I Am a Firefighter's Girlfriend

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 294 People

    Well I'm new to this thing,

    so here goes lol I'm Hannah, and I've been the proud girlfriend of a firefighter for four months now. It's hard cause both of our schedules are crazy... I work part time and go to school, and he's a full time, part time, AND volunteer fireman, as well as a part time EMT. So as...
    hannahd94 hannahd94
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2014

    I try to be positive

    but times like these it gets extremely hard. We never leave when we are mad at one another. He may never come back. I've been left by so many people close to me in my life and I am scared to death that I'm going to lose the love of my life.
    JessieMae23 JessieMae23
    22-25, F
    Nov 2, 2014

    So I am a fire fighter myself

    and I'm in love with one of the rookies who is also one of my commanding officers kid....... I've known copy since I was really little and I've loved him ever since...... So I finally told him and he tried to bring me down slowly and easy. He told me he thinks of me as a sister...
    teacami teacami
    22-25, F
    Nov 16, 2014

    Where To Start? Well Hello, I'm New :)

    Hello everyone! I'm Anne, and my boyfriend is a firefighter/paramedic. People think it's hard to be a firefighter/paramedic, well it can be hard to be the wife or a girlfriend of one as well. When we first started dating, I had come off about a month prior from a relationship...
    RayAnne134 RayAnne134
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 17, 2012

    Yes, I Am a Firefighter's Girlfriend.

    I am a firefighter's girlfriend, one thing that really frustrated me is the lack of respect I get. Simply because i'm just the "girlfriend" like that we could break up any day or something. That is frustrating to me because my boyfriend and I aren't breaking up, I have...
    chellyb chellyb
    18-21, F
    24 Responses Sep 28, 2009

    I am new to dating a firefighter.

    I can handle the time without him. I have a busy schedule too. I do not have kids and he has 2 children. We are waiting until we build our relationship before I meet them. This means during his 4 days off, he is with his kids, and I get shut out. Its hard because I am not part...
    awhitson awhitson
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 4, 2014

    The Shock And Awe Of It All

    I met my ff about 7 months ago and it has been quite the fast and furious journey for us already. We are currently in a long distance relationship which can make any relationship difficult to begin with but add in that he is a volunteer firefighter and that just ups the...
    Leezardehb Leezardehb
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 28, 2013

    Any advice on how people cope with this.

    I support him 100% it's just really anxiety provoking..
    jessgoetzinger jessgoetzinger
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    I have a new boyfriend.

    ...2 weeks new!...and he is a FF (i have never dated a FF before!) I am a very Christian lady like female, so I am adapting to his sometimes crude humor! I understand that one has to have humor in this line of work to maintain sanity. He already invited me to a work event...a FF...
    FireproofWoman FireproofWoman
    36-40, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2014

    Spending My Nights Alone

    As I'm typing this it's almost 130 in the morning. it's the Same routine ever wenesday Friday Saturday and Sunday. read until 12, then watch a movie and make some tea. well the tea is brewing and I'm half way through the help. Zach is on a call. 2 alarm he's running water pumps...
    greekgirl1000 greekgirl1000
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 22, 2012

    Hello!!! I am new to the whole being a

    firefighter's girlfriend. My boyfriend is firefighter, emt and bounty hunter. He works crazy hours and can get into crazy situations. I suffer from anxiety and every time he has to leave I start to worry. I try to keep myself busy but I still worry. is there anyone out there who...
    talmommy2008 talmommy2008
    26-30, F
    May 23, 2015

    How Can We Make This Work?

    me and this guy have been talking for over a year; within the past few months we have gotten really close and have talked about dating. we are both taking this very slow because of how busy our lives are right now. he works shift work & is a volunteer fire fighter. (hoping to...
    marycanada marycanada
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2011

    So I'm very new to this thing

    but I need all the help I can. I met my boyfriend a couple times before we actually started talking relationship wise because of some friends. He's an emt and a firefighter but in the past two weeks it's been digging at me hard he use to be so sweet and caring and now he's just...
    lost1023 lost1023
    22-25, F
    Sep 27, 2014

    Problems... :/

    I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, and he's been a volunteer firefighter and EMT for the entire time. He is also a lifeguard at our local pool. I'm so proud of everything he does, and I'm so aware that it's the most important thing he could do, but it's been...
    jbh22 jbh22
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    A Firefighter's Flame

    I grew up in a family of firefighter's. My mother was a wildland firefighter and my dad, who still is, a city firefighter. Having parents as firefighters is the coolest thing ever. I knew that there were birthdays, holidays, sport activites, ect that I had to sacrifice as I was...
    ljhernandez88 ljhernandez88
    7 Responses Jan 25, 2011

    I been with my boyfriend

    for six months and I'm very proud of him I love my firefighter so much
    firefightergirl1148 firefightergirl1148
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2015

    Hi! I've been dating my fire fighter long

    distance for a couple of months now, I can honestly say that he's the best thing in my life. He's really sweet, he's a nerd, he's got a bit of a temper and I love it. All of it. I'm new to being a fire fighters gf...so I'm still getting used to this..going full days without...
    sweetheartxo sweetheartxo
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    My Lt :)

    We are long distance ( until June), he is a lt and President of his fire company. He is transferring soon and we are excited for the big move, we are best friends, inseperable! We love to do outdoor things with our dogs and his kids, my soon to be stepkids. We are 20 yrs apart...
    Countrygirl3632 Countrygirl3632
    May 9, 2013

    The Girlfriend Of A Firefighter In Need Of Advice!

    Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6 months , he begins his training in February and after 3 months will be posted to a station. The thing is he can be posted out wherever and because he hasn't got a wife or kids or a mortgage or anything like that the chance of him...
    Amyfirefighter Amyfirefighter
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 18, 2012

    New At This...Struggling

    About three months ago I visited my sister in Colorado. I met a guy (now my boyfriend). He’s a Firefighter/EMT, full time student, and helps with the family business. I am so very impressed with what he has going for him. The fact the he’s only 19 and doing so much only...
    jkdeubs jkdeubs
    Oct 17, 2013

    I'm a firefighters girlfriend my boyfriend

    and I are both medics and he is also a firefighter we both work for the same company in the same station. I'm so proud of him even though I worry I know the guys got his back we all do.
    Mtay222 Mtay222
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 1, 2014

    I need to get informed,

    so any information and advice is much appreciated. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. I am a full-time college student, and he is currently working at a car dealership. Recently, he mentioned how interested he is in "Fire College" or "Fire Academy" or whatever...
    FierceAsFire05 FierceAsFire05
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 13, 2014

    New to this blog and looking

    for people who understand the stresses of this kind of relationship. My BF of over a year has been in the fire academy for TWO WEEKS which seems like MONTHS. I'm sure it seems much longer to him. I have been loving being supportive and helping him study, make flash cards, clean...
    jessica1737 jessica1737
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2015

    My Very New Relationship With My Firefighter

    I just began dating my boyfriend about 2 months ago. He is a volunteer firefighter and finishing up EMT school. I'm having a VERY hard time dealing with the crazy schedule. It's not that I don't completely respect and in fact ADORE the fact that he does something so awesome, but...
    chelle0489 chelle0489
    20 Responses Mar 26, 2011

    Hi ladies! I've been dating my firefighter

    for a little over a year now, and let me tell you I wouldn't trade his job for ANY thing! I've learned to love the department as much as he does.. But recently he's been picking up shifts left and right, working 72s, sometimes even 96s... And I'm just like omg, COME HOME ALREADY...
    asherin22 asherin22
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2014

    Hoping For A Better Year..

    As this year comes to a close, I can only hope for another one that will be better and, goodness willing, less dangerous. But as a FF's woman, you can only hope for something like that. Because in this life and line of work, there is no such thing as a non-dangerous year. I've...
    RayAnne134 RayAnne134
    22-25, F
    Dec 29, 2012

    Dealing With Lonliness.. How Do You Cope?

    I am the girlfriend/significant other of not only a fireman/emt, but also a newly appointed Chief. We have a beautiful relationship and he does all he can to see me, but his job and the safety of his crew comes first. There have been many weekends I"m not with him because he may...
    maffgirl31 maffgirl31
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2012

    My boyfriend just went on his first Fire call

    and I am freaking out. We are currently in 2 different countries and I am so scared! What do I DO?
    rachelvaillancourt rachelvaillancourt
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2013

    Young Girlfriend Of Full-time Firefighter

    EDIT: It's been a few years since I posted this. It certainly never got easier! My husband ( yes, married now :) ) has switched jobs...he now works simple non-911 paramedic transports and makes just as much. We have a baby girl on the way and all of our stress is gone. My heart...
    RemyBusoni RemyBusoni
    18-21, F
    6 Responses May 26, 2010

    You Know You're A Firefighter's Lady If:

    You Know You're a Firefighter's Lady If: You know what IFSTA, IAFF, SCBA, WSFTA, and ARFF stand for. Your man's wardrobe looks like this: non-descript bottoms paired with any navy blue shirt/sweatshirt with a fire department logo on it. Your man's haircut is "nice and tight...
    rememberingtoforgive rememberingtoforgive
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jul 8, 2012

    I love that he has such a strong passion

    for being a firefighter but sometimes I really wish he could love doing something like, oh let's say, stamp collecting!! lol. Risking your life for a complete stranger is an amazing and truly admirable quality but every time I hear that pager go off and he runs out the door, my...
    Nelsaroo Nelsaroo
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 19, 2015

    The Stuff No One Tells You About Being A Fire Wife,fiance,or Girlfriend.

    Hello,my name is Kayla I am 21 years old and I am a firefighters fiance. I must say this is probley the best and worst thing ever. I can not begin to explain half the emotions that I have went through being a firefightersFiance. I have been with a firefighter for a little over a...
    futurefirewife21 futurefirewife21
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2012

    My Firefighter

    It puts my stomach in knots when he tells me how fast he drives his truck to go to a call. When he tells me that I start thinking you can wreck on your way to the station. I have a lot of respect for my firefighter because of how brave he is! He tells me stories of fires that he...
    lindskill lindskill
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2013

    I have been dating my boyfriend

    for about 6 months now, he was promoted about a month ago to an engineer (yay) he has been a firefighter for about 10 years now. I am immensely proud of him and I also have to admit his passion of helping people and saving people is part of why I have fallen for him. I struggle...
    BusyBri BusyBri
    22-25, F
    Jan 28, 2014

    A Firefighter's Fiancee

    Hi my name is Kiana, I am a Firefighter's Fiancee. We met in November of 2009, in high school on the bowling team. We immediately clicked, first forming a small friendship and then decided to move further into a relationship. Now here we are 3 years and 4 months later. Im a...
    Krod2309 Krod2309
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

    Hey everyone, I hope everyone's day is going

    good......... I have a wonderful firefighter/paramedic boyfriend who is 9 years older than me. I have been struggling for a while with his insanely busy schedule but at the end of the day I wonder if he's ok. It scares me like crazy when he doesn't message and I have not talked...
    harshan101 harshan101
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 7, 2014

    Hi I'm Bri I'm been a firefighter girlfriend

    for six months I'm proud to be a firefighter girlfriend 😊
    firefightergirlfriend1148 firefightergirlfriend1148
    18-21, F
    Jan 15, 2015

    Im Worried.

    I'm am 18 years old. I'm engaged to the best man in the world. But there are time when he get a call that I worry about him. I hate the fact that we when are sitting down to eat dinner and his pager goes off and he get up and runs out the door. I'm worried that when I have my kid...
    Firefightergirl18 Firefightergirl18
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2012

    Love & Adjustments...dating A Firefighter

    I feel a little weird doing this- but I imagine it will help to get some perspective... I fell inlove a few months ago, with perhaps the most amazing man I've ever met- and he's a firefighter. He's stronger than anyone I've ever met, kind, resiliant in a way that I AM NOT, and...
    araya310 araya310
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 14, 2013

    Can I Handle It?

    I have been with the same guy for a year and a half. He just turned 20 and I will be 19 this summer. Even though we are young, we do talk about getting engaged and getting married someday. He is currently an on call firefighter but plans on being a full time firefighter for a big...
    mabaker6794 mabaker6794
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

    My boyfriend has been a firefighter from a very

    young age. As of right now, we've been together three years today. People always make the generalization that having a boyfriend/husband in the military is the hardest thing because they can't see them. I completely agree with that 100% and I'd never be able to deal. But, no one...
    autumn506 autumn506
    18-21, F
    Apr 10, 2014

    When your schedules don't work

    and you never see him. He's always at the station during your free time it seems like you come second? No that's not it. He is busting his butt to be prepared when that call comes. He is supporting his family and protecting his neighbor.
    JessieMae23 JessieMae23
    22-25, F
    Oct 27, 2014

    He is still in training,

    I have been dating him for 3 months its really hard when I barley even get to text him. I hate waiting around for him I know hes worth it, its just really hard to do. Does anyone know how long this lasts for cause I want to be able to see him.
    BreannaM BreannaM
    1 Response Aug 23, 2015

    Brand New To This "Life"

    I have been dating my wonderful boyfriend for a month and a half now and he just got the job as a volunteer ff couple weeks ago. It makes me nervous, especially last night we had a extremly bad storm he was out for 8 hours working on gas leaks and i had no way to talk to him. It...
    brikrabbe brikrabbe
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 7, 2013

    I started dating my firefighter about a year

    ago. He is now in what we call the academy which is a 6 month course that gets you all the training and education. But between our busy schedules we only get to see each other 1 or 2 a week and we often only get to talk to each other for an hour a day. I cant help but want to be...
    hscfdgirlfriend hscfdgirlfriend
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2014

    Does Anyone Have Advice For All Of Us?

    Hi girls, I am so glad I stumbled upon this site while I was looking for a self-help book ab out dating a firefighter!!! From reading what you all have written, it sounds like we all have very similar experiences dealing with the scanner, midnight calls, training, interrupted...
    lhoney01 lhoney01
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

    I am a firefighter's girlfriend.

    I fear the pages and the calls. I stay up worrying all night. I wait to eat dinner. I wait to go to sleep without him. Unless it's his 24 on. Even though I fear loosing the Man I love. I know he risked his life to save another. I love him for that. So I support him.
    JessieMae23 JessieMae23
    22-25, F
    Oct 17, 2014

    I've been with my firefighter boyfriend

    for over a year. Since everyone in this group can connect, I was wondering if I could get any advice. His calls are getting more frequent and severe and its a lot of anxiety for me. Any advice?
    jessgoetzinger jessgoetzinger
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    New To This World....

    This is my first time ever dating a firefighter. It kind of scares me to death. Are first date we where leaving Walmart and there was and he had to get out to help. That is something I am not use to. Does it get any easier??
    firefightersprincess firefightersprincess
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 12, 2013

    Hey! So ive been with my firefighter

    for over 3 years, and id be lying if i said its been all rainbows and sunshine. Ive been through hell and back with him, not only because of the station but with other relationship issues. When i first met him, he was at one station and i was 2 and a half hours and a whole other...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    How I Met My Firefighter / Hero

    I met Jake through a dating site. I never thought I would see myself on a Dating Site. My friends were telling me how its normal to be on a dating site there is nothing wrong with it I was going on this site because I dont have time to go out. Im a Mother full time. I dont have...
    Emmy2516 Emmy2516
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 29, 2012

    My boyfriend just started fire academy

    and I am extremely happy and proud of him, however, I do know it's going to be a tough process for both of us. I really want to help him out through this whole academy and I want to be there for him and support him in any way I can. From what I've read it's hard on the...
    lacsun lacsun
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 20, 2014

    I am proud but scared,

    all the time. Ive been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and sadly we currently live about an hour away from each other (because of different colleges). He always texts me to tell me he is going on a call and always says "Ill be right back, I love you." But my raging...
    HadaIsador HadaIsador
    18-21, F
    Sep 22, 2015

    4 Years A Girlfriend

    I've been a girlfriend for four years to a Firefighter. He has worked in small towns and large cities and is currently employed at an airport. He is also an EMT on his off days. So our music driving in the truck is a pager, I am used to getting phone calls from the guys on his...
    cmc829 cmc829
    18-21, F
    Dec 28, 2012
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