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I Am a Genderqueer

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    I tried to tell my mom

    that I was genderqueer but she can't wrap her head around it. I keep explaining that there are more than two genders but she thinks that I'm pretending to be something I'm not. It took me FOREVER to finally accept who I am and I keep telling her that I'm not a girl and her only...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 16-17 1 Response Jul 9

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    I'm Not Indecisive!

    This is by no means a new phase, but I can't deny that it was only recently since I have accepted it. It is not clear to me whether my case is biological or psychological. However, I am leaning towards the latter. I grew up with two brothers, along with a father who considered...
    jaquelin1 jaquelin1 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    "female" Is A Relative Term...

    ever since i was little, i've always been a bit unsure where i stood in society. growing up, i was always "one of the guys" when i played with boys and "one of the girls" when i played with girls. i never really understood it, but i would often wish i were a...
    Yoshino Yoshino 22-25, T 11 Responses Dec 7, 2009

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    Proud if this because

    for many years I thought I was M2F TS however I am TG or Genderqueer. Now that I have this figured out I need to make sure that I am seeking a Pansexual Man!
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom 26-30, T 1 Response Apr 12

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    I identify as male, but have traits of

    both a boy and a girl, partially due to my being raised as female. I like dressing up, but not in dresses or skirts. I own some makeup, but it's only for dance, drama, and the occasional experiment at home... anyone get where I'm coming from?
    mattmercury mattmercury 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 19

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    When I was a kid (between age 2

    until I was 10) I was best friends with my neighbour Jay. We played together a lot and it mainly consisted of a combination of power rangers, X-Men, teenage mutant ninja turtles, pokemon and yu gi oh etc. I was a happy kid but often told my mum that I preferred boys stuff to...
    JustKai JustKai 16-17, T 1 Response Feb 1

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    What Am I And Why?

    This is not a problem and I'm not looking for a solution. I'm just simply sharing my story. I was born a female, yes, but in the last few years, I've found that I don't fit iin, nor do I want to fit in, to any type of gender caste. I had a very hard childhood with a very terrible...
    PresumptuousLittleAngel PresumptuousLittleAngel 18-21 1 Response Nov 11, 2011

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    It's Fricken Unnecessary

    ...that I should have to go through this. I'd SO much rather be transsexual. For a while I held onto my masculine side in hopes that I could just transition. The undeniable truth, though, is that I'm stuck somewhere in the middle. I can't see a gender specialist either, because I...
    HunterFae HunterFae 18-21, T 2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    livechat livechat 22-25, F Jan 2

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    I look like a cisgendered person though.

    It's awkward because my family is so judgmental. Had an Awkward experience recently. My family and I went to a karaoke place. At the place there was a transgender woman. My uncle and a few others cracked jokes about her looking like a man. I tried to defend her. I felt so...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Deconstructing Gender, Sex, and Sexuality. and Then Recognizing the Conflict of Interest With Those Who Find Them Convenient.

    Hey, I guess I'd probably say I'm androgyne and ask you to call me ze! I'm a freshman in college, had a friend come out as male which sparked me to stop being a gender-nihilist and get interested in gender studies and queer theory instead. And I look totally cisgendered to...
    BrighterTheyFall BrighterTheyFall 18-21 2 Responses Oct 31, 2008

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    I Know That I Love Her So Much...

    yeah.....She is so beautiful...she is my friend and she is straight...I have told her about my feelings,now she knows everything..but she still continue treat me as friend and it hurts a lot...I am so confused..I don't know what I must do...I think I mustn't make her fall in love...
    4bidden 4bidden 16-17, F 4 Responses May 23, 2012

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    A Not-so-brief, But Yet Very Brief History Of My Gender Identity

    I started the infamous Boys vs. Girls Kindergarten Civil War of 2002. I think I may have committed treason against the boys on a few occasions, but I never really thought much of it. I am sixteen, male, and genderqueer. My gender presentation is a bit tough, because I feel like...
    whatshouldmyusernamebe whatshouldmyusernamebe 16-17 1 Response Sep 19, 2013

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    I think I might be I get mistaken

    as a guy and don't care and I love dressing in guys clothes but love getting dressed up :/ yeah...
    CosplayPotato CosplayPotato 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    I have a hard time making friends with girls

    nowadays. In the past girls who I thought were my friends were always trying to get me to "have fun" by dressing up and going to dances. Even my mother puts that same pressure on me. The guy friends I made in high school were sort of easier to hang out with but I still felt like...
    julsrules julsrules 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    I''ve told one of my friends

    who is the same way and my boyfriend at the same time. They're both pretty cool about who I am but I don't want other people to get the wrong idea if sometimes I want to dress and look like a guy. It's not something I want to do all the time but neither is wearing skirts and...
    julsrules julsrules 18-21, F Mar 20

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    Hello. My name's Robin,

    I'm 17 and I'm genderqueer. I would to meet and be friends with other transgender and genderqueer people my age because I don't really like most cisgenders. I am here for anyone who needs a friend, please talk to me. I plan to get top surgery one day and I'm trying to lose...
    ebonyparrish ebonyparrish 18-21, T 1 Response May 21

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    God, When I Wake, Please Let Me Be a Boy.

    That's what I would pray when I was younger. I used to hope to God that when we moved here to Colorado, that I would wake up and be a boy, and that I could start up my new life as a boy in Colorado. That's what I wanted, ever since my first "experience...
    HypeArt HypeArt 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2009

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    Not A Real Person

    I never really though about my sexuality or any of that growing up. It just never really crossed my mind that i was supposed to be either a male or female, or be interested in either males or females. The way I saw it, everyone was the same. But as i started getting older, i...
    Chagrins Chagrins 18-21, T 1 Response May 23, 2013

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    I Am Trans But Gonna Stay Genderqueer

    My name is Christian,I figured out about 2 to 3 years ago that I am trans, altough due to the finacial constraints and also that I don't really want to put my body through all the crap I am going to stay genderqueer. Yes I would love to have top surgery, but honestly my partner's...
    Christian74 Christian74 36-40, T Jan 18, 2011

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    When people ask your gender

    and you explain you're genderqueer and they still want you to pick male or female #thestruggleisreal
    kyleishellagay kyleishellagay 13-15 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I realised that I was different from my friends

    recently. I always liked boys-- many of my crushed in school were actually guys. But at the same time, from when I was young, I liked girls. So a bisexual then. Thats what I thought-- not that big of a deal, and it would be easy for me to tell it to my friends. Wrong. My best...
    CHiVE44 CHiVE44 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    This fits better than any other category --

    though off line most people pigeonhole me quickly, and it is not something I choose to struggle about on a daily basis. But I feel joy at the availability of this name for who I am here on EP. This is why I do not have a gender in my profile, and the freedom this gives is such a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Over the past few weeks,

    I've transformed myself into what I really want to be. Most of my clothes have ben replaced with boys' clothes, I bind my chest every day, and my hair is now cut short! I feel so much better, like a weight has been lifted off of me. The only problem is that I'm afraid to come...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 16-17 1 Response Jun 3

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    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi 26-30 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I'm so confused >_< At first I thought I was

    a lesbian but over the past few months I've wanted to be a girl less and less. I've never liked dresses or things most girls my age are into, and I used to just attribute that to the fact that I wasn't straight. Since around November, though, I've slowly started to reject being...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 16-17 1 Response May 23

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    I am a genderqueer male.

    more accurately, I am a bi gender, gender fluid person in a male body. I like what I have, im not complaining, its awesome, but its hard to express sometimes because my gf not a fan of me dressing like a girl, and also, ive had to suppress my feminine side for the first 18...
    ThrillOfTheHunt ThrillOfTheHunt 22-25, T 1 Response Mar 23

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    I am genderqueer regardless of what others say...

     I remember being extremely young and knowing I was different. I constantly thought that when I was growing up that I was intersex and my parents had decided to make me a girl. I longed to have my penis to feel complete, yet I still wanted to act and dress femininely. During...
    goddessorie goddessorie 22-25 Oct 26, 2009

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    Coming to this conclusion with certainty,

    from being confused about being FTM then realizing I'm genderqueer has been amazing. I feel at such a relief.
    GQftw GQftw 22-25, T 1 Response Apr 3

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    I really wish I could have daily conversations

    about gender with someone who experienced it similarly.
    mTaraj mTaraj 18-21, T 2 Responses Apr 20

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    Country Queer, City Queer.

    I don't want to be a boy, but i've never felt quite like a girl.I had been doing a lot of thinking about gender in the last few years. I spent this summer out in the mountains working at a festival, with a couple old friends and a lot of strangers who would quickly become new...
    bluejaye bluejaye 26-30 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    I was a girl until the end of my childhood,

    then the whole "female" spectrum didn't feel right. I experimented with being "male" but it didn't feel right either. It felt like I was trying to be someone else. After some years of confusion I discovered the online agender/nonbinary/genderqueer community. It didn't felt quite...
    Hakbae Hakbae 18-21, T 1 Response Sep 6

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    I am gender queer (basically means I feel

    comfortable being both genders and I don't specify myself as one gender). I have recently told my family. My father took it well, but my mother on the other hand, not so much. She told me to "keep it under the table" and for "my protection" won't use the names for either of my...
    MimiBunny MimiBunny 16-17, T 1 Response Jun 18

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    I have been struggling with understanding how

    to deal with the difference between how I am treated based on how i look and who I am. The fact that I don't identify with either gender makes me feel misunderstood when I try to explain what I am. I feel isolated and unable to express myself and even with the explanation...
    epsilon000 epsilon000 26-30, T 1 Response Jun 6

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    Genderqueer. That's me.

    I used to consider transitioning to male, but after careful consideration I found that I would only be going from one cage to another. It is far easier, better and, well, cheaper to remain outside of cages. Of course this means I won't have access to hormones or any surgeries...
    liekinvarsi liekinvarsi 22-25 1 Response Feb 28

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    I'm not sure what I am honestly.

    But I'm defiantly don't fit in just the female category. I'm uncomfortable the female pronouns and even being called by my birth name. It's terrifying. I'm not sure if I'm transgender or just gender-fluid? I'm just on a path of self-discovery.
    lovelyalchemy lovelyalchemy 16-17 1 Response Mar 25

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    Alone

    Ever since I was little, I have been alone, unable to relate. There's your typical stuff. I loved snakes and bugs and dinosaurs more than anything. I liked getting down and dirty in the mud, collecting spiders in jars and poking the dead mice my cats killed with sticks and-- when...
    hurricaneflutterdash hurricaneflutterdash 16-17 1 Response Apr 29, 2013

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    I Am Post Op Transsexual Translesbian Transwomen And So On.

    Hi My Name is leece i live in  south australia. i am post op transsexual who has trouble fitting in the lesbian world due to most not wanting to know you. they seame to think your just out for sex and we a freaks. i was looking for freinds not sex. i gave up on ever finding...
    leecej leecej 51-55 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    For a while I was thinking I may be transgender.

    I looked up surgeries and info on it but it didn't really fit me completely. I felt like I was a boy and a girl at the same time. Then I saw a YouTube suggestion for one of my now favorite youtubers that was about the youtuber I was watching at the time and I agreed with them so...
    DibidibidisEggs DibidibidisEggs 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    I Only Recently Came To Use The Term

    but I've been gender queer as long as I've been thinking about gender. I use the term agender to specify my type of queer. I really came to terms with this aspect of myself when writing a paper for a course. We had to explain who we are and why we view the world the way we do...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers 18-21, T Nov 2, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    My ex girlfriend still calls me a lesbian woman even though I was very clear with her that I'm bisexual and genderqueer. You would think she could maybe understand, given the fact...
    teawithharry teawithharry 18-21, T Aug 23

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    I found freedom in my own genderfluid life so of course I support everyone else. Just be who or what you want
    AndroTaylor AndroTaylor 18-21 3 Responses Aug 21

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    Anybody genderqueer here that wants to chat? I wouldn't mind having an e relationship
    ebonyparrish ebonyparrish 18-21, T 1 Response Aug 27

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