I Am a Feminist But I Don't Hate Men

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    Two things: One being

    that the "squeakiest wheel gets the grease", keep this in mind when you read the second thing. Two, is there is a difference. The kind of feminism you see in the media, the extreme, irrational ball busting kind is not the kind that I know. Now, I think that kind of "feminism...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2014

    I Just Hate Sexist Ideas.

    I can take a joke about being in the kitchen, making a sammich, and stupid jokes like that. I've got a sense of humour like many other feminists, we're not all stick up the *** type people. Get that thought out of your head. I can't stand the thought that women should be weaker...
    Yoru Yoru
    18-21
    1 Response Jan 20, 2012

    The problem for me is this: In general,

    women care for men & children, whether we know them or not. But it is generally accepted that women & children should feel unsafe in the company of strange men. The "some" bad men sure seems like a lot when we are too afraid to go out at night or to let our kids play outside. I...
    ChattyCathy80 ChattyCathy80
    36-40, F
    Aug 9, 2014

    I think this experience group is problematic.

    It assumes that feminists inherently hate men, which is not the case. Yes, there are few feminists in existence that give feminism a bad name by denouncing all men and believing in a possible matriarchal society, which is a different extreme. I am a feminist, and I do not hate...
    lovelymoon11 lovelymoon11
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    Feminism isn't about hating men.

    It isn't about women being superior. Feminism doesn't have a look or style. Wear makeup, don't wear makeup, take 3 hours to get dressed, take 3 minutes. Feminism doesn't say "men don't have problems." Men are bullied, pressured, raped, beaten, and humans. Feminism isn't about...
    behavedmisfit behavedmisfit
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 21, 2015

    I Don't Hate Men, I Just Hate It When They Tell Me What I Can Or Can't Do

    It wasn't until recently that I realized that I was a feminist. It happened when I was riding home with my brother (can't remember if it was after karate or after play practice) we were having the usual argument that we sometimes get into where he always says "Women should just...
    Narutowolf77 Narutowolf77
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Aug 5, 2011

    My Two Cents

      I think the feminist movement has sometimes gone to extremes and I do not agree with extremist views of any kind. I do believe in equal rights as human beings that we are. Period. I do not think we have to compete with men, simply because it is not a race and physically...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 23, 2008

    Shouldn't Even Be Necessary...

    ...to have to write such a thing. No I don't hate men. And neither to 99% of all feminists who have ever lived or will live. Feminism isn't about promoting women (in any sense) at the expense of men. It's about ensuring that we can operate at the same levels, are considered and...
    NaughtyGirlIsNaughty NaughtyGirlIsNaughty
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Sep 21, 2013

    I believe that women should have the same rights

    as men, have control over their bodies and reproductive organs and get equal pay for equal work.
    rubyjuly rubyjuly
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 5, 2015

    What Is A Feminist?

    I believe being a feminist is being someone who pursues equality of genders (correct me if I'm wrong). I am so sick of people telling me the feminist theory is a lie, and I am also sick of "feminists" who are trying to "gain control" rather than search for equality. I've run into...
    semistar semistar
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jun 12, 2013

    I Am Looking For A Open Minded Female Feminist But Doesn't Hate Men For A Loving Anr Or Abf Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 22, 2013

    Given That I'm A Man, And Gay ...

    ... it would be very strange if I did hate men.BtW, I do think it very strange for any rational man who's not a hidebound conservative NOT to be a feminist.
    GeorgeTSLC GeorgeTSLC
    66-70, M
    3 Responses Oct 7, 2012

    I Just Don'T Understand

    I have very weird views in life. I know. But one thing that's never been weird is knowing I believe in sex equality, and that no man (or woman for that matter) can tell me to do something and make it me do it. But looking at some of the groups who call themselves "submissive...
    TheLavenderPetal TheLavenderPetal
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2013

    I am not surprised that the way some choose to

    shoot down feminism is by conjuring up the idea that it's about hating men. That's not much of a jump from Hitler saying Jewish people were trying to enslave the rest of the world. Or highly conservative Republicans saying homosexuals are pedophiles. *Don't get in your...
    SashaAmazon SashaAmazon
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 20, 2014

    I Am A Femenist Because It Is Still Very Much Necessary

    I work in a largely male-dominated place. I'm one of the youngest females in the area and although I am on the butt end of some pretty sleazy comments (take-em with a grain of salt) I constantly have to over-perform in my workplace to be taken as seriously as the men in my...
    Chamberlane Chamberlane
    70+, M
    6 Responses May 17, 2013

    Trite Old Habit

      I returned to college after 19 years of being a wife and mother. I went to learn, not to get a career or because I felt any pressure to go. I selected classes that I found interesting and enlightening, so I took Women’s History. I have to say that the class really...
    LillithTimeless LillithTimeless
    56-60, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2009

    I Am Mom and Dad All Rolled In One

    I am a feminist. I think women  deserve to vote, receive equal pay and equal  treatment  under the law and obvioulsy deserve to live life according to their beliefs and ideals ( not those of their parents, community or husband). In that aspect I am very much a feminist...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jun 19, 2010

    You can be feminist AND not hate men in this

    generation's definition of "Feminism"? 2014 has shocked me so far.
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper
    22-25, M
    Jan 11, 2014

    Certainly

    There is nothing wrong with men.  Similarly, there is nothing wrong with women.  The reasoning for my feminism is the fact that women are often viewed as the weaker gender.  Maybe that is true in another person's eyes, but that possible fact (which cannot be proven) can never...
    2bOrNot2BBUDS 2bOrNot2BBUDS
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2012

    I work part time doing stuff during events,

    dancing, smiling and welcoming people. I dress artistic clothes, not quite revealing but some are tight and feminine. I work with guys too and some of them seem to get pissed off because I get more job offers in that field than them... I just think it doesn't make sense their...
    blackberries blackberries
    31-35, F
    Jul 18, 2015

    How can anyone disagree with the aims of

    feminism? To do so just seems like going against the laws of life. Of course a woman is equal in worth to a man, and should always be treated as such, and of course, vice versa. It seems like there is so much silly, wasted discourse on this subject. To argue and disagree that...
    someotherme someotherme
    36-40, F
    Dec 30, 2015

    Fellow Feminist. Glad There Are Some Of Us Here

    No, siree bob and no ma'am! I only hate what some men do and what some women do that some men do. I love it when men are loving and kind and when women are assertive and loving and kind. I love it when all of humanity act with dignity, respect, and equality. ty for having me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 23, 2011

    That's not what the **** it is,

    ya dumbasses. It's like saying that the lgbt community is a Hetero hating group because they want equal rights like straight people. That's not what the **** IT IS!!
    PanicAtTheDiscount PanicAtTheDiscount
    16-17, F
    Jul 15, 2014

    Feminism Means Equality!

    When did feminism become such a loathsome and vile concept?? I have always believed that it simply means to believe in gender equality, that ones destiny should not be shaped by gender but by choice, and that females are entitled to the same human rights and freedoms as males. I...
    gumshoejane2 gumshoejane2
    36-40, F
    19 Responses Dec 7, 2011
    CompassionateCoffee CompassionateCoffee
    16-17
    Apr 21, 2014

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    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jan 8, 2014

    Feminist Of Variety

    I am  currently a Gender and Women's Studies major and the courses that I am taking have really played a role in determing how I see myself, as a woman, with respect to men. I do realize that a lot of the oppression is due to patriarchy as well as this system of oppression...
    pmcclen2 pmcclen2
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Oct 12, 2009

    No I'm Not Gay Or A Woman.

    I don't hate anyone and I'm all for feminism but more for happiness, what makes you happy?! Go do it and kick *** at it!!!!!! Rules: Don't whine Don't be unfair Don't hurt someone Don't let someone hurt you Understand the difference between voilence and self defence Understand...
    Acchbellon Acchbellon
    18-21, M
    Jan 20, 2013

    There`s just one thing a man wants from a

    woman: obedience. The rest is already attached.
    Tatius Tatius
    26-30, F
    Aug 3, 2015

    Men Need To Succeed

    There are actually a lot of things I admire about the male mind-set, and want to emulate. For example, men define themselves by what they do, who they are, and how much they make. Men need to be DOING something, whether it's racing a car, flying a plane, building something...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    31-35
    5 Responses Jul 20, 2010

    The fact that this group has to exist is pretty

    shameful... Society needs to learn the difference. If you hate men, you're not a feminist; you're a misandrist -- and you give those of us who are fighting for equality a bad name.
    Boulier Boulier
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    A true feminist does not hate men

    and believes in equal rights for women. This group is sadly mistaken.
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy
    18-21, F
    Aug 11, 2014

    This shouldn't have to be said.

    You're not a feminist who doesn't hate men, you're just a feminist. If you hate men, you're not a feminist, and shouldn't call yourself one. Jesus.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses May 25, 2015

    And I Don't, Either...

    I've been relatively lucky---loved and cherished by father, brother, uncles, grandfather and male cousins growing up; I've always had wonderful male friends as well. I've also been a loyal friend in return, and married a man I dearly loved. I don't like some of the things I've...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Aug 24, 2013

    I'm a feminist but a lot are way to pushy sorry

    lacy green but you have to be tactful when creating change. Pretty annoying also when they blame "man" for everything when it's both men and women fault but what ever it's life.
    ballorromeo1 ballorromeo1
    18-21, M
    Sep 13, 2014

    The way I see it is men are my equals,

    no more, no less. I don't understand anyone who takes things to an extreme.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 27, 2015

    I am pro equality and I seriously don't

    understand why some women feel the need to put men down in order to get this "equality" that they strive for. People should support one another and in our modern society we need to slowly back away from the gender roles set before us.
    redrosexxvii redrosexxvii
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 14, 2015

    If you are a feminist

    and you don't hate men then may I suggest that you take a good long look at the movement. Look at the people in charge. Look at the rivers of money and who is benefitting. If you are really an egalitarian and you don't hate men, the responsibility is on YOU to ensure that the...
    dc69 dc69
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 14, 2013

    Never Have!

    I am all for womens rights, but not for man hating. Or hating of any kind to be honest. I believe that people can be very extreme about their feminist beliefs. Fighting for your rights as a woman, should not mean hating men.
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 15, 2009

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