step mother would hit me and I would soil myself; she would come into the bathroom and spray me with disinfectant spray and mock me...
    halfdead25 halfdead25 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Once u was abused, i tell u honestly- u will never get over it. Never. You can do a therapy , it will help you to bring all the repressed hurt out but it wouldnt make the abuse...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F Jul 22

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    I was a victim of domestic abuse I was abused by my boyfriend would love to talk to some of you guys to ease the pain
    Prettybirds Prettybirds 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I left my abuser after 2 short years of marriage. He wasn't like this before we married, and I was widowed for 7 years prior to meeting him. He broke my nose in 2 places and it was...
    Marie1958 Marie1958 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I was a sophomore in college and he was a senior. Something about him being older made it feel so right…he was charming, mature, and the life of the party type of guy. Not to...
    EmmaCollins EmmaCollins 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm facing domestic violence since 5 yrs. My Mom was housewife and after sad demise of her it was my duty to do all domestic chores (being only lady in house) and study at the same...
    sad1hana sad1hana 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    ask me questions. i'm trying to recover as we speak, I've been working on it for about 4 months now. I am not afraid of people's judgement because I'm not going to defend my past...
    DrkHrse DrkHrse 22-25 1 Response Jul 1

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    I have survived many types of abuse through life physical, sexual, mental and emotional.... I believe these things have made me who I am today.. And I am truly stronger for it... I...
    mssst mssst 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    At the age of 4 my mother abandon my sibblings and I , my father did the best he could . He worked and he was an alcoholic . At the age of 4 I was sexually assaulted by to...
    sara75 sara75 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    When I was a kid like 8, I was abused by a family member. I can recall the events of a few of the times of him doing the things he did to me. The feeling I felt during that time, I...
    Bluescrub Bluescrub 36-40, M a week ago

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    Im 13, the abuse for about 3, since I was 10. Well I learn something, I hated him for so long, I plan all these way to see his demise, but then I had a dream, were I found out he...
    nekokitty13 nekokitty13 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I was sleeping, out cold. My mum came in my room to attend to my little brother and let the dog in with her. My dog started to lick my hand and I heard rustling from my mum. I...
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Since my last post about wanting to meet other couples that are D/D, I have met a few. I still have not met up with anyone yet but we are looking forward to meeting one in...
    lover70 lover70 41-45, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    My whole family is dysfunctional, My mums side you had... My mum bless her was an alcoholic, My brother was a druggie and alcoholic, Three of my mums brothers were druggies and...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I have survived alot abusive mother, sexual abuse in care homes, I have a back problem,my ex I found in bed with another woman and I'm still here. Nothing going to beat me.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    'Come to my bedroom' he said, 'I just need to talk to you' he said. Them words I will never forget. But he didn't. He pushed me down on his bed and pinned me, forcing me to do...
    BethHawkins BethHawkins 13-15, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I love survivor it's super cool and I would love to go on survivor but I'm Canadian :(
    ngoodfellow1799 ngoodfellow1799 13-15, M a week ago

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    I'm confused. What is a domestic discipline marriage??
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a...
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    princess1950 princess1950 36-40, F Jul 14

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    princess1950 princess1950 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I DONT BUT I WANT TOO ugh how I want tooooo But we are black and in our culture it's "domestic violence" My husband will NOT EVEN CONSIDER IT but after a lonnnnggggg thinking...
    karlakashes karlakashes 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    My mom had an abortion when I was 8 or 9. She told me how I was going to have a sister and then she got rid of it. It took me years until it finally hit me and I had survivors...
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M Jul 13

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    June 2002 - my cousin, who I grew up with and was close to, was suddenly shot one time in the chest at 4 AM... He was 26 and it was labeled suicide... He had spoke to his aunt that...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jul 14

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    Starting at the 7th grade and lasting until the late 9th grade yearly 10th grade I suffered with depression and several suicide attempts. I thought I was alone..because you know...
    MacKenzie31113 MacKenzie31113 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Or am i. Explored knives twice. Watched beetlejuice inbetween. Aborted both times. Why. Why. Hope maybe. Maybe. But society got worse. So why still hope...
    converted converted 46-50, M Jul 14

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    I was emotionally abused by my mother all of my life. The abuse started as i was 9 and continued till last year. As i lived with my parents in my mother country i was hurt every...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Finding out that someone else within the family was abused by the same person as I was as a child breaks my ******* heart. I would never wish abuse of any sort on my worst enemy...
    herebutinvisible herebutinvisible 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 21

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