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I Am a Feminist But I Don't Hate Men

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    The problem for me is this: In general,

    women care for men & children, whether we know them or not. But it is generally accepted that women & children should feel unsafe in the company of strange men. The "some" bad men sure seems like a lot when we are too afraid to go out at night or to let our kids play outside. I...
    ChattyCathy80 ChattyCathy80 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I Am A Femenist Because It Is Still Very Much Necessary

    I work in a largely male-dominated place. I'm one of the youngest females in the area and although I am on the butt end of some pretty sleazy comments (take-em with a grain of salt) I constantly have to over-perform in my workplace to be taken as seriously as the men in my...
    Chamberlane Chamberlane 70+, M 8 Responses May 17, 2013

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    CompassionateCoffee CompassionateCoffee 13-15 Apr 21

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    If you are a feminist

    and you don't hate men then may I suggest that you take a good long look at the movement. Look at the people in charge. Look at the rivers of money and who is benefitting. If you are really an egalitarian and you don't hate men, the responsibility is on YOU to ensure that the...
    dc69 dc69 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Men Need To Succeed

    There are actually a lot of things I admire about the male mind-set, and want to emulate. For example, men define themselves by what they do, who they are, and how much they make. Men need to be DOING something, whether it's racing a car, flying a plane, building something...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 6 Responses Jul 20, 2010

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    I'm a feminist but a lot are way to pushy sorry

    lacy green but you have to be tactful when creating change. Pretty annoying also when they blame "man" for everything when it's both men and women fault but what ever it's life.
    ballorromeo1 ballorromeo1 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I Just Don'T Understand

    I have very weird views in life. I know. But one thing that's never been weird is knowing I believe in sex equality, and that no man (or woman for that matter) can tell me to do something and make it me do it. But looking at some of the groups who call themselves "submissive...
    TheLavenderPetal TheLavenderPetal 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    Shouldn't Even Be Necessary...

    ...to have to write such a thing. No I don't hate men. And neither to 99% of all feminists who have ever lived or will live. Feminism isn't about promoting women (in any sense) at the expense of men. It's about ensuring that we can operate at the same levels, are considered and...
    NaughtyGirlIsNaughty NaughtyGirlIsNaughty 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    I Am Mom and Dad All Rolled In One

    I am a feminist. I think women  deserve to vote, receive equal pay and equal  treatment  under the law and obvioulsy deserve to live life according to their beliefs and ideals ( not those of their parents, community or husband). In that aspect I am very much a feminist...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 19, 2010

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    I Don't Hate Men, I Just Hate It When They Tell Me What I Can Or Can't Do

    It wasn't until recently that I realized that I was a feminist. It happened when I was riding home with my brother (can't remember if it was after karate or after play practice) we were having the usual argument that we sometimes get into where he always says "Women should just...
    Narutowolf77 Narutowolf77 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    Purring Like A True Feminist

    This morning I read by pure accident a posting of a well established female EP member that disturbed me a lot. I didn't want to react directly to it but I decided to type a quick posting of my feelings here. I like to think that I'm a fair and openminded human being, let alone...
    ValR ValR 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    What Is A Feminist?

    I believe being a feminist is being someone who pursues equality of genders (correct me if I'm wrong). I am so sick of people telling me the feminist theory is a lie, and I am also sick of "feminists" who are trying to "gain control" rather than search for equality. I've run into...
    semistar semistar 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    Well This Is A Bit Ridiculous

    http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Christian/1754399 Okay I'm going to be honest, I'm a Christian and I love God but if I have to listen to a man tell me what I can or cannot do I'd rather stay single forever sorry not gonna happen. I make my own choices if I do get...
    Narutowolf77 Narutowolf77 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    That's not what the **** it is,

    ya dumbasses. It's like saying that the lgbt community is a Hetero hating group because they want equal rights like straight people. That's not what the **** IT IS!!
    PanicAtTheDiscount PanicAtTheDiscount 13-15, F Jul 15

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    Never Have!

    I am all for womens rights, but not for man hating. Or hating of any kind to be honest. I believe that people can be very extreme about their feminist beliefs. Fighting for your rights as a woman, should not mean hating men.
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 15, 2009

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    Trite Old Habit

      I returned to college after 19 years of being a wife and mother. I went to learn, not to get a career or because I felt any pressure to go. I selected classes that I found interesting and enlightening, so I took Women’s History. I have to say that the class really...
    LillithTimeless LillithTimeless 56-60, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2009

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    Feminist Of Variety

    I am  currently a Gender and Women's Studies major and the courses that I am taking have really played a role in determing how I see myself, as a woman, with respect to men. I do realize that a lot of the oppression is due to patriarchy as well as this system of oppression...
    pmcclen2 pmcclen2 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Feminism Means Equality!

    When did feminism become such a loathsome and vile concept?? I have always believed that it simply means to believe in gender equality, that ones destiny should not be shaped by gender but by choice, and that females are entitled to the same human rights and freedoms as males. I...
    gumshoejane2 gumshoejane2 36-40, F 22 Responses Dec 7, 2011

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    Certainly

    There is nothing wrong with men.  Similarly, there is nothing wrong with women.  The reasoning for my feminism is the fact that women are often viewed as the weaker gender.  Maybe that is true in another person's eyes, but that possible fact (which cannot be proven) can never...
    2bOrNot2BBUDS 2bOrNot2BBUDS 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2012

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    Fellow Feminist. Glad There Are Some Of Us Here

    No, siree bob and no ma'am! I only hate what some men do and what some women do that some men do. I love it when men are loving and kind and when women are assertive and loving and kind. I love it when all of humanity act with dignity, respect, and equality. ty for having me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 23, 2011

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    Given That I'm A Man, And Gay ...

    ... it would be very strange if I did hate men.BtW, I do think it very strange for any rational man who's not a hidebound conservative NOT to be a feminist.
    GeorgeTSLC GeorgeTSLC 61-65, M 4 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    And I Don't, Either...

    I've been relatively lucky---loved and cherished by father, brother, uncles, grandfather and male cousins growing up; I've always had wonderful male friends as well. I've also been a loyal friend in return, and married a man I dearly loved. I don't like some of the things I've...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 7 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    Two things: One being

    that the "squeakiest wheel gets the grease", keep this in mind when you read the second thing. Two, is there is a difference. The kind of feminism you see in the media, the extreme, irrational ball busting kind is not the kind that I know. Now, I think that kind of "feminism...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    No I'm Not Gay Or A Woman.

    I don't hate anyone and I'm all for feminism but more for happiness, what makes you happy?! Go do it and kick *** at it!!!!!! Rules: Don't whine Don't be unfair Don't hurt someone Don't let someone hurt you Understand the difference between voilence and self defence Understand...
    Acchbellon Acchbellon 18-21, M Jan 20, 2013

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    I Just Hate Sexist Ideas.

    I can take a joke about being in the kitchen, making a sammich, and stupid jokes like that. I've got a sense of humour like many other feminists, we're not all stick up the *** type people. Get that thought out of your head. I can't stand the thought that women should be weaker...
    Yoru Yoru 18-21 1 Response Jan 20, 2012

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    My Two Cents

      I think the feminist movement has sometimes gone to extremes and I do not agree with extremist views of any kind. I do believe in equal rights as human beings that we are. Period. I do not think we have to compete with men, simply because it is not a race and physically...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    You can be feminist AND not hate men in this

    generation's definition of "Feminism"? 2014 has shocked me so far.
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    I Am Looking For A Open Minded Female Feminist But Doesn't Hate Men For A Loving Anr Or Abf Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    I am not surprised that the way some choose to

    shoot down feminism is by conjuring up the idea that it's about hating men. That's not much of a jump from Hitler saying Jewish people were trying to enslave the rest of the world. Or highly conservative Republicans saying homosexuals are pedophiles. *Don't get in your...
    SashaAmazon SashaAmazon 31-35, F 1 Response May 20

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    Awesome Dad Styles Daughter's Hair,

    Breaks Internet By Elise Solé, Shine Staff Posts By Elise Solé, Shine Staff | Parenting – 23 hours agoDaddy Doin' WorkCall it the "Daddy Wars." One Los Angeles blogger sparked them when a photo he posted of himself and his two daughters on Twitter and Facebook...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 8

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    A true feminist does not hate men

    and believes in equal rights for women. This group is sadly mistaken.
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F Aug 11

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