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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 64 People

    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    It's been 3 years since I left him.

    I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that because I am still in the "victim closet" that my relationship will eventually suffer. So here I am. My new boyfriend knows of my past and...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    Iv recently just left my partner due to

    domestic abuse, he first hit me the start of this year. he grabbed me by the neck on the bed, shouting abuse saying he hates me, I could not breath, afterwards he called the police on himself because he felt bad. I thought that would be the end, but it carried on, he slapped me...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 41-45, F Nov 18, 2013

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    I'm also a child abuse survivor this is the only thing destroying my heart my soul my life this pain of feeling someone used my weakness took my innocence and made me a destroyed...
    emmadarko emmadarko 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 30

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    I am always available to talk to anyone struggling with the same history. There is no right or wrong response. Pain manifests in ways that cause a reaction. Freeing the person...
    FrictionFractal FrictionFractal 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 1

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    Almost my entire childhood, I was a victim of my mother's abusive boyfriend's violence. My father was out of the picture due to illness. He was hospitalized for most of my...
    Kenpachi00 Kenpachi00 26-30 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    ChantouKimmy ChantouKimmy 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 20

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    This is only a small amount of the abuse that has happened in my childhood. It happened by many people for a long time. But this is what I need to talk about right now. I have a...
    ChantelSurvived ChantelSurvived 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Family punching bag. Outcast. That is what I've been my whole life. My mother abandoned me when I was 2. My father took responsibility yet left me with my grandparents for a couple...
    H3Rm1t H3Rm1t 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    There is a life after abuse. You can survive. You will find your happiness again. Discover how strong you really are and understand what you want and how you choose to be.
    marblerun marblerun 22-25, F Mar 29

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    I had a flashback the other day. I went to get in the shower and it happened. I was back in that house, in the bathroom, the water in the tub was filling with scolding hot water...
    darebearsworld darebearsworld 16-17, F Mar 18

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    When I was like 5 my moms boyfriend would abuse me and my brothers everyday until she got home it was a living hell.
    Marines75 Marines75 13-15, M 7 Responses Mar 22

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    When I was on this website into thousand 13 I posted a story about my child abuse. That part of my life is now behind me. I am grateful for a wonderful psychologist and a wonderful...
    lovlife777 lovlife777 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    My twin Brother and I were adopted when we were 3 1/2 this was in 1959. For the first year or so I remember everythings felt fine, then the abuse started..if we did something she...
    doncr58 doncr58 56-60 Apr 2

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    My twin Brother and I were adopted when we were 3 1/2 this was in 1959. For the first year or so I remember everythings felt fine, then the abuse started..if we did something she...
    doncr58 doncr58 56-60 1 Response Apr 2

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    My twin Brother and I were adopted when we were 3 1/2 this was in 1959. For the first year or so I remember everythings felt fine, then the abuse started..if we did something she...
    doncr58 doncr58 56-60 Apr 2

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    The Devil Died On Easter There once was a woman born in the 1930's. Said to be blessed for she was born on Christmas eve. This girl was brought up in wealth, and married in her...
    Disobey007 Disobey007 22-25, F Apr 3

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    I have been dealing with childhood abuse for over 50 years as my mother was emotionally, verbally and physically abusive. My father was basically very passive, pretended not to be...
    musicman10 musicman10 66-70, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Alright i was molested by my great uncle, brother and aunt. My stepmom went crazy after her first born died when i was 9. He died when my dad was in jail. My dad had to go to the...
    onefedupgirl onefedupgirl 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    a problem I feel powerless too...I stayed with my best friends sister(jess) after my dad died and she became a good friend also she much older. She always had trouble finding love...
    ericaswife11 ericaswife11 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    What doesn't kill you mentally ***** you up.
    YesSir3845 YesSir3845 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    I look at the pictures of me from 3 years ago and I wonder...how did nobody know? How did they not see the bruises and cuts? How did nobody see that I was being torchered, beat...
    darebearsworld darebearsworld 16-17, F Mar 21

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    I have this crush on a boy at my school. But, I don't know how I will react to dating and having to be physical towards him (holding hands, talking, etc.) I don't know if I am...
    darebearsworld darebearsworld 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    When I was five years old, I did something to upset my father. I still don't know what that was, but I know what the consequences were. My sleeves were never long enough to cover...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 29

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    I was very fortunate to have two very loving parents whom did everything they could for my sisters and I growing up. Dad came into our lives when I was only four. He in effect...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I was sexually abused as a child by multiple men. I grew up in a verbally abusive house hold. Struggled with self esteem issues all my life. Witnessed domestic abuse in my home...
    fortheloveoflu fortheloveoflu 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I hate all kinds of domestic violence. This includes physical and mental abuse of any kind. I am a recent survivor of an abusive and drunken husband. He assaulted, raped, kicked...
    singleredheadfemale singleredheadfemale 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    im alive and im grateful. but i went though hell broken bones, bruises, nasty remarks. i was so broken. 2 yrs later im finally able to start talking about it. i used to feel shame...
    cooper3366 cooper3366 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    If somebody hasn't been affected by narcissism than they will think your making it up when you talk about your abuser as a narcacist. Which just adds to the abuse and hurts when...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 17 hrs ago

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    What a loving domestic discipline marriage IS - a consensual, beautiful act of love -mature adults who honor, love & respect each other - a marriage with a clear leader and a...
    mollyhearts mollyhearts 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 4

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    From the age of 6 to 11 I was sexually abused by a family friend's son who was only 3 years older than me. I told a counselor about this who told my mom who was furious at me for...
    beatlesluvr821 beatlesluvr821 18-21, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I don't understand abuse within a relationship. If you truly love someone why would you want to hurt them with words or actions. When you love someone you want to see them smile...
    Searchingforreallove Searchingforreallove 26-30, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Thinking about death and life every night. side by side life and death. My insomnia is really horrible. I stop taking meds at this moment,and i've been taking counseling. sorry i...
    Juri0902 Juri0902 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    It is very easy to become an active member of the group. You can announce your desire to help female survivors here and you can be got in touch here or on your whiteboard or of...
    hasmita hasmita 61-65, M 5 days ago

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    So tonight the scar on shoulder was noticed by someone who's important to me. I was asked how I got it and not wanting to lie i said DV. I spent 5yrs with him and 4yrs were...
    goodwitch011070 goodwitch011070 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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