I Am a Four On the Enneagram

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    Film Trailer Embracing The Enneagram, Nlp And Power Of Now

     http://www.understandingpersonality.com/spellbindtrailer.html (in case no video shows up below) If you would like to see a film trailer on the enneagram (and I hope you enjoy it!) watch this.       Film trailer embracing Enneagram, NLP...
    ClareCherikoff ClareCherikoff
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 8, 2010

    What's Good About Being A Four?

    I've known that I am a four for a while now. And I can really feel it. I'm also a writer. I wrote a novel and am currently trying to publish it. That's pretty much what I'm hoping in right now. I'm in college, but am really uncertani about my life right now. Like a typical...
    missvelia missvelia
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2013

    Four Thought

    I am a type 4 on the enneagram.  I am in the midst of a profound spiritual awakening and yet very much in the grips of my ego.  I am a homeschooling mother of two and am passionate about natural/peaceful parenting and radical unschooling.  I am struggling with isolating myself...
    FourThought FourThought
    1 Response Dec 16, 2011

    Well, I'm A 4w5

    Just recently found out I'm a 4w5, with an INFJ MBTI type. I'm very introverted, and I feel like I have no way to be happy. Like...there's no proper balance between me and the rest of the world that truly allows me to be myself. I feel like if I just say "to hell with it" and...
    Ribonuke211 Ribonuke211
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2012

    Can't Believe There Was An Experience Group For This...

    I did the Enneagram Test in School once for Psych Class and I was one of the few people who ended up as a four. Everyone read it to mean I was depressed, because of the emphasis on being reserved and liking to be alone, but I sort of think being reserved can be a good thing. A...
    Yellowrhapsody Yellowrhapsody
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Mar 24, 2008

    Four with the wing of a Five.

    Anyone else? How do you deal with the adversities life throws at you? Do you use your melancholy/negative emotions to good use (e.g , art .. nature?)
    Allissaxxx Allissaxxx
    26-30, F
    Mar 29, 2014

    Type 4

    So.. yeah. I am a four; I relate to the search for meaning, emptiness, preoccupations with beauty, envy, longing, fear of being different, search for originality... and also with the creativity, compassion. I think I might have a 5 wing... because I am pretty withdrawn, think...
    huntingafterhours huntingafterhours
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2009

    4 W 5

    I have been a road of self discovery. I recently discovered that I too am a 4 with a 5 wing. I  am still researching and studying the Enneagram, but I tell you it describes me to a T.  I have read through the stories in this group, and I can strongly identify with them...
    Smokeseek Smokeseek
    36-40, M
    8 Responses Nov 11, 2008

    The So Precious Sense Of Wonder

    Despite the melancholy that has always inhabited me, I never lost my sense of wonder. I remember as a child, I could show a disproportionate joy when I had a new toy or a new book. And when I compared myself to adults, I saw that the only difference between them and me was this...
    blackspirit665 blackspirit665
    22-25, M
    Jan 23, 2013

    Intensity Feels Enslaving

    I am 49, female, married for 21 years.  This is what is happening to me now and has happened at least 3 times before in a big way (probably more in smaller ways that I don't remember right now).  It has to do with our (that is, us Type 4s) emotional intensity and our...
    bptzdbyfyre bptzdbyfyre
    Jan 13, 2009

    My Test Results... Not Sure What It All Means Yet...

      Main Type  Overall Self      Take Free Enneagram Personality TestPersonality Test by SimilarMinds.com Enneagram Test Results Type 1 Perfectionism |||| 18% Type 2 Helpfulness |||||||||||||||||||| 86% Type 3 Image Focus |||||||||||| 46% Type 4 Hypersensitivity...
    30Forward 30Forward
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 1, 2011

    Love Is A Hierarchy

    I’m a 4 with a 5 wing. I’m new to this. My story: I managed to stay at a party for two hours, lifting my cup when ever someone looked my way. In my head I would repeat “I’m not my feelings” over and over, but finally they won out, and I was out the door...
    pffffpt pffffpt
    1 Response Dec 28, 2010
    Thinkofbluedreams Thinkofbluedreams
    18-21, F
    Jul 24, 2015

    It’s A New Day

     It’s impossible for me to become eternally evil because I’m eternally good. Some of my touch stones: Tao - Nisargadatta - RC - MJ - Humor. I have a wonderful friend; she helps break down my resistance to love. My spiritual teacher points me to my true self. And...
    pffffpt pffffpt
    Jan 2, 2011

    "The Romantic"

    Enneagram 4 – The Romantic  Worldview: Something essential is missing from life. I'll be complete if I can just find it.Unconscious Drive: EnvyGift: Uniqueness and Emotional Intensity. Fours have a singular ability to be present with life's more intense situations: grief...
    teeny09 teeny09
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 28, 2012

    What We Have Lost As Fours

    I believe Fours are longing for something unexplainable. According to enneagram descriptions of type Four, we want to be connected with the "source"... I just realized something about that and I wanted to share my thoughts. When I feel highly inspired, i feel myself authentic and...
    blackspirit665 blackspirit665
    22-25, M
    Feb 25, 2013

    You Know You'Re A Four When:

    You sleep very late you can not stop thinking before falling asleep because it is then that you are most inspired You feel like being a stranger among your own family Your imagination is so strong that you can not stop think of all the bad things that might happen...
    blackspirit665 blackspirit665
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2013

    Do You Like Being a Four?

    I didn't at first. I focused on the negatives way too much, like a four probably would, hahaha. I have a pretty strong five wing-almost a half type it seems like sometimes and an under-expressed three wing. I float in and out of healthy and unhealthy points in my One...
    Ariella Ariella
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Mar 13, 2008

    I Moved To California

    The nun (penguin) demanded I come to the front of the class. I was a nine year old rambunctious boy. “Hold out your hands” she demanded. The ruler came down, stinging, my class mates watching, I quickly moved back to my desk keeping my chin up. I’m the oldest of eight...
    pffffpt pffffpt
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2010

    Just Took The Test And The Results Are True!

    I always wondered why and how to deal with my struggle for identity.  Now I am learning to see my powerful emotions as a strength, and that I can live my life as an exploration of what it means to be human,  instead of trying to be like everyone else. I was made to feel...
    LasciviousMoxy LasciviousMoxy
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Sep 11, 2010

    Information On the Instinctual Variants

    My friend sent this to me. Thought I'd pass it on here. :) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Variants for type Four (3 types): Sexual: Nicknames: The Novelist, The Artist, The Poet, The Tragic Romantic, The Actor...
    moonlitReveries moonlitReveries
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Mar 24, 2008

    Identity Seekers, Who Feel Unique And Different

    People of this personality type tend to build their identities around their perception of themselves as being somehow different or unique; they are thus self-consciously individualistic. Fours tend to see their difference from others as being both a gift and a curse - a gift...
    Lunadelobos Lunadelobos
    6 Responses Apr 27, 2011

    I have no idea what this

    but it looks interesting can someone explain an Enneagram to me?
    kxCobra kxCobra
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 29, 2014

    New 4w3 Looking For Other Awesome Type 4s to Talk to

    I'm a 4w3 with a so/sx stacking. If there are any other 4w3s in this group, I would love to meet them, as well as 4w5s. I'm pretty new to EP so I don't know a lot of people yet and I would love to meet some more 4s.  I'm just going to write a brief intro today but I hope to...
    SilverLinedShadows SilverLinedShadows
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2009

    Infp 4w5 Sp/sx

    I always knew that i was different. Before discovering MBTI and enneagram, i was sure that i was one of a kind, and i was hoping that someday i'll meet someone who truly understands what i feel and what i was living. When i was a kid, my father was beating me up almost every day...
    blackspirit665 blackspirit665
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Dec 16, 2012

    Intense Emotions And The Type Four

    it often happens that i have unexplainable feelings. It starts with imagining a random situation and i begin to feel emotions that are attached to this particular situation of life. This can occur when i'm watching a movie, playing a video game or just laying in the bed. Example...
    blackspirit665 blackspirit665
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2012

    Surrendering To The Universe

    I often thought that it would be a good idea to meet someone like me, so we could compare notes. But then I thought how would that be possible if we were isolating in our rooms. How can shy people meet? Of course for me it would be nice to meet someone who is “ahead” of...
    pffffpt pffffpt
    5 Responses Dec 30, 2010
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