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I Am A Hard Person To Get Close Too

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 802 People

    Hurting The Ones You Care About

    A little while ago I hurt someone I care about because a story that I wrote made him think that I was out looking for someone, and this isn't the case. In my last story called, 'I am a hard person to get close too';  I talked about a certain type of man that I would like to come...
    ChocolateSauce ChocolateSauce 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    One reason is because I am a little on the shy

    side. The other reason is because I don't trust everybody. You have to show me you are a worthy person so to speak. I have opened up to people before and they turned out to be anything but a friend. Therefore I have to feel you out first.
    WhoAreWeIsTheQuestion WhoAreWeIsTheQuestion 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I'm not much of a people person,

    but I guess it's because I've always been used & thrown away. Also having Selective Mutism doesn't help, but no one even listens to me when I do speak so why try. Trust is something that takes time to build & if you're not going to make an effort why should I?
    SamiLy SamiLy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I have no idea how to talk to people.

    And I like that. So please, if you would like to get close to me, please respect my high levels of privacy. But due note: I will still let you be part of my life. I just have a weird way of doing so. I will take eons to respond to any sort of messaging. I might act like a cold...
    razzycharm razzycharm 22-25, F Jul 15

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    In my experience, you cannot fully trust a

    person until I have known them for at least longer than two years. I realized this when my supposed friend kept insulting me and then denying she ever did such a thing. She didn't exactly hurt my feelings, but I decided it would be better to stay away from her rather than...
    Lilyfire1 Lilyfire1 13-15, F Jul 29

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    keithm8 keithm8 22-25, M Jul 15

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    loneleyboy loneleyboy 13-15, M 3 Responses Jul 15

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    Truth About Me

    I'm terrified of being hurt again, and I'm a pretty weird person who doesn't mesh well with a lot of the people in my area, so I don't meet people. I don't talk to people in real life- only online. And when one of my online friends wants to meet me in real life I become terrified...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

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    I Am A Hard Person To Get Close Too.................

    I am a very hard person to get close too, and I have to admit that I know some of the reasons why. First off, I was married and my marriage wasn't suppose to end until death due us part. Secondly, My ex-husband and I were suppose to have (3) kids, open two businesses, (1) Real...
    ChocolateSauce ChocolateSauce 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    With everything that I have been through in my

    life, I have obtained trust issues and commitment issues. My wall is so guarded, the militia couldn't break it down. Like, it's hard for me to let people in. I actually wish that I could be different sometimes, but then I don't because I've been this way for so long, I'm...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F 3 Responses May 22

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    Everything Ends Sometimes.

    Ever since I was little, I've been constantly let down by people I was close to...My dad left, my mom pushed me too hard, the people that i thought were my friends left me behind.Sometimes I just feel like I was meant to be alone.Alone by myself, the only person I can count on...
    christinexxcatastrophe christinexxcatastrophe 13-15, F Oct 10, 2011

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    Arms Length

    Trust is something I don't take lightly. It's hard for anyone to climb of the barrier of lies. The barrier no one has succeed to conquer but two. I have secrets as anyone does, but you'll merely know only my name, and basic information. I won't go into to details, but my past...
    TurnThePaige TurnThePaige 18-21, F Aug 23, 2011

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    IgnoreTheSmoke IgnoreTheSmoke 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    I Truly Care, I Just Don't Always Show It.

    Ok, before I start, this is for everyone on EP, especially my circle. I'm sure you have noticed from speaking to me that I do not open up immediately, and I won't open up immediately. In my past, I have been let down by people I trusted countless times and now I just can't trust...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    Ever since my accident I usually shut ppl out

    other than ppl idk I just don't see why tho I do it and I don't realize what I'm doing till after I'm done ppl don't understand that I can't control myself like I use to, I never thought that I would express my self like this but just need Time and I need to vent ( I didn't even...
    daniel7268 daniel7268 16-17, M Jun 24, 2014

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    I don't know why but i'm just not much of a

    people person, i don't have many close friends and i hardly talk about anything to my family at all and i just cant talk to anyone much because i feel like i have nothing to talk about. Do i need help or something?
    stephanieleon34211 stephanieleon34211 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    This is especially true on this website.

    I have found that i expect all men to be the same unfortunately. they want one thing. they don't realize there are so many different facets to me. you can't have one without all the rest.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 2 Responses May 22

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    It is not because I am afraid of getting hurt

    or any of that bull ****. I am just different. I think differently than most. Feel differently. So there have been times I have opened up and it just doesnt seem to work out. I am not upset about it..its just life. Maybe someday my time will come. Some other person out there...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 11, 2014

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    I've just been burnt too many times.

    I find it hard yo trust anyone too much anymore. I only let people see the surface.
    PaperTowns PaperTowns 22-25, F Aug 17

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    I'm shy. And for some reason the general public

    looks upon that like a disease or something. I get the occasional friendly person and it just brightens my day. But I also like just watching the person too, to get a 'feel' for them. The people that I'm very close to...we just click. I don't think anyone can be close with a ton...
    beautifulblessedchild beautifulblessedchild 18-21, F May 23

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    i may be hard to get close to

    but once i let you in you are not going anywhere you become a person of need and interest. I will cling to you and sob when you leave. I either hate you or love you.
    justDlight justDlight 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    It's Not Even On Purpose.

    I'm just... an onion. I am layers. layers upon layers of relational style, inspirations, interests, fears, dreams, vices... I choose which layer to present at which time. But it takes so very long for anyone to see more than one layer, if ever. And it's not because I don't want...
    flameoffire flameoffire 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 9, 2012

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    Me Too

    I have been hurt, I am scared, and I don't want to up. All this adds up to being closed off. So I am hard to get to know because I don't want it to happen again. I don't want to pick up the pieces and try to fit them together, again. It sucks! If you do ask me to open up, if...
    Sl1ckah3ad Sl1ckah3ad 41-45, M Nov 9, 2013

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    Too Much.

    I open up.. let you in.. you can taste the weakness on the tip of your tongue. How I put my walls down so instantly before. Then I get hurt. Someone always cheats. Uses harsh words. ***** me up. In other words it's not going to happen again. There was this one man I was with...
    KISSndKILL KISSndKILL 18-21, F Aug 15, 2011

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    I am not an easy person to know.

    I am awkward often when I meet people. I do better with people who like to talk about themselves so I do not have to do much talking. I like to be there for people. It is hard for me to let them be there for me. Every once and awhile someone will come into my life and it is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2014

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    I'm the type of person who can listen with out judging. I keep it straight. maybe that's why I don't have many people by my side.
    Lucylubbsgolda Lucylubbsgolda 22-25, F 48 mins ago

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    Over the years of working I have hardly felt the need to use up my annual leave. These days have just been accumulating. Long story short, as of today I am on leave for 3 long...
    BreakingTheRules BreakingTheRules 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    I just told my best friend, and nothing even changed. He's being really supportive and we are still really close. I'm lucky
    Kandtheconstellations Kandtheconstellations 18-21, T 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Yeah.. I believe one person can make a huge difference. I meet lots of people. When someone comes and change us totally we feel blessed... God bless them.
    sperrow sperrow 22-25, M 3 hrs ago

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    I wonder if being passionate makes life better. It makes life dramatic. Because being passionate means that you want to experience each situation, relationship, moment for 100...
    crescentsun crescentsun 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    For the most part yes I am a very private person till I get to know you then I am a open book
    justmyself11 justmyself11 51-55, M 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I prefer to look to the person and not to the body. When a person is going to be old the attractiveness of the body will finish but the inner beauty will stay forever! Furthermore...
    Loretta78 Loretta78 36-40, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    He may not be the nicest person in the world, he could be pretty mean, a little moody, and not great at the whole relationship thing, but he's wonderful with me and the ones I love...
    for3v3r7 for3v3r7 26-30, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    i don't really have many friends at all let alone close ones it is so hard for me to trust people because so many people are fake and try to act like a true friend just to get...
    hotbryan29 hotbryan29 26-30, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hey all. I am a 22 year old girl. Growing up, my family has never been really close. I didn't grow up with any cousins or relatives. They're all strangers. I literally don't care...
    parisjade12 parisjade12 22-25 1 day ago

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    Pm me if you need closeness too
    calmblue1968 calmblue1968 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    well i wouldnt say im a closeted gay idk.. sorry for any future typos lol im on my cell well i never really was interested in guys at all until i guess i had a urge and went online...
    therealme6782 therealme6782 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    it was a cold night in 2005 when it happened. i was 10 at the time and was the only kid who stayed with my parents for the summer. my sisters chose to spend their vacation with...
    tns24 tns24 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    This is a lil excerpt from a comment I made. "you can over come it. its a matter of retraining ur brain. and reassuring urself. what ur experiencing is probably not real.like...
    BeautifullySickkk BeautifullySickkk 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    And why shouldn't I do that? I don't have friends closer to me right now to tell all the misery and disappointments that I have. They seem busy with their life and they don't give...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    But it's hard. Almost impossible even. I just want a guy to come along and show me that they aren't all the same. Every time I go into a relationship, it is with high hopes, but...
    kitkat0216 kitkat0216 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    I don't know i seems can't madly in love no more. I've loved once, first love that wasn't sweet at all. He didn't love me back even he hated me just because he knew i had a feeling...
    fragilegile fragilegile 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    Sometimes all it takes is one bad thing between me and another person and it changes all my feelings when it comes to them. I truly can't always helps it. And it's hard for me to...
    xMellowButterflyx xMellowButterflyx 18-21, F 4 days ago

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