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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 62 People

    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    It's been 3 years since I left him.

    I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that because I am still in the "victim closet" that my relationship will eventually suffer. So here I am. My new boyfriend knows of my past and...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 41-45, F Nov 18, 2013

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Iv recently just left my partner due to

    domestic abuse, he first hit me the start of this year. he grabbed me by the neck on the bed, shouting abuse saying he hates me, I could not breath, afterwards he called the police on himself because he felt bad. I thought that would be the end, but it carried on, he slapped me...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    To my father & abuser for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. (A Malignant Narcissist, psychopath, antisocial, hateful, wife beater...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    To my father & abuser for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. (A Malignant Narcissist, psychopath, antisocial, hateful, wife beater...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So me and my fiancé had an argument earlier, this came up because one of his friends had beat up his girlfriend and she ended up posting the pictures on Facebook. Then he tells me...
    jazzysymone6 jazzysymone6 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I don't understand why some people look away.I truly hated my neighbor for not intervening.My mother physically,emotional,and sexually abused my siblings and I.Finally we had...
    Duckygirl2 Duckygirl2 46-50, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have made two major attempts on my life, once at 17 and another at 27. (background: I have borderline personality disorder and PTSD. I started self harming at 13. I'm a survivor...
    BigBaddaBoom BigBaddaBoom 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I will forever be scarred by the emotional abuse that I have endured. How can a relationship that started off so great take such a drastic turn? How can the man you love turn into...
    kait52 kait52 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am twenty and I am still haunted on what my parents did to me when I was little. They have done everything from emotional manipulation to mental abuse; they even have gotten...
    icanonlydeterminemyhappiness icanonlydeterminemyhappiness 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    In the past few years I have been shamed blamed and ridiculed for a decision to choose myself and my health over my own child. I had an abortion. Since then I have been diagnosed...
    MoonFlowerCloud MoonFlowerCloud 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    This divorce is taking far too long. It's ridiculous. Every time there seems to be some glimmer of hope, it's fake. Court dates get postponed multiple times. There's a new law for...
    newchick11 newchick11 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I was in foster care for a few years when I was younger and it was the worst time of my life. One family in particular made me into who I am today by making every day a living hell...
    lubesh lubesh 16-17, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hi ok so I have been a victim of emotional and mental nd a little bit of physical abuse in the past. I have been in about 4 relationships that were like that not all were physical...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    My ex-wife pushed me while our daughter was in my arms. Another occasion I was hit while our daughter was in my arms. There's a DVO against her now. Not a fan of domestic violence...
    EM1978 EM1978 36-40, M 6 days ago

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    Please look at my page about the abuse I was forced to endure by my mother Letters to the My mother and anyone that thinks child abuse is ok
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    LETTER TO MY MOTHER when I was 4, I remember standing at the door on the right side of the house in Waterloo, crying and begging you to take me to grandmas with the boys but you...
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I've always had a problem with my dad. I never felt like I was living up to my sister or being the kid he wanted. He pushed me to join sports but I had no interest in them. He made...
    emaseraptor emaseraptor 18-21, F a week ago

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    Sexual abuse. I was sexually abused as a child and it's the biggest secret I have. I suppressed the memories because I was very young but I always had flashbacks. They came...
    Dezaria Dezaria 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    Good Morning I really hope you find the time to read this email. I am a Police Officer in one of the biggest forces in the UK and I had the unfortunate experience of meeting...
    HARDY9849 HARDY9849 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I have experienced both. My parents never hit (except if they had a reason), but at elementary school I was always being hit by kids that didn't like me for whatever reason. They...
    evreno evreno 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I am going through a very messy break up at the moment and I need help and guidance. I have started a blog with all my experiences: diariesofdomesticviolence.blogspot.com.au/ I...
    melek1 melek1 22-25, F Jun 21

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    This is my abused Person. I did that. It was 4 years ago. But I think he Still can Get me Good for that, I am Grateful thathe didn't charged me for that.
    apsebatienhuye apsebatienhuye 56-60, F Jun 20

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    I am a domestic violence survivor. I joined a support group recently. And have been going back ever since. I cry every time I go. Because I am feeling more and more safe. I've been...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    domestic emotional abuse. help!!! anyone?
    MistyLunaria MistyLunaria 31-35 1 Response Jun 19

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    When my parents divorced I was only 5 years old. My mother had to work long hours and left me with my grandparents. My grandmother (step grandmother) was the meanest, and most...
    StarAngels StarAngels 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I was very verbally abused as a child, as well as mentally and emotionally and it took me years to realize and believe I was a victim of abuse even though I wasn't bruised and...
    TheSundanceGal TheSundanceGal 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 17

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    What does everyone think about domestic violence? What do you define as domestic violence? And, do you think in certain situations if provoked it's okay?
    Mfudgie Mfudgie 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    I'm new to this, but want a Christian domestic discipline relationship but yet it's so hard to find!
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 16

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    I had cancer at age 28. I went to my follow up appointments religiously for 22 years. Then I just stopped. Stupid I know. But I was depressed, having major back issues, surgery...
    lostit77 lostit77 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 16

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    There are several things, ranging from one-time events (like childhood surgery) to continuing events (like daycare abuse, neglect, and bullying). I have had several major...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 16

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    The experience of being sick, like chemo, radiation, and surgery-sick can be thought of as a gift. Once you survive, you have the insight of knowing what other cancer (soon to be...
    gigglebunnysparklebottom gigglebunnysparklebottom 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 16

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    I was beat as a child by an alcoholic deranged grandfather.
    LoganSurfing LoganSurfing 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 16

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    Although the title word is missing an "L", this doesn't limit my experience. Earlier tonight I asked if a woman being abused and was more innocent in what she knew would impact...
    QuiriousMe QuiriousMe 41-45, F 10 Responses Jun 16

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