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I Am a Genderqueer

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    I realised that I was different from my friends

    recently. I always liked boys-- many of my crushed in school were actually guys. But at the same time, from when I was young, I liked girls. So a bisexual then. Thats what I thought-- not that big of a deal, and it would be easy for me to tell it to my friends. Wrong. My best...
    CHiVE44 CHiVE44 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2014

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    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi 26-30 3 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    So, I recently downloaded Kik

    and the first thing I did was see if there was a group for genderqueer people. Turns out that there is. But the whole thing is a bunch of high school kids talking about how horrible their parents and teachers are and drowning the place in selfies and asking each other if they...
    areilly29 areilly29 26-30, T 1 Response Apr 17, 2015

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    I am genderqueer regardless of what others say...

     I remember being extremely young and knowing I was different. I constantly thought that when I was growing up that I was intersex and my parents had decided to make me a girl. I longed to have my penis to feel complete, yet I still wanted to act and dress femininely. During...
    goddessorie goddessorie 22-25 Oct 26, 2009

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    This fits better than any other category --

    though off line most people pigeonhole me quickly, and it is not something I choose to struggle about on a daily basis. But I feel joy at the availability of this name for who I am here on EP. This is why I do not have a gender in my profile, and the freedom this gives is such a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    "female" Is A Relative Term...

    ever since i was little, i've always been a bit unsure where i stood in society. growing up, i was always "one of the guys" when i played with boys and "one of the girls" when i played with girls. i never really understood it, but i would often wish i were a...
    Yoshino Yoshino 22-25, T 11 Responses Dec 7, 2009

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    being genderqueer can be hard

    when It comes down to life but we can support eachother and help the world understand us for the people we are
    ShadowWolf01 ShadowWolf01 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    I personally think that being gender queer is a

    lot harder than being transgender, because if you're transgender then you can transition and be forever happy. However being gender queer means that I can switch gender at any given time, this means that I can't transition and be happy with myself as I know that at one point ill...
    Lewlou98xxx Lewlou98xxx 16-17, M 3 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Not A Real Person

    I never really though about my sexuality or any of that growing up. It just never really crossed my mind that i was supposed to be either a male or female, or be interested in either males or females. The way I saw it, everyone was the same. But as i started getting older, i...
    Chagrins Chagrins 18-21, T 1 Response May 23, 2013

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    Alone

    Ever since I was little, I have been alone, unable to relate. There's your typical stuff. I loved snakes and bugs and dinosaurs more than anything. I liked getting down and dirty in the mud, collecting spiders in jars and poking the dead mice my cats killed with sticks and-- when...
    hurricaneflutterdash hurricaneflutterdash 18-21 1 Response Apr 29, 2013

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    I have days where I feel more masculine

    and days where I feel more feminine, but I always want to bind my chest, regardless of what I'm feeling that day. If I could "ride the line" more, maybe that would help a bit....
    Lilyhammer420 Lilyhammer420 26-30, F Nov 25, 2015

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    So, I am not entirely sure yet.

    .. I've been questioning my gender identity for a while now, but I can't seem to figure it out. I was assigned female at birth, and growing up I could act feminine just as I could act masculine. It did confuse me, and sometimes I felt like a wannaby trans*. Growing up, I loved...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    Always have been honestly.

    even when I was a child, i liked to dress as androgynous as possible, and play both with the boys and girls in my daycare center even tho thats usually the time when boys and girls separate. everyone told me it was just a phase but i never grew out of it. i've always felt...
    Alyss22 Alyss22 18-21, T 1 Response Feb 15, 2015

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    this week is crazy, I've felt masculine

    for quite some time and have recently split with my girlfriend and now I've switched and gone into girl 'mode'. my feelings are so strong i don't know what to do and just can't cope! i want to transition so bad but i know i will eventually switch again. i just feel so awful...
    Lewlou98xxx Lewlou98xxx 16-17, M Dec 15, 2015

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    Though I'm female and appreciate the form I was

    given I've always struggled with identifying with women and girls. I dress feminine for special occasions, mostly for my family. Most of the time I want to wear baggy clothes and just be as comfortable as possible. I have long hair because it's pretty hair but I shaved the side...
    HoneyBeeOfRedMountain HoneyBeeOfRedMountain 26-30, F Sep 29, 2015

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    I really have no gender.

    ... But today I feel like being a girl. So I am going to put on long hair and make up and flirt and giggle and maybe even wear high heels. Maybe I'll post a pick when I'm done. Some times I get odd looks when I dress fem.... And I'd like feedback.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 3, 2015

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    It's Fricken Unnecessary

    ...that I should have to go through this. I'd SO much rather be transsexual. For a while I held onto my masculine side in hopes that I could just transition. The undeniable truth, though, is that I'm stuck somewhere in the middle. I can't see a gender specialist either, because I...
    HunterFae HunterFae 18-21, T 4 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    When people ask your gender

    and you explain you're genderqueer and they still want you to pick male or female #thestruggleisreal
    kyleishellagay kyleishellagay 16-17 4 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    I have a question for all my queer peoples.

    Do you think someone that is Agender is transgender or do you think they are just not part of any category?
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 6, 2015

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    I had a really weird,

    existential dream a few nights ago. I remember I was at a party, which is unrealistic in itself because I typically don't enjoy parties. I see a girl, short hair, short purple dress, and for whatever reason, I decide to talk to her. Long story short, the girl is basically future...
    CasvalEarth CasvalEarth 22-25, T 2 Responses Jan 29, 2015

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    Agender, struggle is real.

    I dressed in gender neutral stuff for years, mostly men's clothes. Now I don't put much effort into what I wear. I will wear a tutu and a hoody of its comfortable and feels good. Being autistic has always affected my senses. A lot of fabrics used for cheap, female clothes...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2014

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    I was a girl until the end of my childhood,

    then the whole "female" spectrum didn't feel right. I experimented with being "male" but it didn't feel right either. It felt like I was trying to be someone else. After some years of confusion I discovered the online agender/nonbinary/genderqueer community. It didn't felt quite...
    Hakbae Hakbae 22-25, T 1 Response Sep 6, 2014

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    I have a hard time making friends with girls

    nowadays. In the past girls who I thought were my friends were always trying to get me to "have fun" by dressing up and going to dances. Even my mother puts that same pressure on me. The guy friends I made in high school were sort of easier to hang out with but I still felt like...
    julsrules julsrules 22-25, F Feb 25, 2014

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    Just because we are with people,

    doesn't mean your with them or they with you. We wear masks and only let them off when we feel no threat. My feelings are balloons and there are sharp things everywhere. I like cute, I like fun, I like silly and expressive. I like pretty. I like expressive colors. I like...
    madeofstars madeofstars 31-35, M Oct 2, 2014

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    I look like a cisgendered person though.

    It's awkward because my family is so judgmental. Had an Awkward experience recently. My family and I went to a karaoke place. At the place there was a transgender woman. My uncle and a few others cracked jokes about her looking like a man. I tried to defend her. I felt so...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I identify as male, but have traits of

    both a boy and a girl, partially due to my being raised as female. I like dressing up, but not in dresses or skirts. I own some makeup, but it's only for dance, drama, and the occasional experiment at home... anyone get where I'm coming from?
    mattmercury mattmercury 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 19, 2014

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    AntwonAnonymous AntwonAnonymous 26-30, T 1 Response Oct 17, 2015

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    Coming to this conclusion with certainty,

    from being confused about being FTM then realizing I'm genderqueer has been amazing. I feel at such a relief.
    GQftw GQftw 22-25, T 1 Response Apr 3, 2014

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    Lokisvixen Lokisvixen 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2015

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    It kind of bugs me that a lot of people

    discredit genderqueer terms and other gender identies by saying that they are just labels when the words man and woman are just as much of a label as those words are also and I never heard anyone point that out. Those are words treated like identities and not labels. Referring...
    SapphicMinion SapphicMinion 26-30 9 Responses Sep 28, 2015

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    Growing up I was a very "tomboyish" girl.

    I preferred to play sports and video games, and wanted to dress like a boy. Clothes shopping was a huge struggle for me as a kid, and I later realized it was because I was not allowed to shop in the boys section. As I got older it became less well-accepted to be a tomboy. People...
    Rhodopsin Rhodopsin 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 7, 2015

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    A Not-so-brief, But Yet Very Brief History Of My Gender Identity

    I started the infamous Boys vs. Girls Kindergarten Civil War of 2002. I think I may have committed treason against the boys on a few occasions, but I never really thought much of it. I am sixteen, male, and genderqueer. My gender presentation is a bit tough, because I feel like...
    whatshouldmyusernamebe whatshouldmyusernamebe 18-21 3 Responses Sep 19, 2013

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    I am I guess what I could only describe

    as a genderqueer female. It's been an issue I have been hung up on my entire life, particularly in my younger days. As an adolescent-late teen I practiced being transmale on a daily basis, but after a while I began to realise that by the end, I was trying to emulate traits that...
    WarGlaive WarGlaive 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2015

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    I hardely trust myself to talk about this

    because I am afraid that people will think I'm just a special snowflake but this is pretty real for me. I am genderfluid. Most of the time I am in the right body but sometimes I just want to hide my boobs and wear a strap-on because it feels ... realer. I'm a girl most of the...
    LunaSanguine LunaSanguine 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2015

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    bugab00 bugab00 18-21, T 1 Response Oct 1, 2015

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    I know a lot of people have pride about being

    genderqueer... But it's really painful sometimes and lonely, especially if you live where I do... If anyone else is hurting I am here to talk, and I'm looking for people to talk to as well.
    ChloeSunshine ChloeSunshine 26-30, T 1 Response Jan 11

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    Is it weird that I don't feel like a guy

    or a women?? I feel like am both...
    meme0181996 meme0181996 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2014

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    Genderqueer. That's me.

    I used to consider transitioning to male, but after careful consideration I found that I would only be going from one cage to another. It is far easier, better and, well, cheaper to remain outside of cages. Of course this means I won't have access to hormones or any surgeries...
    liekinvarsi liekinvarsi 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2014

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    I recently came out as genderqueer.

    Most of my family and friends took it very good, and my parents are quite supportive. But it seems like not everyone take me serious even if they accept me. Especially my oldest sister and mother still put me in those stereotypical gender roles society have made up. Even some of...
    onedaydreamer onedaydreamer 22-25, T 2 Responses Jun 24, 2015

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    What Am I And Why?

    This is not a problem and I'm not looking for a solution. I'm just simply sharing my story. I was born a female, yes, but in the last few years, I've found that I don't fit iin, nor do I want to fit in, to any type of gender caste. I had a very hard childhood with a very terrible...
    PresumptuousLittleAngel PresumptuousLittleAngel 18-21 1 Response Nov 11, 2011

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    Is referring to yourself

    while being gender queer as "they " the only way to do it other than "z " or. "ZE "? As in , your friend that happens to be gender queer us coming over to chill . So you say "so and so is coming over , THEY will be here soon " rather than saying He or She ? I'm completely...
    ArtsyFaerie32 ArtsyFaerie32 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    I'm so confused >_< At first I thought I was

    a lesbian but over the past few months I've wanted to be a girl less and less. I've never liked dresses or things most girls my age are into, and I used to just attribute that to the fact that I wasn't straight. Since around November, though, I've slowly started to reject being...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 16-17, T May 23, 2014

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    I am a Demi girl. I know

    if I tell anyone in my family, they won't understand or accept me.
    JellyfishPrincess JellyfishPrincess 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2015

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    I tried to tell my mom

    that I was genderqueer but she can't wrap her head around it. I keep explaining that there are more than two genders but she thinks that I'm pretending to be something I'm not. It took me FOREVER to finally accept who I am and I keep telling her that I'm not a girl and her only...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 16-17, T 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    I decided to go to a formal afternoon tea

    as a 'guy' instead of usual genderqueer self. How did I do out of 10?
    RyanTheDinosaur RyanTheDinosaur 16-17, T 1 Response Oct 7, 2015

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