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I Am a Gay Man Married to a Straight Woman

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    I am a gay man that has been married

    now to my wife for 40 years. Yes she knew long before we married 6 years to be exact. We met in High School at the age of 16 and were introduced buy a mutual friend (she had a major crush on me and I was not interested at all). We met in the library in the small Midwest town...
    marinbear marinbear 61-65 5 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    Trying To Come Out

    I have been trying to come out for a while now, the big thing is that i am married to a woman for eight years and have 3 kids, i did come out, i even got a tattoo to show that i am proud, but dont know what to do, i do wonder what my life would be like to go ahead and be me, any...
    gayvet gayvet 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 14, 2013

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    Just came out as gay to my wife at 60 years old.

    We're struggling. She's so hurt. I'm lost. In therapy, I think she now will seek help too. Anyone in or experienced this?
    latetothegame latetothegame 56-60, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have gone back and forth (women

    and men). But now, as I have gotten older, and thinking about the past, having sex with men is far more satisfying and passionate. I have been married for 26 years and have no desire to have sex with my wife. However, when I am by myself, a craving for men totally occurs...
    chaiguy18 chaiguy18 46-50, M 4 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    I came out to my wife a month ago,

    it crushed her. She is an amazing woman I truly do love her, I just can't love her the way that she needs a man to love her. I have two beautiful children a 3yr old and a 4 month old. I don't regret my marriage or my children. I know this will be better for everyone in the...
    RobertE22 RobertE22 31-35 3 Responses Mar 4

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    Do you ever look at a family walking by,

    a mom, a dad and kids, and think "I wish I could be that person".
    RobertE22 RobertE22 31-35 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Learner

    When I say gay and married I would love to have full sex with another man to feel his  **** in my hand and lick his **** and take all the *** he can give me so anyone wants to take off my L plates and make a man happy get in touch.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    jonathon3 jonathon3 26-30, T Nov 5, 2014

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    Traditional Marraige

    i'm 21 years old and married. which was something i never planned on doing, i always imagined myself putting that off till my late thirties. i wouldnt mind being engaged for 10 years if it meant we were built to last, marrying young can obviously cause problems.but i also put off...
    MadameAdam MadameAdam 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 29, 2013

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    Yeah. So. I've been married

    for about 11 years now. I've always known I was gay but hid it. I couldn't come to terms with it and the negative repercussions of exposing my secret. Now I have even more at stake with a wife and daughter. My depression is getting much worse and I can't help but think that it's...
    maelstrom32 maelstrom32 31-35, M 10 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    A New Societal Trend Observed- Gay Men Married To Straight Women

    During the course of the past year a number of gay men have consulted with me about obtaining a divorce. These are not gay men married to other gay men. These are gay men married to women. I’ve practiced family law and been a divorce consultant for over twenty-five years...
    massdivorcelaw massdivorcelaw 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I'm a married man with a straight wife.

    I love her very much but I love to have sex with men. I find it much more of what I wont and love to be the salve. I just can't tell her as I know she will be so very up set and may even leave me. I don't wont that but would like to find a good man friend to have good sex with...
    phd1956 phd1956 56-60, M 3 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    First off, let me say

    that I am not gay. I define gay as someone that is happy with their sexuality, lifestyle...what ever you want to call it. I am not. I have been married to my wife for 30 years. I love her and do not want to hurt her in any way. But that is just what I have done by lying to...
    MarkS441 MarkS441 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Gay And Married..

    As the title describes, I'm a closeted gay and married to a woman!! It's an interesting journey that I'm going through, but I can't blame anyone, because that was my choice & choose this path being completely aware of the consequences. I was just wondering if there are other...
    manomamk manomamk 31-35, M 14 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    I am thinking of telling my wife

    that I am gay. Does anyone have experience doing this? I am terrified.
    man4man1975 man4man1975 36-40, M 10 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    Wish I Could Be Me!

    I don't know which experience too start with my life is full of them, so this is my current I'm 50 years old I have been married for 33 years I have known that I was gay for why lie? all of my life. I have a wife who is 53 and a boy friend of two years who is 23; I love them...
    Ty1963 Ty1963 51-55, M Sep 9, 2013

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    Not My Fault

    my wife wont do what a man can do for me like getting bone in the butt and she barely suck my **** shes not freaky
    smithwillie34 smithwillie34 41-45 2 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    Sometimes I want to just get it over with

    and tell everyone else in my life who I really am. But the consequences are too frightening.
    MrNurseGuy MrNurseGuy 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Heeey... Long story short,

    7 years ago I felt that maybe my family was right, that I wasn't gay and that I was just brought into that lifestyle from being bullied in school and growing up without a close relationship with my father. And that somehow with faith and time things could change. I was...
    NIX1980 NIX1980 31-35, M 4 Responses Jan 7

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    So I have been really working through being

    honest with my wife. I have been married 6 years and though I have always been attracted to men, I have never told her. 2 months ago I did and it was SUCH a relief! So needless to say we have had numerous chats about it and trying to find our "new normal". It's been good but...
    MrNurseGuy MrNurseGuy 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Married Gay Man

    I am in my mid forties and have been married for over twenty years. I suppose I have always been turned on by the thoughts of having sex with a man. Lately this has become a obsession and is taking over my life what should I do
    Peter1935 Peter1935 41-45, M 9 Responses Apr 13, 2011

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    Yes that's right I am a gay man, a gay man on the verge of a breakdown. U might be thinking oh what a drama queen, and yes in some cases u might be right. My partner is driving me...
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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 11

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    Hey boys single and looking for men
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    Found a great guy fell on love now, I just don't know no one cheated or lied it just happened
    caspercolen caspercolen 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 20

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    almost weekend,and no boyfriend :'(
    phamthaithanhvii phamthaithanhvii 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 22

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    And here I am... Scared... After 19 months on HAART treatment. Don't know why but I feel like crying. I hate not to have control over this ****, but to take my meds. I don't know...
    Pather2013 Pather2013 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 23

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    anyone want to talk .......
    bcamo bcamo 13-15, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I'm at home and I'm as nervous if I were at the doctor's clinic. I going to see if my results are already in my file or not. I don't like this type of things. Oh God, please I need...
    Pather2013 Pather2013 46-50, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I want an online boyfriend.
    aeronwalt aeronwalt 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    A very insightful and important acticle Gay activists claim redefining marriage won’t hurt anyone, but that’s a lie. Just ask Canadians. May 1, 2015 (ThePublicDiscourse...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 51-55, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Here is my stance on homosexuality and gay marriage. I believe it is a sin based on these scriptures. (I have more to say though) "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman...
    Ahumblefollower Ahumblefollower 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 20

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    Throughout all of history no society ever accepted marriage to be between two people of the same gender. There were plenty of societies that practiced polygamy and polyandry or a...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    "I'm bi," "I'm gay," I'm straight." who CARES? As long as you are a human being
    Jessica2801 Jessica2801 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    So, I just need to affirm my existence a little tonight. I only joined Experience Project a few days ago after searching for some stuff on the internet and liking what I read...
    ProcessOfBecoming ProcessOfBecoming 18-21, T 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I'm having some marital problems and for the last year I don't know if my husband and I are just in a temporary crisis or whether we'll get through it. We split up for a little...
    shoogabonbons shoogabonbons 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Okay. Wonderful weekend for us. Thank you American for giving us an extra day. My new favorite airlines. I picked him Saturday morning at the airport, since I drove to the...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    well Where to start.... I'm a 18 year old boy never had sex with a man or woman.. but I'm gay, still dreaming of having a traditional family (wife,kids etc) but I'm lost. I'm a...
    lookinginandout lookinginandout 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 5

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    Well, I'm not gay or bisexual. I just don't mind if you have another sexuality. Likewise, other people who are straight, and someone says they're gay... I hate it how the straight...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses