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I Am a Domestic Abuse Survivor

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    Nothingness

    I was beaten for 15 years, severely. I finally got the nerve to get away, police were called and 2 months later he broke in my house beat me, tried to kill me and did all of this in front of our kids. He was put in jail but is now getting out basically scott free. I am lost...
    justadreamer912 justadreamer912 41-45, F Nov 18, 2013

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    Once Bitten

    it started like all relationships everything was perfect i thought i had met someone i could share my life with i think even then i was uneasy about things he asked me 4 times to marry him i gave in eventualy though i dident love him i think it was more to stop him asking the...
    sub63 sub63 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2011

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    Abuse

    I am a man and I am no angel. I have never ever laid a hand on a woman in anger. During my first marriage which lasted 20 years my then wife hit me several times and almost broke my jaw twice. I would grab her wrists to stop the violence but never hit her back. I just want the...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 8, 2011

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    Hope and Love: the Reasons I Stayed So Long

    I was with an abusive man for over 10 years. One of the main reasons I stayed in my abusive relationship for so long was for the children, we now have four. Another reason was that I was praying and believing God to turn the situation around. I had been praying for my...
    Tee11 Tee11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    How I Love You!

    He claimed to love me and yet he could beat me.I never understood that.I got away...........and to this day I fear him...........I hate that I am giving him this control................I wish I could just shake it off but the pain is too strong to forget.I have not spoken to him...
    Atreasure Atreasure 46-50, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Iv recently just left my partner due to

    domestic abuse, he first hit me the start of this year. he grabbed me by the neck on the bed, shouting abuse saying he hates me, I could not breath, afterwards he called the police on himself because he felt bad. I thought that would be the end, but it carried on, he slapped me...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    Part 2

    so i had him arrested he was charged with domestic battery on me and my daughter and assault with a weapon to my daughter the things was that no molestation charges were put on him because i didnt see him penetrate our baby girl though he was bathing with her that day and i...
    PRAESPERO2519 PRAESPERO2519 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    It's been 3 years since I left him.

    I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that because I am still in the "victim closet" that my relationship will eventually suffer. So here I am. My new boyfriend knows of my past and...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    Moving On..

    I was married for 3 and half years. At first things seemed good, then slowly my husband turned into a very angry abusive man. There were several major explosions of anger before our son was born, but I believed I married for life and just prayed things would get better and that...
    Alex8888 Alex8888 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    So Glad To Be Free

    I never even saw it coming.  He probably saw me coming, though. I'd only had one relationship before him, with the father of my twins.  We broke up while I was pregnant.  almost 10 years later, he showed up. I'd know him in college, and ran into him by chance...
    dejavu412 dejavu412 41-45 Nov 6, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Growing up, there were 5 siblings, I'm the middle kid. When I was a teenager, my father would decide not to talk to one of us younger kids for months at a time...the 2 older...
    guitarman493 guitarman493 61-65, M 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I guess survivor may not be an accurate term. Although still alive, technically having survived, the agony of my past haunts me day and night. If I could pick a song that best...
    pinkbinkybilly pinkbinkybilly 56-60, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    When i was a child i used to get punch,to get hit and to get wounded by my father usually when he asked me something i wouldn't answer. There were times when he saw me riding at a...
    annieIn21 annieIn21 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    I hate child abuse and child abusers. My mom has hit me until I was on the ground bleeding with 4 of my teeth knocked out. Too everyone getting abused out there, just know that you...
    Anonymous378 Anonymous378 13-15, M 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Domestic: Emotional, mental, and physical
    Multiple15 Multiple15 36-40, M 10 hrs ago

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    I am a victim of domestic violence
    Multiple15 Multiple15 36-40, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I was about 3 1/2 when it first started. My mom had divorced my real dad and was dating my aunt husbands brother. I never knew this this years later when they split up and a chance...
    bobroberts123 bobroberts123 66-70, M 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    I was once sexually abused by my former gynecologist. I was very young & couldn't believe what was happening to me. I was totally frozen. I never told anyone. Plus, I didn't have...
    Bluetangerine Bluetangerine 46-50, F 20 hrs ago

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    I will have to write later. But I was in a 3 yr relationship with a man who was physically abusive. He would literally pin me down on the bed & threaten to kill me. He would have...
    Bluetangerine Bluetangerine 46-50, F 20 hrs ago

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    Mine was long ago. To this day I've never had a significant other, let alone sex. It terrifies me to the core. All the damn what ifs. I was so young when I was sexually abused by...
    gr8love gr8love 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    It has been 2 weeks now since the incident happened. I am getting better and now i am running a fundraising campaign to help myself: please message me if you would like to help...
    pensyjenmay pensyjenmay 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I was in a relationship for about 5-6 years. I just ended that relationship 2 months ago. He threatened to kill me and take my money and the punched me in the face. He is facing...
    marilyn8302 marilyn8302 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Some days I don't feel like a survivor. How can something that happened fifty-eight years ago reduce me to a quivering mass of fear and horror? How can a scent awaken memories...
    scarred4lifeby5 scarred4lifeby5 61-65, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    It was never sexual but it was mental and physical. I would be beaten for the least little thing and pushed beyond breaking point. There may be no physical scars but the mental...
    Naominatrually Naominatrually 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I sometimes still have nightmares about my abuse as a child. My mom and my stepdad used to beat the hell out of me. I had no one to go to. Family members acted as if I was ok so...
    Lovelessgal Lovelessgal 31-35, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Normal Sex? After years of being abused as a child, I’ve always had issues with sex. As a teenager I had a pretty unhealthy relationship with sex. I was always conscious that I...
    CoopSmith CoopSmith 26-30, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I am writing this to shed light on domestic violence and what happened to me. At first it was only on my Facebook and was set to "Friends Only" but I am now making it public and...
    Taylor62298 Taylor62298 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I recently decided to stop speaking to my mother. I know she will never admit to what she did, but I was able to overlook it in the interest of my brother. This summer it became...
    AliM3ss AliM3ss 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I was raped..... But I am not a survivor. I was raped..... and it is slowly killing me inside..... Ya I told the police. But I have yet to really talk to anyone about it. I...
    aschr824 aschr824 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 22

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    I joined this group optimistically hoping that one day the title would ring true for me. That one day I could sincerely feel like a survivor and not just a victim. Today I can...
    TheGirlFromJupiter TheGirlFromJupiter 18-21 3 Responses Aug 21

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    You got knocked up and then you served your little girl up to your sicko husband while you were at work knowing exactly what he was doing to me. Yes, I do know for a fact that you...
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 20

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    RITE IS RITE WRONG IS WRONG DNA DOESNT CHANGE THE RULES
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I was physically, sexually, emotionally, and verbally abused at the psychiatric institution: Sempervirens Psychiatric Crisis Center, Humboldt County Mental Health in California...
    AlexWasp AlexWasp 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I am a victim who was fortunate to survivor and thrive after abuse. Unfortunately, my close friend is now in a similar situation and I can't get through to her. She knows my story...
    JennSadai JennSadai 36-40 2 Responses Aug 20

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    This whole Jared Fogle (Subway guy) thing has me really disturbed. He lives not far from me. I was abused as a boy. It's never left me. I never told, and the abuser went...
    tachem46032 tachem46032 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    But nobody believes me. Because I'm a man. Because while sexual coercion and emotional abuse isn't something that happens to men. Because men always want it. Men are the only...
    OrigamiGuy15 OrigamiGuy15 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    My Life: . No real dad - I was the spawn of a one night stand. . abusive step dad - beatings for no reason, beat my mum and raped her in front of me. Constant bullying from him...
    Paroxic Paroxic 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Being mocked for not being able to get over this is messed up but when it's my actual abuser doing it to me, I can't even deal.
    Charper44 Charper44 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 17

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    My MN mother abused my cats to assert her power over me & to feed off my pain, helplessness and terror. I always felt so guilty that I couldn't protect them from her that I never...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I have shared my story on "i am a burn victim" a few years back on this same account. I have come to realize that im not a victim, im a survivor and im proud and blessed to be one...
    saved27 saved27 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Thanks Mae for giving me courage to write this I am a survivor of Rape many years ago . I was lucky I had wonderful support . Rape is a awful thing that takes away your self...
    Iamtheoriginaldancemom Iamtheoriginaldancemom 46-50, F 8 Responses Aug 15

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    Anger is not something to be ashamed of. Anger is a natural response to injustice and can help break the cycle of abuse. Anger is a crucial part of recovery. Two weeks ago on 7/31...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F Aug 15