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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 36-40, F Nov 18, 2013

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Basically, recently, there has been a lot of interest in child abuse victims in my area. Outside my family, no-one knows about what my step-father did to me. I mean, the whole...
    gigglesounds gigglesounds 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    Thankful I got out. If anyone has or had a similar experience you can message me. We can share our stories about how we got safe.
    Shermer Shermer 36-40, F Aug 22

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    I'm going to do this, ok. And I'm NOT going to cry, no. When I was 7 my father left us. I am a child of 7, the youngest, and the only girl. It was tough on most of us when my...
    gigglesounds gigglesounds 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    I tried to go to a church group once, to talk about what happened. I hadn't talked about it since I was a child. I sat and listened to others but said nothing. It was like I was...
    SleeplessNites SleeplessNites 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    As a child, I never knew unconditional love, affection, or attention. It was always conditional. I learned sex = love. I hurt for that little girl. All she wanted to do was be...
    SleeplessNites SleeplessNites 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    I'm still trying to escape Opus Dei. It's hard work after all the propaganda. I am escaping!
    Mstroig Mstroig 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    When I was ten and in the fifth grade, an obese boy in my class asked me to be his girlfriend. When I declined, he made up a lie about me, saying that I had *********** with a hot...
    gwisforlovers gwisforlovers 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 8

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    I met him when I was a freshman in high school, he was a senior. After he graduated I'd run into him every so often when I would be grocery shopping with my parents or out and...
    kay5262 kay5262 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    If anyone out there is survivor or going through domestic abuse and would like to talk or be listened to by some one who understands. Looking for understanding people who have had...
    tazygirl tazygirl 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    being blessed with such a rare talent, you could have been one of the best running backs ever. Adrian (all day) Peterson... You are a sick man. Abusing your two sons ESPECIALLY...
    Spencaa92 Spencaa92 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Want to share a bit of my story with Domestic violence: Well I had joined a dating website and met a guy in April 2011 and the first time we met we drank all night smoking...
    jlam123 jlam123 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Its never love when he calls you a ***** or a *****. Because no respectable man would ever call his woman names, especially ***** or *****. Is he truly sorry for leaving scars on...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I am an abuse victim survivor. And I think people need know that an abuser can be anybody. They can be black or white, male or female, mother or father. And anybody can be a victim...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Victim"...I hate that word. We are not "victims". We are some of the strongest, bravest women to walk the earth. We are survivors.  We are not stray helpless animals, we are the...
    TriciaFL TriciaFL 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I was in an abusive relationship for two years. I stayed because I moved across the country to be with a boyfriend and the only people I knew were his friends. When I finally tried...
    jlkelly01 jlkelly01 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I was engaged to who I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I didn't realize how much abuse I was receiving until I had him arrested. He finally hit me and I had...
    stacyda30 stacyda30 31-35, F a week ago

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    I have been abused before I know how it feels inside and out if you wanna talk I am here for you😊😊😊
    sillyrose1994 sillyrose1994 13-15, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I haven't really figured out how this works but i guess i just have to write about it. Well. I remember being abused by my mother. I haven't really talked about it with anyone...
    leaskyy leaskyy 18-21, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Education is the best way to end abuse.http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/PowerandControl.pdf
    sandmoon sandmoon 36-40, F 2 hrs ago

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    Survivor means I lived to tell the story. I will tell the story even though the ones who hurt me made me sure that no-one would ever believe me. I will tell the story even though...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 18

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    Where do I go from here, everytime I try to begin I start to cry. I`ve been told to let it all out, why is it so easy to say something like that when you aren`t the one who lived...
    0utlander 0utlander 56-60, M Aug 19

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    I feel like I have more problems now that I've admitted to myself I've been abused, than when I was actually being abused. I'm in therapy but it's been a year already. I've made...
    wanderinggrl wanderinggrl 26-30, T 3 Responses Aug 26

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    I`m sorry, so sorry for this but yet again I can`t get passed being seven. Things get worse and I have tried to put onto screen what I have kept in my head for 52yrs. I can`t, it`s...
    0utlander 0utlander 56-60, M Aug 27

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    I was slammed the other day when posting an experience under this heading. I am in a domestic discipline relationship. My husband is my leader, my HoH, my love, my life. I am not...
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I think about Janay Rice. I pray I'll have the strength to leave any abuser ... whether emotional, physical or sexual. I've done it before and know I am stronger because of what I...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    My mom was really nice at first until we moved back to Florida from Georgia. Her and my dad were trying to work things out but she had a mental illness and bipolar. They say that...
    amersonjazzy amersonjazzy 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Hi everyone! I created this group because I have yet seen a group Specifically to domestic discipline boot camp. Post your comments, concerns, questions, stories, where to find...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I lost 2 members of my family while we r struggling to get out of our burning house , it was horrible .. It hurts that they didn't make it .. It's true we took them out of the...
    farnoush farnoush 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I went back around the same time it's brought the side back the awful angry nasty side why for what? That place holds what scares me the most my nightmare It holds what should of...
    cailowe cailowe 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    2 years ago I was raped by a stranger while backpacking in Europe--I was alone at the time because I was en route to meet up my cousin that night. After a terrible night of doctors...
    imasurvivor411 imasurvivor411 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    Boot camp is on hold. In a strange way I'm really upset about this. I have asked Sir for a boot camp a few weeks ago. Just a week ago I was diagnosed with shingles. I have been in...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 8

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    My husband and I have struggled with maintaining a domestic discipline marriage for years now. I was the one to bring it up to him. But we always kind of fissled out of doing it...
    meganluck21 meganluck21 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 9

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    If you are reading this message, you too are a survivor. If you are not reading it, then you may or may not be dead.
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am a survivor of rape. I was a victim of an ex-boyfriend and he raped me in January of 2014. I need some support and all of that to get through this. It would be nice if someone...
    momoshep142 momoshep142 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    There seems to be a black cloud that follows me everywhere I go. I tried to leave my abusive boyfriend yesterday. I already had a bag packed and hidden away. We got into a...
    BrandNewChic BrandNewChic 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    By the time I was 24 years old, I long ago passed that line between social drinking and alcoholism and, in that nebulous alcoholic fog and exaggerated egoism, smirked at relatives...
    cmmacneil cmmacneil 51-55, M 1 day ago

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    My best friend was abused as a child and from the stories he told me, I am still really distraught over what his Dad did to him. It was physical and emotional abuse. People always...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    where do you start... at the beginning I guess. It all started when I was 4, I can remember trying to tell my mother about it,, She either didn't want to except it or didn't...
    wnme wnme 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Anyone knowing my own personal experiences won't be supprised that I'm against it, but what is "it" exactly? Child abuse. It's not always sexual, not even physical... it's taking...
    ValR ValR 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    When I was 4 years old my parents were divorced. I remember 2 police cars driving up the road while my mother and dad were yelling at each other. My mother got custody of me and my...
    mymindhurts mymindhurts 18-21, F Sep 4