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I Am a Femme Lesbian

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    Butches Who Doubt You're Gay(ness)

    Hi Ladies, I was just curious if any of you have ever encountered what I will call "butch or boi disbelief" in your queerness, because you looked too straight. It's one thing for straight men and women to not believe that I am gay, but when I have people in my own queer...
    msriot msriot 26-30, F 21 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    I live in the UK and I've really want to meet

    someone who is right for me...please feel free to message if you live around London/ essex area :')
    KeiraRhiann KeiraRhiann 16-17, F 1 Response May 19

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    After dating a few guys,

    I didn't feel anything special...I now accept that I am a lesbian but I'm scared...what if I don't feel anything special towards girls either! I have never dated a girl 😔
    KeiraRhiann KeiraRhiann 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I am a lesbian and I'm super girly.

    I love the color pink and I wear high heels and skirts. Its so hard to find other girly lesbians.
    DontBlameMee DontBlameMee 18-21, F 3 Responses May 13

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    I'm such a girly girl.

    I think too many people picture lesbians with short hair and cross dressed clothing. Don't get me wrong, Dykes are awesome and I have mad respect for them! Though I don't like the stereotype. You can be girly and also like girls. Just my opinion. What do you think?
    wildflower444 wildflower444 18-21, F 7 Responses May 4

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    I'm not actually a lesbian.

    . But I love femme lesbian for embracing their feminity.. I admire them for being their selves but at the same time loving their own female beauty.. :)
    Aya0324 Aya0324 16-17, F Mar 2

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    I don't get hate for being gay I just get

    doubted. Maybe it's my age(14) or maybe it's because I'm a fem. I am 100% positive I like girls and I'd love chat with other girls who know the femme struggle! So message me :)
    Rforever Rforever 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    So my ex-wife was funny,

    intelligent and beautiful. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find that again.
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    Girly Lesbian

    Hello, I am new to the site, but I want to say something that bugs the CRAP out of me. Why do people have to be so stereotypical? Not all lesbians have short hair. Not all lesbians are a "tomboy". There are girly lesbians, like me! I wear dresses, I love shopping, and wearing...
    lovely12704 lovely12704 18-21, F 30 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    My Strange Fetish/fantasy

    Im a vry happy proud and open feme-lesbian. And thow I have never been a very picky person when it comes to a lover. but yet I've adapted a strange fetish/fantasy (or what ever you might wanna call it) for seducing straight girls. And the straighter the better. OMG! have I...
    kreemy00peech kreemy00peech 31-35, F 9 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    So basically being a lesbian

    and living in the midwest sucks! It's seriously been so long since I've been with another girl and it's driving me crazy. Trying to find a cute/sexy normal girl that also likes girls and lives anywhere at least 4 hours from me is almost impossible. My talents are going to waste...
    hollywoodqueenA hollywoodqueenA 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    callmejo4 callmejo4 16-17, F Jun 11

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    Young

    I have struggled with who I am in the majority of my short lived life. I went through phases when I didn't even recognize the person I saw in the mirror. I just want to say I am proud to be a femme lesbian and I am proud of me. And you should be proud of you!
    LalulaMae LalulaMae 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2013

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    Too Cute For Her Own Damn Good

    Growing up I was the biggest tomboy in my hometown. I could outrun, outclimb, and outsmart all the boys on my street. I could also give a pretty good ***-kicking when I felt so inclined. Then sometime between the awkwardness of puberty and my first equally akward girlfriend I...
    InvoluntaryFacelift InvoluntaryFacelift 18-21 10 Responses May 21, 2010

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    I've met this girl and I never thought of

    falling inlove with her (she's the tomboy one.). I never thought that I'd fall for someone I only knew through a website but YES I did. Our paths crossed when my heart finally said enough on my ex-boyfriend. She was the one who was there for me on my endless drama nights. Our...
    wishfulthinkingstar wishfulthinkingstar 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    It is so hard to meet other lesbian women

    for friendship. I'm not much of a bar person anymore, but I love to socialize. Mostly I don't go out because drinking & driving is a risk, and a cab costs too much lol. So, I end up staying home. But even the times I have been at a bar, how do you like make friends? I've lost...
    bethrichards bethrichards 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    It's so crazy to me that I don't come across

    more femmes who enjoy being with another femme. So many fems are attracted to studs which I don't quite understand but... Whatever floats their boat. I just wonder why a feminine lesbian doesn't enjoy being with another femme lesbian.. Girls are girly & emotional beings, might...
    InnerrBeautty InnerrBeautty 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 11

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    I moved to a very small town from a very large

    gay city 7 years ago. There is no gay community here as far as I can tell. I feel isolated even though I have family here. Dont get me wrong, I love my family. I just miss my gay family.
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F Jun 27

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    Hey, I'm a lesbian and I'm looking

    for a Gf. So anyone 13-15 pls message me. Also no boys!! ^.^ thank u!
    Thatonegaygirl Thatonegaygirl 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    I am a 22 year old femme

    who is just soooo in love with women. Guys just cant seem to understand this. The whole "just a phase" theory is getting pretty old. I mean c'mon guys im too cool to be straight ;) I love being this way and there is nothing sexier than a girl with a funny witty attitude. (And a...
    tigerskies tigerskies 22-25, F 1 Response May 21

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    Not Feeling Okay

    I am a lipstick lesbian. almost everyone knows. My school life was ruined. especially since I am only 17. I have had plenty of girlfriends and enough experience to know that every girl I have dated, was never "out" or was never a fully lesbian women and always "needed" a man to...
    Anastasia116 Anastasia116 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Like most femme lesbians,

    I don't usually get mean comments for being a lesbian mainly because if you take one look at me you would assume I'm straight. (which I hate.) I'm a proud femme lesbian but I feel like femmes are basically invisible in the LGBT community. When most people think lesbian they...
    handwrittenlovenotes handwrittenlovenotes 22-25, F 13 Responses Jan 17

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    Any Cowgirl Lezies Out There?

    Im femme and I work with and ride horses and have been all my life. I like to dress up to go out and care what I look like but at the same time I spend my working carreer stepping in horsepoop and doing lots of manual labor. :) so even if you see me in a pretty dress, I m not...
    Evangelique Evangelique 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    Okay so I went to dinner at the same place

    where I ate the first night and the waitress was pretty cute but more like girl nextdoor type. Anyway she was so nice and the food was delicious do I decided to go back. Anyway she instantly recognized me and we talked and she asked if I had Facebook or what's app and we...
    Rltdancer Rltdancer 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    Love The Label!

    Though many people may hate labels, I don't.I wear the label Femme with pride, and even though i struggle with aspects of my sexuality, i love being myself; which is girly. I am not high maintenance, nor am i ULTRA FEMME, though i can be. I like that i am free to express my...
    MissVenom MissVenom 22-25, F 8 Responses May 13, 2011

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    I stick to being a femme

    and I'm also attracted to femmes! I'm all about heels, skirts, glitter, and pink on Wednesdays ☺
    callmejo4 callmejo4 16-17, F 3 Responses May 2

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    I'm actually bi, but I'm looking to talk to a

    femme lesbian that is 17 or older. So message me ladies :)
    Victoriaxoxo12 Victoriaxoxo12 16-17, F May 3

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    popples123 popples123 31-35, F 4 Responses May 4

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    BeautifulSoul408 BeautifulSoul408 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    Once long ago, I was walking through a very

    crowded gay bar during gay pride in Houston. Pushing my way through the crowd, suddenly a beautiful woman grabbed me and gave me a very passionate kiss. When it was over, we both continued on through the crowd. I have often wondered who she was and did I blindly walk away from...
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    My first love... She was around 5 2" had long

    blonde hair and was stunning! I shared an apartment with her while I was at Uni! So obviously through the years I saw her with very little clothes on! This mad it even worse, I really wanted her to know my feelings! I sadly bottled them up and never told her, I wish I did! <3...
    yumyum115 yumyum115 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    Spoke with my ex a few minutes ago.

    Its been near a year since we've spoken. She is now married with a newborn. Her new husband doesn't want her speaking to me so she snuck in a call while he was out. It was good to catch up but I dont want to be her secret.
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    It's so frustrating..

    .. I'm not someone you walk by and your gaydar goes off.. Many of my closest friends even had no clue until I told them.. I just never know how to go about getting into these situations. I don't know when or how that ever comes into conversation.. It's like I need to wear a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Met a chick online months ago.

    She only lives about 26 miles away. We have talked on the phone once, became friends on fb and text each other. Every single time we make plans to meet she flakes out on me. Finally, I thought we would just be friends and I told her that. Now she flirts with me on fb and says...
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    hello there, I am looking forward

    to make friends with a lesbian women like me because i believe we can share each other stories and advices easily because im pretty sure that we understand each other better... I am serious about a friendship proposal..:)
    CoffeeePrincesss CoffeeePrincesss 31-35, F Apr 11

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    My Feelings Right Now

    i'm seventeen, and still have yet to "come out" or tell anyone that i think i like girls. maybe this is the wrong group for me, because sometimes i like boys, but i truly do think that i want to spend my life with a woman. currently i'm crushing, crushing hard. i go through weird...
    missunderstood3344 missunderstood3344 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    Not only am I am a femme lesbian

    but a trans femme lesbian. I have always felt that I am a woman trapped in the wrong body and love very feminine clothing. I love wearing skirts with blouses or tops with heels or a dress with heels and wearing makeup, having my nails both toes and fingernails painted and...
    saraashley saraashley 31-35, F Mar 17

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    dogbrat dogbrat 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    ****prison Changed My Life****

    Seven years ago on 9/15 I lost the man I called my Dad. After he passed my only escape from the pain was drinking, a lot of drinking. There were so many things I didn't understand..my mother moving on 3 months to the date and so on. I lived outside city limits so whenever I...
    cwhatic cwhatic 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 13, 2012

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    Lisaooo Lisaooo 18-21, F 10 Responses May 10

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    Be Proud!

    Hello guys! And to other fellow comrades I am a new member here :) all I want to say is, be proud if you're a femme lesbian! Remember that no one can judge us cause we are this :) so chin up, and be proud! God Bless, and let us support one another.
    YourQueen YourQueen 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2013

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    ysa71195 ysa71195 18-21, F May 5

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    Ok so being femme, does anyone struggle with

    constantly having to come out bc people don't realize your a lesbian.... I need a rainbow hovering over me lol
    pg143 pg143 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 14

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    Uhmm. No. I'm a stud & I'm attracted to femmes.

    Where are the femmes attracted to studs??! Y'all still out there? Haiiii wassup? Im Rain, I'm 15, going on 16 in a few months.. I'm the sensitive type. Crazily protective over those I love.. I'm crazy sweet, down to earth, shy at first when I'm talking to girls but insanely...
    levitation143 levitation143 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 4

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    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F Apr 2

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    I don't like the label,

    but unfortunately it fits because I embrace my femininity and that of other women. I'm not girly girl or a tom-boy; I'm just me who happens to be attracted to other women who happen to look like women.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 16

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    I Am A Femme Lesbain Dating A Dyke

    I am a femme lesbian. I wear make up every once in a while, I wear dresses every once in a while, and I do not like to fight. I am more of the girly girl type. When I first started to look for a girlfriend, some main physical features I was looking for were: I wanted her to be...
    snowkissedangel21 snowkissedangel21 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    I hate when people say "you're too pretty to be

    a lesbian" .. Like do you want me to be ugly? Lesbians aren't ugly. Straight people can't tell if a girl is straight or not if they're not dressing as a boy.. And when they find out that you're not straight, they get mad cause they think fems can't be a lesbian.. Tf with these...
    Antonice Antonice 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 14

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    I'm not totally a femme ( still learning how to

    use high heels lol) but i will never be a dyke or butch. Not my style
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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