I Am a Genderqueer

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 538 People

    "female" Is A Relative Term...

    ever since i was little, i've always been a bit unsure where i stood in society. growing up, i was always "one of the guys" when i played with boys and "one of the girls" when i played with girls. i never really understood it, but i would often wish i were a...
    Yoshino Yoshino
    22-25, T
    11 Responses Dec 7, 2009
    AntwonAnonymous AntwonAnonymous
    26-30, T
    1 Response Oct 17, 2015

    Always have been honestly.

    even when I was a child, i liked to dress as androgynous as possible, and play both with the boys and girls in my daycare center even tho thats usually the time when boys and girls separate. everyone told me it was just a phase but i never grew out of it. i've always felt...
    Alyss22 Alyss22
    22-25, T
    1 Response Feb 15, 2015

    This fits better than any other category --

    though off line most people pigeonhole me quickly, and it is not something I choose to struggle about on a daily basis. But I feel joy at the availability of this name for who I am here on EP. This is why I do not have a gender in my profile, and the freedom this gives is such a...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2014

    I really wish I could have daily conversations

    about gender with someone who experienced it similarly.
    mTaraj mTaraj
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2014

    For a while I was thinking I may be transgender.

    I looked up surgeries and info on it but it didn't really fit me completely. I felt like I was a boy and a girl at the same time. Then I saw a YouTube suggestion for one of my now favorite youtubers that was about the youtuber I was watching at the time and I agreed with them so...
    DibidibidisEggs DibidibidisEggs
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 13, 2014

    I have a question for all my queer peoples.

    Do you think someone that is Agender is transgender or do you think they are just not part of any category?
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 6, 2015

    I identify as male, but have traits of

    both a boy and a girl, partially due to my being raised as female. I like dressing up, but not in dresses or skirts. I own some makeup, but it's only for dance, drama, and the occasional experiment at home... anyone get where I'm coming from?
    mattmercury mattmercury
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jan 19, 2014

    So, I recently downloaded Kik

    and the first thing I did was see if there was a group for genderqueer people. Turns out that there is. But the whole thing is a bunch of high school kids talking about how horrible their parents and teachers are and drowning the place in selfies and asking each other if they...
    areilly29 areilly29
    26-30, T
    1 Response Apr 17, 2015

    I was a girl until the end of my childhood,

    then the whole "female" spectrum didn't feel right. I experimented with being "male" but it didn't feel right either. It felt like I was trying to be someone else. After some years of confusion I discovered the online agender/nonbinary/genderqueer community. It didn't felt quite...
    Hakbae Hakbae
    22-25, T
    1 Response Sep 6, 2014

    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi
    2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

    Hello. My name's Robin,

    I'm 17 and I'm genderqueer. I would to meet and be friends with other transgender and genderqueer people my age because I don't really like most cisgenders. I am here for anyone who needs a friend, please talk to me. I plan to get top surgery one day and I'm trying to lose...
    ebonyparrish ebonyparrish
    18-21, T
    1 Response May 21, 2014

    I decided to go to a formal afternoon tea

    as a 'guy' instead of usual genderqueer self. How did I do out of 10?
    RyanTheDinosaur RyanTheDinosaur
    18-21, T
    1 Response Oct 7, 2015

    I had a really weird,

    existential dream a few nights ago. I remember I was at a party, which is unrealistic in itself because I typically don't enjoy parties. I see a girl, short hair, short purple dress, and for whatever reason, I decide to talk to her. Long story short, the girl is basically future...
    CasvalEarth CasvalEarth
    26-30, T
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2015

    I know a lot of people have pride about being

    genderqueer... But it's really painful sometimes and lonely, especially if you live where I do... If anyone else is hurting I am here to talk, and I'm looking for people to talk to as well.
    ChloeSunshine ChloeSunshine
    26-30, T
    Jan 11, 2016

    Though I'm female and appreciate the form I was

    given I've always struggled with identifying with women and girls. I dress feminine for special occasions, mostly for my family. Most of the time I want to wear baggy clothes and just be as comfortable as possible. I have long hair because it's pretty hair but I shaved the side...
    HoneyBeeOfRedMountain HoneyBeeOfRedMountain
    26-30, F
    Sep 29, 2015

    Is referring to yourself

    while being gender queer as "they " the only way to do it other than "z " or. "ZE "? As in , your friend that happens to be gender queer us coming over to chill . So you say "so and so is coming over , THEY will be here soon " rather than saying He or She ? I'm completely...
    ArtsyFaerie32 ArtsyFaerie32
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    I have days where I feel more masculine

    and days where I feel more feminine, but I always want to bind my chest, regardless of what I'm feeling that day. If I could "ride the line" more, maybe that would help a bit....
    Lilyhammer420 Lilyhammer420
    26-30, F
    Nov 25, 2015

    It's Fricken Unnecessary

    ...that I should have to go through this. I'd SO much rather be transsexual. For a while I held onto my masculine side in hopes that I could just transition. The undeniable truth, though, is that I'm stuck somewhere in the middle. I can't see a gender specialist either, because I...
    HunterFae HunterFae
    18-21, T
    4 Responses Jul 27, 2013

    Growing up I was a very "tomboyish" girl.

    I preferred to play sports and video games, and wanted to dress like a boy. Clothes shopping was a huge struggle for me as a kid, and I later realized it was because I was not allowed to shop in the boys section. As I got older it became less well-accepted to be a tomboy. People...
    Rhodopsin Rhodopsin
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    I am I guess what I could only describe

    as a genderqueer female. It's been an issue I have been hung up on my entire life, particularly in my younger days. As an adolescent-late teen I practiced being transmale on a daily basis, but after a while I began to realise that by the end, I was trying to emulate traits that...
    WarGlaive WarGlaive
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2015

    this week is crazy, I've felt masculine

    for quite some time and have recently split with my girlfriend and now I've switched and gone into girl 'mode'. my feelings are so strong i don't know what to do and just can't cope! i want to transition so bad but i know i will eventually switch again. i just feel so awful...
    Lewlou98xxx Lewlou98xxx
    18-21, M
    Dec 15, 2015
    Lokisvixen Lokisvixen
    22-25, F
    Jul 20, 2015

    I am genderqueer regardless of what others say...

     I remember being extremely young and knowing I was different. I constantly thought that when I was growing up that I was intersex and my parents had decided to make me a girl. I longed to have my penis to feel complete, yet I still wanted to act and dress femininely. During...
    goddessorie goddessorie
    Oct 26, 2009

    I recently came out as genderqueer.

    Most of my family and friends took it very good, and my parents are quite supportive. But it seems like not everyone take me serious even if they accept me. Especially my oldest sister and mother still put me in those stereotypical gender roles society have made up. Even some of...
    onedaydreamer onedaydreamer
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Jun 24, 2015

    Is it weird that I don't feel like a guy

    or a women?? I feel like am both...
    meme0181996 meme0181996
    18-21, F
    Sep 25, 2014

    So, I am not entirely sure yet.

    .. I've been questioning my gender identity for a while now, but I can't seem to figure it out. I was assigned female at birth, and growing up I could act feminine just as I could act masculine. It did confuse me, and sometimes I felt like a wannaby trans*. Growing up, I loved...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1
    Jan 19, 2016

    Coming to this conclusion with certainty,

    from being confused about being FTM then realizing I'm genderqueer has been amazing. I feel at such a relief.
    GQftw GQftw
    26-30, T
    1 Response Apr 3, 2014

    What Am I And Why?

    This is not a problem and I'm not looking for a solution. I'm just simply sharing my story. I was born a female, yes, but in the last few years, I've found that I don't fit iin, nor do I want to fit in, to any type of gender caste. I had a very hard childhood with a very terrible...
    PresumptuousLittleAngel PresumptuousLittleAngel
    1 Response Nov 11, 2011

    It kind of bugs me that a lot of people

    discredit genderqueer terms and other gender identies by saying that they are just labels when the words man and woman are just as much of a label as those words are also and I never heard anyone point that out. Those are words treated like identities and not labels. Referring...
    SapphicMinion SapphicMinion
    8 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    I really have no gender.

    ... But today I feel like being a girl. So I am going to put on long hair and make up and flirt and giggle and maybe even wear high heels. Maybe I'll post a pick when I'm done. Some times I get odd looks when I dress fem.... And I'd like feedback.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 3, 2015
    bugab00 bugab00
    18-21, T
    1 Response Oct 1, 2015

    being genderqueer can be hard

    when It comes down to life but we can support eachother and help the world understand us for the people we are
    ShadowWolf01 ShadowWolf01
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 21, 2014

    A Not-so-brief, But Yet Very Brief History Of My Gender Identity

    I started the infamous Boys vs. Girls Kindergarten Civil War of 2002. I think I may have committed treason against the boys on a few occasions, but I never really thought much of it. I am sixteen, male, and genderqueer. My gender presentation is a bit tough, because I feel like...
    whatshouldmyusernamebe whatshouldmyusernamebe
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2013

    I am a Demi girl. I know

    if I tell anyone in my family, they won't understand or accept me.
    JellyfishPrincess JellyfishPrincess
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Mar 4, 2015

    I look like a cisgendered person though.

    It's awkward because my family is so judgmental. Had an Awkward experience recently. My family and I went to a karaoke place. At the place there was a transgender woman. My uncle and a few others cracked jokes about her looking like a man. I tried to defend her. I felt so...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

    There I said it I finally admit it I am

    genderqueer I haven't told my parents yet and I don't think I ever will but I love the way I am
    bichick19 bichick19
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 18, 2016

    God, When I Wake, Please Let Me Be a Boy.

    That's what I would pray when I was younger. I used to hope to God that when we moved here to Colorado, that I would wake up and be a boy, and that I could start up my new life as a boy in Colorado. That's what I wanted, ever since my first "experience...
    HypeArt HypeArt
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 22, 2009

    Queerness is certain.

    But I don't know at what level. This question has been taking over my mind for the last few weeks and I just need an answer. A while ago, I posted something online. Out of the people that replied, only one specifically addressed me as a male. I was surprised at first, but then...
    shawking shawking
    16-17, F
    Feb 8, 2016

    Just because we are with people,

    doesn't mean your with them or they with you. We wear masks and only let them off when we feel no threat. My feelings are balloons and there are sharp things everywhere. I like cute, I like fun, I like silly and expressive. I like pretty. I like expressive colors. I like...
    madeofstars madeofstars
    31-35, M
    Oct 2, 2014

    hi everyone. i'm really confused about my

    gender. lately i started identify as demisexual, but i'm not to sure.. i need somebody to talk to.. can you help me? (sorry for my english)
    finnien finnien
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2015


    Ever since I was little, I have been alone, unable to relate. There's your typical stuff. I loved snakes and bugs and dinosaurs more than anything. I liked getting down and dirty in the mud, collecting spiders in jars and poking the dead mice my cats killed with sticks and-- when...
    hurricaneflutterdash hurricaneflutterdash
    1 Response Apr 29, 2013

    Not A Real Person

    I never really though about my sexuality or any of that growing up. It just never really crossed my mind that i was supposed to be either a male or female, or be interested in either males or females. The way I saw it, everyone was the same. But as i started getting older, i...
    Chagrins Chagrins
    22-25, T
    May 23, 2013

    I tried to tell my mom

    that I was genderqueer but she can't wrap her head around it. I keep explaining that there are more than two genders but she thinks that I'm pretending to be something I'm not. It took me FOREVER to finally accept who I am and I keep telling her that I'm not a girl and her only...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets
    18-21, T
    1 Response Jul 9, 2014

    Agender, struggle is real.

    I dressed in gender neutral stuff for years, mostly men's clothes. Now I don't put much effort into what I wear. I will wear a tutu and a hoody of its comfortable and feels good. Being autistic has always affected my senses. A lot of fabrics used for cheap, female clothes...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 28, 2014

    I Am Post Op Transsexual Translesbian Transwomen And So On.

    Hi My Name is leece i live in  south australia. i am post op transsexual who has trouble fitting in the lesbian world due to most not wanting to know you. they seame to think your just out for sex and we a freaks. i was looking for freinds not sex. i gave up on ever finding...
    leecej leecej
    3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

    Genderqueer. That's me.

    I used to consider transitioning to male, but after careful consideration I found that I would only be going from one cage to another. It is far easier, better and, well, cheaper to remain outside of cages. Of course this means I won't have access to hormones or any surgeries...
    liekinvarsi liekinvarsi
    1 Response Feb 28, 2014

    I realised that I was different from my friends

    recently. I always liked boys-- many of my crushed in school were actually guys. But at the same time, from when I was young, I liked girls. So a bisexual then. Thats what I thought-- not that big of a deal, and it would be easy for me to tell it to my friends. Wrong. My best...
    CHiVE44 CHiVE44
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2014

    (Trigger warnings for discussion of dysphoria

    and suicidal ideation.) Personally I don't like "genderqueer" for me--non-binary is better--because I don't feel like my identity really "queers gender" as the term meant. But I'm not a girl and I'm not a guy. Maybe being neither queers gender automatically? Who knows. I'm...
    LemonFairy LemonFairy
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2015

    I personally think that being gender queer is a

    lot harder than being transgender, because if you're transgender then you can transition and be forever happy. However being gender queer means that I can switch gender at any given time, this means that I can't transition and be happy with myself as I know that at one point ill...
    Lewlou98xxx Lewlou98xxx
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Oct 7, 2014

    I don't know my gender

    when I do know I'm using male pronouns. and I do know that I have always felt masculine I never liked anything that was considered stereo sterotypical female behavior. I feel like venting today because I get confused so easily sometimes I think that if I was just born a guy but...
    CosmicEvan CosmicEvan
    22-25, T
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    I have a hard time making friends with girls

    nowadays. In the past girls who I thought were my friends were always trying to get me to "have fun" by dressing up and going to dances. Even my mother puts that same pressure on me. The guy friends I made in high school were sort of easier to hang out with but I still felt like...
    julsrules julsrules
    22-25, F
    Feb 25, 2014

    When people ask your gender

    and you explain you're genderqueer and they still want you to pick male or female #thestruggleisreal
    kyleishellagay kyleishellagay
    4 Responses Jul 1, 2014
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