I Am a Hermit

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    Not necessarily a hermit I guess.

    But even though I want to live in the city again (I am going to), I only see myself living alone with my dog, drinking alone, listening to music by myself in the comfort of my own home, getting out only for concerts, work, and food. But also doing those things by myself. I enjoy...
    ghostofthesun ghostofthesun
    22-25, F
    Nov 16, 2015

    On The Road

    I cannot say truly that I am I hermit as I have a job working with other people. I'm not sure i want to live alone forever, but I am certainly on the right path. It is rather strange saying, "I am a hermit", because of course there is usually someone we are saying it to. So it...
    Hermit4 Hermit4
    31-35, M
    Nov 12, 2013

    I don't know why but I really like being by

    myself its very comforting yet Here I am reaching out on a forum. ... that's confusing ... I guess I just want to talk to people who are like me . I rarely meet anyone who just like to talk through email or online .. its always the phone or face to face. I am a deeply spiritual...
    shutthefrountdoor shutthefrountdoor
    7 Responses Apr 1, 2014

    Hermit ?

    i mean, i don't think there's anything basically wrong in wanting to be a hermit, but...is it because nobody understands you - or that you don't understand anybody ? cause if someone calls you stupid, they might be wrong ; but if 20 people call you stupid, they must be somewhat...
    Elieli Elieli
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Feb 3, 2010

    Alone But Not Lonely

    the very idea of putting effort into a relationship with another human makes me feel so tired. not only meeting people but then getting to know them and building a connection. ugh. i have a fair amount friends whom i adore, but seeing them once a week is plenty. i enjoy sitting...
    Snickerdoodling Snickerdoodling
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Jul 29, 2009

    I Don't Like It Out There

    I am a hermit part time, if it wasn't for work I would stay in my apartment all day. I hate it out there!! I like being behind 4 walls closed in, I don't get people. The world overstimulates my brain.
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Dec 29, 2009

    I love being alone and I don't mind working

    from home and only going out to get groceries really early in the morning
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 4, 2015

    I Want To

    become a hermit hide away from all the pain in the world enjoy my solitude become at peace with myself escape this hectic life & all the people in so much of a rush to get somewhere else eventually all the outside stresses would just melt away & I would be free from all lifes...
    DAVEY200011 DAVEY200011
    41-45, M
    1 Response Sep 21, 2011

    Hermit And Also Freaked Out Around Other People

    Let me tell you a bit about how I spend my time. The majority of my time is spent at home. On the computer, reading, sleeping, exercising, etc. The only time I leave the property is to go to the library, town, or a class I have weekly. About a year and a half ago I moved five...
    PenguinsLikePi PenguinsLikePi
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2011

    I dont like society i dont like crowds of

    people. I am emotionally like a hermit crab i dont open up to others and if i had the experience and the knowlege to do so i would not be living in a city home i would be in a hut on a mountain living a hunter gatherer life style providing for myself with no one around me.
    whtuernme whtuernme
    26-30, F
    Dec 7, 2014

    It's not that I dislike all people.

    Neither is it that I don't want company. No one shares my interests--trivial or useless information pertaining to science, myth, history. So to socialize, I must immerse myself in things that bore me--movies, television, computer or console games. Even work is more stimulating...
    rattleschains rattleschains
    41-45, M
    Feb 16, 2014

    i enjoy isolation,I mean not all the time,

    but a huge amount of it,only a few people that can be counted are welcome in my space,but no more than that,I find that I feel suffocated a lot,& I have to retreat to recharge,my sisters think I'm somewhat of a lame *** because I have no life,but I like it this way,I can't deal...
    lifelesspie lifelesspie
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 5, 2015


    I'm a loner.What's wrong with that? I mean,I live my life without bothering others.I wish people would respect the fact that I do not enjoy going out all the time,That I LOVE being at my own place,watching movies,reading,minding my own business.Going out is so incredibly...
    ladysmith ladysmith
    18-21, F
    14 Responses Jun 27, 2010

    I Live In A Log Cabin High In The Mountains Far From Civilization...

    When I get to town on occasion I use the internet to write my stories....I am my best friend...a loner...I live like a hermit with animals as my friends...there are two dogs and a variety of other creatures a racoon who hangs from a tree as I feed him snacks and berries, the elk...
    hermitinthewoods hermitinthewoods
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 25, 2011

    I was thrust against my will into the life of

    being a hermit. My FORMER dermatologist screwed up my face so bad in October, 2013 that I went from awesomely happy and active to fearfully hiding on my couch, fearing my own reflection. The dermatologist's "consolation" is I might go back to looking somewhat normal in...
    Possiblefuture Possiblefuture
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2014

    Books, Cats, Biscuits And Tea

    I already live off-grid in the woods I wish it was even more primitive I am married but wish that I could only be married "part-time" and spend the vast majority of my hours wandering and reading and writing and just being I have aspergers/selective mutism and just prefer...
    Kardea Kardea
    41-45, F
    Oct 5, 2013

    Every guy and girl I know is always talking

    about their sex and romantic lives, and every time the conversation turn moves to me I have to bullshit or meekly reply that I've never experienced intimacy or sexual relations. I tried to cope by locking myself in my apartment, now there is nobody to cope with except my own...
    MichaelBayArea MichaelBayArea
    26-30, M
    Oct 4, 2014

    I prefer recluse. Hermit sounds like someone

    who lives under a bridge with the trolls.
    jameson939 jameson939
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    I Am A Hermit!!!

    i have no friends, well, i have a few, but all of them i know from work, and i prefer night time to day time, and i almost always stay up really late, into the early hours of the morning, apart from when im working early the next day, and i spend a lot of my time alone!!! so i...
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Sep 12, 2010

    I live alone at home,

    and do not go out much. I have become quite a hermit. Yesterday night I came back home after spending some days at the seaside with my family. There were twelve of them, seven adults and five kids (ages from 5 years till 3 months old). It was shocking for me to hear voices...
    Cierzo Cierzo
    46-50, M
    1 Response Aug 17, 2015

    More Meaning To Solipsism Jealous Envy Artificial Life Empty Forlorn

    More Meaning To Solipsism Jealous Envy Artificial Life Empty Forlorn (Header doesn't help with my Spell Checking)Much of the World lives in Artificial Happiness. That is why I don't like 90% of how people have their genre interest and what they do. I don't like being a "People...
    ChakraSolipsismMGP ChakraSolipsismMGP
    56-60, M
    Sep 28, 2013

    I Want To Be

    Technically, I'm not a hermit because I live with other people, but I want to be. I need my own space - more than I have - and I need quiet. Most of the time, I just want everybody to shut up because they either criticize me or use me. I just want to shut everybody and everything...
    BelleofApril BelleofApril
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 31, 2013

    sometimes I think about the old days in 1950's

    and other times in the USA like being gay and forced to have children or like my grandfather who was a jew and he was forced to shave and marry a non-jew. I can not talk to another human or be in a group. I live in NYC, sometimes I go to gay areas or jewish areas only under an...
    Igiveyounothing Igiveyounothing
    41-45, M
    Oct 27, 2014


    I am a hermit. The idea of being out in public makes me sick. I will find any and every excuse to stay at home. I am not afraid, but I am paranoid of who could be looking and judging me.
    Blipp Blipp
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2007

    Have I Really Withdrawn From Society?

    That is a tough question to answer. In a way, yes..I have withdrawn from "society". I've never really ever felt like a part of it to begin with. I've noticed that some people have opened up to me fairly quicky as though they were drawn to me, one thing I know is that they were...
    WondersBeyondOurGalaxy WondersBeyondOurGalaxy
    26-30, F
    5 Responses May 10, 2010

    I'm Too Zen For This Culture...

    Maybe it's in my genes, maybe just the way thing played out around me but I'm not one to get all stressed because of work, study or expectations before. I love tranquility, silence and conscious focus of my life energy towards peace and self-realization, this alone is quite a...
    MikoAzureMio MikoAzureMio
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 10, 2012

    You know it is kind of funny

    and I am not sure it is something I should change. I have become a hermit. The last person I talked to face to face that was not a delivery person was my parents. They where nice enough to do some shopping for me when I was sick about two weeks ago. Before that it was...
    deleted deleted
    Jun 8, 2015

    Deliberate isolation need not be a negative

    personality trait. There are many reasons for becoming a hermit. Perhaps you like animals more than people? Maybe you live a simple life and find too many people to be materialistic, greedy or demanding? It could be that your time is valuable and you simply choose to spend it...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 3, 2015

    I'm wondering if there's anything left in the

    outside world appealing enough to drag me from my isolation. I've attempted to have a life outside of my home environment, experienced a life with other people, the usual things. Yet I eventually find myself sucked back in. I've had extreme experiences which are mental health...
    SolitaryFriend SolitaryFriend
    36-40, M
    Jul 2, 2014

    I Tend To Keep To Myself

    I have always been a loner.  Even as a child I didn't hang with a lot of people.  I'd hang out with someone for a short time then move on.  I found at times these people made demands on me and I didn't like it.  I have lived in this place for 7 years and have...
    Selket51 Selket51
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2009

    Don't Talk To Me

    Please ignore me, don't talk to me, and I will like you more. My house door is always close. The windows are always shut. When people knocked on it, I will just ignore it. When I came back from anywhere, I will quickly get into my house so that the neighbours won't see me. So...
    Jan 16, 2013

    Man, if only I could find somewhere to be alone

    I would be there in a heartbeat. Just me, my thoughts, and the woods. That's all I need.
    DancesWithUnicorns DancesWithUnicorns
    26-30, F
    Jun 9, 2015

    No Time For Bullshit

    I love to laugh and joke yet I don't have time for stupid bullshit. Spare me from a twisted soul who looks to take and leave me cold. I hear a lot of noise but no true sound...say somethiong, don't just talk. Leave some spaces empty so I can listen to them. Look into my eyes...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 21, 2011

    Maybe Not A Total Hermit, But Mostly

    I work, sometimes I hang out with friends, sometimes I'll even go out to a bar, but rarely. Mostly I just like to be home, by myself. Home is the one place where I feel like me. It's the place I feel safe. Everything I really need is here. TV, computer, books, music, toys. I can...
    deleted deleted
    Oct 5, 2013

    I have an interesting idea

    for all of us hermits. I would say that most of us are introverts and easily overstimulated. We enjoy deeper connections with people, but they are often hard to come by and it's often too much effort to try and seek it out. I started a new blog called "outsider olympics". I...
    lesliel33 lesliel33
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 29, 2016

    I haven't worked since 2010.

    I had my daughter in 2011. I had a rough pregnancy and had to be on bed rest. I gained a lot of weight and my husband is an enabler and encouraged bad habits by bringing sweets all the time even after I beg him not to. I've gained over 100 lbs since I met him. We only have one...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 30, 2015


    i guess that is what i am, i am alone most of the time, i feel like i am the only person that i can be truly comfortable around. I never have been around a lot of people in my life. i can't have a lot of people around me at all times it makes me mad.     What do...
    Meleha Meleha
    4 Responses Mar 25, 2010

    I really don't think I have an interesting

    background story to tell - suffice to say that after a relationship breakup 7 years ago I just didn't bother getting back on the horse (so to speak), as it all seemed like far too much trouble. And that's fine - I've never been a huge fan of people, and so the recluse thing came...
    Jim1122334455 Jim1122334455
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    I have always loved being alone

    and I'm tired of apologizing for it. When I was about four, my mother didn't walk me into the building of my pre-school and I decided that I'd rather be alone and play on the swing sets and merry-go-round all day long. I spent the day wandering from one play set to the...
    Jennyanne1 Jennyanne1
    41-45, F
    Oct 8, 2015

    And I Don't Care Anymore

    I have always preferred solitude to many people.  I've had friends who thought there was something wrong with me because I enjoyed being alone.  But this is something that defines me.  I am not antisocial, I am a friendly person and can navigate quite well in the...
    trixi trixi
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 24, 2008

    The Brown Recluse

    ( title is just an attention grabber) I actually hate spiders and avoid them. I compare myself to the recluse because ( besides loving the color brown because it's so earthy) I stay to myself in the cool, less travelled places and bother no one. I am kind, and loving, vulnerable...
    journegan journegan
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Oct 7, 2012

    It is one of those nights I feel extremely tired

    but I am not sleeping because my tears won't let me. Today has been a most exhausting day. I woke up at five am and turned off my laptop two hours ago at nine pm. Over the course of the day, I only had time to bathe and take my dinner. The rest of the time was spent just on my...
    novembermoon novembermoon
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    How To Stop?

    I just want to ask, how do you stop being a hermit? Because personally I hate living like this.
    Jackabyte Jackabyte
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2013

    Happy Hermit

    For a while there I was grappling with the idea of socializing versus isolation. I felt pressured to be social because some people who know me said I seem fun to be around and social. But today, I weighed my pros and cons and hermitage won out. I love being a hermit. I save...
    Elle2k Elle2k
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2013

    Off Hours

    I spend 85 to 90% of my time alone. Don't have a beef with anyone. Just a lack of desire. But here I find myself on this site so often. This is socializing, in a way, is'nt it? When I drank, I stayed alone because my mouth gets me in hot water. Now that I'm almost 6 month...
    zhafar zhafar
    56-60, M
    17 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    I prefer the solitude most of the time.

    Just me and music. I'm not too anti people, I don't do crowd's though. I like sitting and fishing on the shore of a big lake with nobody else around.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    I Think Im A Hermit Too

    I have had a bad childhood, my mother passed when i was 12 too, and being sociable has been difficult but lately i dont feel like anyone understands me. I like the comfort of my own home, i know it sounds like depression but it feels much harder than that. And i do have children...
    Jan 14, 2013
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